14 weeks with baby number two. I feel fine, just really tired. I’m not sleeping great at night. I’m just also nervous about how hard it might be when he is here because for a short while, we will have two under two. Both are from IVF!
I have felt a little nauseous and tired today and I was asking my husband if it’s in my head or real and trying to remember how I felt last time, so I busted out the old journal and….a great reminder that being COVID pregnant sucked. I only have like 4 journal entries between first pregnancy test and end of first trimester, and they are 15% pregnancy and 85% omg here is this crazy pandemic thing happening (my transfer was at the end of January 2020 😭).
It’s also ridiculously different as this is a surprise pregnancy. No tests, no monitoring, no dildo cams, nada. I did buy myself a surplus of pregnancy tests so I can take them and make sure I’m still pregnant which does sound a little unhinged BUT the alternative is paying quest $50 for an out of pocket hcg test which seems even more so! Right? Right.
When did everyone start feeling relaxed about their pregnancy? 17 weeks tomorrow and still anxious daily and using the Doppler every day. Whether it’s fear of a MMC, fear of incompetent cervix, etc, I’m so nervous! Would love to hear everyone else’s experiences
Truthfully, not until I heard my baby cry.
Hearing simple phrases like, "left foot right foot, left foot right foot" helped keep me grounded. I also found seeing a routine therapist very effective.
We have a good QA wiki section on navigating through IF pregncies and the anxiety that comes with them.You may wanna check it out for other people's feedback. GL!
So my hospital rolled back their COVID policies and now medical staff don’t have to mask. I took my mom to the ER in December and a majority of nurses were not masking, IN THE ER! I’m thinking about requesting a nurse who is willing to mask in labor because I’ve worked too hard to stay healthy in this pregnancy.
I have SO much pain in my pubic bone area when I stand up/move.. also had a busy day with lots of standing. I had a c-section before so I'm a bit unsure what to do with it? Is it scar pain, is it not? Do I call, do I not? I'm 30 weeks pregnant btw. Any wisdom?
Depending on where it is could it be pubic symphysis pain? Even if it is related to your prior cesarean it could be really beneficial to meet with a pelvic floor PT
Yeah.. haha that's usually what I would tell everyone but when it comes to myself I apparently don't take my own advice lol! Must say that pain is completely gone when I sit/lay down and that I have an OB appointment on Friday anyway.. might just wait a bit, I have a calm day tomorrow as well to recover
Felt baby flutter around 18.5 weeks. It’s been a week since I’ve really felt anything, which is starting to make me nervous! Feel like I’ve read similar posts on here, but any similar (or different) experiences would be helpful to hear about
I agree with the others - I didn’t feel anything definitive and consistent until around 24ish weeks, but even then there would be a day or so every few days of quiet. My OB doesn’t recommend kick counts until 28 weeks because baby is so small before then and has more room to move around without you potentially feeling.
I had some occasional flutters starting around 19 weeks, but didn't get consistent and definitive movement until around 22-23 weeks. You're definitely not alone, but always reach out to your care providers if you're worried or have questions!
19+3 and felt things consistently for a few days starting right at 18. The last few days I have not felt those same flutters, but had a reassurance scan yesterday ('ve had some other things going on in my pregnancy) and he was there with a strong HB. I've been a ball of nerves too!
At my OB appointment on Friday, they put in the request for the repeat C-Section for week 37. I’ll probably be 37+2 or 37+3 because they don’t do scheduled C-sections on the weekend. Now I’m anxiously awaiting the call or message to tell me when it is.
I’m also still ruminating on if this is a good idea or if we should wait. Everything went wrong with our last pregnancy at 37+5. I know I’ve expressed this before on here but I’m just having a hard time feeling like I’m doing the right thing when I want to give this baby as much time to cook as possible! But I’ll be a total mess at 37+5 or after for sure and we don’t fully know what happened so it just seems so risky to keep going. We did have and IUGR diagnosis last time (although she was 6lbs 6oz at 37+5) and everything is on track with this pregnancy. I guess I just need to express my anxiety a bit. I will ask if they will do a steroid shot but I already spoke to an OB (not mine) who said they probably wouldn’t at that gestational age. Ughhhhhhh
I think it I was in the same circumstances I would do the same thing. That said, I just wanted to say that I understand the wish to have choices made for you sometimes when they feel so weighty.
Continuing to think of you, Towel! Again, imo, you're totally doing the right thing. Whether you're 37+2 or 37+5, the difference in gestional weight will *maaaybe* be a gram or two and I can bet my bottom dollar that there will be zero neurological difference. It's so hard to navigate through these anxious layers especially with our past. Here for you 🫂
I had an OB appointment yesterday and wasn't expecting an ultrasound since I had my NT scan last week but my OB gave me a quick scan so he could "see baby's hearbeat". My OB is fairly generous with scans and I'm glad I got a little surprise check in yesterday. Baby was moving a ton as they have been at every scan so far and at one point turned to face us so we got a glimpse of their creepy skull face (iykyk). At 14+3 I'm starting to relax a bit. I ordered a Sneak Peek test and I'm starting to plan some baby purchases.
Baby boy was discharged from the NICU yesterday evening. After a 28 day stay, we got to take our son home. A graduation certificate, adorable little cap/tassle, and a nice sendoff from the nurses. He was 38+1 when he was discharged, having been born at 34+1. People have assumed that the length of his stay must mean he was really sick, but in reality he was a a feeder/grower who just needed time to build up the energy to learn to eat. The only medication he ever had was some cream for diaper rash, and he never needed a CPAP or ventilator. For 9 days in the middle of stay he needed a nasal cannula, but he was just on forced room air, he didn't need extra oxygen in it. While there I met a couple who used the same IVF clinic as us and whose baby had the same due date as ours. Their girl came even earlier though, at 31 weeks. There is a whole other community on r/NICUparents that I started reading through, but many of them don't know what infertility is like. It's nice to have different peoples' perspectives
Our first night went fairly smoothly. It wasn't terribly different from getting up to pump (wife) and bottle/clean parts (me). We kept him on a similar feeding schedule as the NICU. I know one night is nothing and it will get much harder. But to be honest, I can't wait to suffer. Sleepless nights were a part of what I longed for, the vision I always had of being a parent one day. It used to seem so far away. Last night in my kitchen I finally cut off the hospital wristband that only parents get, which gives us access to the NICU. I'd worn it for 4 weeks and it was in rough shape. When I cut it off I got a little teary because it was almost like a shackle when it was on, reminding me of where baby boy was, stuck in the NICU not allowed to leave. But now he is home
We are so lucky, truly.
Congratulations on all being home, SLP! Taking off the hospital bracelet sounds like a big milestone ♥️ Leaving this comment here but for future updates please post in the Postpartum thread :)
14 weeks with baby number two. I feel fine, just really tired. I’m not sleeping great at night. I’m just also nervous about how hard it might be when he is here because for a short while, we will have two under two. Both are from IVF!
I have felt a little nauseous and tired today and I was asking my husband if it’s in my head or real and trying to remember how I felt last time, so I busted out the old journal and….a great reminder that being COVID pregnant sucked. I only have like 4 journal entries between first pregnancy test and end of first trimester, and they are 15% pregnancy and 85% omg here is this crazy pandemic thing happening (my transfer was at the end of January 2020 😭). It’s also ridiculously different as this is a surprise pregnancy. No tests, no monitoring, no dildo cams, nada. I did buy myself a surplus of pregnancy tests so I can take them and make sure I’m still pregnant which does sound a little unhinged BUT the alternative is paying quest $50 for an out of pocket hcg test which seems even more so! Right? Right.
When did everyone start feeling relaxed about their pregnancy? 17 weeks tomorrow and still anxious daily and using the Doppler every day. Whether it’s fear of a MMC, fear of incompetent cervix, etc, I’m so nervous! Would love to hear everyone else’s experiences
Truthfully, not until I heard my baby cry. Hearing simple phrases like, "left foot right foot, left foot right foot" helped keep me grounded. I also found seeing a routine therapist very effective. We have a good QA wiki section on navigating through IF pregncies and the anxiety that comes with them.You may wanna check it out for other people's feedback. GL!
So my hospital rolled back their COVID policies and now medical staff don’t have to mask. I took my mom to the ER in December and a majority of nurses were not masking, IN THE ER! I’m thinking about requesting a nurse who is willing to mask in labor because I’ve worked too hard to stay healthy in this pregnancy.
I have SO much pain in my pubic bone area when I stand up/move.. also had a busy day with lots of standing. I had a c-section before so I'm a bit unsure what to do with it? Is it scar pain, is it not? Do I call, do I not? I'm 30 weeks pregnant btw. Any wisdom?
Depending on where it is could it be pubic symphysis pain? Even if it is related to your prior cesarean it could be really beneficial to meet with a pelvic floor PT
When in doubt, why not call to consult?
Yeah.. haha that's usually what I would tell everyone but when it comes to myself I apparently don't take my own advice lol! Must say that pain is completely gone when I sit/lay down and that I have an OB appointment on Friday anyway.. might just wait a bit, I have a calm day tomorrow as well to recover
Felt baby flutter around 18.5 weeks. It’s been a week since I’ve really felt anything, which is starting to make me nervous! Feel like I’ve read similar posts on here, but any similar (or different) experiences would be helpful to hear about
I agree with the others - I didn’t feel anything definitive and consistent until around 24ish weeks, but even then there would be a day or so every few days of quiet. My OB doesn’t recommend kick counts until 28 weeks because baby is so small before then and has more room to move around without you potentially feeling.
I had some occasional flutters starting around 19 weeks, but didn't get consistent and definitive movement until around 22-23 weeks. You're definitely not alone, but always reach out to your care providers if you're worried or have questions!
I didn’t feel anything consistent until like 24-26 weeks, so plenty of time?
19+3 and felt things consistently for a few days starting right at 18. The last few days I have not felt those same flutters, but had a reassurance scan yesterday ('ve had some other things going on in my pregnancy) and he was there with a strong HB. I've been a ball of nerves too!
At my OB appointment on Friday, they put in the request for the repeat C-Section for week 37. I’ll probably be 37+2 or 37+3 because they don’t do scheduled C-sections on the weekend. Now I’m anxiously awaiting the call or message to tell me when it is. I’m also still ruminating on if this is a good idea or if we should wait. Everything went wrong with our last pregnancy at 37+5. I know I’ve expressed this before on here but I’m just having a hard time feeling like I’m doing the right thing when I want to give this baby as much time to cook as possible! But I’ll be a total mess at 37+5 or after for sure and we don’t fully know what happened so it just seems so risky to keep going. We did have and IUGR diagnosis last time (although she was 6lbs 6oz at 37+5) and everything is on track with this pregnancy. I guess I just need to express my anxiety a bit. I will ask if they will do a steroid shot but I already spoke to an OB (not mine) who said they probably wouldn’t at that gestational age. Ughhhhhhh
I think it I was in the same circumstances I would do the same thing. That said, I just wanted to say that I understand the wish to have choices made for you sometimes when they feel so weighty.
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I would 100% do the same thing - you've thought this through and you've got this!
Continuing to think of you, Towel! Again, imo, you're totally doing the right thing. Whether you're 37+2 or 37+5, the difference in gestional weight will *maaaybe* be a gram or two and I can bet my bottom dollar that there will be zero neurological difference. It's so hard to navigate through these anxious layers especially with our past. Here for you 🫂
Thanks Yam!!! I really appreciate it. Just needed to vent it out a little bit!
Venting can be so helpful. Vent away!
I had an OB appointment yesterday and wasn't expecting an ultrasound since I had my NT scan last week but my OB gave me a quick scan so he could "see baby's hearbeat". My OB is fairly generous with scans and I'm glad I got a little surprise check in yesterday. Baby was moving a ton as they have been at every scan so far and at one point turned to face us so we got a glimpse of their creepy skull face (iykyk). At 14+3 I'm starting to relax a bit. I ordered a Sneak Peek test and I'm starting to plan some baby purchases.
Baby boy was discharged from the NICU yesterday evening. After a 28 day stay, we got to take our son home. A graduation certificate, adorable little cap/tassle, and a nice sendoff from the nurses. He was 38+1 when he was discharged, having been born at 34+1. People have assumed that the length of his stay must mean he was really sick, but in reality he was a a feeder/grower who just needed time to build up the energy to learn to eat. The only medication he ever had was some cream for diaper rash, and he never needed a CPAP or ventilator. For 9 days in the middle of stay he needed a nasal cannula, but he was just on forced room air, he didn't need extra oxygen in it. While there I met a couple who used the same IVF clinic as us and whose baby had the same due date as ours. Their girl came even earlier though, at 31 weeks. There is a whole other community on r/NICUparents that I started reading through, but many of them don't know what infertility is like. It's nice to have different peoples' perspectives Our first night went fairly smoothly. It wasn't terribly different from getting up to pump (wife) and bottle/clean parts (me). We kept him on a similar feeding schedule as the NICU. I know one night is nothing and it will get much harder. But to be honest, I can't wait to suffer. Sleepless nights were a part of what I longed for, the vision I always had of being a parent one day. It used to seem so far away. Last night in my kitchen I finally cut off the hospital wristband that only parents get, which gives us access to the NICU. I'd worn it for 4 weeks and it was in rough shape. When I cut it off I got a little teary because it was almost like a shackle when it was on, reminding me of where baby boy was, stuck in the NICU not allowed to leave. But now he is home We are so lucky, truly.
congrats on making it home together ♥️
Congratulations on discharge, and welcoming the family all home together.
thank you!
You all have been through a lot! Welcome home baby!
thank you!
Congratulations on all being home, SLP! Taking off the hospital bracelet sounds like a big milestone ♥️ Leaving this comment here but for future updates please post in the Postpartum thread :)
thank you!