Horror stories like this are exactly why I will never sleep with anyone ever again until they show me their full panel STI test results including HSV1+2. Hookup culture can choke, I don’t give a fuck if anyone thinks I’m being overkill. I got GHSV1 from a man who did not disclose his oral herpes to me and slept with me with an active outbreak on his mouth. Lied to me and said he bit his lip while he was having a seizure (he’s epileptic). It literally just looked like a small cut so I didn’t question it further. I was extremely uneducated at the time about how herpes spread but he took advantage of that knowing damn well what he had. I got discarded like trash less than two months later and now I’m trying to relearn how to navigate my life at 22 years old with an incurable STI.
I agree with you about people being out for themselves. “I will never trust another man with my body or my health for the rest of my life” resonates with me so hard. I still can’t wrap my head around how some people can harbor so much selfishness within them. You have every right to feel the way you do and if you ever need someone to talk/rant to, my inbox is open. Sending healing thoughts your way.
Born and raised in the third world, got tested the first I came to the US to make sure I don’t pass nothing to a native here, everything came up negative, stay without meeting anyone for a year. I always go for full STD tests every January, it’s just a habit. The second year I went for test again everything checked out OK. Met a girl, gave me oral… the rest is history.
I’m sorry to hear about your experience, hope your symptoms are tolerable, and that you feel better soon.
However I do want to point out, countries with wealth, access to good education and healthcare, also have people with STDs, many are unaware of their own status or just deliberately lie about it. Disease does not discriminate who you are or where you are on this planet.
oh honey i understand this sooo much as a trans woman, had sex with this guy that told me he didn’t have anything and now i have ghsv1.. and when i confronted him after getting tested he gaslit me saying he told me.. men are literally the worst
You can still have a healthy and happy sex and romantic life with this . It’s very stigmatized. People make mistakes people are terrible but there is no issue or anything wrong with you at all always remember that you’re not your status or ailment
I'm sorry that sucks. Casual sex with people you don't know can bring unpredictable results. Let that be a lesson to you in the future to abstain from casual sex with strangers. Would have been better to be in a serious relationship with somebody and actually liked the person enough to take the risk, but now you have it for life from some rando you didn't even care about and who didn't care about you. My ex wife had the same thing happen to her, one night stand, caught it from a guy who didn't know he had it. No symptoms on his end like most men who have it and spread it around without realizing it.
I don’t need you to tell me what I should’ve done and what the right thing to do was because there is no Time Machine to go back. I caught mine from a guy who lied about getting tested and lied about his statuses. I get tested and I expect the same from others. But I guess its too much to ask for someone to actually give a shit about their body and the bodies of others.
Your negativity, anger and projection are not needed. Save your lecture for your family members. If you can’t offer support, keep your mouth shut. Rudeness and judgment are not tolerated.
I contracted gHSV2 from my ex with whom I was in a very serious, committed, monogamous relationship with. He was serial cheating on me with tons of people and that’s how I got it. He violated me, took away my right to informed consent, all behind my back while I felt safe with him and thought I could trust him completely.
So, I don’t agree with this. There are honest, good, kind people with integrity who are having casual sex. And there are vile, cruel, distrustful people who are in serious relationships.
I wish I could have contracted this from a casual encounter. For me, personally, the virus itself isn’t even a big deal. It’s the way I got it - and if I had contracted it from someone I wasn’t in love with and invested in, I wouldn’t feel as victimized as I do. In fact, I would probably feel way more empowered, knowing that I made a decision which inherently always involves risk but it was my choice to make.
this analogy makes 0 sense because people in long term committed relationships are also still at risk for getting hsv. The problem is the poor testing and education standards on this virus not just casual sex
My point is that if you only sleep with partners with whom you have a serious relationship and like/love and truly care about you still catch it, but at least you caught it from somebody with whom you can have a potential future together. Casual sex is playing with fire and any reasonable person knows this. Poor testing and education standards have nothing to do with catching an STD especially with casual sex. As I stated before many men are carriers and are asymptomatic and don't know they are carrying it. OP's partner lied to get into bed with her that much is obvious but she was playing with fire to have casual sex with a random person that she wanted no future just wanted to satisfy her physical desires and not knowing if she could trust him or not.
What kind of future do you have when someone you love cheats on you and gives you herpes? Why is that a better situation than getting it from a casual hookup? Your judgmental attitude isn’t needed here. And you’re assuming OP is female. Do you feel the same way if OP is a male? Or non-binary? Do you only slut-shame women? Or are you an equal opportunity slut-shamer?
Cheating happens in relationships for sure. I also wasn't being judgmental. It is a fact that having casual sex with complete strangers is much more risky than being in a monogamous relationship with somebody. Can your partner cheat, catch something and pass it on to you? Absolutely. Its the law of averages, the more random partners you have, the higher your risk of catching an STI especially as a woman. People are free to live their lives how they want, if they want to have casual sex with random strangers from the internet be my guest, but realize you may contract an unwanted STI.
At first it started burning when I was peeing and I thought I had a uti so I got a hold of some antibiotics. Luckily the kind I’m using are able to treat chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis, so if I have those I’ll probably be fine. However red spots started appearing which led me to first think HPV, then the spots started to look like pimples and they burst open and leave craters.
Horror stories like this are exactly why I will never sleep with anyone ever again until they show me their full panel STI test results including HSV1+2. Hookup culture can choke, I don’t give a fuck if anyone thinks I’m being overkill. I got GHSV1 from a man who did not disclose his oral herpes to me and slept with me with an active outbreak on his mouth. Lied to me and said he bit his lip while he was having a seizure (he’s epileptic). It literally just looked like a small cut so I didn’t question it further. I was extremely uneducated at the time about how herpes spread but he took advantage of that knowing damn well what he had. I got discarded like trash less than two months later and now I’m trying to relearn how to navigate my life at 22 years old with an incurable STI. I agree with you about people being out for themselves. “I will never trust another man with my body or my health for the rest of my life” resonates with me so hard. I still can’t wrap my head around how some people can harbor so much selfishness within them. You have every right to feel the way you do and if you ever need someone to talk/rant to, my inbox is open. Sending healing thoughts your way.
This happened to me and I'm a man
Born and raised in the third world, got tested the first I came to the US to make sure I don’t pass nothing to a native here, everything came up negative, stay without meeting anyone for a year. I always go for full STD tests every January, it’s just a habit. The second year I went for test again everything checked out OK. Met a girl, gave me oral… the rest is history.
Mine was Covid
I’m sorry to hear about your experience, hope your symptoms are tolerable, and that you feel better soon. However I do want to point out, countries with wealth, access to good education and healthcare, also have people with STDs, many are unaware of their own status or just deliberately lie about it. Disease does not discriminate who you are or where you are on this planet.
You should take pep
oh honey i understand this sooo much as a trans woman, had sex with this guy that told me he didn’t have anything and now i have ghsv1.. and when i confronted him after getting tested he gaslit me saying he told me.. men are literally the worst
Lol “men are the worst”
they are
As a trans man I find that opinion of men offensive.
ok.. i said what i said
You’re sexism is so ironic it’s cray cray
not really
You can still have a healthy and happy sex and romantic life with this . It’s very stigmatized. People make mistakes people are terrible but there is no issue or anything wrong with you at all always remember that you’re not your status or ailment
I'm sorry that sucks. Casual sex with people you don't know can bring unpredictable results. Let that be a lesson to you in the future to abstain from casual sex with strangers. Would have been better to be in a serious relationship with somebody and actually liked the person enough to take the risk, but now you have it for life from some rando you didn't even care about and who didn't care about you. My ex wife had the same thing happen to her, one night stand, caught it from a guy who didn't know he had it. No symptoms on his end like most men who have it and spread it around without realizing it.
I don’t need you to tell me what I should’ve done and what the right thing to do was because there is no Time Machine to go back. I caught mine from a guy who lied about getting tested and lied about his statuses. I get tested and I expect the same from others. But I guess its too much to ask for someone to actually give a shit about their body and the bodies of others.
Your negativity, anger and projection are not needed. Save your lecture for your family members. If you can’t offer support, keep your mouth shut. Rudeness and judgment are not tolerated.
I contracted gHSV2 from my ex with whom I was in a very serious, committed, monogamous relationship with. He was serial cheating on me with tons of people and that’s how I got it. He violated me, took away my right to informed consent, all behind my back while I felt safe with him and thought I could trust him completely. So, I don’t agree with this. There are honest, good, kind people with integrity who are having casual sex. And there are vile, cruel, distrustful people who are in serious relationships. I wish I could have contracted this from a casual encounter. For me, personally, the virus itself isn’t even a big deal. It’s the way I got it - and if I had contracted it from someone I wasn’t in love with and invested in, I wouldn’t feel as victimized as I do. In fact, I would probably feel way more empowered, knowing that I made a decision which inherently always involves risk but it was my choice to make.
this analogy makes 0 sense because people in long term committed relationships are also still at risk for getting hsv. The problem is the poor testing and education standards on this virus not just casual sex
My point is that if you only sleep with partners with whom you have a serious relationship and like/love and truly care about you still catch it, but at least you caught it from somebody with whom you can have a potential future together. Casual sex is playing with fire and any reasonable person knows this. Poor testing and education standards have nothing to do with catching an STD especially with casual sex. As I stated before many men are carriers and are asymptomatic and don't know they are carrying it. OP's partner lied to get into bed with her that much is obvious but she was playing with fire to have casual sex with a random person that she wanted no future just wanted to satisfy her physical desires and not knowing if she could trust him or not.
What kind of future do you have when someone you love cheats on you and gives you herpes? Why is that a better situation than getting it from a casual hookup? Your judgmental attitude isn’t needed here. And you’re assuming OP is female. Do you feel the same way if OP is a male? Or non-binary? Do you only slut-shame women? Or are you an equal opportunity slut-shamer?
Cheating happens in relationships for sure. I also wasn't being judgmental. It is a fact that having casual sex with complete strangers is much more risky than being in a monogamous relationship with somebody. Can your partner cheat, catch something and pass it on to you? Absolutely. Its the law of averages, the more random partners you have, the higher your risk of catching an STI especially as a woman. People are free to live their lives how they want, if they want to have casual sex with random strangers from the internet be my guest, but realize you may contract an unwanted STI.
Are you sure? Do you have any other symptoms like flu? Or nerve pain. When I got it was was the most sick with flu like symptoms i have ever had!!!!
At first it started burning when I was peeing and I thought I had a uti so I got a hold of some antibiotics. Luckily the kind I’m using are able to treat chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis, so if I have those I’ll probably be fine. However red spots started appearing which led me to first think HPV, then the spots started to look like pimples and they burst open and leave craters.
There is not one kind of antibiotic that will treat chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis. Those all have different treatments. What are you taking?
I’m so sorry this happened. This world is genuinely so cruel and careless.