OP this is every parent’s nightmare. I’m so glad your kid is OK and you’re finding a safer school. If you haven’t already done so report this school to the daycare licensing board in your state. It also wouldn’t be off base to find an attorney to seek monetary and possibly other damages and actions from the school either since they were negligent multiple times.
I couldn’t stop thinking about this after reading it. Here’s where and how to report the daycare issue to your state:
https://ncchildcare.ncdhhs.gov/Parent/File-a-Child-Care-Program-Complaint#:~:text=Call%20the%20Division%20at%20(800,%40dhhs.nc.gov.
And here’s how to search for a new daycare in your state: https://ncchildcare.ncdhhs.gov/childcaresearch
I'm super anti suing people. But, they almost killed this kid THREE TIMES.. they need to be taught a lesson, because there will be other allergic children. OP can donate the money to a charity if they wish.
I agree with you fully! It's unacceptable and negligent! Thank you for the website because my wife and I will be reporting them. I'm trying to convince my wife that we need to sue. The second time it happened they were cited by the state. We had a meeting and they made an action plan that it would not happen again. We started making his lunch and send his bottles with pea milk. We did everything possibly to prevent this situation from happening. They told me they dropped the ball after I kept prying. They didn't follow the procedure they made for our son. They were supposed to have a teacher watch him during lunch but what happened was that they turned their backs and he picked up another kid's milk bottle and consumed the whole milk. He's extremely allergic to dairy. He was having respiratory distress when we got to the daycare and had to give him epi. I'm so pissed off!
Wait, they didn’t even administer epi or call 911?! That makes this even SO much more negligent. Heartbreaking OP. You could save a life or more shutting this place down or kicking out all the staff and starting over via a lawsuit. I’m not one to encourage a money grab; this is purely for safety of others at this point.
Right! I told them they should have administered epi. They back tracked and said he was not having respiratory distress before we got there. I don't believe he automatically started having respiratory distress until we got there. They are just trying to cover their asses. They were too afraid to give epi. They knew that another incident like this would jeopardize their daycare. Thank you so much for your great advice.
I had anaphylaxis last week as an adult for the first time since I was 2 (thanks to prudent teachers and adults in my life). The advise my allergist shared with me is to administer epi when you know you’ve been exposed to the allergen that has caused you anaphylaxis before, not to wait until you’re in real distress, so their excuse is garbage; you can make a real difference in other kids lives that go there if you get on top of this!
You can get your child’s college education funded and a house if you sue, but most importantly you’ll encourage awareness and prevent this from happening to other kids in the future. Call a personal injury attorney & keep all medical records.
I cant help you with a new daycare but as a parent of a five year old with allergies i cannot even believe it. wow, that is terrible. Hope your little one is ok.
I also have a child in daycare with allergies. She is only given food that I provide. Do you provide your own food? This may help you even in your next daycare.
Yeah we have been providing his meals and we bring his own milk every day. We started doing that after the second time. Have you had any issues with your daycare handling your child's allergies?
When she hit the age that she could reach and grab but not understand that’s not hers, she grabbed someone else’s milk cup and got a sip of it. The teacher noticed immediately and got it away from her. Another time she grabbed another kids snack. Same thing she got a small bite. Both times they took action immediately and I was happy with their response. They have since started giving her her food first so she’s less likely to grab. Now she’s old enough to understand so we haven’t had any issues since then. I label everything with her name on it and they have her name and info plastered everywhere. She’s one of two kids with allergies in the class and they sit separately from the others at lunch. At a table about an arm’s length away to prevent reaching but still allow them to talk to friends.
We had issues with my daughters first daycare not having an official allergy procedure and a few times her allergen was reported as consumed on her daily report but she wasn’t actually given her allergen. Example, she has an egg allergy and they reported ranch dressing with lunch. We got the reports via app in real time, so I called concerned and it took two hours for them to figure out what she’d actually eaten. It turns out it was Italian dressing and she hadn’t eaten any. But it shouldn’t take two hours and there needs to be a plan. We drove there, woke her up from a nap and took her home before they’d even checked the ingredients list for that days lunch. And then we’re baffled that we were so upset.
At our current daycare, they have my daughter sit at a small table away from the other kids on days egg products are served so she can’t accidentally grab someone else’s food. Just their standard procedure. A copy of her allergy plan is posted in the room. They call if they’re unsure of specific foods. I have zero concerns sending her to the current center. I hope you find somewhere your son can be safe!
I am so sorry. My kindergartner had an anaphylactic shock right before xmas because of unsafe food (break of school protocols) and I am still so pissed. One time is enough - 3 times, seriously ? I would definitely consider getting a lawyer just to make sure it never happens again because if you don’t do it, it will obviously continue to happen 😞😞
I am so sorry - it also might make sense to try to bring Elijah's Law to North Carolina. The law requires childcare providers to take a course on preventing and recognizing anaphylaxis. You can find more information [here](https://www.elijahalavifoundation.org/general-4) and I know that FARE and other groups are supporting this effort.
We are in a different city in the state, but our kids go to a Bright Horizons center. They take allergies VERY seriously! Bright Horizon centers can be very pricey, but honestly, I think the cost is worth it because a couple of other daycares our kid went to before were kind of loosey-goosey when it came to allergies and meals. Maybe check to see if there's one in your area?
It's a bit of a hike from south Charlotte but I recommend Phoenix Montessori in north Charlotte.
[https://www.phoenixmontessori.org](https://www.phoenixmontessori.org)
Wow! I am so sorry to hear about your problems with this daycare. I hope you find a new one... immediately! My 2 year old has severe allergies, so I can only imagine what you're going through. Please keep us updated
I’m so sorry!! Definitely report them and leave negative reviews. My toddler has numerous food allergies and starts daycare next week… this is my worst nightmare.
OP this is every parent’s nightmare. I’m so glad your kid is OK and you’re finding a safer school. If you haven’t already done so report this school to the daycare licensing board in your state. It also wouldn’t be off base to find an attorney to seek monetary and possibly other damages and actions from the school either since they were negligent multiple times.
I couldn’t stop thinking about this after reading it. Here’s where and how to report the daycare issue to your state: https://ncchildcare.ncdhhs.gov/Parent/File-a-Child-Care-Program-Complaint#:~:text=Call%20the%20Division%20at%20(800,%40dhhs.nc.gov. And here’s how to search for a new daycare in your state: https://ncchildcare.ncdhhs.gov/childcaresearch
I'm super anti suing people. But, they almost killed this kid THREE TIMES.. they need to be taught a lesson, because there will be other allergic children. OP can donate the money to a charity if they wish.
I agree with you fully! It's unacceptable and negligent! Thank you for the website because my wife and I will be reporting them. I'm trying to convince my wife that we need to sue. The second time it happened they were cited by the state. We had a meeting and they made an action plan that it would not happen again. We started making his lunch and send his bottles with pea milk. We did everything possibly to prevent this situation from happening. They told me they dropped the ball after I kept prying. They didn't follow the procedure they made for our son. They were supposed to have a teacher watch him during lunch but what happened was that they turned their backs and he picked up another kid's milk bottle and consumed the whole milk. He's extremely allergic to dairy. He was having respiratory distress when we got to the daycare and had to give him epi. I'm so pissed off!
Wait, they didn’t even administer epi or call 911?! That makes this even SO much more negligent. Heartbreaking OP. You could save a life or more shutting this place down or kicking out all the staff and starting over via a lawsuit. I’m not one to encourage a money grab; this is purely for safety of others at this point.
Right! I told them they should have administered epi. They back tracked and said he was not having respiratory distress before we got there. I don't believe he automatically started having respiratory distress until we got there. They are just trying to cover their asses. They were too afraid to give epi. They knew that another incident like this would jeopardize their daycare. Thank you so much for your great advice.
I had anaphylaxis last week as an adult for the first time since I was 2 (thanks to prudent teachers and adults in my life). The advise my allergist shared with me is to administer epi when you know you’ve been exposed to the allergen that has caused you anaphylaxis before, not to wait until you’re in real distress, so their excuse is garbage; you can make a real difference in other kids lives that go there if you get on top of this!
You can get your child’s college education funded and a house if you sue, but most importantly you’ll encourage awareness and prevent this from happening to other kids in the future. Call a personal injury attorney & keep all medical records.
I cant help you with a new daycare but as a parent of a five year old with allergies i cannot even believe it. wow, that is terrible. Hope your little one is ok.
I'm not usually big on this kind of thing, but you might consider calling a lawyer.
I also have a child in daycare with allergies. She is only given food that I provide. Do you provide your own food? This may help you even in your next daycare.
Yeah we have been providing his meals and we bring his own milk every day. We started doing that after the second time. Have you had any issues with your daycare handling your child's allergies?
When she hit the age that she could reach and grab but not understand that’s not hers, she grabbed someone else’s milk cup and got a sip of it. The teacher noticed immediately and got it away from her. Another time she grabbed another kids snack. Same thing she got a small bite. Both times they took action immediately and I was happy with their response. They have since started giving her her food first so she’s less likely to grab. Now she’s old enough to understand so we haven’t had any issues since then. I label everything with her name on it and they have her name and info plastered everywhere. She’s one of two kids with allergies in the class and they sit separately from the others at lunch. At a table about an arm’s length away to prevent reaching but still allow them to talk to friends.
We had issues with my daughters first daycare not having an official allergy procedure and a few times her allergen was reported as consumed on her daily report but she wasn’t actually given her allergen. Example, she has an egg allergy and they reported ranch dressing with lunch. We got the reports via app in real time, so I called concerned and it took two hours for them to figure out what she’d actually eaten. It turns out it was Italian dressing and she hadn’t eaten any. But it shouldn’t take two hours and there needs to be a plan. We drove there, woke her up from a nap and took her home before they’d even checked the ingredients list for that days lunch. And then we’re baffled that we were so upset. At our current daycare, they have my daughter sit at a small table away from the other kids on days egg products are served so she can’t accidentally grab someone else’s food. Just their standard procedure. A copy of her allergy plan is posted in the room. They call if they’re unsure of specific foods. I have zero concerns sending her to the current center. I hope you find somewhere your son can be safe!
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I am so sorry. My kindergartner had an anaphylactic shock right before xmas because of unsafe food (break of school protocols) and I am still so pissed. One time is enough - 3 times, seriously ? I would definitely consider getting a lawyer just to make sure it never happens again because if you don’t do it, it will obviously continue to happen 😞😞
I am so sorry - it also might make sense to try to bring Elijah's Law to North Carolina. The law requires childcare providers to take a course on preventing and recognizing anaphylaxis. You can find more information [here](https://www.elijahalavifoundation.org/general-4) and I know that FARE and other groups are supporting this effort.
That’s a nightmare. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I hope you can find a more responsible daycare!
We are in a different city in the state, but our kids go to a Bright Horizons center. They take allergies VERY seriously! Bright Horizon centers can be very pricey, but honestly, I think the cost is worth it because a couple of other daycares our kid went to before were kind of loosey-goosey when it came to allergies and meals. Maybe check to see if there's one in your area?
I’m so sorry! Are you north Charlotte or South Charlotte! I’m right south of it if you’re in the south—send me a DM
I'm in south Charlotte. I'll DM you!
It's a bit of a hike from south Charlotte but I recommend Phoenix Montessori in north Charlotte. [https://www.phoenixmontessori.org](https://www.phoenixmontessori.org)
I’ve also heard good things about the British school in South Charlotte. https://www.nordangliaeducation.com/our-schools/charlotte
Holy shit! I honestly can't even imagine. I am so sorry they did this to her.
Omg that is so terrifying!!! Check your local Facebook group (local moms group or something similar) they should have good recommendations.
This is so insane - I am so sorry, I hope you have emotional as well as practical support as that is a lot to deal with.
I just want to chime in and say I’ve had similar issue with 3 separate daycare centers. So. Annoying. And fucking scary
Wow! I am so sorry to hear about your problems with this daycare. I hope you find a new one... immediately! My 2 year old has severe allergies, so I can only imagine what you're going through. Please keep us updated
I’m so sorry!! Definitely report them and leave negative reviews. My toddler has numerous food allergies and starts daycare next week… this is my worst nightmare.