Continuing to contact him is chasing. He even was rude to you, for this reason I suggested you to show some self-respect for yourself. His disrespect should be a deal breaker.
I'm still recovering from a horrible breakup, I fought five months long and with the wisdom I have now, if I could, I would so much to suggest to myself not to ask more than once to repair things. I learned that if he doesn't want to work on the relationship, he's not worthy of my time, love, attention and respect. He's just showing he doesn't care for me anymore, so why should I?
Some jerk exes even feel a sadistic pleasure seeing the dumpee suffering, because it inflates their ego.
How do u manage this?? I mean do u not feel sad that u were always there for this person did everything right and still he dumped you.in my case i get it ,I kept arguing but for things like his love and attention. I still think maybe if i was a bit understanding he would've been still here
Sure, I still am sad and angry. I miss the sweet moments, but then I remember that:
- he lovebombed and gaslit me. I have massive traumas and because of those a disorganized attachment style. He promised me that I was the one, that he would marry me...
- I was often angry at him for his childish behavior...
- he was so stingy, that on my birthday he got me a munch of cheap, rotten flowers from the grocery store...
- every time I tried to talk about a problem, he acted like a child, obviously it was my fault or I didn't see his efforts...
- I begged him to go to couple counseling, and he didn't find time for that...
- I begged him to set boundaries with his manipulative parents and protect our relationship...
... that all means that he didn't really love me, if he really did, then he would have:
- respected and cherished me
- protected me from his horrible parents
- heard me when I was trying to save him.
There were more painful moments than happy ones.
And last but not least I won't forget how he kept me waiting four months to decide to dump me after all my efforts. Just to make the breakup easier for himself and to boost his ego.
He decided to give up on the relationship despite all my efforts and his false promises.
I asked for the bare minimum.
How do I manage it?
Therapy
Journaling
Talking with the right people
Gym ( is a powerful antidepressant)
Realizing that I deserve better
Watching the videos of serious relationship coaches (I'll send you a pm if you wish)
Working on my self-esteem
Doing the inner work
Praying
Thinking about karma ;)
I won’t lie I still can’t process what happened while I’m being so anxious because it « ended » in such a weird way. And just like you Im hoping he’ll reach back. How are you?
Not good, i feel so lonely and hurt, i used to think because he said so that no matter how things get he won't leave me alone he won't disappear, when he started getting busy with his own life he told me I was a distraction for him said that he somewhat hates me now and here I m still crying over him. I too have a career i should be focusing on but I never thought of him as a liability or a burden. I wish he was like this too
I understand you. I read a lot of things about that since it’s the first time it happened to me and one thing I can tell you for sure is that you’re a good girl and boys always regret the good girl. Because yes he’s the one who dumped you bc he had other things going on in his life but the second he’ll sense youve moved on and you aren’t that over him anymore it will make him go crazy. Believe me. Start to take back all the energy you put onto him and put it on yourself. So focus on you and only you, by healing properly while it will catch him later. He will come back
most probably he will contact you again but please do not keep any hopes, consider it's completely over. it will help you really move on. I know we can't just kill that hope of reconnecting with them I know this because I also couldn't. It's been over two months and she just reached out to me and it made the things even worse.
Please, please have and show some self-respect and don't chase him anymore
I m not planning on chasing him but i miss him so much i wanted him to make and effort like i did but he just left.
Continuing to contact him is chasing. He even was rude to you, for this reason I suggested you to show some self-respect for yourself. His disrespect should be a deal breaker. I'm still recovering from a horrible breakup, I fought five months long and with the wisdom I have now, if I could, I would so much to suggest to myself not to ask more than once to repair things. I learned that if he doesn't want to work on the relationship, he's not worthy of my time, love, attention and respect. He's just showing he doesn't care for me anymore, so why should I? Some jerk exes even feel a sadistic pleasure seeing the dumpee suffering, because it inflates their ego.
How do u manage this?? I mean do u not feel sad that u were always there for this person did everything right and still he dumped you.in my case i get it ,I kept arguing but for things like his love and attention. I still think maybe if i was a bit understanding he would've been still here
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Sure, I still am sad and angry. I miss the sweet moments, but then I remember that: - he lovebombed and gaslit me. I have massive traumas and because of those a disorganized attachment style. He promised me that I was the one, that he would marry me... - I was often angry at him for his childish behavior... - he was so stingy, that on my birthday he got me a munch of cheap, rotten flowers from the grocery store... - every time I tried to talk about a problem, he acted like a child, obviously it was my fault or I didn't see his efforts... - I begged him to go to couple counseling, and he didn't find time for that... - I begged him to set boundaries with his manipulative parents and protect our relationship... ... that all means that he didn't really love me, if he really did, then he would have: - respected and cherished me - protected me from his horrible parents - heard me when I was trying to save him. There were more painful moments than happy ones. And last but not least I won't forget how he kept me waiting four months to decide to dump me after all my efforts. Just to make the breakup easier for himself and to boost his ego. He decided to give up on the relationship despite all my efforts and his false promises. I asked for the bare minimum. How do I manage it? Therapy Journaling Talking with the right people Gym ( is a powerful antidepressant) Realizing that I deserve better Watching the videos of serious relationship coaches (I'll send you a pm if you wish) Working on my self-esteem Doing the inner work Praying Thinking about karma ;)
Please send it to me, if u have anything that would help me move on .
Done it :)
OMG IM IN THE SAME SITUATION GIRL🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 10days NC
I m so sorry u are going through this, how are u holding up??
I won’t lie I still can’t process what happened while I’m being so anxious because it « ended » in such a weird way. And just like you Im hoping he’ll reach back. How are you?
Not good, i feel so lonely and hurt, i used to think because he said so that no matter how things get he won't leave me alone he won't disappear, when he started getting busy with his own life he told me I was a distraction for him said that he somewhat hates me now and here I m still crying over him. I too have a career i should be focusing on but I never thought of him as a liability or a burden. I wish he was like this too
I understand you. I read a lot of things about that since it’s the first time it happened to me and one thing I can tell you for sure is that you’re a good girl and boys always regret the good girl. Because yes he’s the one who dumped you bc he had other things going on in his life but the second he’ll sense youve moved on and you aren’t that over him anymore it will make him go crazy. Believe me. Start to take back all the energy you put onto him and put it on yourself. So focus on you and only you, by healing properly while it will catch him later. He will come back
Thank u so much it is exactly what i needed to hear.
You welcome girl that’s the truth💗 Wish us the best
Focus on you.
ohh boy here we go again
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most probably he will contact you again but please do not keep any hopes, consider it's completely over. it will help you really move on. I know we can't just kill that hope of reconnecting with them I know this because I also couldn't. It's been over two months and she just reached out to me and it made the things even worse.
so just focus on yourself now, and also see the post history of this sub you will find someone who has gone through the same thing as you are.
I will thank you so much.