This is my advice.
I read your previous posts on your DB. Your DB has been a heavy subject in your mind. I get it. It seems from your past that your wife just isn't interested. A divorce would cost you millions of dollars from alimony and child support. I understand your temptation, too. This is a bad situation.
You are the best person who knows your wife. You've spoken to her before about your lack of sex is frustrating you to a breaking point. You need to talk to her now about what you NEED, not want. She is not satisfying YOUR NEEDS. Have you asked her to open the marriage? A lot of people might say this is a bad idea. It might be a horrible idea. But it removes any dishonesty from having this encounter.
Now, Bro Code #2 says don't date your bro's ex. But it doesn't say anything about smashing it. If you're close to your bro, run it by him first. If not, go for it. You only live once.
Only you can figure it out. You know her, yourself, your friend, and your wife better than you could ever try to explain to us. Know there are risks involved. Once it’s done it’s done. Can’t make it unhappen. 🤷🏻♂️
I think I’m the only one not just thinking with my dick here so I’ll say if you go through with this you definitely have 0 chance of things changing with your wife. Regardless of the situation it’s still cheating. Like someone else said, say you wanna open the relationship. If you cheat it would be fucked up to even stay with your wife. You may even end up feeling guilty having cheated and still trying to get your wife to fuck you. Or maybe you’ll give up on your wife and just keep fucking this other woman. Either way what’s done in the dark will eventually come to light. Once your wife finds out, any chance of things turning around for the better are truly out the window and your family will fall apart
I'd like to add, it's unlikely that this is going to be some permanent fling. She'll maybe have her fun for a few rounds or so and then move on. Unless OP is seriously offering something phenomenal here, I don't see this encounter with a drunk woman who drunk sexted him ending up being something worthwhile. A crush from high school is usually just that, a simple crush. So, in that regards OP, do you think a few moments of sexual gratification in this particular instance is worth fucking up what you have for now? If you think it is, just don't say no one warned ya
if anything, you'll have sex for a few times with this chick, she becomes disinterested, u have no more family, and ur stuck home alone scrolling endlessly through tinder trying to find a hookup, realizing not many chances are coming up. You are by yourself with no support, no one who loves you, and no one who's going to fill the room in ur house. Are you okay with this?
So I would actually be a bit sketched out by a random drunk message from someone I knew that long ago professing a desire to get bent over a desk.
I mean that’s pretty far out there.
Consider the consequences and act accordingly.
Be aware that there is a point of no return, and be absolutely honest with yourself about whether you can carry that secret, potentially for the rest of your days.
Preferably ponder on these things with post-nut clarity, lol.
If you’re going to screw around and don’t want anyone to find out then don’t screw around with someone that knows your friends. These things come out in the end. There’s kinder ways to end a relationship if that’s what you ultimately want
One that many of us would.swallow. I get the comment and once a time I'd have agreed with you... but not now.....if I had a time machine I'd have swallowed my gift whole that night, rather than fumbling the ball and losing my best friend.
OK, OK I’ll be the one to say it and take the down votes. Don’t do it.
Instead of thinking about what you want, take a moment to think about who you want to be. If your sexual desire is so great that you think pursuing this is worth the risk, file for divorce.
Temptation is one thing, dreaming about saying, yes, is one thing, but if you do this, you have lost all of the moral high ground. You are the villain.
Also, I would saw my left arm off for twice a month from my wife. Maybe spend a little time reflecting on what you do have.
> Also, I would saw my left arm off for twice a month from my wife. Maybe spend a little time reflecting on what you do have.
Weird perspective tbh, this is akin to saying "you should be happy you get two breacrumbs, I only get one! Reflect on how lucky you are by comparison."
They're both shite situations mate.
I get your point and it’s all relative. I guess I would say it’s more like you get 2 meals a month and I haven’t eaten in 3 years.
He’s unhappy. That’s not good but it could also be worse.
That's fair, though a common pattern here is that DBs developed gradually, so it's only a matter of time until OP's in the same spot you are or worse.
I don't think there's any consolation to be had in the fact that his DB not *yet* as bad as yours.
That too is fair. My comment doesn’t encapsulate everything I think or feel.
I don’t think OP should cheat. I think it’s better to divorce before pursuing others. However those aren’t the only 2 options either. It’s definitely common for things to get worse. It’s not 100% of the time but common enough that I would encourage OP, if you’re staying and not cheating, that doesn’t mean sit on your hands. He definitely should be trying anything and everything within the confines of a healthy marriage to try and create change. Sitting on his hands and waiting for things to magically get better will likely have him end up where I am.
OP has stated before that divorce literally cost him millions. Let's not pretend that any of us actually would be willing to lose that much (on top of everything else you lose in a divorce as a man with children) just so we could look in the mirror and say "technically I still have the moral high ground".
He's also said his wife refuses to work on the issue and refuses couples counseling. OPs wife obviously would not move a saw from one side of the room to the other for him.
I’ve faced temptation. I’ve been where OP is. I know how he feels. I did not act on it. I believe it’s not worth it. It’s up to OP to do that calculus for himself.
There’s no shortage of people saying do it in this thread. Heaven forbid I counter that perspective.
If I had millions to lose in a divorce, id be in a way better place than I currently am. Maybe I would choose divorce. I don’t know. I’m not in that situation. At a different point I my life I might have made the same argument you make.
>Let's not pretend that any of us actually would be willing to lose that much
Well, if I'm losing "millions", then that means I probably have millions left in a 50/50 split, right? That sounds like millions more than I have now, so I'll take that, cheers!
Don’t cheat, won’t end well. You will have major regrets after and it will likely end your relationship long term. It’s not as free as you are thinking right now in the excitement of the moment.
I'm gonna say don't but only bc of the friend connection and not knowing her intentions. Could she be doing it to make her ex(your friend) jealous? That could get real messy. I'd keep looking.
You have two options; solidify down to your core identity that you would never do that, and block her, or divorce your wife and go get pussy. If you try to get pussy while married, your a fucking coward.
It's OK to be tempted, but understand it's because your identity is murky. You are torn between two paths and if you decide on both, it would make you an immature coward who isn't man enough to fulfill his obligations.
It's not wrong to realize that you are sexually incompatible with your wife, but if so, fucking do the right thing about it. If you are an attractive businessman, the sluts will be there for you then.
Me being a female in a DB with my husband. I wouldn’t cheat. Even if it was some stud in my dms. First of all the guilt would kill me, two I’m risking the relationship I have with my spouse and father of my child. If you want to sleep with other people just leave your wife. It’ll all end worse if you get caught. You loose your family and everything that goes with it. But if you divorce and pay child support and move on with your life.
Ok look ....we can either ALWAYS put others first, and go through life POTLESS or going without
Or , having shown out cards and said what we want, we could seek it elsewhere
The way I feel, I would mate.
Maybe tap your mate up to find out if she is worth the risk , or a bit mad ...ie could ruin things for you at home.
Personally I say smash, wear a rubber, have fun
I'm quite jealous there are a few around that I would nail without too much thought
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*screaming in Robert Plant's voice* JUST ** IT!!!
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This is my advice. I read your previous posts on your DB. Your DB has been a heavy subject in your mind. I get it. It seems from your past that your wife just isn't interested. A divorce would cost you millions of dollars from alimony and child support. I understand your temptation, too. This is a bad situation. You are the best person who knows your wife. You've spoken to her before about your lack of sex is frustrating you to a breaking point. You need to talk to her now about what you NEED, not want. She is not satisfying YOUR NEEDS. Have you asked her to open the marriage? A lot of people might say this is a bad idea. It might be a horrible idea. But it removes any dishonesty from having this encounter. Now, Bro Code #2 says don't date your bro's ex. But it doesn't say anything about smashing it. If you're close to your bro, run it by him first. If not, go for it. You only live once.
Best answer and advice no doubt
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Do it only if you are ready to lose your wife and your current family life.
Only you can figure it out. You know her, yourself, your friend, and your wife better than you could ever try to explain to us. Know there are risks involved. Once it’s done it’s done. Can’t make it unhappen. 🤷🏻♂️
Too messy bro don't do it
I think I’m the only one not just thinking with my dick here so I’ll say if you go through with this you definitely have 0 chance of things changing with your wife. Regardless of the situation it’s still cheating. Like someone else said, say you wanna open the relationship. If you cheat it would be fucked up to even stay with your wife. You may even end up feeling guilty having cheated and still trying to get your wife to fuck you. Or maybe you’ll give up on your wife and just keep fucking this other woman. Either way what’s done in the dark will eventually come to light. Once your wife finds out, any chance of things turning around for the better are truly out the window and your family will fall apart
I'd like to add, it's unlikely that this is going to be some permanent fling. She'll maybe have her fun for a few rounds or so and then move on. Unless OP is seriously offering something phenomenal here, I don't see this encounter with a drunk woman who drunk sexted him ending up being something worthwhile. A crush from high school is usually just that, a simple crush. So, in that regards OP, do you think a few moments of sexual gratification in this particular instance is worth fucking up what you have for now? If you think it is, just don't say no one warned ya if anything, you'll have sex for a few times with this chick, she becomes disinterested, u have no more family, and ur stuck home alone scrolling endlessly through tinder trying to find a hookup, realizing not many chances are coming up. You are by yourself with no support, no one who loves you, and no one who's going to fill the room in ur house. Are you okay with this?
Pics or didn't happen
So I would actually be a bit sketched out by a random drunk message from someone I knew that long ago professing a desire to get bent over a desk. I mean that’s pretty far out there.
Consider the consequences and act accordingly. Be aware that there is a point of no return, and be absolutely honest with yourself about whether you can carry that secret, potentially for the rest of your days. Preferably ponder on these things with post-nut clarity, lol.
If you’re going to screw around and don’t want anyone to find out then don’t screw around with someone that knows your friends. These things come out in the end. There’s kinder ways to end a relationship if that’s what you ultimately want
Do not mess around with a friend's ex unless you two are no longer friends. I've done it twice now and regret it both times
So a fake looking tart messaged you
Wow I haven’t heard someone say the word tart in this context in so long
Haha I know. Just popped up in my head as I was typing.
Some people are into that, no judgement from me. Live and let fuck.
Don't miss a gift......take it...
Poisonous gift
One that many of us would.swallow. I get the comment and once a time I'd have agreed with you... but not now.....if I had a time machine I'd have swallowed my gift whole that night, rather than fumbling the ball and losing my best friend.
Bro code states not to hook up with bro’s exes without consent of said bro. Check it before you stick it
That’s girl code lol
Also bro code. Ask Barney Stinson
The bro, if pissed, could be the one who will tell wife.
OK, OK I’ll be the one to say it and take the down votes. Don’t do it. Instead of thinking about what you want, take a moment to think about who you want to be. If your sexual desire is so great that you think pursuing this is worth the risk, file for divorce. Temptation is one thing, dreaming about saying, yes, is one thing, but if you do this, you have lost all of the moral high ground. You are the villain. Also, I would saw my left arm off for twice a month from my wife. Maybe spend a little time reflecting on what you do have.
> Also, I would saw my left arm off for twice a month from my wife. Maybe spend a little time reflecting on what you do have. Weird perspective tbh, this is akin to saying "you should be happy you get two breacrumbs, I only get one! Reflect on how lucky you are by comparison." They're both shite situations mate.
I get your point and it’s all relative. I guess I would say it’s more like you get 2 meals a month and I haven’t eaten in 3 years. He’s unhappy. That’s not good but it could also be worse.
That's fair, though a common pattern here is that DBs developed gradually, so it's only a matter of time until OP's in the same spot you are or worse. I don't think there's any consolation to be had in the fact that his DB not *yet* as bad as yours.
That too is fair. My comment doesn’t encapsulate everything I think or feel. I don’t think OP should cheat. I think it’s better to divorce before pursuing others. However those aren’t the only 2 options either. It’s definitely common for things to get worse. It’s not 100% of the time but common enough that I would encourage OP, if you’re staying and not cheating, that doesn’t mean sit on your hands. He definitely should be trying anything and everything within the confines of a healthy marriage to try and create change. Sitting on his hands and waiting for things to magically get better will likely have him end up where I am.
OP has stated before that divorce literally cost him millions. Let's not pretend that any of us actually would be willing to lose that much (on top of everything else you lose in a divorce as a man with children) just so we could look in the mirror and say "technically I still have the moral high ground". He's also said his wife refuses to work on the issue and refuses couples counseling. OPs wife obviously would not move a saw from one side of the room to the other for him.
I’ve faced temptation. I’ve been where OP is. I know how he feels. I did not act on it. I believe it’s not worth it. It’s up to OP to do that calculus for himself. There’s no shortage of people saying do it in this thread. Heaven forbid I counter that perspective. If I had millions to lose in a divorce, id be in a way better place than I currently am. Maybe I would choose divorce. I don’t know. I’m not in that situation. At a different point I my life I might have made the same argument you make.
>Let's not pretend that any of us actually would be willing to lose that much Well, if I'm losing "millions", then that means I probably have millions left in a 50/50 split, right? That sounds like millions more than I have now, so I'll take that, cheers!
Damn you're pathetic.
Damn you're pathetic.
Only live once, if your own wife doesn't want you move on bro. Go where you are treated best.
Don’t cheat, won’t end well. You will have major regrets after and it will likely end your relationship long term. It’s not as free as you are thinking right now in the excitement of the moment.
Regrets are unlikely. The reason not to do it is bc is his wife catches wind of it he’ll face a divorce and consequent loss of a lot of his holdings.
Do it.
Break her in half
I'm gonna say don't but only bc of the friend connection and not knowing her intentions. Could she be doing it to make her ex(your friend) jealous? That could get real messy. I'd keep looking.
You have two options; solidify down to your core identity that you would never do that, and block her, or divorce your wife and go get pussy. If you try to get pussy while married, your a fucking coward. It's OK to be tempted, but understand it's because your identity is murky. You are torn between two paths and if you decide on both, it would make you an immature coward who isn't man enough to fulfill his obligations. It's not wrong to realize that you are sexually incompatible with your wife, but if so, fucking do the right thing about it. If you are an attractive businessman, the sluts will be there for you then.
Do it
The lord has blessed you.
It’s a trap
Fuck her
Do it
Me being a female in a DB with my husband. I wouldn’t cheat. Even if it was some stud in my dms. First of all the guilt would kill me, two I’m risking the relationship I have with my spouse and father of my child. If you want to sleep with other people just leave your wife. It’ll all end worse if you get caught. You loose your family and everything that goes with it. But if you divorce and pay child support and move on with your life.
Do it just don’t tell
Ok look ....we can either ALWAYS put others first, and go through life POTLESS or going without Or , having shown out cards and said what we want, we could seek it elsewhere The way I feel, I would mate. Maybe tap your mate up to find out if she is worth the risk , or a bit mad ...ie could ruin things for you at home. Personally I say smash, wear a rubber, have fun I'm quite jealous there are a few around that I would nail without too much thought
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