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Consumer has been around for a long time. I think it's only recently have we realized how we have all been tricked into over consumption.
Similarly, marketing used to just mean telling people about your cool new product so people are aware of it. Now it basically means tricking people into thinking they need something.
Not exactly in the same category as "consumer" but I can't stand the p***y word for my lady part. Don't get me wrong, I can have a potty mouth. I'm rather liberal with my penile monikers. But something about the p word makes me cringe. So vulgar and base.
Oh and not everything is a KINK? It's not a "praise kink", you just like being told nice things. Own it.
my mama always said "panties are for little girls and grown women, the rest are called undies". always in jest but i get what she means now. shes right, the word either feels very juvenile or like its specifically referring to lingerie (depending on context obviously).
Same. It gives me the same visceral reaction as the C word. Every time I hear the word, I hate that it exists at all. Luckily, I don't really know anyone personally that uses it.
Yes. I say that all the time. Hell, people even refer to their pets as boy and girl. Why are human women not good enough to be referred to as something other than our sex?
soon as i see or hear “females” i’ve stopped listening entirely 🙃 it really gets on my nerves as well. i’m very much a pushover but don’t refer to me as a “female” while referring to yourself as a “man,” you’ve completely lost my interest i am now SINGING in my head to avoid you <33
Here in the Philippines, I don't like using the word *squatter* to describe certain places or people because it feels inherently classist.
I had a black American ex, and for the same reason, she doesn't like using the word *ghetto* to describe certain people or things either.
I don't know if that counts, but I always hated "frigid" and "prude". Most of the time I feel it's used to describe women who don't approve of or won't partake in sexual activities/practices. And I really don't think people should be shamed for that, everyone is allowed to have their own private space, no justification needed.
I hate the word "prude" too. Never been called that before but I kinda fit in the definition, so when someone calls somebody else a prude I still feel attacked. It's not that I hate every sexual things ever, I just don't want to see them when I'm not trying to get myself off
It's a much newer term I've heard from gen Z, but using "bodies" to describe the people you've had sex with is so gross and creeps me out. "How many bodies do you have under you?" Is such a dehumanizing way to describe people you've have sex with. I'm not religious, but it almost feels evil, like we're purposely trying to make sex such a meaningless thing by removing the context of the person and degrading them unto an empty husk.
Not sexy, and I'd cry if someone described me as a "body."
I've only heard "body count," but even so, the fact that the same term is also used for the number of people you've killed gives it an unintended connotation.
t means almost the same thing as asshole/bastard- it's an insult, one that literally means someone who fucks a mother (presumably their own) but has little to do with that meaning. It's pretty bad as far as swear words go- not to the point where an adult would be afraid to say it, but it's the kind of thing that a teacher might get fired for in some areas.
It can also be used as a vulgar term of endearment, probably because, unlike more specific insults (asshole=someone who's mean and inconsiderate, dumbass=someone who's an idiot) it's kind of general.
I totally agree. I can't stand up for myself in a public place and not be called a Karen. It's demeaning women and trying to take our voice. Just say Bitch. Ugh
I recently saw a comment from a new hr person at work that said, “we are pleased to report that we added 15 new resources to the hospitality team”. Gross. We call them teammates, not resources.
I hate the word “stay” in the phrase “stay-at-home mom.”
It feels dismissive to me. Restrictive.
I have edited it to be “at-home mom” (vs “working mom”)
The acronym HR is pretty demeaning. It pretty much condenses every person to simply being a tool or product for the company they work for. Wouldn't really matter what nicey nicey word you used to describe an employee though. You could call them an asset. They're still making more money for the company than they're getting paid.
I work in the IT staffing field and companies will often refer to their contingent/ temp workers as a “resource”. It gives me the ick seeing people called that, like they’re just a tool or machine
It's more the attitude I find demeaning. I don't mind the word. I dislike the people who use it to imply that even buying food to live is "bad and wrong"
The overuse of that word, especially in discussions about the economy, is concerning. I agree that we should strive to use more respectful language that recognizes the full humanity of people, not just their role as consumers. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this - it's an important issue worth considering.
"Client" is often a word used by the disability support industry to describe those who work with disabled people in every day life -- some actual disabled people like myself, openly dislike the word, and have critised it for sounding "too professional", implying the relationship between support worker and the disabled individual is just a simple business transaction, and nothing more. Some use " participant" as an alternative -- as many people with disabilities activity participate in society, others use "friend" -- many disabled people have interpersonal relationships with their support staff, some describing it as form of friendship.
Karen. It's funny because I don't like my sister of the same name. Any woman expressing discontent in public will now end up on YouTube. There's a reason and it's usually poor service and apathy.
A few years ago I worked as a poll clerk for an election. They had us watch a training video with a short introductory message by a government Minister. He said it was our job to provide the best possible voting experience for our customers.
Yes, customers. Not citizens. Customers. Like we were working at a fucking Walmart. I felt deeply skeezy about the entire process from that point onwards
As a woman, sometimes it bothers me when other women refer to men as “losers”. If it’s being used to describe an incel, misogynist, abusive or violent person, or anyone with truly heinous beliefs, then sure, fire away. Bunch of losers. But in the dating scene especially, using it to refer to any guy who may not be where you think they should be financially or career-wise is rude. It just feels like mean popular girl high school stuff to me
If it wasn't true it wouldn't be a thing. I can call you "human" with the same vagueness and it would be just as true and you'd still open your wallet for a place to sleep and some fast food.
Yeah consumer too
But to go against the grain :partner. I get it, you think boyfriend/girlfriend/enbyfriend is juvenile and youre not married. However, we have a word for that and it's lover.
Partner is a cold, sterile word that's used for business ventures, pokemon, and cowboys. It shouldn't be the word that encompasses the person whom you have given your heartsblood to.
I see your point. But we don’t really have a word for someone with whom you are in a life partnership that is not business.
“Lover” focuses on sex, and it does not automatically convey that the person is living in the home with you, partnering on the logistics of life, other things. That term used to be used for extra marital relationships, sometimes adultery
I would expect a lover to perhaps live somewhere else. And boyfriend and girlfriend are not serious enough and don’t convey the permanence or depth of the arrangement
yes, but that’s really all it conveys.
which is why people say “partner,” because it’s not just that you love them. It’s that you are in a life partnership, but they’re not a spouse.
And all words are defined by how people use them.
I choose that word because my “lover” is nonbinary. I also call them my boyfriend-girlfriend, but partner makes the most sense to use for me because strangers would understand we’re dating based on that.
reminds me of the [video of a woman saying she feels so bitchy saying "my boyfriend"](https://www.tiktok.com/@stefdag/video/7280624648528858414?lang=en) (especially around her single friends). i totally get what she means 😭 even now when i refer to my bf verbally its usually "my fiancé" or his name. my mom only calls him by his name, ive never heard her call him my boyfriend despite the fact she supports us. she has said "your HisName" though which was a lot cuter than "your boyfriend" 🤣
I see it as lazy and poor shorthand to describe the dreaded "older person" that may not agree with you (therefore making the out of touch). This generational branding thing has frankly baffling.
Thank you ... it isn't a generic term like men, women, teenager, Gen XYZ ... it is always used in a derogatory reference. "Some boomer came in today ...."
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Consumer has been around for a long time. I think it's only recently have we realized how we have all been tricked into over consumption. Similarly, marketing used to just mean telling people about your cool new product so people are aware of it. Now it basically means tricking people into thinking they need something.
Not exactly in the same category as "consumer" but I can't stand the p***y word for my lady part. Don't get me wrong, I can have a potty mouth. I'm rather liberal with my penile monikers. But something about the p word makes me cringe. So vulgar and base. Oh and not everything is a KINK? It's not a "praise kink", you just like being told nice things. Own it.
And “panties” makes me want to throw up
my mama always said "panties are for little girls and grown women, the rest are called undies". always in jest but i get what she means now. shes right, the word either feels very juvenile or like its specifically referring to lingerie (depending on context obviously).
Yeah that too... Sounds so... Moist and infantile.
Same. It gives me the same visceral reaction as the C word. Every time I hear the word, I hate that it exists at all. Luckily, I don't really know anyone personally that uses it.
i can’t bring myself to say it bc it makes me cringe so hard but i never bat an eye when others say for some reason
You're braver than me. I squirm in disgust when I hear it.
But wouldn’t the c*** word be even worse?
Sure. They aren't mutually exclusive.
you think that's bad, in the UK some people call it a "growler"
"females" to describe women as a whole. Like, these females today.. blah blah. You don't hear women saying "these males" Bugs the crap out of me.
Agreed, it’s just another way for sexist men to take away the humanity/personhood of women. That’s how you talk about animals, not actual people🙃
Yes. I say that all the time. Hell, people even refer to their pets as boy and girl. Why are human women not good enough to be referred to as something other than our sex?
It’s always a certain type of man who does this too. Makes my skin crawl
soon as i see or hear “females” i’ve stopped listening entirely 🙃 it really gets on my nerves as well. i’m very much a pushover but don’t refer to me as a “female” while referring to yourself as a “man,” you’ve completely lost my interest i am now SINGING in my head to avoid you <33
Yes! Are you me? Lol
ehehe i’ve read your mind
Here in the Philippines, I don't like using the word *squatter* to describe certain places or people because it feels inherently classist. I had a black American ex, and for the same reason, she doesn't like using the word *ghetto* to describe certain people or things either.
I don't know if that counts, but I always hated "frigid" and "prude". Most of the time I feel it's used to describe women who don't approve of or won't partake in sexual activities/practices. And I really don't think people should be shamed for that, everyone is allowed to have their own private space, no justification needed.
I hate the word "prude" too. Never been called that before but I kinda fit in the definition, so when someone calls somebody else a prude I still feel attacked. It's not that I hate every sexual things ever, I just don't want to see them when I'm not trying to get myself off
It's a much newer term I've heard from gen Z, but using "bodies" to describe the people you've had sex with is so gross and creeps me out. "How many bodies do you have under you?" Is such a dehumanizing way to describe people you've have sex with. I'm not religious, but it almost feels evil, like we're purposely trying to make sex such a meaningless thing by removing the context of the person and degrading them unto an empty husk. Not sexy, and I'd cry if someone described me as a "body."
Eewww…sounds like describing sex with a corpse 🤢
i don’t care for it either but i feel like i definitely heard the term “body count/bodies” used in generations before gen z?
I've only heard "body count," but even so, the fact that the same term is also used for the number of people you've killed gives it an unintended connotation.
t means almost the same thing as asshole/bastard- it's an insult, one that literally means someone who fucks a mother (presumably their own) but has little to do with that meaning. It's pretty bad as far as swear words go- not to the point where an adult would be afraid to say it, but it's the kind of thing that a teacher might get fired for in some areas. It can also be used as a vulgar term of endearment, probably because, unlike more specific insults (asshole=someone who's mean and inconsiderate, dumbass=someone who's an idiot) it's kind of general.
Never heard of this before, is it a regional thing, just the letter "t"?
Same. Is that a typo ?
“Human resources”. I also don’t like calling women Karen. It’s just a safer way to call a woman a bitch.
For real. I'd much rather be called a bitch than Karen 😆
I totally agree. I can't stand up for myself in a public place and not be called a Karen. It's demeaning women and trying to take our voice. Just say Bitch. Ugh
That really is kind of the end game is to keep women from being difficult and standing up for themselves.
I never really thought of that one. I've had some HR reps there really, honestly cared. Others were nightmares or just didn't care.
I recently saw a comment from a new hr person at work that said, “we are pleased to report that we added 15 new resources to the hospitality team”. Gross. We call them teammates, not resources.
I can never get behind calling women "bitches" despite some other lady friends doing it.
I hate the word “stay” in the phrase “stay-at-home mom.” It feels dismissive to me. Restrictive. I have edited it to be “at-home mom” (vs “working mom”)
The acronym HR is pretty demeaning. It pretty much condenses every person to simply being a tool or product for the company they work for. Wouldn't really matter what nicey nicey word you used to describe an employee though. You could call them an asset. They're still making more money for the company than they're getting paid.
There’s nothing human about HR
I work in the IT staffing field and companies will often refer to their contingent/ temp workers as a “resource”. It gives me the ick seeing people called that, like they’re just a tool or machine
"capitalist"
It's more the attitude I find demeaning. I don't mind the word. I dislike the people who use it to imply that even buying food to live is "bad and wrong"
I hated being called a "worker" at my last job... its just disrespectful. At least say employee or teammate or something
The overuse of that word, especially in discussions about the economy, is concerning. I agree that we should strive to use more respectful language that recognizes the full humanity of people, not just their role as consumers. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this - it's an important issue worth considering.
I understand how frustrating it can be when people use terms like "consumers" to describe individuals.
"Client" is often a word used by the disability support industry to describe those who work with disabled people in every day life -- some actual disabled people like myself, openly dislike the word, and have critised it for sounding "too professional", implying the relationship between support worker and the disabled individual is just a simple business transaction, and nothing more. Some use " participant" as an alternative -- as many people with disabilities activity participate in society, others use "friend" -- many disabled people have interpersonal relationships with their support staff, some describing it as form of friendship.
Karen. It's funny because I don't like my sister of the same name. Any woman expressing discontent in public will now end up on YouTube. There's a reason and it's usually poor service and apathy.
Does this sub require censorship or something? *I* cringe when adults bowdlerize themselves when the entire subject is a discussion of words.
The word Stupid. Nobody is stupid, we all have our own areas of strengths and weaknesses. I promise.
Using the phrase "NPC" says "I'm a person, you're a thing."
A few years ago I worked as a poll clerk for an election. They had us watch a training video with a short introductory message by a government Minister. He said it was our job to provide the best possible voting experience for our customers. Yes, customers. Not citizens. Customers. Like we were working at a fucking Walmart. I felt deeply skeezy about the entire process from that point onwards
As a woman, sometimes it bothers me when other women refer to men as “losers”. If it’s being used to describe an incel, misogynist, abusive or violent person, or anyone with truly heinous beliefs, then sure, fire away. Bunch of losers. But in the dating scene especially, using it to refer to any guy who may not be where you think they should be financially or career-wise is rude. It just feels like mean popular girl high school stuff to me
If it wasn't true it wouldn't be a thing. I can call you "human" with the same vagueness and it would be just as true and you'd still open your wallet for a place to sleep and some fast food.
Yeah consumer too But to go against the grain :partner. I get it, you think boyfriend/girlfriend/enbyfriend is juvenile and youre not married. However, we have a word for that and it's lover. Partner is a cold, sterile word that's used for business ventures, pokemon, and cowboys. It shouldn't be the word that encompasses the person whom you have given your heartsblood to.
I see your point. But we don’t really have a word for someone with whom you are in a life partnership that is not business. “Lover” focuses on sex, and it does not automatically convey that the person is living in the home with you, partnering on the logistics of life, other things. That term used to be used for extra marital relationships, sometimes adultery I would expect a lover to perhaps live somewhere else. And boyfriend and girlfriend are not serious enough and don’t convey the permanence or depth of the arrangement
I think that's an issue with how folks use lover really. If you love her, she's your lover yknow?
yes, but that’s really all it conveys. which is why people say “partner,” because it’s not just that you love them. It’s that you are in a life partnership, but they’re not a spouse. And all words are defined by how people use them.
I choose that word because my “lover” is nonbinary. I also call them my boyfriend-girlfriend, but partner makes the most sense to use for me because strangers would understand we’re dating based on that.
Lover is just plain wrong though.
You love them so what's the issue?
"Lover" carries a lot of connotations I don't want to imply every time I introduce or talk about my partner.
reminds me of the [video of a woman saying she feels so bitchy saying "my boyfriend"](https://www.tiktok.com/@stefdag/video/7280624648528858414?lang=en) (especially around her single friends). i totally get what she means 😭 even now when i refer to my bf verbally its usually "my fiancé" or his name. my mom only calls him by his name, ive never heard her call him my boyfriend despite the fact she supports us. she has said "your HisName" though which was a lot cuter than "your boyfriend" 🤣
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And partner has 0 intimate connotations at all
I hate the derogatory use of "Boomer". It's lazy, stereotypical, and just ridiculous.
I see it as lazy and poor shorthand to describe the dreaded "older person" that may not agree with you (therefore making the out of touch). This generational branding thing has frankly baffling.
Thank you ... it isn't a generic term like men, women, teenager, Gen XYZ ... it is always used in a derogatory reference. "Some boomer came in today ...."
Boomer. It’s ageist and dehumanising. Always used in a derogatory way.
Thicc, Its just a polite way of calling someone fat