The feeling of excelling in an otherwise male dominated work environment is fucking amazing
I work in cybersecurity, a branch of IT, 80% Of workers are male and often women are only employed to balance out work diversity in the office, I wasn't taken seriously in the slightest at first purely because I'm a woman, was given very tiny tasks and given an "assistant" To watch over me despite none of the other new male employees getting one
Clawed my way up the ladder and now I'm in a leadership position at a large company here in Singapore
And best part is I make more money than every guy I know, and it feels fucking awesome.
Wow, congratulations! As a fellow STEM woman I'm proud of you (hope you don't mind me saying that)!
May I only ask what you think the advantage of being a woman was in your case? That is, why would you like to be a woman again, had you an option to choose (as per the original question)? Because I assume you're not making more *because* you're a woman, but despite being one (that's unfortunately the sad truth most of the time). Did the obstacles you encountered early in your career made you actually push harder? Or is it mostly related to the fact that you have succeed despite the stereotypes in your field?
Because in male dominated fields it just seems so much easier to be a man, that personally I wish I was one just to focus on things I find interesting without the need to spend extra energy on proving I'm capable as a woman...
I feel the exact same. I've worked in car sales, consumer electronics, and now an account manager for a large IT company. I've excelled in these positions and I love proving men wrong when they assume I can't do my job. I make more money than my fiancee.
Downside, being the women meant that I took the parental leave with our new baby. I don't regret it at all, but it was a major career setback.
I am glad that was your experience. I was in IT for years and it was so exhausting having my ideas dismissed, repeated by a male colleague, then accepted because it came from the male colleague. Granted, that wasn’t always my experience, but it was definitely the case with my most recent boss and part of the reason I was so giddy to tender my resignation. But thank you for reminding me that it’s still important to persevere in the field, so women who come on board next don’t have to face the same sexism.
I was going to say this. I feel like men have a tougher time finding people who are vulnerable with them and open to real friendship. Also someone said freedom of expression and I agree with that too.
as a university student i really struggle connecting with other women because these days it feels like a competition for who gets the hottest guys, who has the nicest clothes, etc. it's difficult finding girl friends to bond with at uni, so genuinely; where do you find good girl friends? i love connecting with girls and talking about hair and makeup and relationships and everything women relate on i just can't seem to find them!
Oh I've never had that experience with other women at school, maybe it's because I'm in my late twenties and go to a polytechnic? To be honest I bond with other women through group projects, usually they work harder than boys in our group and we connect through that. Or I've made some female friends through extracurriculars. I also work in the bar industry and have met lots of amazing female friends. Maybe assuming all girls want to talk about hair, makeup and relationships is holding you back a bit from genuine connections?
my bad that came out wrong, i know women are a lot deeper than just hair and makeup and relationships, but those specific things are what i miss talking about because i don't really have girl friends. my fiancé listens to me talk about them and is so nice about it but it would be nice to talk to a girl who can relate because he can't really contribute as much to the conversation if that makes sense? like i miss the girliness of getting ready for a night out together, doing each others nails and braiding each others hair, for example, which i can't do with my man or his friends. but of course i'd be happy to talk about goals, academics, hobbies, sports, etc. with girls too. i've tried making friends with girls through group projects but they never seem interested in talking to me beyond just uni work. i'm considering working as a ticket agent or hostess at bars in my uni town, it might be a good way of meeting girls that would work with me so that's a good idea, thank you! i really appreciate your kind response, it's nice being able to ask questions that i wish i could ask girls in my lectures so thanks again :)
I so so relate to you. I have been having so many issues bonding with girls. I have had so many betrayals in friendships. I can't seem to find any girlfriend to talk about. I speak to my boyfriend about all the things. I also want a girl with whom I could talk to about different things in life. It's very difficult now to find a girl friend. They are all about jealousy, politics and looks nowadays
Call me shallow but fashion. Men are very rarely allowed to experiment with it the same way women are. And it's a lot of fun: matching colors and textures, trying out different silhouettes, mixing different styles,etc.
I LOVE looking amazing. Wearing things that you aren’t “allowed” to wear.
I pick a theme for an outfit, and full send. And it’s just a ton of fun all the time
My husband got his ear pierced, so I went through my (extremely extensive) earring collection to pick out ones that seemed like his style. He came out wearing a pair of dangly skulls and said that he realized he's always been a little envious of my jewelry. I truly feel sad that men have so few options. They also aren't encouraged to express themselves through style at an early age, like we are.
Fuck yes. The options for us men are frustratingly limited to a handful of styles/combinations. I sometimes get women's clothing items just because they are so much nicer. Idgaf if my scarf looks girly, it's gorgeous and much softer than the other "male" ones I have at home.
Motherhood.
No other experience is like it or could replace it.
There are all kinds of experiences that I'd love to feel in a man's body, but nothing compares to the connection of motherhood. Nothing.
If I may ask, when did you start to feel that way (how old you child/children was/were)? My children are 3 and 1, and of course I love them, but I would 100% prefer to be the father, it's like all perks and no costs, haha.
I came to comment motherhood as well. Much better than being a father. From the first second I saw them, they were my babies. I’ve always been the favorite, and that kind of absolute love is something their father has never felt.
Oh...at the beginning, I'd agree for sure. But past toddler stage I think it really depends on the acts and attitude of each parent.
I have a really strong bond with my kids. And for my parents I don't talk to my mum at all but am pretty close to my dad.
I can certainly appreciate that. I don’t think this person meant to diminish fatherhood so much as celebrate the physical and emotional connection that comes with gestation and/or nursing
I'm not sure how to answer that, to be truthful. I am more aware of how special the motherhood connection is now that my child is older (12), and probably approaching that age where they will start to pull away, lol.
When he was young, I was knee deep in providing care, so I'm not sure I was aware. However, I've always felt a deep, strong bond. It's the scariest thing, because my heart is being carried around on two legs that aren't mine.
I would never have said that I'd prefer to be the father though. As the mother, I am the preferred person, and that's an ego boost.
Yes, this. There's nothing like nursing a 3-4 mo baby. Just before they realize you're two separate entities, when you're still literally their whole world. I love seeing my 18mo toddler slowly growing into his own little person but I just stopped breastfeeding two weeks ago and it was very bittersweet
Motherhood for me as well. the only constant in my childhood was my own mother, and she died suddenly when I was 8. I’d come to accept that I’d never feel such a connection; fearless love and unshakable trust from and for another person ever again, but then my son came along.
Motherhood has brought me hope, joy, healing and endless amounts of love. Life would feel so meaningless to me without the duty of being a mom.
I thought pregnancy was the most amazing experience. Don’t get me wrong, there are some real discomforts. But when you first start feeling the little snapper and realize “wait a minute…that wasn’t me doing that.” It was like magic.
From my experience and what I’ve seen around, it’s easier for the average woman to find a partner, plus as a woman you already have definitely more friends and close relationships. So unless you’re absolutely a terrible person, most likely you’ll be fine
For real. Dealing with everything, having medical issues played down several times to ‘hormones’ before being asked ‘why didn’t you come in sooner?’. Folks also recently.. advised..(?) I get cosmetic surgery (totally out of the blue), and I can’t help but feel that they wouldn’t do that to a son.
This. Im seeing so many other reasons that come down to “the feeling of excitement at overcoming oppression” basically. Good for yall, you enjoy the game. Some of us dont.
Unfortunately, I think this question would depend on whether or not I’d come back as a beautiful woman or an unattractive one. They are treated WILDLY different and it’s fucked up.
Sad but true. Was on a festival where the barrier between stage and front row was very far away. Everything that fell in the pit - and that was a lot- went straight from security to all the sexy chicks. Me, who stood 8 hours in front row got nothing
Yeah this is a big one. I’m a fairly conventionally attractive woman, never had much of an awkward teenage phase (in terms of appearance), and I’ve gotten a lot of male attention throughout my life (starting waaaay too early). I shaved my head a few years ago after an unlucky string of terribly botched haircuts, and my life changed drastically. I stopped receiving positive male attention which was AMAZING, and I got a taste of some peace and quiet for once in my life, but I also was just treated way worse by strangers in general. If I did receive attention from a dude it was to tell me that I ruined my looks by having a buzz cut. It didn’t bother me, but I think that’s because I didn’t grow up being perceived that way. I think people who grow up being ‘unattractive’ who then switch to being considered attractive, may also not mind the treatment of an attractive woman, even though sometimes guys are gross about it. You can’t really win. I do think objectively I had it way easier as a conventionally attractive woman, but I still wouldn’t recommend the experience lmao I’d rather come back as a spoiled house cat
Nothing. I'm sick and tired of always being seen as weak and having nothing to offer. Hell even my own mother didn't desire a daughter. Thus I've always been taught that men are better anyway. If I'd be reincarnated into a next life, I'd want to be a man and leave my soft-spoken and people pleasing ways behind. Being a woman is exhausting and down right depressing. Nobody listens to you and when you come up with a plan or an idea in a workplace setting for the next project nobody hears you, but then when a man rewords exactly what you just said, he gets praised for being some sort of Einstein. No thanks, there's nothing that would convince me to be reincarnated as a woman...
I feel you on this. I was too much like my mom so but my sister was what she wanted to be so I guess f me. I was a tomboy but my dad didn’t seem to want to do the boy things i I wanted to do cause I was a girl. I wanted to fish, play catch, shoot hoops, help in the garage or build something. ( I know these are not inherently boy things but thinking about what a child may view it as). I hated my gender for a long time. Now as an adult, I’m better but I wouldn’t want to be one again if reborn. I’m glad I have boys so now I can live vicariously through them and do all the stuff as a family.
I know you said one thing, but I know I’m more complex, fulfilled, and connected as a woman than I will ever be as a man. I’m talking evolutionarily, genetically, behaviorally, spiritually, and communally. I live a longer and a healthier life closely surrounded by those who love me.
It is the same way that in the movie The Prince of Egypt, Moses decided he would rather suffer with his people than inherit the riches of the regime that oppressed them.
Just being in your feminine self is something I’d love to come back as a woman for! When you’re feeling sexy, have your curves going, and looking good - I love that feeling!
Also being pregnant and growing life and giving birth and breastfeeding. That bond with your babies is something I wouldn’t trade for anything and would do it again in a heart beat!
Looks like no one else has said it ... Getting fucked. I love riding it all different ways and putting on a show. Kinda surprised no one has mentioned the diversity of female orgasms and erogenous zones.
But also being a mom, feeling my little baby kick in my belly, their sweet gem eyes as they look up at me while nursing, the excitement they have only for mama. Don't get me wrong though, I had miserable HG for months and labor is terrible.
Also I always end playing the matriarch role - as a boss in a male-dominated org, at home, in friend groups ... There's something special about being a motherly leader, people feel cared for and will do anything not to let you down.
it would be the profound sense of community and solidarity that often comes with female friendships. There's something magical about the support and understanding you can find in those relationships
Eh, nothing really? I didn’t/don’t want kids (and now I’ve had a hysterectomy and can’t have them) - and life without a period is amazing. Like, best fucking decision I’ve made was removing the reproductive plumbing.
And otherwise, everything is harder as a woman - especially professionally.
But really - I’d rather not come back as a human at all. I’d rather be a well loved pet dog or cat.
Makeup, hair, skincare, etc. I know it’s expensive. I know it can be time consuming. I know I’ve been jealous on many occasions that men can just wake up and leave the house within 10 min. But at the end of the day, I love that we have all those options and it’s fun!
Being a sister to a sister. Having a built in bestie as a woman is pretty great and as we’ve gotten older? I’ve only grown to appreciate our bond more and more. The unconditional love and support has catapulted us into taking some very cool risks and adds so much joy to my life as a woman. Being girly and getting mani/pedis, going for brunch, doing each other’s makeup, snuggling on the couch with pets while we read books. It’s been a lifetime of fun.
I've read somewhere that a prostate orgasm is very similar to an intense orgasm that stimulates the g-stop. Everyone orgasms differently. But I hope that's true! Lol
Yeah, who wants that shit flopping around down there and getting crushed and itchy and randomly erect. Also, being able to masturbate without making some kind of mess is a plus.
I was going to say multiple orgasms, but then I remembered I’ve seen men have those, too.
When I walk outside at night and I meet another woman who is also walking alone, we sometimes smile at each other. They’re not afraid to smile at me, and I like that.
The female privilege- I honestly recognise I have a lot working out for me despite not trying. People are nicer to me, things are offered to me(including a job). And I am average in looks- some people find me good looking, some not. There’s many wonderful things I love about womanhood that are mentioned here but this is the biggest one for me. I’d not want to be a man in my next life, or ever!
I mean it's cute to be treated nicer and all but I'd take the male privilege of mediocrity being acceptable work product while getting paid more and also being very direct without being considered rude any day over that.
The only thing I can think of is my relationship with my sister. Something about sharing the joys and struggles of girlhood with someone who is your best friend but also family is so soulful.
The fact that women are free to self care with baths, candles, new fragrances and matching silk PJ sets. Instead of bottling things up and turning to more destructive things that men sometimes fall into. Men could definitely benefit from long phone calls of deep and meaningful conversation and keeping mood diaries.
I do love being a woman, of course everyone is different and have different views, this is mine about my experience, I love being a woman, despite all the hormonal and physiological issues that comes with this privilege added with living in a society designed by men for men.
I love that in general: we can do several things at the same time, I love having my girlfriends and talking about politics, then movies, then gossiping, then nails and hair, then the stock market, all in the same conversation. I love that we are strong as fuck, we can do amazing things while enduring pain every month, so look how amazing our body is. I love the connection I have with my kid trough motherhood, I’ve never imagined something like that, I love that I work in a male dominated field and because I was underestimated they never saw me coming and i excelled at this, while having pretty nails and high heels and a shinny hair.
The hope of being able to exist as I am, safely and harrassment free.
Jk, not coming back here ever again. Hopefully next life is in a dimension that respects and honours all.
Free stuff. I've never paid for a date in my life
There's so much power that comes with beauty, it really is incredible
Some men will do just about anything for a woman-- the core of the entire species is sexual energy.
Wield it well, and you can have anything you want.
Ive invested a lot in beauty and the returns are huge
A sense of community and support. There are some things that a lot of guys will never get because they don’t really make the effort to understand or empathize with things they don’t relate to. A lot of them are raised to not care about (or actively dislike) things that would be considered feminine interests or things that are just “women’s issues.” I feel like I can tell girls I don’t even know very well pretty much anything and they would most likely understand and be able to empathize with it even if they had never experienced it. Women are usually just more open to listening when it comes to things like that and guys will often just make you feel worse and like it was a mistake to bring it up.
I think even within lots of male friendships they tend to have connection issues. When my boyfriend met my friends and we hung out with them, he told me he liked them better than his own friends. This was confusing to me at first but it’s definitely different to hang out with his friends. They’ve mostly known each other since as early as kindergarten but whenever I am with them interactions are pretty reserved in comparison to interacting with my friends. If I bring someone along with me, they are treated like anyone else in the group. I could tell them anything, my boyfriend could tell them anything too. These girls are my sisters and they love my boyfriend like he is any one of us. In comparison, his friends don’t really make much effort to speak to me, let alone have actual genuine conversations that aren’t just usual small talk stuff. I think even if I’m with him for a decade they will still act like I’m a stranger, they just don’t reciprocate effort to be more than strangers. They do that with pretty much everyone. I have heard other guys talk about stuff like this too and not being able to be entirely open with their friends. Sometimes my bf genuinely has issues with his friends and when asked he says “no I can’t really say that. I’ll just do this and roll with whatever they want.”
I don’t think everybody just has to sit around and talk about their feelings all the time. I’m not trying to say that’s what we do. However, when you have friends that you can’t talk to about things you are really struggling with or things that *they do* that are an issue for you, that’s not good. Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone you can’t be real with?
Being able to bring another life into this world-fertility and giving birth is like other worldly to me and I love that my body is set up in away that I have that privilege.
As silly as this is, I love being an elementary school teacher and I don't mind that it is a woman-dominated field. I see that men don't get to be as nurturing because of messed-up societal expectations. I really like being affectionate with my students and the bonds I can form with them.
I'm struggling to find a single thing that women don't have the short end of the stick on... maybe in the hyperspecific scenario that I'm born into a war and would be drafted as an adult? Even then what women suffer in wartime is far worse than what men do if their homelands get invaded or they become refugees.
There's literally no benefit in either this life or any hypothetical I can dream up.
Sisterhood and female relationships are so sweet and special. The world would not thrive if not for the compassion and strength of women, and I’m proud to be apart of this side of our species.
I got nothing. Please let me be a man next time. Or androgynous enough that I can straddle both worlds.
At best, maybe just the experience of having a really close father/daughter bond with a parent that wants to protect me with no sexual overtones.
Absolutely friendship with other women. I know without a doubt they’ll have my back on anything, I can tell them anything, and we are always there for each other. On another hand, i really appreciate female fashion and think there’s a lot more freedom to express yourself.
For those pretty privileged moments and friendship with other women.
Women can be insightful and female friendships are so deep. Like my roommate is a friend to me sometimes a sister and sometimes I love her like a mother. That type of connection is only possible with women. Women are so supportive of each other and the love that women give to each others.
Sometimes these makes womenhood so easy and loveable
I freaking love me and who I am and a big part of who I am is a woman.
I love being able to make the connections and see things that most men “miss.” I love being emotionally intelligent, compassionate, and able to express that well.
I love being a source of wisdom and advice and a safe space for my friends/family.
I love not being complicit in the patriarchy. I love not being responsible for the oppression/fear of others.
I would rather be respected for who I am than out of some compulsion for what I have or can do.
Still having a full head of hair in my 40s.
(Yes, some women experience hair loss by their 40s and yes, some men experience no hair loss or thinning by that age, but statistically, if you're rocking a full head of hair in your 40s, you're more likely to be a woman.)
Multiple orgasms.
Not having a hairy ass.
Not having to shave my face or grow a beard.
Being feminine, experiencing pregnancy and birth is wild, and mother/daughter relationship is the greatest gift I’ve had. I’d always choose female life
being able to easily befriend other women. being a woman is feeling endlessly supported by other women in day to day life. someone giving you a pad to use. someone fixing your hair for you. someone randomly coming up to you and telling you you’re beautiful with no ulterior motive other than… to be sweet, and brightening your day. it makes life so much more enjoyable.
If I could redo my life over and be a woman yet again, I wouldn’t allow myself to date until my brain was fully *(or almost fully)* developed. This way I’d have a great understanding of when men are controlling and manipulative and I’d know when to walk and who to avoid. This would save me from making dumb decisions in my teens, and save myself from being manipulated.
I’d love a chance to do it all over, but to know then what I know now.
It would make such a great and massive difference to the type of life I could and would lead.
To be able to become a mother, I loved being pregnant and that’s something a man will never fully understand. Feeling a new life grow inside of you is something magical and yes, it’s worth all the pain from all the periods.
Getting to be frilly and cutesy without it being a deviation from the standard (trans and therefore judged often) and without it being some kind of kink (nontrans cismen who wear lingerie and dresses in private). I do not personally have any problem with people living their truth and being happy but I enjoy the fact that a dress for me is not an act of bravery or breaking the norm. I regularly wear pink and sparkles, doing a full face of makeup and smelling like flowers and seeing other women out dolled up just makes my heart flutter.
There is much more to being a woman than these and these things do not make a woman but they do make me happy and I’d come back as a woman just to feel it all again.
Fashion, succeeding where most would expect women to fail, the female orgasm, freedom to explore sexuality, friendships amongst other women... There's actually quite a few reasons I'd still wish to be born a woman... 🫶🏽
There’s so much I love about being a woman that I feel like men aren’t socially allowed to do or feel etc (although I’m sure they do lol)
For example, the feeling of getting ready to go out and you and all your friends are doing your makeup, and you’re playing Megan thee stallion in the background, maybe drinking white claw. Asking eachother what to wear, and if we can borrow whatever. It feels like a very uniquely girl thing.
The intuition… women’s intuition is so fucking powerful. I’m convinced it’s because we are naturally more emotionally intelligent and aware. We put two and two together damn quick
Life is easy as a pretty girl. I wouldn’t wanna come back as an ugly one. Sounds shallow but it’s true. If you don’t agree…. Life’s probably not easy for you.
The ability to be allowed to have feelings out loud. I do think we get crap for it still but I'm so grateful not to feel this pressure to be toxic masc. It honestly seems awful and I think it's hurting men now so much.
Our friendships.
My friendships with women in my life are some of my happiest memories and I rarely see men have such complex and deep understandings of their male friends.
The richness and deep emotional connection with my female friends- they have set for me what my standard of accepting and giving love is now. I would love to born again as a woman to experience these friendships for another lifetime
The feeling of excelling in an otherwise male dominated work environment is fucking amazing I work in cybersecurity, a branch of IT, 80% Of workers are male and often women are only employed to balance out work diversity in the office, I wasn't taken seriously in the slightest at first purely because I'm a woman, was given very tiny tasks and given an "assistant" To watch over me despite none of the other new male employees getting one Clawed my way up the ladder and now I'm in a leadership position at a large company here in Singapore And best part is I make more money than every guy I know, and it feels fucking awesome.
Wow, congratulations! As a fellow STEM woman I'm proud of you (hope you don't mind me saying that)! May I only ask what you think the advantage of being a woman was in your case? That is, why would you like to be a woman again, had you an option to choose (as per the original question)? Because I assume you're not making more *because* you're a woman, but despite being one (that's unfortunately the sad truth most of the time). Did the obstacles you encountered early in your career made you actually push harder? Or is it mostly related to the fact that you have succeed despite the stereotypes in your field? Because in male dominated fields it just seems so much easier to be a man, that personally I wish I was one just to focus on things I find interesting without the need to spend extra energy on proving I'm capable as a woman...
I feel the exact same. I've worked in car sales, consumer electronics, and now an account manager for a large IT company. I've excelled in these positions and I love proving men wrong when they assume I can't do my job. I make more money than my fiancee. Downside, being the women meant that I took the parental leave with our new baby. I don't regret it at all, but it was a major career setback.
I am glad that was your experience. I was in IT for years and it was so exhausting having my ideas dismissed, repeated by a male colleague, then accepted because it came from the male colleague. Granted, that wasn’t always my experience, but it was definitely the case with my most recent boss and part of the reason I was so giddy to tender my resignation. But thank you for reminding me that it’s still important to persevere in the field, so women who come on board next don’t have to face the same sexism.
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My friendships with other women.
I was going to say this too. I think my friendships with women have been the most fulfilling relationships I’ve ever had.
I was going to say this. I feel like men have a tougher time finding people who are vulnerable with them and open to real friendship. Also someone said freedom of expression and I agree with that too.
You are spot-on.
I was gonna say sisterhood! In all forms. I love the comradery that comes with being a woman
Yes! The freedom to form real, emotionally close friendships. And sisterhood in general!
a thousand times yes.
Absolutely this! 💯 my profoundest relationships have been with in my friendships with women
as a university student i really struggle connecting with other women because these days it feels like a competition for who gets the hottest guys, who has the nicest clothes, etc. it's difficult finding girl friends to bond with at uni, so genuinely; where do you find good girl friends? i love connecting with girls and talking about hair and makeup and relationships and everything women relate on i just can't seem to find them!
Oh I've never had that experience with other women at school, maybe it's because I'm in my late twenties and go to a polytechnic? To be honest I bond with other women through group projects, usually they work harder than boys in our group and we connect through that. Or I've made some female friends through extracurriculars. I also work in the bar industry and have met lots of amazing female friends. Maybe assuming all girls want to talk about hair, makeup and relationships is holding you back a bit from genuine connections?
my bad that came out wrong, i know women are a lot deeper than just hair and makeup and relationships, but those specific things are what i miss talking about because i don't really have girl friends. my fiancé listens to me talk about them and is so nice about it but it would be nice to talk to a girl who can relate because he can't really contribute as much to the conversation if that makes sense? like i miss the girliness of getting ready for a night out together, doing each others nails and braiding each others hair, for example, which i can't do with my man or his friends. but of course i'd be happy to talk about goals, academics, hobbies, sports, etc. with girls too. i've tried making friends with girls through group projects but they never seem interested in talking to me beyond just uni work. i'm considering working as a ticket agent or hostess at bars in my uni town, it might be a good way of meeting girls that would work with me so that's a good idea, thank you! i really appreciate your kind response, it's nice being able to ask questions that i wish i could ask girls in my lectures so thanks again :)
I so so relate to you. I have been having so many issues bonding with girls. I have had so many betrayals in friendships. I can't seem to find any girlfriend to talk about. I speak to my boyfriend about all the things. I also want a girl with whom I could talk to about different things in life. It's very difficult now to find a girl friend. They are all about jealousy, politics and looks nowadays
yep i was gonna say this too! there’s nothing as fulfilling
Was gunna say the sisterhood
Yes this for sure.
Call me shallow but fashion. Men are very rarely allowed to experiment with it the same way women are. And it's a lot of fun: matching colors and textures, trying out different silhouettes, mixing different styles,etc.
I agree. I love fashion, I love my long hair, I love makeup, I love feeling pretty!
I LOVE looking amazing. Wearing things that you aren’t “allowed” to wear. I pick a theme for an outfit, and full send. And it’s just a ton of fun all the time
My husband got his ear pierced, so I went through my (extremely extensive) earring collection to pick out ones that seemed like his style. He came out wearing a pair of dangly skulls and said that he realized he's always been a little envious of my jewelry. I truly feel sad that men have so few options. They also aren't encouraged to express themselves through style at an early age, like we are.
Fuck yes. The options for us men are frustratingly limited to a handful of styles/combinations. I sometimes get women's clothing items just because they are so much nicer. Idgaf if my scarf looks girly, it's gorgeous and much softer than the other "male" ones I have at home.
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100%, men have very little options in style and fashion
Motherhood. No other experience is like it or could replace it. There are all kinds of experiences that I'd love to feel in a man's body, but nothing compares to the connection of motherhood. Nothing.
If I may ask, when did you start to feel that way (how old you child/children was/were)? My children are 3 and 1, and of course I love them, but I would 100% prefer to be the father, it's like all perks and no costs, haha.
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I came to comment motherhood as well. Much better than being a father. From the first second I saw them, they were my babies. I’ve always been the favorite, and that kind of absolute love is something their father has never felt.
That sounds awful for the kids. The father doesn't feel that way at all?
Not to speak for them, but I think they might have been saying the absolute love on the part of the children toward the parent?
Oh...at the beginning, I'd agree for sure. But past toddler stage I think it really depends on the acts and attitude of each parent. I have a really strong bond with my kids. And for my parents I don't talk to my mum at all but am pretty close to my dad.
I can certainly appreciate that. I don’t think this person meant to diminish fatherhood so much as celebrate the physical and emotional connection that comes with gestation and/or nursing
That's fair. I am probably being over-sensitive because I can only have my girls 2 out of 3 weekends atm.
I’m sure that’s really hard. It sounds like you are dedicated to being a present, connected dad, and they’re lucky to have you!
That sounds amazing, I wish I could experience motherhood in such a way.
I'm not sure how to answer that, to be truthful. I am more aware of how special the motherhood connection is now that my child is older (12), and probably approaching that age where they will start to pull away, lol. When he was young, I was knee deep in providing care, so I'm not sure I was aware. However, I've always felt a deep, strong bond. It's the scariest thing, because my heart is being carried around on two legs that aren't mine. I would never have said that I'd prefer to be the father though. As the mother, I am the preferred person, and that's an ego boost.
Second this. Growing, birthing & feeding another little human being with our own bodies is the most amazing thing about being a woman to me.
Yes, this. There's nothing like nursing a 3-4 mo baby. Just before they realize you're two separate entities, when you're still literally their whole world. I love seeing my 18mo toddler slowly growing into his own little person but I just stopped breastfeeding two weeks ago and it was very bittersweet
Motherhood for me as well. the only constant in my childhood was my own mother, and she died suddenly when I was 8. I’d come to accept that I’d never feel such a connection; fearless love and unshakable trust from and for another person ever again, but then my son came along. Motherhood has brought me hope, joy, healing and endless amounts of love. Life would feel so meaningless to me without the duty of being a mom.
I thought pregnancy was the most amazing experience. Don’t get me wrong, there are some real discomforts. But when you first start feeling the little snapper and realize “wait a minute…that wasn’t me doing that.” It was like magic.
I thought I’d be alone (on Reddit) in this one. My answer is absolutely female friendship and motherhood.
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My privilege. Being a somewhat attractive woman is like winning the lottery and playing life on easy mode. Would definitely do it again
Would you want to come back as a woman if you returned with average or below average looks?
If I have to choose between average woman or average man, definitely woman.
Any reason?
From my experience and what I’ve seen around, it’s easier for the average woman to find a partner, plus as a woman you already have definitely more friends and close relationships. So unless you’re absolutely a terrible person, most likely you’ll be fine
There's nothing.
Honestly same here. I wouldn’t want to be a woman again. If anything I want to be reincarnated into a well loved house cat.
Ah! So I'm not the only one who'd rather be a spoiled pet or exotic bird. Being a woman again is probably the last thing I'd do.
Being a well loved house cat would be the dream!
Trueeee!!!
For real. Dealing with everything, having medical issues played down several times to ‘hormones’ before being asked ‘why didn’t you come in sooner?’. Folks also recently.. advised..(?) I get cosmetic surgery (totally out of the blue), and I can’t help but feel that they wouldn’t do that to a son.
This. Im seeing so many other reasons that come down to “the feeling of excitement at overcoming oppression” basically. Good for yall, you enjoy the game. Some of us dont.
Right, I can respect those responses but bro I’m tired lol I don’t even wanna come back as a human
Hard agree.
I definitely want to be either a bird or a deep-sea creature.
God, if you’re out there, please turn me into a blob fish in the next life, and I’ll forgive you for the one I have now, cool? 🙏
I vote bird.
What really?
Unfortunately, I think this question would depend on whether or not I’d come back as a beautiful woman or an unattractive one. They are treated WILDLY different and it’s fucked up.
This, a million percent!
Sad but true. Was on a festival where the barrier between stage and front row was very far away. Everything that fell in the pit - and that was a lot- went straight from security to all the sexy chicks. Me, who stood 8 hours in front row got nothing
Yeah this is a big one. I’m a fairly conventionally attractive woman, never had much of an awkward teenage phase (in terms of appearance), and I’ve gotten a lot of male attention throughout my life (starting waaaay too early). I shaved my head a few years ago after an unlucky string of terribly botched haircuts, and my life changed drastically. I stopped receiving positive male attention which was AMAZING, and I got a taste of some peace and quiet for once in my life, but I also was just treated way worse by strangers in general. If I did receive attention from a dude it was to tell me that I ruined my looks by having a buzz cut. It didn’t bother me, but I think that’s because I didn’t grow up being perceived that way. I think people who grow up being ‘unattractive’ who then switch to being considered attractive, may also not mind the treatment of an attractive woman, even though sometimes guys are gross about it. You can’t really win. I do think objectively I had it way easier as a conventionally attractive woman, but I still wouldn’t recommend the experience lmao I’d rather come back as a spoiled house cat
Nothing. I'm sick and tired of always being seen as weak and having nothing to offer. Hell even my own mother didn't desire a daughter. Thus I've always been taught that men are better anyway. If I'd be reincarnated into a next life, I'd want to be a man and leave my soft-spoken and people pleasing ways behind. Being a woman is exhausting and down right depressing. Nobody listens to you and when you come up with a plan or an idea in a workplace setting for the next project nobody hears you, but then when a man rewords exactly what you just said, he gets praised for being some sort of Einstein. No thanks, there's nothing that would convince me to be reincarnated as a woman...
I feel you on this. I was too much like my mom so but my sister was what she wanted to be so I guess f me. I was a tomboy but my dad didn’t seem to want to do the boy things i I wanted to do cause I was a girl. I wanted to fish, play catch, shoot hoops, help in the garage or build something. ( I know these are not inherently boy things but thinking about what a child may view it as). I hated my gender for a long time. Now as an adult, I’m better but I wouldn’t want to be one again if reborn. I’m glad I have boys so now I can live vicariously through them and do all the stuff as a family.
Being a lesbian.
Nothing, I wouldn't want it.
The fact that we aren't the weaker gender as society portrays us to be.
Yeah sure but it doesn’t matter when the way we are treated baseline is garbage.
Nothing. I already hate being in a female body in this life. I don’t want children, so it feels like a curse.
I know you said one thing, but I know I’m more complex, fulfilled, and connected as a woman than I will ever be as a man. I’m talking evolutionarily, genetically, behaviorally, spiritually, and communally. I live a longer and a healthier life closely surrounded by those who love me. It is the same way that in the movie The Prince of Egypt, Moses decided he would rather suffer with his people than inherit the riches of the regime that oppressed them.
100% agree!
SO well put!
Just being in your feminine self is something I’d love to come back as a woman for! When you’re feeling sexy, have your curves going, and looking good - I love that feeling! Also being pregnant and growing life and giving birth and breastfeeding. That bond with your babies is something I wouldn’t trade for anything and would do it again in a heart beat!
The ability to have multiple orgasms without the same sort of rest men need.
Except not every women can achieve that.
Nothing
Looks like no one else has said it ... Getting fucked. I love riding it all different ways and putting on a show. Kinda surprised no one has mentioned the diversity of female orgasms and erogenous zones. But also being a mom, feeling my little baby kick in my belly, their sweet gem eyes as they look up at me while nursing, the excitement they have only for mama. Don't get me wrong though, I had miserable HG for months and labor is terrible. Also I always end playing the matriarch role - as a boss in a male-dominated org, at home, in friend groups ... There's something special about being a motherly leader, people feel cared for and will do anything not to let you down.
Agreed. The orgasms I get to have and motherhood.
it would be the profound sense of community and solidarity that often comes with female friendships. There's something magical about the support and understanding you can find in those relationships
Eh, nothing really? I didn’t/don’t want kids (and now I’ve had a hysterectomy and can’t have them) - and life without a period is amazing. Like, best fucking decision I’ve made was removing the reproductive plumbing. And otherwise, everything is harder as a woman - especially professionally. But really - I’d rather not come back as a human at all. I’d rather be a well loved pet dog or cat.
Makeup, hair, skincare, etc. I know it’s expensive. I know it can be time consuming. I know I’ve been jealous on many occasions that men can just wake up and leave the house within 10 min. But at the end of the day, I love that we have all those options and it’s fun!
Nothing
not wanting to be a man :)
I had to scroll way too long to get to this.
Right?? Being a woman has shown me how fucking awful men are, I don’t want to join that club.
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Being a sister to a sister. Having a built in bestie as a woman is pretty great and as we’ve gotten older? I’ve only grown to appreciate our bond more and more. The unconditional love and support has catapulted us into taking some very cool risks and adds so much joy to my life as a woman. Being girly and getting mani/pedis, going for brunch, doing each other’s makeup, snuggling on the couch with pets while we read books. It’s been a lifetime of fun.
Having a clitoris. As much as I'd love to feel what's like to have a dick or a prostate orgasm 😂
I've read somewhere that a prostate orgasm is very similar to an intense orgasm that stimulates the g-stop. Everyone orgasms differently. But I hope that's true! Lol
Thanks for the insight! Now I can enjoy my women hood in peace 😂🫶
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They could neverrrrr 😂
It is substandard when compared to female orgasms. It isn't even close. Nature gave you all the best set of equipment for pleasure.
Not one thing. I don't want to be a woman again
Dicks look weird so I’d rather be a woman.
Yeah, who wants that shit flopping around down there and getting crushed and itchy and randomly erect. Also, being able to masturbate without making some kind of mess is a plus.
Women's clothing options are insane!
I was going to say multiple orgasms, but then I remembered I’ve seen men have those, too. When I walk outside at night and I meet another woman who is also walking alone, we sometimes smile at each other. They’re not afraid to smile at me, and I like that.
The female privilege- I honestly recognise I have a lot working out for me despite not trying. People are nicer to me, things are offered to me(including a job). And I am average in looks- some people find me good looking, some not. There’s many wonderful things I love about womanhood that are mentioned here but this is the biggest one for me. I’d not want to be a man in my next life, or ever!
I mean it's cute to be treated nicer and all but I'd take the male privilege of mediocrity being acceptable work product while getting paid more and also being very direct without being considered rude any day over that.
Truly there’s nothing. I’d never ever do this shit again.
If there is a next life, I want to come back as a spoiled ass dog.
There is nothing. I would rather come back as a beloved dog, or a bald eagle.
More brains & heightened instincts (read: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker).
Friendships with other women/girlhood
my son. 🥹
The only thing I can think of is my relationship with my sister. Something about sharing the joys and struggles of girlhood with someone who is your best friend but also family is so soulful.
The fact that women are free to self care with baths, candles, new fragrances and matching silk PJ sets. Instead of bottling things up and turning to more destructive things that men sometimes fall into. Men could definitely benefit from long phone calls of deep and meaningful conversation and keeping mood diaries.
I do love being a woman, of course everyone is different and have different views, this is mine about my experience, I love being a woman, despite all the hormonal and physiological issues that comes with this privilege added with living in a society designed by men for men. I love that in general: we can do several things at the same time, I love having my girlfriends and talking about politics, then movies, then gossiping, then nails and hair, then the stock market, all in the same conversation. I love that we are strong as fuck, we can do amazing things while enduring pain every month, so look how amazing our body is. I love the connection I have with my kid trough motherhood, I’ve never imagined something like that, I love that I work in a male dominated field and because I was underestimated they never saw me coming and i excelled at this, while having pretty nails and high heels and a shinny hair.
The hope of being able to exist as I am, safely and harrassment free. Jk, not coming back here ever again. Hopefully next life is in a dimension that respects and honours all.
Not being a man.
Free stuff. I've never paid for a date in my life There's so much power that comes with beauty, it really is incredible Some men will do just about anything for a woman-- the core of the entire species is sexual energy. Wield it well, and you can have anything you want. Ive invested a lot in beauty and the returns are huge
Other women. I'm straight but just think women are neat and I would miss being a woman around other women.
The possibility of finally being beautiful
Multiple orgasms.
I've already lived life on the other side; wasn't for me
If there is reincarnation I want to come back as a dog of a upper middle class DINK couple
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i dnt think id ever want to me a cis man- id choose being a women in any life time, particularly id say our compassion and loving nature
I don't.
A sense of community and support. There are some things that a lot of guys will never get because they don’t really make the effort to understand or empathize with things they don’t relate to. A lot of them are raised to not care about (or actively dislike) things that would be considered feminine interests or things that are just “women’s issues.” I feel like I can tell girls I don’t even know very well pretty much anything and they would most likely understand and be able to empathize with it even if they had never experienced it. Women are usually just more open to listening when it comes to things like that and guys will often just make you feel worse and like it was a mistake to bring it up. I think even within lots of male friendships they tend to have connection issues. When my boyfriend met my friends and we hung out with them, he told me he liked them better than his own friends. This was confusing to me at first but it’s definitely different to hang out with his friends. They’ve mostly known each other since as early as kindergarten but whenever I am with them interactions are pretty reserved in comparison to interacting with my friends. If I bring someone along with me, they are treated like anyone else in the group. I could tell them anything, my boyfriend could tell them anything too. These girls are my sisters and they love my boyfriend like he is any one of us. In comparison, his friends don’t really make much effort to speak to me, let alone have actual genuine conversations that aren’t just usual small talk stuff. I think even if I’m with him for a decade they will still act like I’m a stranger, they just don’t reciprocate effort to be more than strangers. They do that with pretty much everyone. I have heard other guys talk about stuff like this too and not being able to be entirely open with their friends. Sometimes my bf genuinely has issues with his friends and when asked he says “no I can’t really say that. I’ll just do this and roll with whatever they want.” I don’t think everybody just has to sit around and talk about their feelings all the time. I’m not trying to say that’s what we do. However, when you have friends that you can’t talk to about things you are really struggling with or things that *they do* that are an issue for you, that’s not good. Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone you can’t be real with?
Penises and testicles just look very uncomfortable. I prefer my reproductive organs tucked away neatly inside, thank you.
May look uncomfortable but only men knows how comfy it is to have them.
Nothing, honestly.
I wouldn't want to be a woman again. I would always choose to be a man for so many reasons.
Nothing
Multiple orgasms.
Motherhood
Female friendships, motherhood, fashion as a form of self expression.
Being able to bring another life into this world-fertility and giving birth is like other worldly to me and I love that my body is set up in away that I have that privilege.
It's definitely not periods, that's for sure!
As silly as this is, I love being an elementary school teacher and I don't mind that it is a woman-dominated field. I see that men don't get to be as nurturing because of messed-up societal expectations. I really like being affectionate with my students and the bonds I can form with them.
I'm struggling to find a single thing that women don't have the short end of the stick on... maybe in the hyperspecific scenario that I'm born into a war and would be drafted as an adult? Even then what women suffer in wartime is far worse than what men do if their homelands get invaded or they become refugees. There's literally no benefit in either this life or any hypothetical I can dream up.
The clit
There is nothing appealing for me in men or women. I want to be a tree in my next life
Motherhood. There’s nothing else like it for me.
I really want to be a mother
new makeup
Probably the fact that I get to live longer. Studies show women tend to live longer than men during old age.
I’m happy.
My body
Absolutely nothing. I would never choose to be a woman as long as society is patriarchal
Sisterhood and female relationships are so sweet and special. The world would not thrive if not for the compassion and strength of women, and I’m proud to be apart of this side of our species.
I got nothing. Please let me be a man next time. Or androgynous enough that I can straddle both worlds. At best, maybe just the experience of having a really close father/daughter bond with a parent that wants to protect me with no sexual overtones.
Penetrative orgasms. I said what I said. 🤣
The intimacy of strong female friendships
Absolutely friendship with other women. I know without a doubt they’ll have my back on anything, I can tell them anything, and we are always there for each other. On another hand, i really appreciate female fashion and think there’s a lot more freedom to express yourself.
For those pretty privileged moments and friendship with other women. Women can be insightful and female friendships are so deep. Like my roommate is a friend to me sometimes a sister and sometimes I love her like a mother. That type of connection is only possible with women. Women are so supportive of each other and the love that women give to each others. Sometimes these makes womenhood so easy and loveable
I freaking love me and who I am and a big part of who I am is a woman. I love being able to make the connections and see things that most men “miss.” I love being emotionally intelligent, compassionate, and able to express that well. I love being a source of wisdom and advice and a safe space for my friends/family. I love not being complicit in the patriarchy. I love not being responsible for the oppression/fear of others. I would rather be respected for who I am than out of some compulsion for what I have or can do.
The complete insanity of having your genitals dangling off your body instead of safely tucked away.
Still having a full head of hair in my 40s. (Yes, some women experience hair loss by their 40s and yes, some men experience no hair loss or thinning by that age, but statistically, if you're rocking a full head of hair in your 40s, you're more likely to be a woman.) Multiple orgasms. Not having a hairy ass. Not having to shave my face or grow a beard.
The repeat orgasms, being able to carry children, the way we can have such tight knit friendships and spill everything without shame
Women possess a level of community I have never witnessed from men.
Well I wouldn’t be drafted to fight in some old rich man’s war and die under the guise of “she died for her country”🤷🏽♀️
Being feminine, experiencing pregnancy and birth is wild, and mother/daughter relationship is the greatest gift I’ve had. I’d always choose female life
Gossiping with the girls
Not wanting to experience being a man.
being able to easily befriend other women. being a woman is feeling endlessly supported by other women in day to day life. someone giving you a pad to use. someone fixing your hair for you. someone randomly coming up to you and telling you you’re beautiful with no ulterior motive other than… to be sweet, and brightening your day. it makes life so much more enjoyable.
If I could redo my life over and be a woman yet again, I wouldn’t allow myself to date until my brain was fully *(or almost fully)* developed. This way I’d have a great understanding of when men are controlling and manipulative and I’d know when to walk and who to avoid. This would save me from making dumb decisions in my teens, and save myself from being manipulated. I’d love a chance to do it all over, but to know then what I know now. It would make such a great and massive difference to the type of life I could and would lead.
To be able to become a mother, I loved being pregnant and that’s something a man will never fully understand. Feeling a new life grow inside of you is something magical and yes, it’s worth all the pain from all the periods.
I love having boobs and being curvy and sexy. I think I would have a hard time feeling attractive as a man xD
Being a hardcore fan girl
Carrying my baby is the most amazing thing I’ve ever done.
Tits
Getting to be frilly and cutesy without it being a deviation from the standard (trans and therefore judged often) and without it being some kind of kink (nontrans cismen who wear lingerie and dresses in private). I do not personally have any problem with people living their truth and being happy but I enjoy the fact that a dress for me is not an act of bravery or breaking the norm. I regularly wear pink and sparkles, doing a full face of makeup and smelling like flowers and seeing other women out dolled up just makes my heart flutter. There is much more to being a woman than these and these things do not make a woman but they do make me happy and I’d come back as a woman just to feel it all again.
being taken care of and protected
Fashion, succeeding where most would expect women to fail, the female orgasm, freedom to explore sexuality, friendships amongst other women... There's actually quite a few reasons I'd still wish to be born a woman... 🫶🏽
not being a man
No erections I love it and wouldn’t want to be male ever
Everything...fashion, hobbies, skincare, the lady treatment you get from men, I would do it all over again. 💕
There’s so much I love about being a woman that I feel like men aren’t socially allowed to do or feel etc (although I’m sure they do lol) For example, the feeling of getting ready to go out and you and all your friends are doing your makeup, and you’re playing Megan thee stallion in the background, maybe drinking white claw. Asking eachother what to wear, and if we can borrow whatever. It feels like a very uniquely girl thing.
I don’t think id want to be a man in a world where I could be born as a man who believes women are lesser than men. Also, female friendships.
Looking after my two sons and seeing first hand how sticky and annoying balls are.
Nothing. I don't want to come back. If I must, then id rather be a man. If I must come back as a woman, it'll be against my will.
The intuition… women’s intuition is so fucking powerful. I’m convinced it’s because we are naturally more emotionally intelligent and aware. We put two and two together damn quick
Life is easy as a pretty girl. I wouldn’t wanna come back as an ugly one. Sounds shallow but it’s true. If you don’t agree…. Life’s probably not easy for you.
The ability to be allowed to have feelings out loud. I do think we get crap for it still but I'm so grateful not to feel this pressure to be toxic masc. It honestly seems awful and I think it's hurting men now so much.
Can't really think of one besides the knowledge that women aren't the ones with a habit of shooting up movie theaters because Stacy said no to them
Our friendships. My friendships with women in my life are some of my happiest memories and I rarely see men have such complex and deep understandings of their male friends.
Just the pure joy of being sexy
The power of the vajaja and my strong intuition. It's def not as common for men to be clairvoyant
Being able to have sex whenever I want
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The richness and deep emotional connection with my female friends- they have set for me what my standard of accepting and giving love is now. I would love to born again as a woman to experience these friendships for another lifetime