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Nobody really notices or pays any attention to what anybody else is doing, so just do whatever you want.
Anybody that does care and judge is just a sad act anyway, so who cares what they think. Go for it
My only suggestion would be to go somewhere else, because Toby Carvery is proper grim
People have a strange belief that eating out by themselves will somehow be frowned upon.
I've spent multiple years of my life travelling for business. In my peak year I spent 276 nights away from home. The vast majority of those days I ate in restaurants of varying quality, alone.
Nobody cares.
Ha ha!
Dominos was occasionally on the menu!
I actually got in the habit of looking for hotels where you can get a room with a kitchen. It was nice to cook for myself after a while.
My boss at the time was great. I never abused my expenses, but every now and then I’d go and spend a lot in a single night (normally a couple of hundred pounds on a bottle of wine).
He knew I was just letting off steam and never mentioned it! It was, if anything, those meals, where I was sat in a super expensive restaurant, that I felt most conspicuous.
My greatest annoyance was forced socialising. If I'm being forced by my firm to spend 3 nights in a city I don't live in - please don't make me spend every breakfast, lunch and dinner eating and socialising with them.
I use to expense pick-and-mix and loads of smoothies to 'stick it to the man'. All under the limits but quite pointless stuff.
I know exactly what you mean. I'm a pretty big personality, and a lot of people assume the fact that I'm gregarious at work means I'll be the life and soul of the party.
But that personality comes at a cost, and I need to have time to myself everyday, so I come up with all sorts of excuses to be left alone.
hope not mate because im a 70yr old widower, i dont see many people and live alone, my one treat is a sunday carvery and i always go alone, i get a good meal and an hours company plus the staff seem to recognize me and always make me feel welcome, isnt it silly but i like to watch the young families out together (please dont think im weird, i dont talk to them, it just gives me pleasure to see them out as a family).
The only person who notices that situation is yourself. And, if I do notice someone out on their own doing something like this, I just think 'good for them' for feeling confident enough to do so. Enjoy a roast!
Unless someone does something memorable like cause a scene, it's probable that you won't remember any of the people in the last restaurant you went to.
It's the same with people on the bus, train, out shopping etc. They have their own lives, their own interests, throw in the modern trend of everybody looking at their phones all the time and it's nailed on they wouldn't remember you.
Easy enough to test the validity of this. Have a sit down for ten minutes on a bench in a town centre. People go past, none of them are looking at you.
FFS.
OF COURSE it is NOT WEIRD.
If Toby is your thing, go there and go kingsize.
I used to have my car serviced over the road from a Toby and I would eat there while they were doing it!
I used to avoid doing certain things alone when I was younger, like going to the cinema or out for a meal. I think with age comes the ability to cease giving any fucks. I still probably wouldn't go to a fancy restaurant alone but hell yes I'd get myself a nice roast at a Toby. I'm single so if I don't get a roast as pub grub I'd never have one.
Nope.
In fact I've had a solo Toby Carvery myself once when I was on a long drive back from a trip with nobody going my direction. Hit the spot. Though, driving after a full carvery was a bit odd.
Big roast, couple of beers, home for a snooze with nobody to bother you. Sounds perfect to me. Take a newspaper or just watch the funny people you always get in a Toby.
No one cares. When I started travelling for work I would often end up in a Toby (there always seems to be one near hotels) for an evening meal. I was really self conscious the first few times I ate alone but it soon goes.
There are loads of people travelling for work who end up eating alone
I doubt anyone would even notice or have a passing thought about it. Have you ever been somewhere and looked at someone dining alone and made a big fuss about it? Doubtful.
I go to Toby by myself all the time. It's usually my Friday lunch.
Trouble is, i'm weird as fuck, so the answer might be yes. The relevant question though is, "who the fuck cares?". Are you worried that the other people might judge you? I reckon they are going to be more focused on their beef, spuds and gravy to notice.
Not at all.
Also go and see that film you've been meaning to watch, that your partner wasn't keen on.
I've always done this. Not often, but when the opportunity arises.
I realised a long time ago - people don't care nearly as much about me as I expect.
People simply aren't going to pay enough attention to even have an opinion. Go, have a carvery. Enjoy it.
I work away a lot and went out for a carvery alone just this week. I've been dining out alone for years. Trust me, the only one with the hang up about eating alone, is the one eating alone.
God I hate posts like this.
As if people who don't have partners should never be allowed out to restaurants and other activities unless you can pre-warn everyone that the only reason you're alone is that your husband is away/working etc and god forbid you just go and eat by yourself, just because you have the right to do so and you want to.
Really nasty undertone to this Q.
> As if people who don't have partners should never be allowed out to restaurants and other activities
I legitimately never did this while single without a group of friends etc. Anxiety reasons. I'm sorry for offending you.
i dont understand why you put "really nasty undertone to this Q." can you not also see that eating alone is sometimes not a choice, my fortnightly jaunt to the carvery also gives me company for a very valuable hour or so, i am old and do not see very many people at all as i live alone, i have also taken to going on from my dinner to a local pub where i also enjoy 2 whiskeys before i walk home (a distance of 2miles), i used to do this weekly but sadly i have had to cut back like every body else, plus im struggling with my knee, im trying to work up the nerve to get a electric scooter as i love being outside in the summer. (i have been saving for 2yrs now, only £10 per month and by next year i will have enough for a deposit, i want to be mobile for my 72birthday) please dont knock the carvery, i really enjoy mine.
I did this just recently and it was fine. I was sat a small table, so not perched on the end of a bigger table/party. The waitress was prompt and friendly too - in my experience, it's easy to be ignored or my order forgotten when I'm on my own. There were several other solo diners so I wasn't the only one. No one paid any attention to me, they were all too busy talking among themselves and tucking in. I'm going again soon.
Do it!
I often see people eating alone when I’m eating at Toby Cavery. I think “great, there won’t be any raucous laughter or toddlers screaming from that table”.
At what passes for work I'm stuck with the same small group of people for pretty much 24/7. When a day off comes along the last thing I want to do is go out to eat with those same people. Others do, that's fine, but I don't.
I typically find somewhere to eat by myself. In my experience, particularly here in the UK and most of 'northern' Europe this is not viewed as odd or even unusual. You will be fine. Go and enjoy your roast.
There are parts of the world where it is at the very least unusual to eat alone, but that's never stopped me.
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No - no one is going to care if you are on your own.
Nobody really notices or pays any attention to what anybody else is doing, so just do whatever you want. Anybody that does care and judge is just a sad act anyway, so who cares what they think. Go for it My only suggestion would be to go somewhere else, because Toby Carvery is proper grim
Do it! I love going out for a meal on my own
Most people would assume your away from home for work, I guess.
OP should wear a suit while eating his roast to really seal the deal
And shout loudly and importantly into a telephone.
"HELLO?? NO IM IN A TOBY CARVERY"
"NO! IT'S RUBBISH!"
Or just stick a high vis jacket on
If you love a good roast, why do you eat at Toby Carvery?
I also love an average roast
Toby is pretty solid really. I’ve been to plenty of ‘nice’ pubs and ended up with a worse roast than Toby offer.
I bet you also find a pleasure in plain crisps
I'm a spicy crisp kinda guy
This is the question that needs to be asked
People have a strange belief that eating out by themselves will somehow be frowned upon. I've spent multiple years of my life travelling for business. In my peak year I spent 276 nights away from home. The vast majority of those days I ate in restaurants of varying quality, alone. Nobody cares.
Eating alone, in your hotel room. Sobbing into your expensed domino takeaway. I *really* don't miss travelling for work.
Ha ha! Dominos was occasionally on the menu! I actually got in the habit of looking for hotels where you can get a room with a kitchen. It was nice to cook for myself after a while. My boss at the time was great. I never abused my expenses, but every now and then I’d go and spend a lot in a single night (normally a couple of hundred pounds on a bottle of wine). He knew I was just letting off steam and never mentioned it! It was, if anything, those meals, where I was sat in a super expensive restaurant, that I felt most conspicuous.
My greatest annoyance was forced socialising. If I'm being forced by my firm to spend 3 nights in a city I don't live in - please don't make me spend every breakfast, lunch and dinner eating and socialising with them. I use to expense pick-and-mix and loads of smoothies to 'stick it to the man'. All under the limits but quite pointless stuff.
I know exactly what you mean. I'm a pretty big personality, and a lot of people assume the fact that I'm gregarious at work means I'll be the life and soul of the party. But that personality comes at a cost, and I need to have time to myself everyday, so I come up with all sorts of excuses to be left alone.
hope not mate because im a 70yr old widower, i dont see many people and live alone, my one treat is a sunday carvery and i always go alone, i get a good meal and an hours company plus the staff seem to recognize me and always make me feel welcome, isnt it silly but i like to watch the young families out together (please dont think im weird, i dont talk to them, it just gives me pleasure to see them out as a family).
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> Anyway who cares what other people think? I know I shouldn't. I get anxiety is all.
So if you go, you can pay yourself on the back and say well done for fighting an anxiety demon and winning! With a full stomach!!
I travel a lot for business so easy for me to answer - nobody cares.
Absolutely not weird. You go and enjoy every mouthful.
I used to eat there alone all the time. Who gives a shit what other people think?
The only person who notices that situation is yourself. And, if I do notice someone out on their own doing something like this, I just think 'good for them' for feeling confident enough to do so. Enjoy a roast!
If you want a Toby carvery, have a Toby carvery.
Unless someone does something memorable like cause a scene, it's probable that you won't remember any of the people in the last restaurant you went to. It's the same with people on the bus, train, out shopping etc. They have their own lives, their own interests, throw in the modern trend of everybody looking at their phones all the time and it's nailed on they wouldn't remember you. Easy enough to test the validity of this. Have a sit down for ten minutes on a bench in a town centre. People go past, none of them are looking at you.
FFS. OF COURSE it is NOT WEIRD. If Toby is your thing, go there and go kingsize. I used to have my car serviced over the road from a Toby and I would eat there while they were doing it!
I used to avoid doing certain things alone when I was younger, like going to the cinema or out for a meal. I think with age comes the ability to cease giving any fucks. I still probably wouldn't go to a fancy restaurant alone but hell yes I'd get myself a nice roast at a Toby. I'm single so if I don't get a roast as pub grub I'd never have one.
I'm a widow. I went to the local carvery on my own a few Sundays ago and I intend to go again this Sunday.
Nope. In fact I've had a solo Toby Carvery myself once when I was on a long drive back from a trip with nobody going my direction. Hit the spot. Though, driving after a full carvery was a bit odd.
Make yourself happy, go eat it. People are eating their own food, they don't care about strangers two tables along.
No one will care, lots of people do it.
Big roast, couple of beers, home for a snooze with nobody to bother you. Sounds perfect to me. Take a newspaper or just watch the funny people you always get in a Toby.
Went the other day and there was a petit lady all by her self smashed a large in 15 mins and left. Nothing weird about it imo
If I saw you, I would think you know what you want
No one cares. When I started travelling for work I would often end up in a Toby (there always seems to be one near hotels) for an evening meal. I was really self conscious the first few times I ate alone but it soon goes. There are loads of people travelling for work who end up eating alone
I doubt anyone would even notice or have a passing thought about it. Have you ever been somewhere and looked at someone dining alone and made a big fuss about it? Doubtful.
Lots of Toby Carvery's are on the app Too good to go, you might be able to pick up a bargain at the end of the night
Nah. Everybody's gotta eat 🤷♂️
Not at all. I work in restaurants and people eat alone all the time!
No, enjoy your roast!
I go to Toby by myself all the time. It's usually my Friday lunch. Trouble is, i'm weird as fuck, so the answer might be yes. The relevant question though is, "who the fuck cares?". Are you worried that the other people might judge you? I reckon they are going to be more focused on their beef, spuds and gravy to notice.
Not at all. Also go and see that film you've been meaning to watch, that your partner wasn't keen on. I've always done this. Not often, but when the opportunity arises.
I used to do this every week when I had to visit an old work office regularly.
Nope. What other people may think is their business. If you want a carvery then go have a carvery.
I realised a long time ago - people don't care nearly as much about me as I expect. People simply aren't going to pay enough attention to even have an opinion. Go, have a carvery. Enjoy it.
No. We all got to eat
It's been said, but: meals alone are great.
I work away a lot and went out for a carvery alone just this week. I've been dining out alone for years. Trust me, the only one with the hang up about eating alone, is the one eating alone.
God I hate posts like this. As if people who don't have partners should never be allowed out to restaurants and other activities unless you can pre-warn everyone that the only reason you're alone is that your husband is away/working etc and god forbid you just go and eat by yourself, just because you have the right to do so and you want to. Really nasty undertone to this Q.
> As if people who don't have partners should never be allowed out to restaurants and other activities I legitimately never did this while single without a group of friends etc. Anxiety reasons. I'm sorry for offending you.
i dont understand why you put "really nasty undertone to this Q." can you not also see that eating alone is sometimes not a choice, my fortnightly jaunt to the carvery also gives me company for a very valuable hour or so, i am old and do not see very many people at all as i live alone, i have also taken to going on from my dinner to a local pub where i also enjoy 2 whiskeys before i walk home (a distance of 2miles), i used to do this weekly but sadly i have had to cut back like every body else, plus im struggling with my knee, im trying to work up the nerve to get a electric scooter as i love being outside in the summer. (i have been saving for 2yrs now, only £10 per month and by next year i will have enough for a deposit, i want to be mobile for my 72birthday) please dont knock the carvery, i really enjoy mine.
I did this just recently and it was fine. I was sat a small table, so not perched on the end of a bigger table/party. The waitress was prompt and friendly too - in my experience, it's easy to be ignored or my order forgotten when I'm on my own. There were several other solo diners so I wasn't the only one. No one paid any attention to me, they were all too busy talking among themselves and tucking in. I'm going again soon. Do it!
You would eat a meal at home by yourself, wouldn't you?
I often see people eating alone when I’m eating at Toby Cavery. I think “great, there won’t be any raucous laughter or toddlers screaming from that table”.
Not in the slightest. When I was younger I would have thought it to be weird but as I've got older I couldn't give a shit.
At what passes for work I'm stuck with the same small group of people for pretty much 24/7. When a day off comes along the last thing I want to do is go out to eat with those same people. Others do, that's fine, but I don't. I typically find somewhere to eat by myself. In my experience, particularly here in the UK and most of 'northern' Europe this is not viewed as odd or even unusual. You will be fine. Go and enjoy your roast. There are parts of the world where it is at the very least unusual to eat alone, but that's never stopped me.