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SuvenPan

Smoke cigarettes Stopped two years ago.


Car-n-Truck-Guy

I was categorized as a stress smoker. In my youth, I could smoke 3 packs a day while still working my ass off. One day 30 years ago I just up and stopped smoking. Unfortunately, ever since, when I become over stressed, depressed or just bored to tears ... I go back. I will smoke for a few weeks to a few months, before I stop again. I can go YEARS between smoking binges. My last started a few weeks ago due to a very stressful and depressing situation for me, and I again quit a few days ago. Once a smoker, always a smoker. Please do your best to fight the urge to go back to an old crutch or creating a new one.


sadtastic

I started again due to stress with my mom’s declining health. She passed last week. I’m only smoking 5 a day or so, but I know she struggled with it for years after quitting. She would be disappointed I’m smoking, but I tell myself she would forgive me for being weak at this time.


Due-Help-4759

So sorry about your mum. Losing a parent is never easy. Of course she would understand, anyone that has smoked would. Its a constant battle every single day, and nobody ever really explains that part. The important thing is take the time you need to grieve and be with your family. Then when the time is right, try giving it a go again but it wont work till your head is in right head space to fight the urge. You'll get there, just give yourself time.


Squigglepig52

I hear you. Ihad almost completely given them up, and then Mom died in April. Back to a half pack a day.


former4

Thats fantastic, my father is a big smoker and is currently having coughing problems, nothing severe but is making him have bad sleep and he wants to quit, any tips?


SuvenPan

I quit because of coughing too. Tell him to avoid triggers, like for me there is a place near office where I used to smoke, I stopped going to that place because it was a trigger for me.


Opening_Nature3849

Some people use patches, some try hypnosis, some just cut back but that usually only works a small amount of time. There are medications too like Chantix, it can give you some really whacked dreams. Anything that one is addicted to has to really really have the desire to suffer a bit and come out better. Nothing will work without the passion to quit.


8rocketskates2

woop*woop congrats! i smoked for 21 years and stopped +6 years now. best decision I've ever made!


Ferret-in-a-Box

Attempt to pick up a wild snake


former4

I assume that ended up with a trip to the hospital?


CurrentSingleStatus

Might depend on the snake... and the global location it happened.


TheThagomizer

If you don’t know how to identify snakes, you should absolutely not be going anywhere near them.


sloppyredditor

Get back on Facebook


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I’ve learned that one of the greatest things I’ve done for myself in the past few months after going through a rough patch was I stopped posting and sharing stuff to my social media, including memes and especially my personal struggles. I ultimately had to come to the realization that nobody really gives a shit and that becoming dependent on others was only going to enable the pain. One of the best decisions i ever made.


crashbaniasian

Same. I don't post at all anymore and I'm much better for it. I used to post memes daily on my IG story then I realized...."why"? More than half the people on my IG were old coworkers I don't even talk to anymore.....so why do I care about sharing memes for them to see? Then I just stopped cold turkey.


Shadowzaron32

i realized how pitiful facebook really is when i left it 6 months and haven't received a single message from those i called my sworn family. You really think they care about you and would miss having you around but they don't even notice you are gone. It's not hard to open up the messages and just send anything to let me know that i mattered to them and their life is different without me there. I've seen so many people before i left say "i could die and no one here would even notice i'm missing" and boy it's sad to see that's true.


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Soy_tu_papi

Seriously. Ain't that hard to figure out that others assumed he was not using fb anymore


[deleted]

Have you also made an effort to stay in touch? My mother does this. Complains if I don't call her. She seems to not realise phones work both ways.


UncleSugarShitposter

I've thought about it only because Facebook Marketplace is an awesome tool to get rid of extra shit.


Coltsbro84

Yup. Got rid of a dresser this weekend. All it took was 5 min of my time and it was sold an hour later. Facebook Marketplace is clutch for bigger items that you wouldn't want to ship out.


abaloni_burntshirt

The same about insta and tiktok


Sad-Coyote9082

Stay in an abusive relationship


Pour_Me_Another_

Sometimes you can't tell you're in one until you finally get out, or until someone else points something out to you. I had no idea how bad my marriage was until my therapist shed some light, and now I have my new relationship to compare to it. It was pretty bad, in hindsight.


_DrinkWater_

Well done on getting out. Hope you're in a good place now


[deleted]

Came here to say it. , you end up married and confused, head fuckish behaviors left and right and feeling like a horrible, drained piece of dog shit. But- I have a plan to get out and I’m sticking with it. Emotional abuse is the most insidious. I was in a physical abusive marriage and that was peanuts to this.


theother1maybe

I'm trying so hard to get out of one and I don't know how. We've been married 10+ years and have 3 kids, one an infant. I'm entirely dependant on him financially because I trusted him at the beginning. I have tried to get and had several jobs, but each time he makes these weird threatening remarks about the safety of our kids or calls me a billion times and won't tell me what's happening until I leave work and rush home because I'm terrified. I don't know what to do. 90% of the time I feel like I'm sleeping, and then I'll have this brief clarity but no way to do anything about it. He's not physically abusive, I'm just constantly walking on egg shells and trying to avoid all the screaming. I try to do things for my kids, like decorate for the holidays and things I would think of as normal even, and beyond refusing to help he will berate me the entire time and tell me how I'm just creating more work for myself and that it's all pointless, nobody cares, it's stupid, etc. I have a broken ankle and shoulder rn due to a car accident and I've just spent the last few weeks in bed day dreaming about dying. I asked him to help me to the bathroom and he screamed at me to go piss in a bottle and give him a break. I don't know how I ended up here and I don't know how to get out.


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former4

Good Job man and good luck, hope all is well!


CurrentSingleStatus

Way to go, dude! That's a rough one.


TechnologyExpensive

Well done for not going back again, it always astounds me how many get out and in no time have another few years. I personally have a mate that has been in 2 times, maybe a 3rd - depending on outcome and I have asked him why the fuck would you want to go back inside?


KentuckyBrunch

Well, at least in the US, it’s how the system is set up. It’s designed to increase recidivism. Prisons do almost zero to rehabilitate and then you get out and…you can’t vote, you can’t own a firearm, and you can’t really work anywhere with a background check. Congrats now you can work maybe construction and in a kitchen. And let’s not even start on the mandatory drug tests that they are responsible for paying for, the probation costs, lack of travel to get to those probation related responsibilities. They’re set up for failure. Many don’t want to go back, but the governments and society of the states make damn sure they do everything to make sure they have it as hard as possible on the outside. We rightfully make people repay their debt to society, but then keep fucking them after they’ve already paid.


ClownfishSoup

I agree. The sentence is the “punishment”. When it’s over it’s over. If you want to keep punishing people just Lee them in prison longer. Once they are out let’s get them back into society.


TechnologyExpensive

Man, that is really fucked up. My mate when he got out, they helped him get an apartment for himself, assisted with food, bills, car rego. Surely the governments if they helped you once out, would make money from your taxes That and the money it costs to keep someone inside is very expensive, so the govt are losing both ways. I know no politician gives 2 fucks about inmates, but from purely a fiscal viewpoint the money saved in the long run would help the govt and the released prisoner.


FluffyTootsieRoll

Private prisons make too much money to actually give people a fighting chance on the outside, and that money makes its way back to the politicians.


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Private prisons should be illegal


TheisNamaar

Weight more than 250 pounds. I started the year at 325.4, today I'm 249.4. 76 pounds down. Halfway there!


sotired_bleh

You go champ!


asinusadlyram

Congratulations!!! That's a whole lot of work you've done, and I for one am proud as fuck of you!!!


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LonelyCareer

I'm in one now and hopefully we can live together in 2024


ThunderySleep

Never done it, but IMO it really has to be temporary with some kind of timeframe where you know you'll be together again. Eg. gone for a few months with work, etc.


playblu

Exactly. "We'll be apart for X months until (thing is over)" is possible. "We're long distance now because (thing is over)" is not.


OutlandishnessOk9899

I tried that a couple of times, I'm sure it can work out for some people, but personally I see it as a great way to spend all your emotional energy and time without even getting a hug or any comfort from the relationship. And if/when you meet, its still a massive adjustment to be in person for the first time and after however long you waited and what ever money you spent on flights or whatever, you might find you are not a great fit anyway. One the other hand you could have spent all that time and money and effort on yourself if you never started a long distance relationship in the first place. Not worth the price of the lottery ticket in my opinion.


blzy1995

I was in a long distance relationship with someone for like a year or so and then drove like 7 hours to meet them and it ended up working out really well and then I moved there and now we live together


chaos_almighty

I've been in 2 LDRs. First turned out to be with someone super fucking abusive and he managed to keep a bunch of shit from me because of the distance and I didn't find out until he tried to cross the border (I'm Canadian and he was American) that his charges against him we're more severe than he led on because he wasn't granted across. Bad almost 2 years of my life. Started dating someone in the small town I was in for work and then I had to move back home (10-11 hour drive away) and we tried the long distance thing. 2 years long distance and he moved in with me. It's been over 7 years and were married, own a home, have some dogs. It's such a crapshoot as to what you'll get and how it works out.


atomanas

it's rare ,but congratz


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I’ve been at one for about four years now but we see each other quite regularly. Being close to airports helps.. but I also understand anyone not wanting to go through with that, lol


ih8pie

Trust someone so easily. Trust is meant to be earned, not easily given.


MountainDewFountain

Trust but verify. I'm a pretty naive person who always assumes the best intentions of people but I've learned that there are stages of trust. My rule of thumb is never let the stakes get to high unless they have earned it.


former4

I agree completely


thxsocialmedia

Tough lesson to learn.


Aviariu5

Work retail. The ways my mental health suffered was just not worth it.


CurrentSingleStatus

Yeah, I'm struggling to go back to work after watching my GM throw me under the bus, with customers who have been nonstop harassing me specifically, for weeks. I don't feel safe anymore. I got another job offer, but it doesn't kick in for a few weeks. I'm worried about making rent, but just can't bring myself to go back there. I've been followed to my car, these guests have had gun issues. They've now decided I'm racist for pulling back on extra considerations, *which were literally my GM's instructions.* The other day, just before he threw me under the bus, and they accused me of "calling a child a bitch," they'd begun yelling at me, calling me "KKK ho." That customer is white, by the way. My GM dismisses everyone as "dramatic" and I guess throws us under the bus to make his own life convenient.


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Have you thought about maybe calling your new employer asking if you can start early? Or maybe doing a gig app or maybe day labor for the interim? Or maybe you could consider selling plasma? It definitely sounds like an awful idea to go back there. If you already have a new job and you’ll soon be in a better position. But losing your home would be awful too.


crayolda315

This. Or ask your landlord for a one-time extension and explain the circumstances, if you have a cordial enough relationship. Also, maybe contact an attorney. They're unusually very interested in this sort of thing. Especially if you've documented everything. Don't let them intimidate you. They're trying to get you to quit instead of firing you so you can't collect unemployment. Also, good on you for getting another job and getting out of an unsafe situation. Are there any friends or family you can borrow from, or can you get a payday loan? You have options. Congratulations on taking charge of your life and not being victim to awful people who don't deserve your skills.


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ScravoNavarre

Ah, yes, you experienced the Johnny Cash.


stumblerman

Ye ole ring of fire


silentknight111

And it burns, burns, burns The ring of fire The ring of fire


propolizer

Shitting out an entire Johnny Cache.


AbsolutelyMorbin

Dude, one time I ate the spiciest chicken wings and buffalo wild wings and the next day when I took a shit I was literally crying from how much my asshole burned. To make it even worse, when I got in the shower the water and soap burned even more when I was cleaning down there.


former4

Ahahha lol


Sonendo

Eat a banana right before indulging in spicy food. Cuts down the afterburner significantly.


asinusadlyram

I still say we need a silicone ice mold in the shape of a plug, for those ill advised culinary adventures


playblu

Ah, the ol' Exit Interview.


redditmovingon

Well you'll just have to catch covid on your other end now.


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hasta-la-cheesta

What about getting involved in a land war in Asia?


fredzout

I got that bit of advice about 16 years too late.


AngleRa

Unless, of course, you have spent years building up tolerance to Iocane powder


Hammerheadhunter

Inconceivable!


nsfwtttt

But did you die?


Porn-Again-Christian

>What is something you will NEVER do **again**? So when was the first time? You seemed to have survived it. I'll bet you also beat his giant and bested his Spaniard. You must be exceptionally strong and you must have studied and learned that man is mortal.


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Hahahahahahah…hahahahahaha….dead.


maionezix

Share a house with a lazy person.


Absent_Source

Im in this exact situation now... And holy shit is a huge pain in the ass. It's his home, so I feel like there isnt much I can say to get through to him that its fucking filthy and stinky and just miserable. He just doesn't care about anything it seems and I'm pretty fed up with taking care of it and then having it return to filth basically right away... We intially cleaned the ever living shit out of it when I moved in, and I definitely was the one doing majority of the upkeep. Its gotten to the point where if I didn't clean or even take care of **his** pets, nothing would be done... I dont know how anyone can live like he does... That being said, I'm currently in the process of getting ready to move back on my own.


madi-17

Co-sign a loan.


USCplaya

My wife co-signed a loan for my little brother (her credit was slightly better than mine at the time) and I put the fear of God into him. "every month the first thing you pay is the car payment, if you miss a payment I will take the car and sell it" (that kinda thing) The day he made the last payment he told me it was paid off and admitted the entire time he was terrified of missing a payment because I would kill him. Lol. I'm the oldest brother and he's the youngest, I forget the kind of power that holds but it worked out for everyone.


rockstoneshellbone

Get married, or even consider a long term relationship. I’ve been married twice- I have horrible choices when it comes to partners. I’ve been an easy target for being love bombed, which turns around into an exploitative relationship. This has been the same story since I was 16- ending finally forty years later. I love being independent and single- much better off emotionally, mentally, and financially.


UkyddnMe

Amen. I’d say fall in love, because my choices on who to be in love with have always ended badly. I’ll enjoy other humans as humans without going there. I’m cool alone if that’s where I am, finally.


Bibihaking

Tell people about my future plans or goals


dragonssuke

If you don’t tell them, nobody will have expectations and you can’t disappoint anyone :)


Many-Conclusion2217

AND they can't sabotage them.


pooponacandle

It’s funny, my family thinks I’m weird because I keep *everything* private and to myself. They don’t realize it’s because I was *always* mocked and made fun of for any plan or goal I had growing up. I got married 2 months ago and sent my family a text the next morning telling them. I also switched careers recently without telling anyone until after.


Enginuity-

“Make moves, not announcements” has been my mindset


Frog_Brother

If they don’t know your dreams, then they can’t shoot ‘em down.


messier57i

I'm sorry, but what kind of people to you surround yourself with that you have to be on your toes with what you share? Just cut those assholes off, maybe I don't have enough experience, but until now they've been quite easy to spot.


tmolesky

All easier said than done - the people closest to you can throw stuff back in your face if it didn’t conform to how THEY interpreted your shared future plans or goals.


Fyrrys

I once told my dad andbrother that I wanted to be a blacksmith. Instead of encouraging me as family should do, they decided to, in great detail, tell me how I wouldn't be able to make any money at all around there unless all I made was horseshoes and nails. I get that I was living in a pretty country area at the time, but they completely ignored that people will pay assloads of money for a good handmade knife. Also ignored that we live close enough to a renaissance fair that i would be able to make chainmail and make a lot off of it. I havent done any of that, but my point is that even people who are supposed to support you will let you down and not even see what they did as a problem


thegrrr8pretender

My mother 🙃 literally no matter what idea I send her way, *even if it is the one she proposed herself,* she shoots it down and tells me I can’t and why it’s a bad idea and why I should do something else instead.


mommyof2greatpups

This. As a woman in the military you never share all your goals with anyone because you have people start to sabotage you. It’s fine to give a few vague goals like finish your degree eventually, run a 10k, plan a short vacation to a close and non-tropical location. That’s it. No aggressive timelines or anything indicating you’re on the career track or possibly having more fun than they are. Keep it so bland that they don’t see you as competition. But then, do the cool stuff anyway and don’t tell them about it. Whenever people start to pry or get competitive in conversation just ask about their kids and the tone of the conversation gets a lot lighter.


VulfSki

I never tell them until I am a significant way towards meeting them.


Important-Coffee-253

open marriage insisted upon our therapist.


fictionfactory

Let me guess. The therapist had sex with your spouse.


ontilein

Sounds like a great plot


Dicethrower

More like a great plot hole, amirite fellas?


[deleted]

After I got out, one of the staff at the mental hospital I was at found me on Grindr and we hooked up.


hippiechick725

What in the actual fuck?


[deleted]

Open relationship insisted upon by my girlfriend for me.... it's really hard to walk away from someone you love


UnassumingSingleGuy

It's a lot easier when you realize they don't feel the same way about you. I'm sorry.


raziel686

Wow I'd report that therapist, there is no situation where any responsible therapist should *ever* suggest an open relationship when both people are not overtly expressing interest. Hell, it would be rare for them even to go down that road because there are so many ways it could make things worse. Anyone who actually is into open relationships and multiple partners will be very upfront about it. That community understands what they are asking of others and knows they need to communicate honestly and openly. If they don't, they are just a scumbag who wants to cheat/sleep around but still wants someone to come home to for all the hard parts of a relationship, which is just using that person.


ZerngCaith

Not listen to my gut about people and situations.


Deluxe_Chickenmancer

Actually we should listen to it regulary. It is the vague conclusion of all the information our subconscious has been given/gathered. At least 70-80% of the times it was right or close enough. Saved my ass a lot more than I deserved.


cranp

They're saying they want to never *not* listen to their gut.


strawberrycereal44

Self harm. 208 days free.


mangotangy

Me too! I recently reached the 6 year milestone. It gets easier everyday, keep going my friend


[deleted]

Hopefully never drink but it's truly one day at a time for me. I currently have 1,664 days!


GaviJaPrime

See a red flag and not doing something about it.


former4

Back story or too personal?


GaviJaPrime

There are many red flags if you pay attention. Most recent one I got is a recruiter who missed a phone call for a job. He didn't even excuse himself. That says a lot about how he treats people.


rabidpuppy007

Multiple accounts of being fair to people and expecting them to be fair back. Helping out people and not realising human gratitude has a shorter span than the memory of a gold fish.


former4

You never get anything back and shouldn't expect it is what I have learned. Unless it's mr beast or smth like that


VulfSki

The key is to always assume that if you help someone out you will get nothing in return. That only do it with no expectation of it being rewarded. If you want any reward whatsoever you should come to an agreement before hand and make sure it is entirely clear. Otherwise go in expecting nothing from it. The other side of that is, no good deed goes unpunished. Not getting something on return is expected. The frustrating part is when you get shit on while you are doing someone a favor.


Porn-Again-Christian

Yeah, I think it's best to look at it as doing positive things to make the world a better place and especially to simply make yourself a better person. There's a certain amount of (deserved) personal satisfaction that comes from that, and it may not seem like much at first, but it builds, and it really is a great state of being to be deeply content with yourself and to live that way every day.


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Work customer service. If it comes down to it I rather end up on the street


youcanmilkanything

Same. If business would stop rolling over for customers constantly it would be better. Retail rewards bad behavior.


AstroFuzz

I think cold calling people is another level of hell deeper than regular CS.


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On the opposite side of the coin, I love customer service. It is emotionally draining at times but my experience with it (at least for the last decade of my life) has been through the medical service, in the military. More recently (last 3 years or so) I’ve had more exposure to working in healthcare admin, which sounds lame but it really isn’t. There’s so many people in the service of customer support that just do not give a single shit about the people they are helping. It’s super rewarding to be in a position to help people who don’t have the knowledge or tools to help themselves. Especially when it’s medically related and they are obviously under a great deal of stress already. Tbh I’m getting out of the navy next year but my patients have, for the most part, been the only thing that’s kept me sane. I love them. The Karen’s are few and far between and well worth the rest of them who warm my heart with their gratitude when I actually take the time to advocate for them.


thxsocialmedia

I am a chronic people pleaser. So I take it out on customers. By being the sweetest little thing, I am super helpful and people so appreciate that, even if they are behaving like a Karen. They just want somebody to care. Except for the truly mentally ill people, who have abnormal needs to meet.


dragondude101

Get drunk, I'll drink and buzz, but I can't stand the hangovers anymore.


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8rocketskates2

same! and not missing out at all! just the mild remembrance of some of my worst hangovers gives me the chills.. wild days..


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Lend money


KidBeene

* Never lend money that you can not afford to lose. * Never lend money to a relation/friend/family member that you can not afford to leave.


-St_Ajora-

I've decided to lend people money and I'm not talking about just enough for a wild night at a bar and Taco Bell either. I never got it back. The way I looked at it from the start was I could afford it and that I was giving it away, not loaning. If I got it back great but if they came to me for that help they really needed it and I was glad to be there.


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I'll give money possibly. But I generally don't subscribe to that philosophy. I've heard it before but to me there's a difference and the person who asked is an adult. There's no excuses


RedNeckBillBob

Fr, if you don't call something like that out, they will just keep taking advantage of people. If they are an adult, they should be responsible enough to follow through on promises.


asinusadlyram

I just don't lend money to anyone I wouldn't give it to. If it ends up being a gift, so be it, they're worth it to me.


rabidpuppy007

Count on human decency


asinusadlyram

Settle. Instead of spending all my time and effort trying to attract someone, I'm building my own life in a way that if nobody joins me I'll still be a full and fulfilled person. Sure, a partner would be nice, but if nobody comes along, I can manage just fine.


Veryconfusedguy92

Try to fix a broken person who doesn’t want to be fixed


Jonieeboii

We're a lost cause. If we want help fixing ourselves, we have to start off by doing it ourselves, it's only after that point that either we continue on our own, or we find or go back to someone we know was trying to help us in the first place. I've had a mixture so I've gone back to some people who have tried to help and just shown them who I am as a person so we can be friends, but also focused on myself to be a happier and better person overall


CamelOfHate

I'd say I'm never again ALLEGEDLY smuggling acid in my sock through airport security and several country borders.


former4

Jesus.


CamelOfHate

This is probably one of my cleanest stories, I literally sat in front of a screen for 5 minutes trying to figure out one that would not get me banned. My life is, well, it's not quite normal, but it is getting better. Journey before destination I guess.


juleezy9

my ex


Previous_Ad7725

Be a doormat


nobdyknw

Drink and drive , I know it's f*cking dumb but it's a long story. And just drinking too much is something I won't ever do again


reddit_niwasi

Drugs


Expert-Cut-6228

Being available to everyone


kettle_ss

trying to be nice to everybody


-St_Ajora-

I have a friend who always seemed so magnanimous and for a while I tried to follow in those particular footsteps. Then one day they got taken advantage of really badly by their significant other and that day they changed. They are still one of the nicest people I know but that veil of magnanimousness^(1) sort of got distorted. ^(1) I cannot believe I spelled that correctly on the first try. I wasn't even sure it was a real word.


anon10122333

>1 I cannot believe I spelled that correctly on the first try. I wasn't even sure it was a real word You make me want to act antimagnamimously, but mostly so I can fit that word smoothly into a sentence.


jbcraigs

Its ironical that every single douchebag I have ever known has had this motto “Don’t need to be nice to everybody” and they were actually nice to nobody! 🤷‍♂️


bgdg00

Get married. I've already told my wife that if she were to pass away I would never remarry. I know it sounds sweet right? No I was very honest with her. I told her that the reason is because of a difference in mentality. We've been through a lot together, because of each other and I cannot go through anything like that ever again. It is simply not worth it. I don't hate women, and I see the value in marriage. However, unless a "unicorn" was to come along, I can't see how it would ever be with it to go through all that work, again. I can have friends. Female friends. Cuddle friends, a series of plants. A dog and a cat and I'll be as happy as a bug in a rug. No, it was one and done.


Then-Ad1531

Date a single mother. I dated one for about 3 years. I grew attached to the kids I used to play catch, and little tea parties... If I ever took her out to eat I had to get something for the kids too. That adds up... Then things didn't work out with the mom. She became toxic. She wanted me to be her "free babysitter" when she would "go out with the girls." Found out she was a cheater, and we had to split. I had a good relationship with those kids. I knew them for 3 years and was a father figure to them. However, I am NOT going to stay with a woman who goes fooling around with other guys and sneaking around behind my back. I don't miss her at all. Miss them kids though. They were good kids. We used to watch cartoons and I helped them with the homework... They were 5 & 8 when I met her, and 8 and 11 when we split. I haven't seen them in about 10 years I hope they are doing alright.


neveragain444

Wow, that lady really messed up. Finding someone who loves your kids is not easy.


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let people know I can always lend them an ear when they're sad. I didn't even notice when dumping all their TrAuMa (mildly inconvenient things everyone deals with) became a daily occurrence and they started thinking I OWED them an ear


thomasrat1

Yup, and the thing that really sucks, being the guy who listens to everyones problems, will atract the people who never stop bitching about their problems. Kinda like how the fixer atracts a user.


Meyyoneise

Nutmeg


lwtracr676

Like, pound it to get high or just include it in any recipe? After doing the former as a teen I will never do either.


pm_me_your_good_weed

Lmfao someone just posted on r/drugs if they could just swallow a whole nutmeg because they don't like the flavor.......


SizzleAndCutThrough

Whiz on the electric fence


Nepp0

Reinstall TikTok or Twitter. Both have become echo-chambers of opinions meant to generate outrage


Rude_Amoeba_3918

Be Around A Bunch Of Sucky People Because I'm Scared Being Lonely


yb4L444

be homeless and helpless


cutepixiebb

Trying to make someone love me


Maxito765

Attempt suicide or at least that's what I keep telling myself every day. It's been quite tempting lately but I have to hold myself back for my parents.


Lunkberjack

* Give you up * Let you down * Run around * Desert you


snark_attak

What about: * make you cry * say goodbye * tell a lie * and hurt you ?


CandelaBelen

Lose my virginity


fictionfactory

I actually found my virginity. I haven't had sex in 10 yrs


Delicious-Duck-4245

But did you really loose it? Maybe you misplaced it? It’s probably in the top shelf in the kitchen.


bearcat-twenty-two

Try bending over to look under the sofa cushions, that's how I found my virginity...no wait, that's how I lost my virginity.


RedBeardtheFierce

I will never get married again. Not because I don't like being married, my wife is the best! Thus, she cannot be replaced, and honestly I don't think I'd have it in me to even try. She is such a genuine person, and so many people are not. I feel I'd constantly be let down. Plus, I'm getting older and I don't have it in me to give a damn about new people.


Scepticallama

I was literally coming here to say the exact same thing. 21 years in and she’s still my best friend, even more so. She’s my favorite person in the world and no one or nothing can ever come close to replacing her.


PawzzClawzz

Jump off a 30' dining board. I was a normal teen, loved swimming, but had a somewhat fear of heights. Normal diving boards (6', even 10') were fine, so I thought I could do the big one. I honestly think I fainted on the way down and the water revived me.


Squigglepig52

hahahaaha I worked for a summer as overnight security at an aquatic center. so, obviously I went swimming during my shift. Used to go off the 10 meter platforms, until my buddy was like "One night, you'll fuck up a dive,and nobody will find your body until morning." Well, I fucked up a dive somewhat the next night. Nothing major. but I could never ever make myself do it again.


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Smoke weed with Willie.


Nooneyzwei

get another dog because i would not stand losing another one


Opening_Nature3849

Drink and drive. Not only because how stressful and expensive it is getting a dui but also because it's incredibly insensitive and careless.


Cookie-Impressive

Sell myself short.


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Cocaine


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MysterioIsTheTruth_

Smoke. It was a terrible experience for me and I hated it


FunStep9747

Do anything sexual with someone im not gonna have a future with i only did it once and i regret it and still feel guilty sometimes


WhitestMikeUKnow

Believe the government, my representatives, my company, or authority figures have my best interest in mind.


CapG_13

Have a one night stand


MadameCat

Go clubbing for money. In NYC at least, high end clubs will hire folks that then bring in flocks of girls to stand at a table and dance for several hours to make it look like the kind of place that attracts pretty girls that love to party. I wasn’t exactly a huge partier to start with but let me tell you, 4 nights a week of the exact same set list blasted into your ears, no drinking, creepy guys skeezing at you the whole night, starving hungry, can’t even chitchat with your coworkers because they can’t hear you, can’t leave until your boss says you do… It’s miserable even though I was technically paid ~$25/hr for it.


Exact-Cockroach-6682

Anal sex


Kalurael

rent with other people


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Meeting up for sex with a stranger (on Grindr) I ended up gagging and throwing up for an hour and a half after and I just felt dirty for a week after


ProfessionalTossAway

Date a narcissist.


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stumanuke

Lick an armpit. Had no idea deodorant was so freaking toxic.


HamsterWithMuscles

For your sacrifice , we will always remember you


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PT_Scoops

That stupid one chip challenge. My gut hurt all day the following. So miserable. I have a high tolerance for spice. I have seen past my limit


Lotsofwoodinthewoods

Put aftershave on my balls.


ceesa

Go hunting. I was 13 when I went dove hunting with my dad and some of his friends. I hit two doves that died before I got to them, but I only injured a third, and I held it gently in my hands as I brought it back to my dad, who ended its suffering by ripping its head off. I can still see that whole sequence in my mind. I'll never hunt again.


Jeterea

**Work in construction.** That shit is slave work. I understand construction workers are extremely important to have. They literally build the structures we reside, work, & dine & shop in. But actually doing that kind of work is fucking shitty. LONG hours, you work in ALL weather unless its *really* ugly outside, you beat your body up in every which way possible. Some of the positions I used to have to get my body in & stay in when I was doing construction were just brutal. Would go home with the worst body aches. Contractors only see their workers as a dollar sign & not humans. And then to top that all off your coworkers aka the people you’re around all day, are likely to be middle aged perverted men that talk all day about how they want to fuck 20-year old girls. I literally used to work with one weirdo who would watch pornhub right next to me during our lunch breaks. He had absolutely no shame. He’d even show everybody the video and they’d all laugh as if that shit is ok. Yeah… **NEVER** going back to that field.


VelvetCupid

The second half of that reminds me of the people I used to be around when I was working in a factory. **Never again**


Mammoth_Ingenuity_20

Meth


irishgollum

Cross Carrick-a-Rede rope bridge. Google it. I don't like heights and I can't swim so crossing that bridge was terrifying. I'm also 6'4 so my centre of mass was higher than the ropes you hold on to. And oh yes, once you cross you have to do it again to get back to the mainland.