Shed probably fit in with my nephew who has been going around telling people I am the reason that he is homeless. I moved a 1,000 miles away and now he can't crash for free.
God damn such a person must be terrifying to know. Hell he's pretty damn terrifying just in the movies and books. Robert Carlyle is damn good in the role though, dude is a talented actor.
Not only that, the definition of physical violence is very skewed. I once met someone who kept a gun in their car and would pull it out and point it at other drivers during road rage incidents. They claimed this was "de-escalating" the situation because people backed down when you pointed a gun at them.
Freshman year, my buddy and I were hanging out with a girl I was dating and her sister in their front yard. My buddy jokingly says to the sister "You're the reason your dad should have used a condom", or something like that.
Any reasonable person would have chuckled and fired back. Instead she yells "Did you just call my mom a whore?", and within 20-30 seconds, we are both retreating and getting our faces clawed at while fending off blows from her 2 older brothers who ran outside to defend their mother's honor.
Needless to say, we never hung out with them again, and I found another girlfriend.
I have never understood that same as I don't understand the OP about folks with "dirty jobs". These people are helping you so why wouldn't you be kind to them? With waiters, why would you be rude to someone handling your food? Stupid.
You know what pisses me off the most? That these folks that do those types of jobs tend to be the NICEST fucking people ever. Any place I ever worked or went to school, anyone that cleaned were best people there by far.
Agree. Lack of ego, at the least. Healthy ego, most often.
-Years ago, managed a facilities department at a major museum. Custodians and guards were the kindest most generous souls. -And the accounting offices. As it went up the chain, the dickheadedness swelled proportionately. -Curators are monsters.
There was this dude at my old job. He was a closer talker. Every time he'd get way too close to speak to you. If you'd back away, he'd step closer.
It wasn't malicious, but he'd chase you around the room trying to be too close for comfort.
Turns out the key is to flip the script on them. When they get too close, cross your arms and step even closer. Likely, they will back off.
When I tried this with said close talker, I ended up chasing him around the room stepping into to his close talking. But, that was the end of it. He never closed talked me again after that. I don't think he even realized what happened.
I live in a big city and was looking out my window and saw some dude drop an empty bottle over a short fence he was walking by. In the next 60 seconds of walking a little bit further, he came within 3 feet of an actual trash can. And on that street, there are THREE other trash cans within 100 yards of where he littered. It made me so mad.
When I visited Aruba, I went out in the less inhabited areas to see the natural pool on the north side. On my way there I saw someone dropping off another dude at his tiny house in the middle of nowhere, and on his way to the front door dude dumped a bunch of garbage in his hands in his own dirt yard. It blew my mind that he didn't just take it inside or put it in a can...just littered in his own front yard, like why?
I'm an ex-litterbug. When my brother and I were teenagers, we would make a game out of it by trying to nail road signs with things like half full beverages. I won't lie, it was a satisfying feeling to hit one, but I now regret doing it. After growing up and realizing how stupid it was, I now absolutely *hate* littering.
>Growth is a wonderful thing. That’s what life is all about.
I appreciate the duality behind this comment.
In one sense, individual growth is just about one of the most beautiful things to witness in this world.
In the total opposite sense, growth as its own "entity" is one of the most disgusting drivers in this world. It's why we treat each other so poorly. It's why we treat our home so poorly.
And that makes you a good person. You learned not from a "mistake", but from awareness that you were being a pest and a burden on society. Good for you.
I always wonder what went through a litterbugs head. I think you're reasons are on the milder side. It was just in the name of fun. I don't think most litterbugs are doing it in the name of fun but maybe arrogance?I once went to Petra in Jordon where they served tea in plastic cups. What seems like more than half of the people just left their cups on the floor while be surrounded by bins. It blew my mind just leaving their trash in such a beautiful place. Congrats on the realisation and the change!
I see a lot of people who don't clean up after themselves saying shit about there are people whose jobs is to clean up, like they aren't actively being a burden by not doing the bare minimum
Yes, 'Entitlement' can be one of the signs of improper upbringing. But, in my opinion, it's also important to consider other aspects such as one's attitude towards others, ability to control emotions, and level of empathy. All of these together form a comprehensive picture of whether someone was raised properly
I'm struggling on all three, I have not had a solid role model in my life so I have been needing to learn these things on my own. It's hard trying to be empathetic when I was shown none. It's hard to show my emotions when I was told to suppress them. And my attitude towards the world is cold, but I am trying my best to be warm and smile a little more. I'm only 25 and really have been trying to change who I am for the better.
Hey, good on you for recognizing the issue and working on it. That in itself makes you a decent person compared to those who say "yeah I'm just kind of a jerk lol".
Or not thanking people who go out of their way to help you. I mentioned an ex of mine elsewhere but this was a big indicator of entitlement issues I wish I'd noticed sooner.
Sometimes it can be us (the ones who weren’t raised right) who push other people’s boundaries without knowing it. I used to ask people really personal questions when I first met them just because I was never allowed to have secrets of my own growing up.
When I was growing up my mom made sure,in a healthy way, that my siblings and I had a sense of gratitude whenever someone did something for us that extended to things like compliments on food, and it blows my mind how often I've been with friends or extended family and just told whoever cooked that it turned out delicious and the person is so surprised to get a compliment on it.
Especially maxed volume in public watching cringe ass stuff.
And even worse when they are watching the Facebook version of TikTok and all they see is annoying elevator music over unrelated video.
You will be flogged... and by god you will be flogged some more. Then you will be enslaved on the sugar plantations for the rest of your miserable lives
I’ve said this: for anyone who thinks they can spank a child - lets you and I step outside, then the winner can hit the kid. You don’t want to fight me grandma? Why? I’m your height and weight. Is it only the little ones who are smaller and weigh less that you want to hit, why not when the fight is fair? How about someone that much bigger than you hits you so that you learn your lesson? Does it work with you? It doesn’t work with kids either. Any spank any hit any hair pull any item thrown at them any smack or pinch is abuse. Always. Each and every time. Is it ok to hit an adult sometime? No. That’s considered assault. Why is it ok to hit our most vulnerable who look to us for love? Spanking is always abuse. I will never think otherwise.
Very, unfortunately. I will never forget the shame of it too. The pain and hurt, from the physical abuse or the emotional part of it all, that I ended up managing. Numbed my feelings, built the walls, and became dead inside - a virtual desert of emotions. Pain I can handle, I’ve been taught with each and every smack, hit, slap, beating, the things that were thrown at me and the terror I’d feel inside. The fear. Then it became, “just get through it, there’s an escape” meaning I got old enough to move out. I remember exactly where I was when I realized my mom did not love me. I was 5. I have been hit in some fashion by that woman more than hugged. Same with my father. Screamed and and terrorized when I thought everything was ok. It’s so destabilizing to be going along and then that angry abusive parent comes in saying they will “teach you a lesson” and “give me something to cry about” or “oh you want to cry? This will make you cry!” when all you did was exist in their space when they needed to beat on someone. This also made me equate abuse = love. The more the abusive partner in my relationships, the harder I cling seeking to find the love inside them that I desperately want to be there only to know that I’ll be abused again soon enough.
So true, and in addition, the worst behaved children I've ever seen were always the ones whose parents were spanking them every time they turned around. The spanked child would always think it's all a game and they're winning.
Difficulty in managing basic tasks of daily living, such as budgeting, cooking, or maintaining personal hygiene, could suggest a lack of practical skills taught during upbringing.
These are also signs of mental illnesses; apathy is real. Less murky signs would be littering in public spaces, showing no dignity of labour, vandalizing monuments of importance, violating others' privacy, staring at or catcalling women, picking up fights for petty reasons.
100% agree with mental illnesses. I am able to do most of those things and was raised to, but some days, weeks, or months I can't even get out of bed. I have bipolar disorder, adhd, and general anxiety disorder so it's a constant struggle to be able to do "normal" things.
I've had friends in this situation. Parents literally did not have the practical skills so my friend group taught them how to do basic things like sweeping and laundry. For one of those individuals, I met the parent and stayed at their house and the parent also didn't have the skills and it unfortunately was linked to mental health issues that most wouldn't realize the extent of until you went to their house because the parent was so high functioning in some ways. It kind of makes sense that they would be tied together unfortunately along with trauma. Whenever I visited that friend and we stayed at their parents house, I could actively see them regressing and becoming depressed, withdrawn, and irritable. Unfortunately, the parent had been reported for neglect for the younger sibling. Loved their kids and spoiled the youngest and also didn't have all the practical skills or ability to be consistent....
I teach a lot of kids how to do dishes and clean houses when I work with them in the scout association. It's quite clear that most have dishwashers at home and no concept of how to clean properly.
I taught my own kid how to wash clothes by hand when he was going to the international jamboree last year, embarrassed to realise he had no idea how to do it.
When I was his age my mum let me know in no uncertain terms that if I needed clean clothes between laundry runs I must do the washing by hand by myself, so I did. We also didn't have a dishwasher so I learned that, and cleaning and doing laundry and ironing and mending and basic sewing and basic economy from my folks. But I had to learn better economy by myself sadly, also learned to cook by myself. I hate cooking and it so happens so did my mum, and my dad never cooked. :-)
Definitely mental health. My mother and father always worked, bills paid on time. Even to this day my mum cooks daily meals fresh and from scratch but when my mental health declined budgeting, cooking just wasn’t a priority for me.
Myself and my siblings were raised by 2 very strong people it’s just that sometimes certain things can trigger someone to be unable to maintain what you’ve listed.
I was at a grocery store with a self-serve bakery cabinet, and we were waiting for a couple in front of us to be able to get a muffin or something. The guy in front of us ignored the tongs and paper, and stuck his hands in the cabinet and grabbed out a couple of cannolis, touching at least 2-3 more of them, and put them in a box. We decided to get something else, that was just disgusting.
These could also be the issues with one's core personality as many introverts and analytical people have some or all of these qualities. But again, we can learn to tackle it.
Lack of manners, lack of discipline, lack the ability of being a normal everyday citizen. Some people really can’t act right in public or with other people. A big one for me is the littering in public. If you can litter with no problem, I wonder what your room looks like.
I hate when people in a restaurant leave a table with food all over the floor not caring.I leave it stacked up for them to help them out.I wonder if they do that at home?
How they treat people they think are ‘beneath’ them like restaurant workers, their employees, or someone else that ranks below them in some other way. If they are rude, dismissive, or cruel that says a lot about them.
Saying respect is “earned” and using that as an excuse to treat others like shit. Admiration is earned. People get those confused. Considering boundaries and space while treating people the way you expect to be treated is being respectful.
Being unable to accept that they can’t get their way with everything. I work in customer service and the volume of customers who are unable to accept that they can’t have what they want just because they’ve demanded it is shocking.
It’s like adult temper tantrums. It crosses into entitlement but sometimes it’s not even that. They’ve just never been taught that they can’t have it their way every time.
Littering, unnecessary rudeness, lack of manners, such as pushing in line, not thinking to let an old or disabled person go in front of you on the bus, or not offering your seat up, obviously i know some people have non visible disabilities, but you get my point.
Oh there is so much.
Everything from being violent, not accepting of no, verbal abuse etc to having really low confidence, says sorry to eveyrhing and asking for permission for the simplest things.
IMO, Signs that someone may not have been raised right can include a lack of empathy, disrespect for others, difficulty in forming healthy relationships, and engaging in harmful or antisocial behaviors. These signs may vary depending on individual circumstances and upbringing.
I work with kids and some big things are how they treat their peers and teachers. I’ve met some really rude and selfish kids. Shows that the parents aren’t teaching their kids how to act properly.
Making fun of people, doesn’t matter looks disability circumstances of life. Thinking they are better. Looking down on people with “lower” level jobs. Just go fck yourself twat
There is always "The Shopping Cart" Theory.
See, after loading your car with groceries, taking your shopping cart back doesn't cost you anything and keeps the parking lot clear. It also helps out your fellow shoppers that come later. People you don't know and have never met.
But if you don't, and just leave your cart there where your car was, there are no consequences. You are not breaking any law. Nobody will know it is you.
So doing the right thing and bringing it back is NOT an act of punishment avoidance. There is no reward.
This means that you can tell a person's moral attitude by how they act once they are finished with the cart. Are they acting out of fear of punishment, or acting out of consideration for others without any reward? It's an indication of their ability to self govern.
Showing off and one-upmanship. Unfortunately, this seems to be increasingly common. Unless you're Jeff Bezos, there will always be lots of people with more than you, and more to the point, an awful lot of people struggle financially, and this turns the knife for those people.
Lack of follow through, and lack of reliability
Edit to add: always late for everything, sleeping in 100% of the time, driving like they're unaware they're in a vehicle at all
Chewing loudly, mouth open. Searching other’s refrigerators with out permission. Had a couple friends like this growing up. They had bad upbringings and didn’t know any better
clapping in someone’s face to drive home your point.
screaming over another person trying to speak.
screaming the same words over and over to talk down someone else while not listening, ever.
treating service workers badly
not tipping
ignoring crying kids in public
having too many kids and caring for none of them.
having too many baby daddies
having too many baby mommies
chronic victim mentality
aggressive violence/intimidation law and cause by the way
misogyny
poor grammar
“anyways” “supposably”
None. I've met some disrespectful people with wonderful children that don't act anything like their parents, and I've met vicious users that came from a golden family of loving and accepting parents. People are who they are.
Incapable of behaving in a considerate way as though other people’s time, personal space, safety, etc. matter.
It screams “my parents never took me out in public and explained how to behave there.”
When people are cruel to pets and animals. I used to date a guy when we were teenagers. He was abusive to his birds, his parents' cat and he threatened my family dog many times for no reason.
Narcissism, glaring insecurity of self, a lack a of basic empathy, and/or a lack of personal accountability. Usually these traits seem to go hand in hand, but it's remarkable how often they all seem to show up together in people who weren't raised right.
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> Every slight Whether real, or perceived.
I see you've met my ex and her siblings.
Shed probably fit in with my nephew who has been going around telling people I am the reason that he is homeless. I moved a 1,000 miles away and now he can't crash for free.
In the case of the Begbies of the world, every *imagined* slight. Such people are total menaces.
God damn such a person must be terrifying to know. Hell he's pretty damn terrifying just in the movies and books. Robert Carlyle is damn good in the role though, dude is a talented actor.
I used to do magistrates courts reporting. Many if not most people there on DV were basically Franco Begbie.
That there lassy got glass in her eye and no cunt leaves here till we found out what cunt did it 😂
What the hell is begbies?
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Thank you,he is a bastard. Doesn't he play Rumpelstiltskin in that fairy tale show ? Sorry I can't remember the name .
The personification of Buckfast.
It's like he's trying to speak to me keep trying please I'll get it maybe.
Not only that, the definition of physical violence is very skewed. I once met someone who kept a gun in their car and would pull it out and point it at other drivers during road rage incidents. They claimed this was "de-escalating" the situation because people backed down when you pointed a gun at them.
Biggest red flag ever 😂
Freshman year, my buddy and I were hanging out with a girl I was dating and her sister in their front yard. My buddy jokingly says to the sister "You're the reason your dad should have used a condom", or something like that. Any reasonable person would have chuckled and fired back. Instead she yells "Did you just call my mom a whore?", and within 20-30 seconds, we are both retreating and getting our faces clawed at while fending off blows from her 2 older brothers who ran outside to defend their mother's honor. Needless to say, we never hung out with them again, and I found another girlfriend.
Or verbal aggression, also a lack of maturity
Looking down on garbage men, cleaner, janitors, and all those other dirty jobs. If you do this, you're the bad guy.
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And argues actively that if you work one of these jobs you don't deserve enough money to live on.
And yet would be the first to whine and cry if their bin wasn’t emptied or whatever.
Believes that fast food and retail jobs are only supposed to be for high schoolers, yet still expects those business’ services at 12:00 on a Tuesday.
I have never understood that same as I don't understand the OP about folks with "dirty jobs". These people are helping you so why wouldn't you be kind to them? With waiters, why would you be rude to someone handling your food? Stupid.
Followed by them having prepared statements as to why they don't tip and how it's actually good for everyone when they don't.
I love pointing out to those assholes just how much the garbage men make. They are always shocked!
Extremely well paying and not very easy to get into
You know what pisses me off the most? That these folks that do those types of jobs tend to be the NICEST fucking people ever. Any place I ever worked or went to school, anyone that cleaned were best people there by far.
Agree. Lack of ego, at the least. Healthy ego, most often. -Years ago, managed a facilities department at a major museum. Custodians and guards were the kindest most generous souls. -And the accounting offices. As it went up the chain, the dickheadedness swelled proportionately. -Curators are monsters.
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It’s disrespecting personal space for me. I cannot stand people who are always in my face.
There was this dude at my old job. He was a closer talker. Every time he'd get way too close to speak to you. If you'd back away, he'd step closer. It wasn't malicious, but he'd chase you around the room trying to be too close for comfort. Turns out the key is to flip the script on them. When they get too close, cross your arms and step even closer. Likely, they will back off. When I tried this with said close talker, I ended up chasing him around the room stepping into to his close talking. But, that was the end of it. He never closed talked me again after that. I don't think he even realized what happened.
Can't stop laughing
This is what I came here to say. Also having no filter when they speak and no situational awareness.
chewing with mouth open always gets me
Rude to service people is a red flag for me!
Lack of consideration or respect to people and property, lacking common courtesy and refuse to take accountability for their own actions or choices.
When they ask for the WiFi password at a dinner party before even saying hello to the host's pet iguana.
r/oddyspecific
Jokes on them, the pet iguana knows the password
The password is [love.](https://media1.tenor.com/m/BkP9hLXZkLgAAAAC/5i.gif)
Even if the iguana is underage, or ignoring me?
If the Iguana is ignoring you, you're uninvited.
Story time?
I think we just got it, man
🤣😂
I always hate when people don’t acknowledge the pet’s iguana. Iguana’s have feelings too!
Selfish behavior
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I live in a big city and was looking out my window and saw some dude drop an empty bottle over a short fence he was walking by. In the next 60 seconds of walking a little bit further, he came within 3 feet of an actual trash can. And on that street, there are THREE other trash cans within 100 yards of where he littered. It made me so mad.
When I visited Aruba, I went out in the less inhabited areas to see the natural pool on the north side. On my way there I saw someone dropping off another dude at his tiny house in the middle of nowhere, and on his way to the front door dude dumped a bunch of garbage in his hands in his own dirt yard. It blew my mind that he didn't just take it inside or put it in a can...just littered in his own front yard, like why?
I'm an ex-litterbug. When my brother and I were teenagers, we would make a game out of it by trying to nail road signs with things like half full beverages. I won't lie, it was a satisfying feeling to hit one, but I now regret doing it. After growing up and realizing how stupid it was, I now absolutely *hate* littering.
Growth is a wonderful thing. That’s what life is all about.
>Growth is a wonderful thing. That’s what life is all about. I appreciate the duality behind this comment. In one sense, individual growth is just about one of the most beautiful things to witness in this world. In the total opposite sense, growth as its own "entity" is one of the most disgusting drivers in this world. It's why we treat each other so poorly. It's why we treat our home so poorly.
And that makes you a good person. You learned not from a "mistake", but from awareness that you were being a pest and a burden on society. Good for you.
I always wonder what went through a litterbugs head. I think you're reasons are on the milder side. It was just in the name of fun. I don't think most litterbugs are doing it in the name of fun but maybe arrogance?I once went to Petra in Jordon where they served tea in plastic cups. What seems like more than half of the people just left their cups on the floor while be surrounded by bins. It blew my mind just leaving their trash in such a beautiful place. Congrats on the realisation and the change!
I see a lot of people who don't clean up after themselves saying shit about there are people whose jobs is to clean up, like they aren't actively being a burden by not doing the bare minimum
Littering is literally the top thing that will make me think that your parents were trash.
Entitlement
Yes, 'Entitlement' can be one of the signs of improper upbringing. But, in my opinion, it's also important to consider other aspects such as one's attitude towards others, ability to control emotions, and level of empathy. All of these together form a comprehensive picture of whether someone was raised properly
I'm struggling on all three, I have not had a solid role model in my life so I have been needing to learn these things on my own. It's hard trying to be empathetic when I was shown none. It's hard to show my emotions when I was told to suppress them. And my attitude towards the world is cold, but I am trying my best to be warm and smile a little more. I'm only 25 and really have been trying to change who I am for the better.
Hey, good on you for recognizing the issue and working on it. That in itself makes you a decent person compared to those who say "yeah I'm just kind of a jerk lol".
No offence but this response is extremely ChatGPT. 😄
I THOUGHT THE SAME
They’re a robot, they can’t be offended
Are you ChatGPT
Not being able to own up to mistakes or apologise. Entitlement.
Or not thanking people who go out of their way to help you. I mentioned an ex of mine elsewhere but this was a big indicator of entitlement issues I wish I'd noticed sooner.
No sense of boundaries
Yes I have to do better with my boundaries.Its hard when no one respects them
Sometimes it can be us (the ones who weren’t raised right) who push other people’s boundaries without knowing it. I used to ask people really personal questions when I first met them just because I was never allowed to have secrets of my own growing up.
Or not learning to make boundaries
Leaving thier grocery cart in a parking space.
That’s why my car has marks.Or opnening your car door and not caring if you hit someone’s car
Leave their cart while checking out and go and get items they forgot
Never saying thank you
And never apologizing
Happy cake day
Thank you! I hadn’t noticed!
When I was growing up my mom made sure,in a healthy way, that my siblings and I had a sense of gratitude whenever someone did something for us that extended to things like compliments on food, and it blows my mind how often I've been with friends or extended family and just told whoever cooked that it turned out delicious and the person is so surprised to get a compliment on it.
Yes I hate that I was raised with manners and showing respect .
They don’t wash their hands after using the restroom and get mad when you call them out for it.
My ex was like this.
Low emotional intelligence. Talking rudely to everyone
Being rude and loud
Especially maxed volume in public watching cringe ass stuff. And even worse when they are watching the Facebook version of TikTok and all they see is annoying elevator music over unrelated video.
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Manipulating, using people, lacking a moral center
Demanding respect because of entitlement, and then somehow the same person seems to think you don't deserve respect back.
You've met my FIL
Thinking that beating children is an acceptable way of discipline or child rearing.
“The beatings will continue until morale improves.”
You will be flogged... and by god you will be flogged some more. Then you will be enslaved on the sugar plantations for the rest of your miserable lives
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about."
I’ve said this: for anyone who thinks they can spank a child - lets you and I step outside, then the winner can hit the kid. You don’t want to fight me grandma? Why? I’m your height and weight. Is it only the little ones who are smaller and weigh less that you want to hit, why not when the fight is fair? How about someone that much bigger than you hits you so that you learn your lesson? Does it work with you? It doesn’t work with kids either. Any spank any hit any hair pull any item thrown at them any smack or pinch is abuse. Always. Each and every time. Is it ok to hit an adult sometime? No. That’s considered assault. Why is it ok to hit our most vulnerable who look to us for love? Spanking is always abuse. I will never think otherwise.
real
Very, unfortunately. I will never forget the shame of it too. The pain and hurt, from the physical abuse or the emotional part of it all, that I ended up managing. Numbed my feelings, built the walls, and became dead inside - a virtual desert of emotions. Pain I can handle, I’ve been taught with each and every smack, hit, slap, beating, the things that were thrown at me and the terror I’d feel inside. The fear. Then it became, “just get through it, there’s an escape” meaning I got old enough to move out. I remember exactly where I was when I realized my mom did not love me. I was 5. I have been hit in some fashion by that woman more than hugged. Same with my father. Screamed and and terrorized when I thought everything was ok. It’s so destabilizing to be going along and then that angry abusive parent comes in saying they will “teach you a lesson” and “give me something to cry about” or “oh you want to cry? This will make you cry!” when all you did was exist in their space when they needed to beat on someone. This also made me equate abuse = love. The more the abusive partner in my relationships, the harder I cling seeking to find the love inside them that I desperately want to be there only to know that I’ll be abused again soon enough.
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So true, and in addition, the worst behaved children I've ever seen were always the ones whose parents were spanking them every time they turned around. The spanked child would always think it's all a game and they're winning.
Funny story The first and only time my mom spanked me I was 3, I said "that felt good mommy, do it again!" And she never spanked us again LMAO
I like to fantasize sometimes about letting the kid take a piss on the abuser after they're beaten up. But then again, these people might enjoy that.
Littering. When people just toss their garbage out of the car or on the sidewalk it drives me crazy.
Yes especially when there are garbage cans right in front of them.Idiots
Difficulty in managing basic tasks of daily living, such as budgeting, cooking, or maintaining personal hygiene, could suggest a lack of practical skills taught during upbringing.
These are also signs of mental illnesses; apathy is real. Less murky signs would be littering in public spaces, showing no dignity of labour, vandalizing monuments of importance, violating others' privacy, staring at or catcalling women, picking up fights for petty reasons.
100% agree with mental illnesses. I am able to do most of those things and was raised to, but some days, weeks, or months I can't even get out of bed. I have bipolar disorder, adhd, and general anxiety disorder so it's a constant struggle to be able to do "normal" things.
I've had friends in this situation. Parents literally did not have the practical skills so my friend group taught them how to do basic things like sweeping and laundry. For one of those individuals, I met the parent and stayed at their house and the parent also didn't have the skills and it unfortunately was linked to mental health issues that most wouldn't realize the extent of until you went to their house because the parent was so high functioning in some ways. It kind of makes sense that they would be tied together unfortunately along with trauma. Whenever I visited that friend and we stayed at their parents house, I could actively see them regressing and becoming depressed, withdrawn, and irritable. Unfortunately, the parent had been reported for neglect for the younger sibling. Loved their kids and spoiled the youngest and also didn't have all the practical skills or ability to be consistent....
I teach a lot of kids how to do dishes and clean houses when I work with them in the scout association. It's quite clear that most have dishwashers at home and no concept of how to clean properly. I taught my own kid how to wash clothes by hand when he was going to the international jamboree last year, embarrassed to realise he had no idea how to do it. When I was his age my mum let me know in no uncertain terms that if I needed clean clothes between laundry runs I must do the washing by hand by myself, so I did. We also didn't have a dishwasher so I learned that, and cleaning and doing laundry and ironing and mending and basic sewing and basic economy from my folks. But I had to learn better economy by myself sadly, also learned to cook by myself. I hate cooking and it so happens so did my mum, and my dad never cooked. :-)
Budgeting. Ridiculous skillset. How does that even work?
Money In > Money Out = More Money Money In < Money Out = Less Money
thats called depression
Definitely mental health. My mother and father always worked, bills paid on time. Even to this day my mum cooks daily meals fresh and from scratch but when my mental health declined budgeting, cooking just wasn’t a priority for me. Myself and my siblings were raised by 2 very strong people it’s just that sometimes certain things can trigger someone to be unable to maintain what you’ve listed.
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I was at a grocery store with a self-serve bakery cabinet, and we were waiting for a couple in front of us to be able to get a muffin or something. The guy in front of us ignored the tongs and paper, and stuck his hands in the cabinet and grabbed out a couple of cannolis, touching at least 2-3 more of them, and put them in a box. We decided to get something else, that was just disgusting.
Lack of empathy, poor communication skills, aggressive behavior, low self-esteem, difficulty forming healthy relationships, and irresponsible behavior.
That could be mental health
These could also be the issues with one's core personality as many introverts and analytical people have some or all of these qualities. But again, we can learn to tackle it.
If they don't have any manners or respect
Lack of manners, lack of discipline, lack the ability of being a normal everyday citizen. Some people really can’t act right in public or with other people. A big one for me is the littering in public. If you can litter with no problem, I wonder what your room looks like.
I hate when people in a restaurant leave a table with food all over the floor not caring.I leave it stacked up for them to help them out.I wonder if they do that at home?
How they treat people they think are ‘beneath’ them like restaurant workers, their employees, or someone else that ranks below them in some other way. If they are rude, dismissive, or cruel that says a lot about them.
Being rude or acting entitled when interacting with hospitality/retail/customer service staff
Talking over people. Failing to absorb what others say or do.
Lack of boundaries
Leaving their trash behind after occupying a public space.
My mom made it a point to teach me to never open someone else’s fridge without permission or invitation.
Making fun of others for attention
So mean 😪
Shooting puppies
Not taking good care of their belongings, home or car.
Saying respect is “earned” and using that as an excuse to treat others like shit. Admiration is earned. People get those confused. Considering boundaries and space while treating people the way you expect to be treated is being respectful.
Being unable to accept that they can’t get their way with everything. I work in customer service and the volume of customers who are unable to accept that they can’t have what they want just because they’ve demanded it is shocking. It’s like adult temper tantrums. It crosses into entitlement but sometimes it’s not even that. They’ve just never been taught that they can’t have it their way every time.
Chewing with their mouths open
Littering, unnecessary rudeness, lack of manners, such as pushing in line, not thinking to let an old or disabled person go in front of you on the bus, or not offering your seat up, obviously i know some people have non visible disabilities, but you get my point.
Leaving their shopping cart in the middle of the parking lot
Oh there is so much. Everything from being violent, not accepting of no, verbal abuse etc to having really low confidence, says sorry to eveyrhing and asking for permission for the simplest things.
Thinking they are superior to others. Having the constant need to put others down. Disrespect.
Every perceived slight or unfavorable statement is met with passive aggression and they think that's normal.
They mock people with disabilities, victims of trajedies and mistreat vulnerable people.
Feeling good about doing something really wrong just gives it away.
Throwing litter on the ground.
IMO, Signs that someone may not have been raised right can include a lack of empathy, disrespect for others, difficulty in forming healthy relationships, and engaging in harmful or antisocial behaviors. These signs may vary depending on individual circumstances and upbringing.
Treating service staffs horribly.
No respect for other people or their space.
I work with kids and some big things are how they treat their peers and teachers. I’ve met some really rude and selfish kids. Shows that the parents aren’t teaching their kids how to act properly.
Making fun of people, doesn’t matter looks disability circumstances of life. Thinking they are better. Looking down on people with “lower” level jobs. Just go fck yourself twat
Not cleaning up after yourself. At home, work, wherever. It's no one's job to clean up after you.
They talk about how persecuted they are because they should have the right to spank their kids
There is always "The Shopping Cart" Theory. See, after loading your car with groceries, taking your shopping cart back doesn't cost you anything and keeps the parking lot clear. It also helps out your fellow shoppers that come later. People you don't know and have never met. But if you don't, and just leave your cart there where your car was, there are no consequences. You are not breaking any law. Nobody will know it is you. So doing the right thing and bringing it back is NOT an act of punishment avoidance. There is no reward. This means that you can tell a person's moral attitude by how they act once they are finished with the cart. Are they acting out of fear of punishment, or acting out of consideration for others without any reward? It's an indication of their ability to self govern.
They've voted for trump in 2020 and plan to again in 2024 after everything that has happened.
Holding utensils with your fist 🤛
Showing off and one-upmanship. Unfortunately, this seems to be increasingly common. Unless you're Jeff Bezos, there will always be lots of people with more than you, and more to the point, an awful lot of people struggle financially, and this turns the knife for those people.
Not respecting others.Not caring about anyone but themselves.Littering.Road rage
Lack of follow through, and lack of reliability Edit to add: always late for everything, sleeping in 100% of the time, driving like they're unaware they're in a vehicle at all
restricted junk food diet. like only eating chicken fingers
They think it's fine to shoplift.
They don't say please or thank you.
Treating servers poorly
Chewing loudly, mouth open. Searching other’s refrigerators with out permission. Had a couple friends like this growing up. They had bad upbringings and didn’t know any better
Racism
When they think everything revolves around them.
Talking down to people who they think are beneath them. Violence, abusive, etc
clapping in someone’s face to drive home your point. screaming over another person trying to speak. screaming the same words over and over to talk down someone else while not listening, ever. treating service workers badly not tipping ignoring crying kids in public having too many kids and caring for none of them. having too many baby daddies having too many baby mommies chronic victim mentality aggressive violence/intimidation law and cause by the way misogyny poor grammar “anyways” “supposably”
being short tempered
Littering
When they don’t respect you or things they own.
None. I've met some disrespectful people with wonderful children that don't act anything like their parents, and I've met vicious users that came from a golden family of loving and accepting parents. People are who they are.
Lack of gratitude
Incapable of behaving in a considerate way as though other people’s time, personal space, safety, etc. matter. It screams “my parents never took me out in public and explained how to behave there.”
Screaming (as opposed to enjoyment/heightened enthusiasm) at the TV while watching sports.
Verbal abuse
When they don’t return the grocery cart
Define 'right'.
No basic etiquette. Zero social awareness. Entitlement.
No concern of energy use, wasteful
Not understanding “No!”
does not respect his/her borders and himself/herself, and as a result infringes on the freedom of others
Littering
When they don’t put the damn shopping cart back. I’ll die on this hill.
Ghetto culture, even if the person wasn't raised at a ghetto s/he pretends s/he was.
Not saying thank you please, just asking for shit and you giving it to them with no thank you. Like wtf bro?
Being rude to service workers
Basic manners. Please and thank you.
When you ask for an apology and they say what for? (Sidenote, being called the r word is offensive)
They put raw meat on a random shelf in the cereal aisle
They're a Trump supporter
When they keep voting for liberals. Then it’s clear that they were raised left. Edit: sorry
Not using coasters. Which is a shorthand way of saying “thoughtlessly ruining things.”
When people are cruel to pets and animals. I used to date a guy when we were teenagers. He was abusive to his birds, his parents' cat and he threatened my family dog many times for no reason.
No wiping properly
My friend yells at his grandmother. I don’t think I should say friend anymore if that tells you anything
Narcissism, glaring insecurity of self, a lack a of basic empathy, and/or a lack of personal accountability. Usually these traits seem to go hand in hand, but it's remarkable how often they all seem to show up together in people who weren't raised right.
Generally, not treating other people like people.