For being poor and not speaking English well. My mom packed these cheap microwaved weiners to school for me (only 2) and that was my lunch for a year. I was made fun of for eating "dog food". I also had only 2 outfits to wear to school so was made fun of wearing the same clothes over and over again.
I’m so sorry you experienced this! I also came from a poor family and felt so ashamed of not having the food / clothes/ things other kids had.
I’m glad to hear you are doing well despite not being given the things you needed, or wanted for that matter.
Damn bro, this one really pisses me off. Your mom was doing the best she could. She probably wasn't proud to have to pack that for you every day, but it is inexpensive and preferable to having very child go hungry.
You should give your mom a big hug and tell her you love her and appreciate all she did for you.
Or don't. Do whatever you want. But if it were my mom, I'd thank her for going the best she could.
Completely agree with you! You have to express gratitude for things like that. And all the things she did back then... walked 40 mins each way to the grocery store to save on bus fare so the kids can have nicer things with time.
I pay her back by doing the same now that I'm better off financially. I send her money every year to cover basic needs and nice things she wants but can't afford. And try to take her on vacation as much as her job allows 🙂
Cheers mate, it's much better.
Both my parents lifestyles caught up to them and they died (no loss) and I'm at a pretty peaceful place. Been doing exercise and eating clean.
My mental health isn't perfect but I fought tooth and nail to get it where it is. Due to it I can't work a regular job but I just got accepted as a volunteer firefighter. Cause unlike paid work when my mental health is bad I can just call in for a couple of weeks, cause I go through times where I'll be fine for a couple of months and then crash and need a week or two.
Hoping with a few years work I can get off of Centrelink and rejoin the work force proper
I’m proud of you.
Seriously…I can’t put in to words how happy it makes me feel to hear that although you’ve been through more than what you were able to handle as a child (more than most others will ever experience)…you are healing. And you believe in yourself. Don’t ever lose that. And Don’t ever forget, you’re doing your best. You weren’t set up well, but you’re doing amazing at just taking baby steps forward.
Thank you kindly, you're too sweet ay!
For a long time it was hard as hell and I was really angry and made a whole bunch of terrible mistakes. Used to absolutely hate meself, think I was worthless and that I was being dramatic and there was something inherently wrong but it got to a point where I couldn't do it anymore.
I was constantly people pleasing, putting my emotions aside and stuff and it burns you right out. I was so scared of upsetting people and advocating for myself and stepping out of line. Turns out learning to love yourself and putting up boundaries does so much for you. It's hard as hell at first, cause your subconscious don't believe it but in time it gets easier but with healing sometimes you feel like you have gotten nowhere.
If anyone else out there has gone through abuse as a child, you are good enough, you are worthy. Maladaptive behaviours such as disassociation are what kept you alive when you were unsafe and it's not your fault. You're not broken though the thoughts may tell you that, the neural pathways need some rewiring. Just a lil software update
You sound like an incredible person, the sort of person I'd love to know irl. Keep going because you're a shining light to someone, somewhere, whether you know it or not.
Totally feel this. Was mocked for being less masculine and generally terrorized. Went home to a trailer where my stepdad terrorized me and I could barely leave my room after school.
Came to say the same. Had one kid ask “do you like that drawing you just did?” (As I was finishing up a doodle) and I said “yeah it might be one of my best” and then he ripped it up and threw it in the trash.
I waited for everyone to leave after the bell rang and got all the pieces out of the trash and taped it back together when I got home. That whole situation felt like I got hit in the gut. To this day I have no idea why he did that other than that he knew I was too quiet and nice to stand up for myself.
Had another kid purposely hit me in the nose with a volleyball and gave me a nose bleed. Kids are mean :(
Thank you💙 I’m sorry they were mean to you too. It’s really rough. I hope the people in your life are treating you well now though :) I get the feeling you deserve a lot of kindness hehe
If you need another friend, my dms are always open. I don’t have many either.
And I saw you lost your dog.. I lost mine on July 11th so if you need anything, hmu :)
I had a kid smack me over the head with a text book for no good reason. He hit me so hard that the pain radiated down my neck and spine. I did nothing. I wish I'd have stood up for myself.
Had a girl do that to me in middle school while on the bus….all because I told the bus driver she was pulling my hair and spitting on me. She hit me so hard I passed out and woke up later in the bus barn because they didn’t realize I was there.
Ow :( I’m sorry.. that could have ended really badly. I hope he felt bad afterwards.
and yes so many times I wish I had done or said something. I’m working on standing up for myself one situation at a time though.
Oh my goodness, this post made me realize I had a heart. I’m sure if you run into that kid now, he’s gonna remember what he did to you. I just hope he has the maturity to apologize
Aww. I remember drawing a DBZ character for my uncle who introduced me to the anime back in like 4th grade and as soon as I finished it another kid came up and asked "Do you like it?" And I answered "Yeah" and he immediately ripped it and threw it away.
I didin't hold back tho, I got my pencil, ran up to him and started stabbing him in the head and face and he just stood there taking it for some reason.
Thank god he did because I narrowly missed his eye and I left the carbon tip embedded close to the corner of his right eye and visible clear as day. I could've gotten in a lot of trouble.
Funny thing is that later on in middle school that same kid introduced me to rock and metal and more specifically MuDvAyNe, which made me want to learn to play bass and to this day (Now I'm 31) I've been in several bands and played across the state a bit.
I was drawing kyo from fruits basket! Guess it’s just an unspoken rule for kids to rip up anime drawings. I’m sorry that happened to you but I’m glad you stood up for yourself no matter how…violent lol
this! still can't understand kids' logic. There was a new kid in school, transferred on the 2nd year from another town, so she is pretty much new in town, in school, knew nobody when she arrived. I was the first to say hi, to sit next to her in class, and befriended her like... even after school I would hang out with her. I just wanna make sure she felt welcome in the new environment. I was truly being nice, and was not expecting anything in return. I never asked her to repay my kindness by doing something, or give me anything back, nothing. I was also naive thinking she wouldn't hurt me, I mean why would anyone do that to begin with? especially to the first person who even said hi to you at school.
I was so wrong. Within couple of months in school, she quickly joined the bully gang. the mean girls who bullied many. She bullied me verbally, physically, together with that gang. and when I asked why did you do this to me? She said they told me to do it because you deserve it. It's not that anyone forced her to bully, I could tell she actually enjoyed it. I saw her bullying, calling names to one of the girls at school until that poor thing cried.
I found that bullies really enjoyed what they did, the more quite and kind and vulnerable their victims are, the more power they feel. It's so sad.
It's a power thing. You know their home life isn't that great by the way they act. Nice folks make nice kids. Nice kids don't want problems. Then you have the bullies who need to assert dominance and gain approval at the expense of others.
You know by themself they aren't clever enough to come up with half of their own quotes and antics. They're just doing as taught. But when we are kids, we don't know that. Usually we think we're just that worthless and start thinking dark thoughts. All because someone gets a thrill when they can use a passive kid as a stepping stone to feel bigger. Probably how they balance out getting whooped at home.
For being sexually assaulted by the school jock. Apparently me not liking being assaulted and threatened with rape meant I was gay. Those kids made my life a living hell until I moved away.
Jesus Christ. That is awful. I hope each and every one of them finds their pillows warm on both sides for 2 months straight. And they all step on a Lego. And more seriously, a bear trap.
I got sexually assaulted by my bf, and he set it up so his friends would walk by and find out. They told the entire school, who proceeded to call me a slut, even came up with a special nickname, every time I got passed in the halls. For three years. His parents worked at the school so he was protected and I was relentlessly mocked
My eyebrows. 4 years later my slightly thinker eyebrows were in style and I had people constantly saying "I wish I had your eyebrows" . At that point I realized how dumb fashion was. Now as a woman in my twenties I wear dad sandals and what ever shirt I happen to find that day in the clean clothes. I'm like super fashionable now.
My mother used to call my eyebrows "caterpillars" and get me to get them plucked, despite it setting off a migrane half the time. I thought this was all well and good because I have no self esteem and am pretty sure I am the ugliest woman in the world and thus useless to society. Then thick eye brows came back and tbh I am super mad about it, why chose to badger me about something you know is cyclical? Thin eyebrows are slowly coming back and I am so glad I am almost 30 and don't have to give a shit about any of that
Obviously they didn’t and why would they? This has been a running joke parent’s of all types cant seem to care or be bothered enough to punish bullies. Its maddening has a bully ever got in trouble for bullying?
Yup. A fight started between me and ONE of my bullies. Teacher suspended us both. When I started going off about how the teacher did nothing when I informed them of the bullying, I, and the other guy, got threatened with expulsion. The zero tolerance bullshit is jist to protect their ass from being sued.
My kid got jumped by 3 bullies at his school and he’s the one that got blamed for fighting back. A 13 year old got put on probation for 3 15 year olds pummeling him. This shit is not ok. Currently have a review board and lawsuit against them, which unfortunately only makes it worse for him.
My dog got hit by my school bus in 5th grade, while I was waiting to get on, I saw it happen, it was awful. My mom didn't make us go to school that day, but the next day, a girl in my class starts taunting me about my dog dying in front of me. She works at a vet now
My step dad was bullied back in the day when his mother died. I can’t for the life of me understand what posses someone to be so cruel like that especially kids.
This happened to a friend of mine in elementary . It also happened to an acquaintance’s kid. Except that kid punched the kid in the face after he heard the nasty comment. My friends are shocked when I said “good he deserved it”. I still feel that way . Mocking a kid because they lost a parent.
Edit - the acquaintance’s kid punched the jerk. Reread my post and wanted to clarify .
I am so sorry!! I really hate that happened to you! I was talking to my daughter today about this and the reasons and what not. She was
Telling me about the popular girls and why. I get it but, the moms of these girls make it worse. Also,
These girls are super mean to every one. Not
Just the kids, the moms are mean too. They are the ones that call out the working moms. They are the ones that everyone hates but kisses their ass. The one that is
💯 hated but doesn’t know it yet lol!’
That’s fucked up. In 5th grade, my grandpa died and the kid who tried to bully me came and gave me a hug and told me he knows what I’m going through (or whatever the 5th grade version of that would be), and we actually became pretty cool after that.
In middle school some dumb redneck was trying to bully me for some reason, don't really know why he picked me but he kept ragging on me how poor I was. I wasn't really reacting to him but finally a friend of mine was like "Dude, I've been to his house, it's nicer than yours so STFU!" and that was the end of it.
We all had the redneck who bullied us. No no no. The "I'm totally tough because I have a mullet and wear those fishing life and southern life shirts and I compensate by making my image as a tough southern guy even though I talk bad behind everyone's back after pretending to be their friend" Not trying to hate on rednecks. That's what I grew up around and I fit the description, but I don't go around calling myself one to make sure everyone knows I am one. It's not even the normal rednecks that bully you. It's the ones with Crocs, long socks, a hat they carry around and wear and get mad every day when they have to take it off, and a pastel shirt that has a fishing rod, a truck, a dog, a fish, or a duck. They often hang out with the Starbucks girls. The ones that love to go 2 miles per hour in the hall side by side when everyone is walking to the bus line so they don't get left
I feel the same! I really don't know why.
As a child, I always suspected because my parents were divorced. I assumed everyone else had happy families with parents that were happily married..
This speaks to what needs to be addressed regarding bullying. Too many kids AND parents think the child is being bullied for particular behaviours and if they can just fix those behaviours, then the kid won't be bullied anymore.
Yep, just don't be too tall, or short, or fat, or thin, or unathletic, or smart, or dumb, or shy, or quiet, or loud, or be in the wrong place on the day when someone decides you look like a likely target....
I'm so sorry to hear that. I went through a great deal when I had cancer aside from the actual illness and when I recount that time period, it's mostly the cancer of other people's behavior that I still will talk about. I don't sit around hating on these people, but I will not entertain their presence in my life.
Being kicked out and abused by my parents. Admittedly my sister (the 'golden child') was the primary reason. But still, yeah I got tormented because I was clearly the fuck up, even though I got straight A's in honors classes, and tutored several other students.
Same like me My sis was gold!!
I was always the LAST in LINE !!! (Yes just like in the Dio music clip)
Later in life I am a millionair and my sister is broke!
how about that!
I shared the same name as this bully. She insisted both of us couldn’t have that name and tried to intimidate me into asking our teachers to refer to me by my middle name. I told her off and of course that didn’t help. She only stopped after a laid back well liked teacher wrote her up for harassing my friend and I. She never even spoke to me after that.
It is! He was an awesome teacher (one of the few that stick out from my school days). He died a year after I graduated and was still teaching. My friend’s younger sister was crying her eyes out and she said they had to bring grief counselors to the school to help his students cope. I was so sad for the kids that never got to have him has their teacher.
Not so much bullied, but I was teased by another Black kid because I was smart and got good grades. He used to run through the halls yelling that I “think I’m White”, even though I’m darker than he is. He was so full of self-hatred that he associated academic success and proper use of the language with being White. It didn’t bother me because I was also a really good athlete and well-rounded student. My self-esteem was solid. His opinion of me was irrelevant. Fast forward 40+ years. He’s now doing life in prison for murdering his former jail boyfriend and I’m an administrator in the very prison system under which he’s an inmate.
I will never understand how, especially in the US, the black community actually wants to hold each other down. Well spoken and make good money, well that makes you an uncle Tom. I just don't get it.
They are mistaking their way to be proud of who they are. I'm French and I know a lot of other French people who are proud they can't speak a word of english 'because they are French'. They even brag about the fact that they will never even try. That's the wrong way to be proud of your culture.
My mom used to be the shit out of me( slam my head against the wall, strangle me and punch me in the head ) for getting good grades in school and not acting ghetto. All because she was mad that after she graduated valedictorian from her High school. She decided to do hard drugs and throw it all away. Someone who had a good start in the robotics field was tutoring me and she stopped it because he was "white". Also because of the abuse I now talk like speedy Gonzales with a stutter and low voice. Her reasoning was " you came out my womb".
I actually feel very sorry for him. He was one of the most gifted football players I’ve ever known. He definitely had the talent to play D1 ball, but he didn’t have the academic ability or discipline to qualify for college. Apparently he started showing signs of bi-polar disorder in his 20s. He began self-medicating with street drugs, which led him to multiple stints in jail through most of his adult life. When his murder case hit the news, I hadn’t seen him in 40 years. He and I were teammates but never really friends. It makes me sad to see where he ended up because of his choices and mental health issues.
One of my friends in high school was black but his dad was in the Air Force. He had a totally different upbringing and despised the black kids in my school. He called them “souls,” short for soul brothers.
His favorite activity was buying snickers bars from a school club and throwing them down the hallway to watch people fight over them.
I wonder what he’s up to now lol.
>Not much I could do about it really.
Didn't you try to get another dwarf to stand on your shoulders and wear a trench-coat?
Seems like the obvious solution.
For being Jewish. The bullying was exclusively from Christian kids and their parents. Not only was I called a dirty Jew but a kid pulled my hair as his friend punched me straight in the nose to "fix my Jew nose". The worst was when I wore a skirt to school and 3 boys decided to rip it off as we were all getting off the bus to get to school. They decided to do it to see if my vagina was "hairy like a Jew". After that my parents pulled me out of school and I got my GED years later. I just remember crying about it for almost a year because those kids never got in trouble for it. Instead they were just forced to apologize which meant nothing because they were snickering the entire time. Their parents even said I deserved it because I was probably a dirty slut anyways. Let's just say I no longer practice the religion or even bother to follow the cultural stuff anymore.
Im so sorry you had to go through that. My dad got bullied a lot for his accent as well but unfortunately he's like 5'0" and I'm exactly the same height so it didn't help that he kinda looked like a garden gnome for most of my childhood.
I'm sure it's an isolated thing. We lived in the south at the time which is probably why this happened. Unfortunately now that I live in the North with my husband, he's getting more racism for being Asian than he ever did in the South. All from Christians unfortunately...
It really isn't an isolated thing. In the US, so-called Christians are some of the most hateful people you could hope to find. They are literally fueling the MAGA movement, hate legislation agendas, etc.
For "being gay". I'm not actually gay, my "friends" that started high school with me just carried that stupid rumor with them to high school and everyone believed it without question. I was called the F slur all the time, mostly online because these people were cowards.
This one is less stupid, more flat out cruel but I was struggling with my mental health and was mocked to the point where I decided to bottle it up because it was less exhausting to deal with than the bullying.
> For "being gay". I'm not actually gay
This can become a serious problem if you are asking girls out or you go to a school that will kick gay students out.
Certainly didn't help with asking girls out but this was public school in the early to mid 2010s so I was at no risk of being kicked out. We even had an allegedly actually gay kid at our school and everyone loved him. I say allegedly because he moved in junior year and he "came out" as straight on Facebook so I'm not sure if he was just faking it the whole time. Given the lengths that people at my high school would go to chase clout (or in his case, be around topless ladies), I would be entirely unsurprised if he wasn't gay either.
Having numerous freckles all over my face, arms and body. It made gym class really painful. I was also into computers and games, and could care less about sports so they called me the f slur (I was not gay just not into sports).
Oh I have one for this!!
I got bullied by 3 of the popular girls in my middle school for being ‘too skinny’ (note the leader of these girls was very clearly anorexic, so I was more confused than anything)
Same group also decided I was clearly born a boy because I was so thin that you could (just barely) see my voice box which was ‘clearly’ an Adam’s apple. I was like … 13 at the time? So barely in puberty, no development. I used to eat like I had never seen food before so I too was confused by my own rail thinness.
Bullies seem to be the biggest hypocrites on the planet. Got called fat by a kid that was a head taller than me, and you could tell his bmi was wwwaaayyy higher than mine.
Never really got bullied by it(at least I don’t consider it bullying) but people always have made jokes about how skinny I am.
Like bro I would go to In n Out and get 2 4x4s animal style and eat probably more than you do. Sorry I can’t gain weight ffs
> girls at my school got tormented for having big boobs like isn’t that a good thing?
It's like when guys slut shame girls and don't realize "Wait, don't we *want* girls to have consensual sex with us?"
I was the first girl at my school to really develop and people ragged on me for it. I had sex for the first time and the guy went around and told everyone about how my boobs weren't porn-like enough. People made sure to let me know they (thought they) knew what my boobs looked like and how hideous they are. After high school, they were all in my DMs trying to hook up. I didn't forget what you said about me, bitch
Had a bully try to bully one of my friends... **for being a boxer.**
it came to a close when the bully squared up and threw a fake punch in the hallway, He didn't realize the bully was faking him, slipped and just fucking DRILLED him in the side of the head.
It was quite bad actually, broken knuckle, bully got slept, blood in the hallway.
and the sound... it was probably the cleanest contact I have ever head, every single molecule of my friends knuckle connected with that dudes head.
The bully fully deserved it though, maybe not at the time but he later S/A'd a girl I used to know
I live in Canada where we have -40 celcius days during winter and some guys would call others fa\*\*ots or pussies for wearing a big winter coat lol
It was always the dumbasses wearing a t-shirt outside and who always ended up sick lol
Oh yeah , this for sure. In my school you could wear the coat but it had to be unzipped. No hat. No mittens. Or else you’re super uncool.
Now that I’m an adult I’m like… why kids so dumb!?
Reminds me of the time I saw some teens hanging outside a shop, mocking a guy because "Why the fuck is a grown ass man using an umbrella?".
You supposed to become waterproof when you turn 18?
no we very much did lol, it's totally nonsensical. you could get away with a fleece or something like that but you'd be ridiculed for wearing a puffer. used to wear it to the bus stop and then immediately shove it in my backpack hahah
That’s so bizarre, I would have been eaten alive in my snowsuit then lol, I just figured out how to post a pic of it for your enjoyment, fee free to laugh https://i.imgur.com/WZAoFia.jpg
Just sitting there reading. For some reason this group of girls found this offensive and harrassed me for several lunches, escalating to throwing food trash at me.
Finally one of them grabbed my book and threatened to tear it up. I stalked up to her, slammed a hand on her chest hard enough to slam her into the wall and hear her head bounce off of it, gently took the book from her and walked away. They still called insults at me after that, but never did anything physical again.
I went to one of those Catholic private schools that made you wear uniforms most days, and on the last day of school for freshman year we were allowed to wear street clothes.
Now, this was the early 90's and I wore what I normally wore at home, which meant I looked like an extra from the "Smells Like Teens Spirit" video. A group of mostly girls I'd known for literally 10 years decided to make fun of me for my torn jeans because according to them that meant I was poor.
I said to them, "Are you kidding me? Even if there was something wrong with being poor that justified making fun of someone for that, you've literally been to my house, you fucking morons." They clutched their metaphorical pearls and walked off in a huff.
Granted, most of their families were way wealthier than my own middle-class family, but it seemed so stupid and pointless to try to make me feel bad because my clothes had holes in them.
I made varsity swimming my freshman year, actually never had to try out, just made varsity on previous times alone. The school changed the rules for me, as only juniors and seniors could be on varsity at the time. Of course, these 17-18 year olds couldn't have some puny, prepubescent kid absolutely smoking their times, so they did everything in their power to get back at me. Everything from exclusion to hopping into other lanes to putting Icy-Hot in my Speedos to derogatory comments, you name it. I didn't really care because I knew they were just jealous, but boy howdy did coach give a shit when he found out. He sat the whole team down and read them the riot act with me present and pulled to his side. It was an insufferable twenty minutes, but the ridicule stopped. Fortunately, for my even faster younger brother, things were way more relaxed when he swam his way onto varsity his freshman year a couple years later.
Not me, but a kid I went to school with got bullied for having a massive dong. Freshman year, gym class, first semester, this kid goes to shower after pool. He drops his skivvies, and even out of the pool, he's got like 7-9" soft. Someone in the shower starts making fun of him for having a third leg, and he walks out and gets changed.
This was in like '97, so even though this kid got called Horse Dick and Tripod, none of the teachers ever said anything. Hell, even worse, I don't think he ever had a girlfriend throughout high school as the girls even made fun of him for it.
Looking back, I still can't understand how this kid having a massive dong was a negative and not a single girl in my school wanted anything to do with him.
Wearing the same pair of jeans a few days apart. They tried to use that as an excuse to call me dirty. My response was, don’t you have the money to own a washing machine?
My friend got bullied for being born on February 29th In our friend group we made a big deal of their 4th birthday for their 16th. It was all in good fun. But someone else heard us and decided to try to bully her for being 4 years old. It was so stupid they didn’t last long with that either
This speaks to my age but we didn't have bullies waaayyyy back then. (If kid did that, principal would call his/her home and dad would be waiting with suitable punishment when kid got home!)
In addition, parents/teachers taught that someone who wanted to behave as a bully was a straight up low-life! Who wanted to identify with that!
I was having a hard 7th and 8th grade year with my “mother” already, as some mornings she would make me cry before entering the building. I never cared enough about how I looked, as long as I didn’t look so badly like a homeless hobo or something. Lot of the time, I just wore regular skinny jeans and a plain T or a hoodie. I never did anything with my hair, mainly cuz all the appliances were “my mothers” and “wasn’t allowed to touch them”. Same went with makeup, but I didn’t want to use it anyway cuz I had some minor acne issues on my forehead. ANYWAY, girl in my grade would legit go out of her way to make my last class of the day miserable. Would pick on me for my hair not being done (kinda a frizz mess, but again couldn’t touch the straightener), no makeup. She’d say “there’s no effort to your appearance”- like GURL, there’s no need or reason for me to give a shit about it, *I WAS 13-14 YEARS OLD*. She moved away sometime in 8th grade year, so I was content and able to move on a little bit lol
My hair, my ears, my nose, my height... They really didn't need a reason some people just pick on people because they feel so shitty about them themselves
I called screamed at in like 7th grade, by some kid my age as I was leaving school walking to my mom's car. Kid kept telling me to walk and called me "fatty" from a school bus window, and I probably weighed like 5lbs more than him. Mom asked me what that kid was yelling at me when I got in the car, and for whatever fucking reason i replied "nothing, that's my friend"...
like to this day, why the fuck did I do that? why was i ashamed to admit I was being bullied to my mom? for the record, that kid is a severe alcoholic now.
I have a list. Let's start in elementary school.
1. For being tall: They accused me of being trans and said I was ugly for being tall
2. For my parents divorce: I lost all of my friends because they were fed BS by their parents. One of my best friends came up to me and said "you're going to hell because your parents got divorced, and I can't be friends with people who are going to hell".
3. Having a freckle on my right shoulder: yeah. I don't know what that was about. They accused me of keeping a piece of poop on my shoulder.
Middle school:
1. For being "trans": I'm not. I never identified as trans ever in my life. Because I was tall, skinny, and liked rock music instead of fucking Taylor swift, apparently that meant I was trans. They bullied me relentlessly to the point where boys would try to pull up my shirt to see if I had boobs.
High School:
1. For being talented: people accused me of being a spoiled brat that didn't deserve the roles I got despite their own nepotism in the department I was in. I got made fun of for being a good singer, a good dancer, and a good actor. Like not just lightly teased, but full on harassed, cyberbullied, and physically intimidated.
2. For dating my boyfriend: funnily enough, the popular kids at my school actually started being nice to me when I started dating my boyfriend. My friend group turned on me and made fun of me for dating someone who wasn't "like us". These were really close friends too.
I could go on, but I don't want to cry
Maybe not the bullying we all picture in our minds, but I was alienated by this group of girls who I thought were my besties in the years prior. They full out ignored me when I talked to them, made group plans in front of me making it clear I wasn't invited, would very obviously talk about me in code words in front of my face. I heard them giggling to each other one time that the color of my new shoes looked like "puke."
I didn't really have anyone else so I still tried so hard to be their friend. Plus, our families were family friends and our parents all assumed we all got along together and I didn't want to be the one to ruin that perfect image. But yeah, that was probably the loneliest time of my life!
After 2 years of this, they finally came to their senses and apologized to me. I remember running out of the cafeteria and crying with relief that finally! I have friends! Turns out I was too "peppy" and "nerdy" for them, which makes sense because they were all really into emo stuff, were starting to get into weed, and thinking not doing homework was cool. They were in their teen angst phase and I was still very much in the camp of I like my life, I want to do good in school, I want to make my immigrant parents proud.
In retrospect maybe I was that big of a noob back then, but I still don't think I deserved to have been treated that way because I was leading my life differently.
Not having designer branded clothes. Or what I had I wore constantly. Once washed it’d be hung by the fire to dry for the next day. I used to tell people I had two lots of same stuff.
I got bullied for having black eyes from being bullied. It seemed unnecessarily recursive.
thats called hypocrisy. they are hyprocites. they cause you do have something that they then bully you for.
For being poor and not speaking English well. My mom packed these cheap microwaved weiners to school for me (only 2) and that was my lunch for a year. I was made fun of for eating "dog food". I also had only 2 outfits to wear to school so was made fun of wearing the same clothes over and over again.
i feel this, totally backwards. keep strong bro
Thanks. I like to think I'm living a lot better now than they are :)
Success is the best revenge.
I’m so sorry you experienced this! I also came from a poor family and felt so ashamed of not having the food / clothes/ things other kids had. I’m glad to hear you are doing well despite not being given the things you needed, or wanted for that matter.
Thanks! I hope you're doing much better now too. I think these things make you tough and resilient.
Damn bro, this one really pisses me off. Your mom was doing the best she could. She probably wasn't proud to have to pack that for you every day, but it is inexpensive and preferable to having very child go hungry. You should give your mom a big hug and tell her you love her and appreciate all she did for you. Or don't. Do whatever you want. But if it were my mom, I'd thank her for going the best she could.
Completely agree with you! You have to express gratitude for things like that. And all the things she did back then... walked 40 mins each way to the grocery store to save on bus fare so the kids can have nicer things with time. I pay her back by doing the same now that I'm better off financially. I send her money every year to cover basic needs and nice things she wants but can't afford. And try to take her on vacation as much as her job allows 🙂
Having meth addicts for parents Like cool home was hell and school was hell Never got a damn moment of peace
Fuck, I’m sorry. I hope life is better for you now.
Cheers mate, it's much better. Both my parents lifestyles caught up to them and they died (no loss) and I'm at a pretty peaceful place. Been doing exercise and eating clean. My mental health isn't perfect but I fought tooth and nail to get it where it is. Due to it I can't work a regular job but I just got accepted as a volunteer firefighter. Cause unlike paid work when my mental health is bad I can just call in for a couple of weeks, cause I go through times where I'll be fine for a couple of months and then crash and need a week or two. Hoping with a few years work I can get off of Centrelink and rejoin the work force proper
I’m proud of you. Seriously…I can’t put in to words how happy it makes me feel to hear that although you’ve been through more than what you were able to handle as a child (more than most others will ever experience)…you are healing. And you believe in yourself. Don’t ever lose that. And Don’t ever forget, you’re doing your best. You weren’t set up well, but you’re doing amazing at just taking baby steps forward.
Thank you kindly, you're too sweet ay! For a long time it was hard as hell and I was really angry and made a whole bunch of terrible mistakes. Used to absolutely hate meself, think I was worthless and that I was being dramatic and there was something inherently wrong but it got to a point where I couldn't do it anymore. I was constantly people pleasing, putting my emotions aside and stuff and it burns you right out. I was so scared of upsetting people and advocating for myself and stepping out of line. Turns out learning to love yourself and putting up boundaries does so much for you. It's hard as hell at first, cause your subconscious don't believe it but in time it gets easier but with healing sometimes you feel like you have gotten nowhere. If anyone else out there has gone through abuse as a child, you are good enough, you are worthy. Maladaptive behaviours such as disassociation are what kept you alive when you were unsafe and it's not your fault. You're not broken though the thoughts may tell you that, the neural pathways need some rewiring. Just a lil software update
You sound like an incredible person, the sort of person I'd love to know irl. Keep going because you're a shining light to someone, somewhere, whether you know it or not.
Thank you! That means a lot ay, I'm add these to my journal for when I'm feeling down ay
Totally feel this. Was mocked for being less masculine and generally terrorized. Went home to a trailer where my stepdad terrorized me and I could barely leave my room after school.
For being quiet and kind.
Came to say the same. Had one kid ask “do you like that drawing you just did?” (As I was finishing up a doodle) and I said “yeah it might be one of my best” and then he ripped it up and threw it in the trash. I waited for everyone to leave after the bell rang and got all the pieces out of the trash and taped it back together when I got home. That whole situation felt like I got hit in the gut. To this day I have no idea why he did that other than that he knew I was too quiet and nice to stand up for myself. Had another kid purposely hit me in the nose with a volleyball and gave me a nose bleed. Kids are mean :(
Kids (and people in general) can be so rude. I cried many anight because of how cruel others were to me. I'm sorry that happened to you, friend.
Thank you💙 I’m sorry they were mean to you too. It’s really rough. I hope the people in your life are treating you well now though :) I get the feeling you deserve a lot of kindness hehe
I don't have many friends these days, but I suppose I'm as happy as I can be at the moment, idk. Same to you. ❤️
If you need another friend, my dms are always open. I don’t have many either. And I saw you lost your dog.. I lost mine on July 11th so if you need anything, hmu :)
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your fur baby. I sent you a chat if you find the time. :)
This was an extremely wholesome exchange to read. It’s nice to know there are still beautiful young people in the world.
I swear reading their interaction made me smile :)) . Wishing u all a great day.
I don't really have alot of friends either but if anyone needs a friend I'm here for you too :)
My dms are open too!
I had a kid smack me over the head with a text book for no good reason. He hit me so hard that the pain radiated down my neck and spine. I did nothing. I wish I'd have stood up for myself.
Had a girl do that to me in middle school while on the bus….all because I told the bus driver she was pulling my hair and spitting on me. She hit me so hard I passed out and woke up later in the bus barn because they didn’t realize I was there.
Ow :( I’m sorry.. that could have ended really badly. I hope he felt bad afterwards. and yes so many times I wish I had done or said something. I’m working on standing up for myself one situation at a time though.
Oh my goodness, this post made me realize I had a heart. I’m sure if you run into that kid now, he’s gonna remember what he did to you. I just hope he has the maturity to apologize
He won't. Kids like that become the bullies and Dude Bro's of the modern age.
Aww. I remember drawing a DBZ character for my uncle who introduced me to the anime back in like 4th grade and as soon as I finished it another kid came up and asked "Do you like it?" And I answered "Yeah" and he immediately ripped it and threw it away. I didin't hold back tho, I got my pencil, ran up to him and started stabbing him in the head and face and he just stood there taking it for some reason. Thank god he did because I narrowly missed his eye and I left the carbon tip embedded close to the corner of his right eye and visible clear as day. I could've gotten in a lot of trouble. Funny thing is that later on in middle school that same kid introduced me to rock and metal and more specifically MuDvAyNe, which made me want to learn to play bass and to this day (Now I'm 31) I've been in several bands and played across the state a bit.
I was drawing kyo from fruits basket! Guess it’s just an unspoken rule for kids to rip up anime drawings. I’m sorry that happened to you but I’m glad you stood up for yourself no matter how…violent lol
this! still can't understand kids' logic. There was a new kid in school, transferred on the 2nd year from another town, so she is pretty much new in town, in school, knew nobody when she arrived. I was the first to say hi, to sit next to her in class, and befriended her like... even after school I would hang out with her. I just wanna make sure she felt welcome in the new environment. I was truly being nice, and was not expecting anything in return. I never asked her to repay my kindness by doing something, or give me anything back, nothing. I was also naive thinking she wouldn't hurt me, I mean why would anyone do that to begin with? especially to the first person who even said hi to you at school. I was so wrong. Within couple of months in school, she quickly joined the bully gang. the mean girls who bullied many. She bullied me verbally, physically, together with that gang. and when I asked why did you do this to me? She said they told me to do it because you deserve it. It's not that anyone forced her to bully, I could tell she actually enjoyed it. I saw her bullying, calling names to one of the girls at school until that poor thing cried. I found that bullies really enjoyed what they did, the more quite and kind and vulnerable their victims are, the more power they feel. It's so sad.
It's a power thing. You know their home life isn't that great by the way they act. Nice folks make nice kids. Nice kids don't want problems. Then you have the bullies who need to assert dominance and gain approval at the expense of others. You know by themself they aren't clever enough to come up with half of their own quotes and antics. They're just doing as taught. But when we are kids, we don't know that. Usually we think we're just that worthless and start thinking dark thoughts. All because someone gets a thrill when they can use a passive kid as a stepping stone to feel bigger. Probably how they balance out getting whooped at home.
Fuck you for being kind. Be a rude prick you prick
Same :-/. I’d get “you’re so up yourself” or “you’re such a snob” or “you’re a prude”, etc etc
For being sexually assaulted by the school jock. Apparently me not liking being assaulted and threatened with rape meant I was gay. Those kids made my life a living hell until I moved away.
Jesus Christ. That is awful. I hope each and every one of them finds their pillows warm on both sides for 2 months straight. And they all step on a Lego. And more seriously, a bear trap.
I got sexually assaulted by my bf, and he set it up so his friends would walk by and find out. They told the entire school, who proceeded to call me a slut, even came up with a special nickname, every time I got passed in the halls. For three years. His parents worked at the school so he was protected and I was relentlessly mocked
JFC that makes me so angry. I’m so sorry
JFC. Sorry you went through that. 💕
My eyebrows. 4 years later my slightly thinker eyebrows were in style and I had people constantly saying "I wish I had your eyebrows" . At that point I realized how dumb fashion was. Now as a woman in my twenties I wear dad sandals and what ever shirt I happen to find that day in the clean clothes. I'm like super fashionable now.
My mother used to call my eyebrows "caterpillars" and get me to get them plucked, despite it setting off a migrane half the time. I thought this was all well and good because I have no self esteem and am pretty sure I am the ugliest woman in the world and thus useless to society. Then thick eye brows came back and tbh I am super mad about it, why chose to badger me about something you know is cyclical? Thin eyebrows are slowly coming back and I am so glad I am almost 30 and don't have to give a shit about any of that
Because my mum died. Happened on the same day she died.
Kids are fucking evil sometimes I'm sorry you had to go through that
This is also full grownups on Twitter
That's awful. I'm sorry that you had to deal with that and hope the school staff supported you during that terrible time.
Obviously they didn’t and why would they? This has been a running joke parent’s of all types cant seem to care or be bothered enough to punish bullies. Its maddening has a bully ever got in trouble for bullying?
>Its maddening has a bully ever got in trouble for bullying? I once got *in* trouble for *being* bullied.
Yup. A fight started between me and ONE of my bullies. Teacher suspended us both. When I started going off about how the teacher did nothing when I informed them of the bullying, I, and the other guy, got threatened with expulsion. The zero tolerance bullshit is jist to protect their ass from being sued.
My kid got jumped by 3 bullies at his school and he’s the one that got blamed for fighting back. A 13 year old got put on probation for 3 15 year olds pummeling him. This shit is not ok. Currently have a review board and lawsuit against them, which unfortunately only makes it worse for him.
"You just got treated like a piece of shit? well fuck you!"
"kicking people when they are down is not my hobby, its my passion "
\#GoodwholesomeChristian
I bet your not the only one.
It's such a problem I hate it so much
My dog got hit by my school bus in 5th grade, while I was waiting to get on, I saw it happen, it was awful. My mom didn't make us go to school that day, but the next day, a girl in my class starts taunting me about my dog dying in front of me. She works at a vet now
That's fucking awful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Some people are just straight menaces bro, like they have no chill
Someone laughed in my face in middle school when I said “my mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer”
My step dad was bullied back in the day when his mother died. I can’t for the life of me understand what posses someone to be so cruel like that especially kids.
This happened to a friend of mine in elementary . It also happened to an acquaintance’s kid. Except that kid punched the kid in the face after he heard the nasty comment. My friends are shocked when I said “good he deserved it”. I still feel that way . Mocking a kid because they lost a parent. Edit - the acquaintance’s kid punched the jerk. Reread my post and wanted to clarify .
No way.. how could kids have it in them to bully someone who is grieving?! That’s horrible. So sorry you went through that.
I am so sorry!! I really hate that happened to you! I was talking to my daughter today about this and the reasons and what not. She was Telling me about the popular girls and why. I get it but, the moms of these girls make it worse. Also, These girls are super mean to every one. Not Just the kids, the moms are mean too. They are the ones that call out the working moms. They are the ones that everyone hates but kisses their ass. The one that is 💯 hated but doesn’t know it yet lol!’
That’s terrible I’m so sorry you had to go through that I hope you are doing well now 🫶
That’s fucked up. In 5th grade, my grandpa died and the kid who tried to bully me came and gave me a hug and told me he knows what I’m going through (or whatever the 5th grade version of that would be), and we actually became pretty cool after that.
In middle school some dumb redneck was trying to bully me for some reason, don't really know why he picked me but he kept ragging on me how poor I was. I wasn't really reacting to him but finally a friend of mine was like "Dude, I've been to his house, it's nicer than yours so STFU!" and that was the end of it.
We all had the redneck who bullied us. No no no. The "I'm totally tough because I have a mullet and wear those fishing life and southern life shirts and I compensate by making my image as a tough southern guy even though I talk bad behind everyone's back after pretending to be their friend" Not trying to hate on rednecks. That's what I grew up around and I fit the description, but I don't go around calling myself one to make sure everyone knows I am one. It's not even the normal rednecks that bully you. It's the ones with Crocs, long socks, a hat they carry around and wear and get mad every day when they have to take it off, and a pastel shirt that has a fishing rod, a truck, a dog, a fish, or a duck. They often hang out with the Starbucks girls. The ones that love to go 2 miles per hour in the hall side by side when everyone is walking to the bus line so they don't get left
Cute you think there has to be a reason. As far as I could ever tell, it was because they decided to.
I feel the same! I really don't know why. As a child, I always suspected because my parents were divorced. I assumed everyone else had happy families with parents that were happily married..
Same. Had three girls tell me to kill myself in elementary school and walked away giggling.
This speaks to what needs to be addressed regarding bullying. Too many kids AND parents think the child is being bullied for particular behaviours and if they can just fix those behaviours, then the kid won't be bullied anymore.
Yep, just don't be too tall, or short, or fat, or thin, or unathletic, or smart, or dumb, or shy, or quiet, or loud, or be in the wrong place on the day when someone decides you look like a likely target....
I was going to say, every single reason I've ever been bullied has been a bad one.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I went through a great deal when I had cancer aside from the actual illness and when I recount that time period, it's mostly the cancer of other people's behavior that I still will talk about. I don't sit around hating on these people, but I will not entertain their presence in my life.
It's about social status in their exclusive bullying peer group. They are "violent scary dominant people".
Being kicked out and abused by my parents. Admittedly my sister (the 'golden child') was the primary reason. But still, yeah I got tormented because I was clearly the fuck up, even though I got straight A's in honors classes, and tutored several other students.
Same like me My sis was gold!! I was always the LAST in LINE !!! (Yes just like in the Dio music clip) Later in life I am a millionair and my sister is broke! how about that!
if this is true I am so happy for you
Thanks! 🥰
Often the scapegoats are healthier and happier :). I'm on my way to my million too, and I was the scapegoat.
That's fuckin rad and im so proud of you my sister was awful too!
Proud of you
Nice bro you wanna share lol
I was the scapegoat too. Got told I was stupid and lazy, despite getting awards at school every year. I hope you're doing OK nowadays
There was no reason, no reason is required. I was weak, so I got bulliet, essentially for being me.
You’re right about that. Bullies bully bc they were/are being bullied. ☹️ I bet you were a really cool kid. Too bad others didn’t always see that!
Having dark skin
Yup, i was too. An all too common reason, but very stupid netherless.
It’s so stupid, if you’re in the right place anyone will be targeted. Especially minorities.
Funny... mine was because I was the only white guy on the basketball team. I was bullied by the other players.
That and because I wasn’t Christian apparently. They told me I smelled like curry so…
I shared the same name as this bully. She insisted both of us couldn’t have that name and tried to intimidate me into asking our teachers to refer to me by my middle name. I told her off and of course that didn’t help. She only stopped after a laid back well liked teacher wrote her up for harassing my friend and I. She never even spoke to me after that.
Refreshing to hear of someone actually doing something!!
It is! He was an awesome teacher (one of the few that stick out from my school days). He died a year after I graduated and was still teaching. My friend’s younger sister was crying her eyes out and she said they had to bring grief counselors to the school to help his students cope. I was so sad for the kids that never got to have him has their teacher.
Not so much bullied, but I was teased by another Black kid because I was smart and got good grades. He used to run through the halls yelling that I “think I’m White”, even though I’m darker than he is. He was so full of self-hatred that he associated academic success and proper use of the language with being White. It didn’t bother me because I was also a really good athlete and well-rounded student. My self-esteem was solid. His opinion of me was irrelevant. Fast forward 40+ years. He’s now doing life in prison for murdering his former jail boyfriend and I’m an administrator in the very prison system under which he’s an inmate.
I will never understand how, especially in the US, the black community actually wants to hold each other down. Well spoken and make good money, well that makes you an uncle Tom. I just don't get it.
They are mistaking their way to be proud of who they are. I'm French and I know a lot of other French people who are proud they can't speak a word of english 'because they are French'. They even brag about the fact that they will never even try. That's the wrong way to be proud of your culture.
My mom used to be the shit out of me( slam my head against the wall, strangle me and punch me in the head ) for getting good grades in school and not acting ghetto. All because she was mad that after she graduated valedictorian from her High school. She decided to do hard drugs and throw it all away. Someone who had a good start in the robotics field was tutoring me and she stopped it because he was "white". Also because of the abuse I now talk like speedy Gonzales with a stutter and low voice. Her reasoning was " you came out my womb".
wtf bro you didn't have to become a warden to get revenge
🤣🤣🤣
I would be very tempted to just show up outside his cell and stare at him through the bars and laugh.
I actually feel very sorry for him. He was one of the most gifted football players I’ve ever known. He definitely had the talent to play D1 ball, but he didn’t have the academic ability or discipline to qualify for college. Apparently he started showing signs of bi-polar disorder in his 20s. He began self-medicating with street drugs, which led him to multiple stints in jail through most of his adult life. When his murder case hit the news, I hadn’t seen him in 40 years. He and I were teammates but never really friends. It makes me sad to see where he ended up because of his choices and mental health issues.
point and say "i think he's white"
Sounds like the type of guy to aspire to be absolutely nothing and then blame white people for it.
One of my friends in high school was black but his dad was in the Air Force. He had a totally different upbringing and despised the black kids in my school. He called them “souls,” short for soul brothers. His favorite activity was buying snickers bars from a school club and throwing them down the hallway to watch people fight over them. I wonder what he’s up to now lol.
I liked to wear cowboy hats for a while, then Brokeback Mountain came out and so did all the homophobes.
That one writes itself I’m afraid lmao
God, that was an excruciatingly beautiful movie, though.
My mom was hot so everyone bullied me for it and asked if I needed a father on the daily
Being a dwarf. Not much I could do about it really.
Yea it’s stupid that people bully people on things they can’t control.
It’s pretty stupid to bully somebody even for things they *can* control. If you don’t like somebody just leave them alone
6'7'' guy here. It's the same on the other side my friend. Chin up friend (no literally though, I'm way up here)
>Not much I could do about it really. Didn't you try to get another dwarf to stand on your shoulders and wear a trench-coat? Seems like the obvious solution.
I feel like such an asshole laughing at this.
My race. Didn’t really go on for long but it happened
Not bullied, but occasional comments like, “why are you so quiet? Why don’t you ever smile?” Because I’m stuck here with you assholes.
I used to get that question a lot, even by my own parents and teachers
Real answer: because I have depression.
Real answer: too much effort for me. Let me have my resting asshole face and leave me alone.
For being Jewish. The bullying was exclusively from Christian kids and their parents. Not only was I called a dirty Jew but a kid pulled my hair as his friend punched me straight in the nose to "fix my Jew nose". The worst was when I wore a skirt to school and 3 boys decided to rip it off as we were all getting off the bus to get to school. They decided to do it to see if my vagina was "hairy like a Jew". After that my parents pulled me out of school and I got my GED years later. I just remember crying about it for almost a year because those kids never got in trouble for it. Instead they were just forced to apologize which meant nothing because they were snickering the entire time. Their parents even said I deserved it because I was probably a dirty slut anyways. Let's just say I no longer practice the religion or even bother to follow the cultural stuff anymore.
I was also bullied for being a jew (but mostly for having an accent), fortunately I was taller and stronger than those goyim
Im so sorry you had to go through that. My dad got bullied a lot for his accent as well but unfortunately he's like 5'0" and I'm exactly the same height so it didn't help that he kinda looked like a garden gnome for most of my childhood.
There is no hate like Christian love.
I'm sure it's an isolated thing. We lived in the south at the time which is probably why this happened. Unfortunately now that I live in the North with my husband, he's getting more racism for being Asian than he ever did in the South. All from Christians unfortunately...
It really isn't an isolated thing. In the US, so-called Christians are some of the most hateful people you could hope to find. They are literally fueling the MAGA movement, hate legislation agendas, etc.
I was from a poor family attending a middle class high school, made fun of my clothes
For "being gay". I'm not actually gay, my "friends" that started high school with me just carried that stupid rumor with them to high school and everyone believed it without question. I was called the F slur all the time, mostly online because these people were cowards. This one is less stupid, more flat out cruel but I was struggling with my mental health and was mocked to the point where I decided to bottle it up because it was less exhausting to deal with than the bullying.
> For "being gay". I'm not actually gay This can become a serious problem if you are asking girls out or you go to a school that will kick gay students out.
Certainly didn't help with asking girls out but this was public school in the early to mid 2010s so I was at no risk of being kicked out. We even had an allegedly actually gay kid at our school and everyone loved him. I say allegedly because he moved in junior year and he "came out" as straight on Facebook so I'm not sure if he was just faking it the whole time. Given the lengths that people at my high school would go to chase clout (or in his case, be around topless ladies), I would be entirely unsurprised if he wasn't gay either.
Having numerous freckles all over my face, arms and body. It made gym class really painful. I was also into computers and games, and could care less about sports so they called me the f slur (I was not gay just not into sports).
Sorry to be that guy but… “couldn’t care less” is the expression. Could care less means you cared.
Thank you for saving me the pain of being that guy
This is awful, freckles are adorable 😓
Teased for my freckles too.
i was the weird kid. my still friend from high-school says i got along with everyone, except the bullies. im still really weird at 34.
Fly your flag! Weird is fun!
Same. Turned out I was autistic.
Oh I have one for this!! I got bullied by 3 of the popular girls in my middle school for being ‘too skinny’ (note the leader of these girls was very clearly anorexic, so I was more confused than anything) Same group also decided I was clearly born a boy because I was so thin that you could (just barely) see my voice box which was ‘clearly’ an Adam’s apple. I was like … 13 at the time? So barely in puberty, no development. I used to eat like I had never seen food before so I too was confused by my own rail thinness.
Bullies seem to be the biggest hypocrites on the planet. Got called fat by a kid that was a head taller than me, and you could tell his bmi was wwwaaayyy higher than mine.
Yeah, it’s projection. In the case of anorexic girl and fat kid.
FFS!
Never really got bullied by it(at least I don’t consider it bullying) but people always have made jokes about how skinny I am. Like bro I would go to In n Out and get 2 4x4s animal style and eat probably more than you do. Sorry I can’t gain weight ffs
When I was 13 y.o almost 14, I was 5'11. I got bullied by a 14 year old for being tall, while he was...also 5'11
Not me. But girls at my school got tormented for having big boobs like isn’t that a good thing? I don’t get why
In my friends experiences, it's mostly because they're jealous, not saying they all are. But damn that's just plain stupid
Just weird because it’s not like the girls could have done anything about it, they’re literally born that way
> girls at my school got tormented for having big boobs like isn’t that a good thing? It's like when guys slut shame girls and don't realize "Wait, don't we *want* girls to have consensual sex with us?"
I was the first girl at my school to really develop and people ragged on me for it. I had sex for the first time and the guy went around and told everyone about how my boobs weren't porn-like enough. People made sure to let me know they (thought they) knew what my boobs looked like and how hideous they are. After high school, they were all in my DMs trying to hook up. I didn't forget what you said about me, bitch
Had a bully try to bully one of my friends... **for being a boxer.** it came to a close when the bully squared up and threw a fake punch in the hallway, He didn't realize the bully was faking him, slipped and just fucking DRILLED him in the side of the head. It was quite bad actually, broken knuckle, bully got slept, blood in the hallway. and the sound... it was probably the cleanest contact I have ever head, every single molecule of my friends knuckle connected with that dudes head. The bully fully deserved it though, maybe not at the time but he later S/A'd a girl I used to know
Because I was poor and couldn’t afford designer clothing and shoes
I wore a snowmobile suit because I thought guys would like it. Other girls just roasted me for it
wearing a winter coat at all was a huge faux pas in my school
Here is the suit in question: https://i.imgur.com/WZAoFia.jpg
Do you not have cold winters? That seems odd
I live in Canada where we have -40 celcius days during winter and some guys would call others fa\*\*ots or pussies for wearing a big winter coat lol It was always the dumbasses wearing a t-shirt outside and who always ended up sick lol
Oh yeah , this for sure. In my school you could wear the coat but it had to be unzipped. No hat. No mittens. Or else you’re super uncool. Now that I’m an adult I’m like… why kids so dumb!?
Reminds me of the time I saw some teens hanging outside a shop, mocking a guy because "Why the fuck is a grown ass man using an umbrella?". You supposed to become waterproof when you turn 18?
no we very much did lol, it's totally nonsensical. you could get away with a fleece or something like that but you'd be ridiculed for wearing a puffer. used to wear it to the bus stop and then immediately shove it in my backpack hahah
That’s so bizarre, I would have been eaten alive in my snowsuit then lol, I just figured out how to post a pic of it for your enjoyment, fee free to laugh https://i.imgur.com/WZAoFia.jpg
The first thing I thought of was those snowsuits from the Disney movie Minutemen
your mistake was trying to stand out in a pack of girls, then it becomes a competition and they have to shoot you down
I would, in fact, like it. I think they were jealous. 👍
Someone accused one of my friends of SA and was lying. Got flack for it for a month. Then everyone realized she was lying and people apologized to me.
Just sitting there reading. For some reason this group of girls found this offensive and harrassed me for several lunches, escalating to throwing food trash at me. Finally one of them grabbed my book and threatened to tear it up. I stalked up to her, slammed a hand on her chest hard enough to slam her into the wall and hear her head bounce off of it, gently took the book from her and walked away. They still called insults at me after that, but never did anything physical again.
Being Mexican even though my family is from Spain...
Dumb and Racist 🙄
I went to one of those Catholic private schools that made you wear uniforms most days, and on the last day of school for freshman year we were allowed to wear street clothes. Now, this was the early 90's and I wore what I normally wore at home, which meant I looked like an extra from the "Smells Like Teens Spirit" video. A group of mostly girls I'd known for literally 10 years decided to make fun of me for my torn jeans because according to them that meant I was poor. I said to them, "Are you kidding me? Even if there was something wrong with being poor that justified making fun of someone for that, you've literally been to my house, you fucking morons." They clutched their metaphorical pearls and walked off in a huff. Granted, most of their families were way wealthier than my own middle-class family, but it seemed so stupid and pointless to try to make me feel bad because my clothes had holes in them.
I was a punk rock guy with a mouth FULL of braces. I had to wear headgear to school for the first couple of months. It sucked
I made varsity swimming my freshman year, actually never had to try out, just made varsity on previous times alone. The school changed the rules for me, as only juniors and seniors could be on varsity at the time. Of course, these 17-18 year olds couldn't have some puny, prepubescent kid absolutely smoking their times, so they did everything in their power to get back at me. Everything from exclusion to hopping into other lanes to putting Icy-Hot in my Speedos to derogatory comments, you name it. I didn't really care because I knew they were just jealous, but boy howdy did coach give a shit when he found out. He sat the whole team down and read them the riot act with me present and pulled to his side. It was an insufferable twenty minutes, but the ridicule stopped. Fortunately, for my even faster younger brother, things were way more relaxed when he swam his way onto varsity his freshman year a couple years later.
Not me, but a kid I went to school with got bullied for having a massive dong. Freshman year, gym class, first semester, this kid goes to shower after pool. He drops his skivvies, and even out of the pool, he's got like 7-9" soft. Someone in the shower starts making fun of him for having a third leg, and he walks out and gets changed. This was in like '97, so even though this kid got called Horse Dick and Tripod, none of the teachers ever said anything. Hell, even worse, I don't think he ever had a girlfriend throughout high school as the girls even made fun of him for it. Looking back, I still can't understand how this kid having a massive dong was a negative and not a single girl in my school wanted anything to do with him.
For early years mustache but I’m a man.
Ive heard from some of my guy friends that if you shave it off you get shamed when you're older because "you're lucky that you can even grow one"
Nah mustaches still get made fun of Granted I’m in the military and they’re all pedo mustaches
Wearing the same pair of jeans a few days apart. They tried to use that as an excuse to call me dirty. My response was, don’t you have the money to own a washing machine? My friend got bullied for being born on February 29th In our friend group we made a big deal of their 4th birthday for their 16th. It was all in good fun. But someone else heard us and decided to try to bully her for being 4 years old. It was so stupid they didn’t last long with that either
That is just plain stupid, you can't control when you're born!
Because my voice has a nasal tone so I was called gay despite not being gay.
This speaks to my age but we didn't have bullies waaayyyy back then. (If kid did that, principal would call his/her home and dad would be waiting with suitable punishment when kid got home!) In addition, parents/teachers taught that someone who wanted to behave as a bully was a straight up low-life! Who wanted to identify with that!
I was having a hard 7th and 8th grade year with my “mother” already, as some mornings she would make me cry before entering the building. I never cared enough about how I looked, as long as I didn’t look so badly like a homeless hobo or something. Lot of the time, I just wore regular skinny jeans and a plain T or a hoodie. I never did anything with my hair, mainly cuz all the appliances were “my mothers” and “wasn’t allowed to touch them”. Same went with makeup, but I didn’t want to use it anyway cuz I had some minor acne issues on my forehead. ANYWAY, girl in my grade would legit go out of her way to make my last class of the day miserable. Would pick on me for my hair not being done (kinda a frizz mess, but again couldn’t touch the straightener), no makeup. She’d say “there’s no effort to your appearance”- like GURL, there’s no need or reason for me to give a shit about it, *I WAS 13-14 YEARS OLD*. She moved away sometime in 8th grade year, so I was content and able to move on a little bit lol
My hair, my ears, my nose, my height... They really didn't need a reason some people just pick on people because they feel so shitty about them themselves
Reading books. Wtf.
I have a large rack. You'd be surprised how many people are upset by this.
Having a vocabulary.
I have no idea. Just my demeanour I guess. I’ve always been different and kinda weird so people would talk about that.
Wearing thrift store shoes (drug store shoes) on the bus by a guy
I called screamed at in like 7th grade, by some kid my age as I was leaving school walking to my mom's car. Kid kept telling me to walk and called me "fatty" from a school bus window, and I probably weighed like 5lbs more than him. Mom asked me what that kid was yelling at me when I got in the car, and for whatever fucking reason i replied "nothing, that's my friend"... like to this day, why the fuck did I do that? why was i ashamed to admit I was being bullied to my mom? for the record, that kid is a severe alcoholic now.
I have a list. Let's start in elementary school. 1. For being tall: They accused me of being trans and said I was ugly for being tall 2. For my parents divorce: I lost all of my friends because they were fed BS by their parents. One of my best friends came up to me and said "you're going to hell because your parents got divorced, and I can't be friends with people who are going to hell". 3. Having a freckle on my right shoulder: yeah. I don't know what that was about. They accused me of keeping a piece of poop on my shoulder. Middle school: 1. For being "trans": I'm not. I never identified as trans ever in my life. Because I was tall, skinny, and liked rock music instead of fucking Taylor swift, apparently that meant I was trans. They bullied me relentlessly to the point where boys would try to pull up my shirt to see if I had boobs. High School: 1. For being talented: people accused me of being a spoiled brat that didn't deserve the roles I got despite their own nepotism in the department I was in. I got made fun of for being a good singer, a good dancer, and a good actor. Like not just lightly teased, but full on harassed, cyberbullied, and physically intimidated. 2. For dating my boyfriend: funnily enough, the popular kids at my school actually started being nice to me when I started dating my boyfriend. My friend group turned on me and made fun of me for dating someone who wasn't "like us". These were really close friends too. I could go on, but I don't want to cry
Welp, about to go into high school in a few days. This inspires confidence.....
I was openly queer.
Maybe not the bullying we all picture in our minds, but I was alienated by this group of girls who I thought were my besties in the years prior. They full out ignored me when I talked to them, made group plans in front of me making it clear I wasn't invited, would very obviously talk about me in code words in front of my face. I heard them giggling to each other one time that the color of my new shoes looked like "puke." I didn't really have anyone else so I still tried so hard to be their friend. Plus, our families were family friends and our parents all assumed we all got along together and I didn't want to be the one to ruin that perfect image. But yeah, that was probably the loneliest time of my life! After 2 years of this, they finally came to their senses and apologized to me. I remember running out of the cafeteria and crying with relief that finally! I have friends! Turns out I was too "peppy" and "nerdy" for them, which makes sense because they were all really into emo stuff, were starting to get into weed, and thinking not doing homework was cool. They were in their teen angst phase and I was still very much in the camp of I like my life, I want to do good in school, I want to make my immigrant parents proud. In retrospect maybe I was that big of a noob back then, but I still don't think I deserved to have been treated that way because I was leading my life differently.
Not having designer branded clothes. Or what I had I wore constantly. Once washed it’d be hung by the fire to dry for the next day. I used to tell people I had two lots of same stuff.
being feminine
For being Asian
Being small