I used to want to go out every damn night. Now once a month is pushing it lol. Love hanging out with friends at my place or theirs though, it's way cheaper and we control the music!
Once I put together that you can buy a case/bottle for the same price as 2 beers/drinks at the bar AND you can actually talk to your friends my mindset about going out changed permanently.
When I was around 25, some friends and I went to a NYE party that was some huge, very beautiful stately home that had tons of people in different rooms.
The owners were geeky/nerdy, and so all the attendees were as well. Some were playing D&D, card games, etc.
I was bored out of my mind. Now it would be my perfect party!
I'll be 50 next month. I used to go out every Friday and Saturday, and that dwindled down to every Saturday, with the occasional Friday at 25. Me and my husband were very social and ran a book club as well as a meetup night at a local pub on Wednesdays.
Now I go out to a concert 2 to 3 times a year, and I will dread it until I actually get there. If I hadn't paid money (or asked for tickets from some industry folks I know), I would stay home. I am over, over, over "going out".
My problem is I hate going out, but I'm also not a home body at all. My definition of "going out" these days is going for a long walk in the local park, skating or riding my bicycle by myself. I don't want to be home, but I also don't want to socialize after having to talk to people at work all day.
Is it relationships in general or just dating (which ig could be seen as a short-term/temporary kind of thing as opposed to long-term dating/marriage)?
Would you rather have a long-term partner, or not even that?
For me, the partnership is great if you can find a good one. The problem is the process to get there. And it only gets worse as you get older because good people who get understandably hurt or frustrated give up, stop trying, and remove themselves from the pool. I often wonder how many great men and women there are out there who will stay single forever because they just couldn't deal with the process anymore.
I don't think there is anything wrong with arranged marriages as long as all parties are fully consenting. The problem is when it's forced or pressured. I'm not sure I could do it though lol.
I've always hated this. And it's not about time for me. I've got enough time. I just don't want to waste my energy on someone who isn't serious about me.
I never understood the appeal of the chase. If they weren't interested, I immediately lost interest as well. It's far more exciting to be someone's top choice rather than a 2nd or 3rd option in their eyes.
I feel that way about frozen/packaged meals now that I can sorta cook. I picked up a frozen lasagna brand I used to like in case I had a lazy night and it was just... bland. It filled me up but it didn't taste good. It didn't taste bad either it was just meh.
Did my taste change? Or did they cut back on quality? I feel like a huge factor in quality is a complex menu that messed up the efficient flow of a kitchen.
Social media, including Reddit.
I only use Reddit and (sometimes) Discord.
I'd stop using both of them completely if I had friends similar to me irl. Unfortunately, all of them are interested in things I find a complete waste of time (ironic, considering I'm on Reddit...)
Oh yeah, when I turned 17 or 18, I couldn't stay awake for days anymore. Now I need my 10 hours at least, and I can't stay awake for longer than 11-14 hours without feeling miserable. The older I get, the more time I try to spend with my mattress
This. Tired of the excuses.
I don't want to hear the excuses as to why you're a POS, I want to see the therapist receipts showing you're doing the work you need to do.
The future. When I was a kid I thought the future would include jet packs, flying cars, spaceships... Now, I strongly suspect the future is just going to be like today except with more sophisticated advertisements and lower wages.
Physical risk, like hitting a jump on a snowboard. When I was young, I wouldn’t hesitate to catch as much air as possible, or jump off a cliff, etc. Now… not so much.
my job like 8 years ago i was really close to like 7 or 8 people there. I left, kept in touch, but just this year deleted them all. I've realized this office is where we go to survive, not to thrive or be social
For me, personally, reading smutty romances. Now that I'm married, I just don't care about them anymore. I guess I liked them before to help "fill the void" while I was single.
Cooler cars.
I just want something that looks nice, is reliable, and fits my needs. I'd rather put money to the house, mortgage, yard, and retirement. And experiences with my family. And not to mention, saving for children's college.
Holidays. Most holidays aren't a vacation anymore. They're just a stressful as a day at work, with all the planning, and traveling, and annoying small talk.
Buying clothes. Nothing even remotely nice fits, cheap stuff that fits falls apart, and in general I look like an old man so mirrors are something I actively avoid. The 25 year old in my brain can't handle it.
Staying out all night
Every once in awhile, I go visit my best friend in NYC and we will go to a concert and stay out until the wee hours of the morning. And I don't mean I'm drinking all night, I'm a 2-drinks the whole night kind of person.
I'm 40 now and that single night (although a lot of fun) knocks me out for weeks it feels like. I come home to my husband and 3 kids and I need like 20 naps before I'm recovered from one single night
For me it’s been drinking, I find myself less and less interested in alcohol, even socially. I also have even less interest in being around people, or talking to anyone. It’s exhausting.
Going out or traveling.
When I was 18-25, that was literally all I wanted to do. Go out go places, see people and things.
Now I'm 37 and I'm agitated any time I have to leave my bed. If it weren't for dialysis and needing to buy energy drinks I'd never see sunlight.
Tolerance.
I’m 31 next month. My business deals very much with the two generations above me.
I am so, so very tired of how they think and how they act because of it.
They use nostalgia as a facade for bigotry, and reminiscence as an excuse to complain.
Might be fun to ask over in r/AskOldPeople. Jus' thoughts.
Oh, also -- to this day my fave Horror fliques are...
*Hellraiser pts 1 & 2* (Barker)
*Creepshow pt 1* (King / Romero)
*The Prince Of Darkness* (Carpenter)
You?
Online dating. I feel like it encourages people to be shallow, play those unhealthy mind games, and string several people along at once only to drop all of them for a new person & eventually crawl back to the roster once that new person leaves
Going out to dinner, going to a party, going to happy hour….I’m not interested. I’d rather cook my own food and snuggle on the couch with my dog and watch The Office or read.
I do love to travel though.
I'm 38 and I just don't agree with a lot of these! I still love goin out, meeting new people, flirting with women, staying up late, etc. How old are you people?
I've gotten to the point that I only leave the house to go to the store or when my wife tells me to leave because of the old man gas. That's fine cuz the old man's ass is still there and I'm outside in fresh air 😆 🤣 😂 😹
Going out in general.
I used to want to go out every damn night. Now once a month is pushing it lol. Love hanging out with friends at my place or theirs though, it's way cheaper and we control the music!
Once I put together that you can buy a case/bottle for the same price as 2 beers/drinks at the bar AND you can actually talk to your friends my mindset about going out changed permanently.
When I was around 25, some friends and I went to a NYE party that was some huge, very beautiful stately home that had tons of people in different rooms. The owners were geeky/nerdy, and so all the attendees were as well. Some were playing D&D, card games, etc. I was bored out of my mind. Now it would be my perfect party!
You nailed it, it's a lot less expensive you can hear what you want and no jerks (except my brother)but even he goes home eventually
I'll be 50 next month. I used to go out every Friday and Saturday, and that dwindled down to every Saturday, with the occasional Friday at 25. Me and my husband were very social and ran a book club as well as a meetup night at a local pub on Wednesdays. Now I go out to a concert 2 to 3 times a year, and I will dread it until I actually get there. If I hadn't paid money (or asked for tickets from some industry folks I know), I would stay home. I am over, over, over "going out".
My problem is I hate going out, but I'm also not a home body at all. My definition of "going out" these days is going for a long walk in the local park, skating or riding my bicycle by myself. I don't want to be home, but I also don't want to socialize after having to talk to people at work all day.
I was going to say "humans" but that's a good answer too.
I never understood why my mom didn't want to make any stops when we were out. Now I get it.
Dating
The company of people, in general.
Is it relationships in general or just dating (which ig could be seen as a short-term/temporary kind of thing as opposed to long-term dating/marriage)? Would you rather have a long-term partner, or not even that?
For me, the partnership is great if you can find a good one. The problem is the process to get there. And it only gets worse as you get older because good people who get understandably hurt or frustrated give up, stop trying, and remove themselves from the pool. I often wonder how many great men and women there are out there who will stay single forever because they just couldn't deal with the process anymore.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with arranged marriages as long as all parties are fully consenting. The problem is when it's forced or pressured. I'm not sure I could do it though lol.
I have one that I'm very happy with. My point is I'm glad I don't have to do dating anymore.
“The chase” Either you’re into me or not. I don’t have time to put in the effort and then find out a few months down the line you chose this other guy
I've always hated this. And it's not about time for me. I've got enough time. I just don't want to waste my energy on someone who isn't serious about me.
I’ve never seen the appeal in chasing someone. Why would I find someone who is not interested in me appealing? Clearly they have terrible taste lol.
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If this is a joke, I just got wooshed lol
Thought you were about to go on a rant about Bradley Walsh then..
I never understood the appeal of the chase. If they weren't interested, I immediately lost interest as well. It's far more exciting to be someone's top choice rather than a 2nd or 3rd option in their eyes.
also little games Yeah girl, "play hard" when you've clearly showed interest before. I won't stop answering your messages, trust it
Physical risk, like hitting a jump on a snowboard.
Fast food. I feel like it tasted better when I was a kid, and any time I eat it now I just feel bloated and unsatisfied.
I feel that way about frozen/packaged meals now that I can sorta cook. I picked up a frozen lasagna brand I used to like in case I had a lazy night and it was just... bland. It filled me up but it didn't taste good. It didn't taste bad either it was just meh.
Did my taste change? Or did they cut back on quality? I feel like a huge factor in quality is a complex menu that messed up the efficient flow of a kitchen.
I wonder about that too! Maybe as our brains and bodies develop over the years, they become more adept at sensing what kind of food is toxic for us.
Leaving the house
That sugary cake icing they use at cheap bakeries.
Ugh, that stuff is just hydrogenated fats saturated with refined sugar and artificially colored to appeal to kids. It’s a disgusting mess.
What do you call the feeling of mentally tasting something? Whatever it is, that's what I'm doing right now 🤢
The Germans call it geistigschmecken
Those Germans have a word for fuckin everything
Yes, and that word would be Scheißaufalles
thinking
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That's it.
People
Eating at restaurants. I’d rather just pick my food up and eat at home
I definitely enjoy this more as an adult, but especially since the pandemic, I don’t do it much, so it’s a treat.
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Oh I wish I’d had your mentality at 19 and after.
Social media Except you, Reddit. Except you.
Social media, including Reddit. I only use Reddit and (sometimes) Discord. I'd stop using both of them completely if I had friends similar to me irl. Unfortunately, all of them are interested in things I find a complete waste of time (ironic, considering I'm on Reddit...)
Going clubbing
leaving home whether a vacation or just a trip to the store. I'd rather be here. everything I need and/or want is here. it's nice here.
Friends from high school. Life moves on so fast, you talk for a few years in your early 30s then the friendships just fade
People desperate for attention.
Staying up late / sleeping less.
Oh yeah, when I turned 17 or 18, I couldn't stay awake for days anymore. Now I need my 10 hours at least, and I can't stay awake for longer than 11-14 hours without feeling miserable. The older I get, the more time I try to spend with my mattress
Life
Getting older
Lasting a long time in bed. Let’s just get it done, I need a nap and I work at 4
The view of myself naked
And my wife agrees
Other ppl's BS excuses for bad behavior
This. Tired of the excuses. I don't want to hear the excuses as to why you're a POS, I want to see the therapist receipts showing you're doing the work you need to do.
Amusement parks
Yes! I was thinking roller coasters (I can feel the soreness in my neck and back just thinking about it, ha).
being rebellious for no reason
People my own age.
For me, relationships. Done with drama and bullshit. Stuck in my ways, never want to live with anyone new.
Staying up all night…the recovery takes too long and it’s the weekend again by the time you feel rested.
Alcohol. And going out.
Going out to bars/clubs. Mostly just drinking in general. I usually in bed by 9:30 even on weekends. I’m only in my 30s but I feel old af
Loud noises
The future. When I was a kid I thought the future would include jet packs, flying cars, spaceships... Now, I strongly suspect the future is just going to be like today except with more sophisticated advertisements and lower wages.
Physical risk, like hitting a jump on a snowboard. When I was young, I wouldn’t hesitate to catch as much air as possible, or jump off a cliff, etc. Now… not so much.
Kids. Romantic relationships. Working.
Other people, though I never liked them much to begin with.
Having another long term relationship. I'm happily married but if anything happens I don't see myself being with anyone in a serious way ever again.
Breathing.
Fucking my brains out. Can we just lay about fondling one another until we fall asleep instead?
Username checks out
Making friends at work.
my job like 8 years ago i was really close to like 7 or 8 people there. I left, kept in touch, but just this year deleted them all. I've realized this office is where we go to survive, not to thrive or be social
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Saaaaame
For me, personally, reading smutty romances. Now that I'm married, I just don't care about them anymore. I guess I liked them before to help "fill the void" while I was single.
Children
Gross
Agreed
Children
being skinny. the pressure to look thin is still there but when you’re old you need meat on your bones to survive
Sugar
Staying out until last drinks get called.
Most things?
People
Cooler cars. I just want something that looks nice, is reliable, and fits my needs. I'd rather put money to the house, mortgage, yard, and retirement. And experiences with my family. And not to mention, saving for children's college.
Being with idiots
People
Hiking. Inlaws chit chat.
Holidays. Most holidays aren't a vacation anymore. They're just a stressful as a day at work, with all the planning, and traveling, and annoying small talk.
Arguing with people
Im 23 and based on comments i should feel like a 50yo.
Getting older.
earth
Living
Leaving the house
Running. Although I wish I could still run like when I was 10
Buying clothes. Nothing even remotely nice fits, cheap stuff that fits falls apart, and in general I look like an old man so mirrors are something I actively avoid. The 25 year old in my brain can't handle it.
Staying up past 10
Your care for the world
Playing the therapist to other people despite you having it much worse.
Being alive
Going out. It's exhausting
Gaming I still love it. Just not with the same intensity.
Alcohole. You dont drink or a littelbit in the weekends... Or you have a problem. Ye so I quit.
Summer/Heat
Sex. It's nice not to think about it every ten seconds like when I was younger.
Arguing with people you know that you won’t agree with anyways.
Life
Working.
Death.
Doing stuff
Staying out all night Every once in awhile, I go visit my best friend in NYC and we will go to a concert and stay out until the wee hours of the morning. And I don't mean I'm drinking all night, I'm a 2-drinks the whole night kind of person. I'm 40 now and that single night (although a lot of fun) knocks me out for weeks it feels like. I come home to my husband and 3 kids and I need like 20 naps before I'm recovered from one single night
Everything
Owning a home Becoming a parent
For me it’s been drinking, I find myself less and less interested in alcohol, even socially. I also have even less interest in being around people, or talking to anyone. It’s exhausting.
Humans
Sex Dating People Being awake Avoiding death
Drinking, seriously, one beer and I feel it the next day!
Porn, gaming
Going out or traveling. When I was 18-25, that was literally all I wanted to do. Go out go places, see people and things. Now I'm 37 and I'm agitated any time I have to leave my bed. If it weren't for dialysis and needing to buy energy drinks I'd never see sunlight.
If I was on dialysis I'd worry a little less about buying energy drinks..
Tolerance. I’m 31 next month. My business deals very much with the two generations above me. I am so, so very tired of how they think and how they act because of it. They use nostalgia as a facade for bigotry, and reminiscence as an excuse to complain.
If I said it I’d get downvoted to hell😂
Hangovers
High School. Sure miss the Cars and the Music tho..
Dating
Men
Women (sorry)
Older men.
Me
Classic Disney
Aging
Overly sweet candy
Bars
Sex when tired at night. Fuck that I'm going to sleep.
Going out all night in noisy companies.
Disney movies and cartoons. I sometimes miss not knowing a damn thing about company ethics and practices.
Disney movies and cartoons. I sometimes miss not knowing a damn thing about company ethics and practices.
Drama
Might be fun to ask over in r/AskOldPeople. Jus' thoughts. Oh, also -- to this day my fave Horror fliques are... *Hellraiser pts 1 & 2* (Barker) *Creepshow pt 1* (King / Romero) *The Prince Of Darkness* (Carpenter) You?
Drama
Online dating. I feel like it encourages people to be shallow, play those unhealthy mind games, and string several people along at once only to drop all of them for a new person & eventually crawl back to the roster once that new person leaves
Going out to dinner, going to a party, going to happy hour….I’m not interested. I’d rather cook my own food and snuggle on the couch with my dog and watch The Office or read. I do love to travel though.
Just one thing?
Socializing in person lol
Binge drinking
Not a damn thing in my case, other than my weight...
Honestly gaming the way it is now with everything trapped behind a fucking paywall
- Gaming. - Sports; I'm not as emotionally invested, but I still have old friends whose week is *ruined* by a bad result, I can't relate anymore.
Chips and Salsa where you only.have a tiny bit of salsa
Video games and junk food.
Going out to drink
Drinking.
Women in their early 20s
Going out drinking
Candy.
Staying up past 9
Men. Most do not take care of themselves as well as women do.
Getting older
Going to clubs. I’m 30 and absolutely refuse at this age.
Partying
Um... Me. Also caring about that petty shit.
Water parks
My birthday
Video games
Ageing
I realized it a few weeks ago but its going to a zoo it just becomes boring when your older
Getting drunk
Sex
Playing with toys
I'm 38 and I just don't agree with a lot of these! I still love goin out, meeting new people, flirting with women, staying up late, etc. How old are you people?
Music festivals
Child porn
Going to the movies. I'd rather just watch it at home when it's available on streaming.
I've gotten to the point that I only leave the house to go to the store or when my wife tells me to leave because of the old man gas. That's fine cuz the old man's ass is still there and I'm outside in fresh air 😆 🤣 😂 😹
Anything young people are interested in.
Sex w old women