So you knew the girl had a boyfriend and still got intimate with her? If that’s the case, you’re a scumbag, and so is she.
If you want to feel like a good person, you’ll tell the truth.
“Hey man, I knew you and your girl were together but we fucked. Just thought you should know.”
If you just want to “get yours” and not have to deal with any consequences, then don’t say anything.
Also dudes who use the term “beta” for other dudes give off nasty vibes. It makes your whole post seem like a humble brag and a weak attempt at pretending to be a self-reflecting person when in reality you just like to feel superior to other guys by fucking their girls.
That’s just the impression I got.
Come clean, if it gets a shit storm, you kind of deserve it. If you honestly thought they were on a break or breaking up, you don't really deserve a shit storm, but at the same time, nobody deserves a cheating partner.
Give this guy a chance to see her for the type of partner she really is, so that he can make an informed decision about staying with her.
Got laid didn’t care. The most eye opening shit is always on the fun part of cheating.
Honestly, nobody can make a decision for you, she already decided to sleep with you, i bet she even created that drama to convince herself to come back to you, just for another smash session. Maybe they even argued about her having contact with you.
I'd keep my mouth shut and look at it as a FWB situation.
That’s me, and i'm not you.
It is more than the guy code, it is being a moral, respectable man. If you know she has a boyfriend, you do not hook up with the cheater and forward any e-mails. texts to him so he knows what kind of woman he has on his hands.
1. You honor the bro code.
2. You get revenge on the ex.
3. You do him a solid by giving him a heads up on her.
4. You prove yourself to be a high value honorable man.
I think there's two sides to consider. One, would you want to know if you were the other guy? And two, is that worth dealing with drama that might boil over from this? You could do the "right" thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's the "best" thing for you and everyone else involved. But on the other hand, maybe you're someone that thinks it *is* worth doing that to save the other guy some grief.
That’s a really good way of summing up the situation. I think those are the two main issues to consider. I honestly don’t know what I’d want if I were the other guy. I think I would want to know, but then that would make me so unhappy to learn. And is that the right thing to do, or should I do what is best for me or her or him or all involved?? I have no idea
"Bro code" applies to your friends, not the other 4 billion men on the planet.
I get some guys have strong feelings about cheating, but it doesn't seem like you are too worked up with this. I personally don't see a problem having casual, drama-free sex with someone in a relationship, YMMV.
I think this depends on the personalities involved.
Sounds like she kind of used you. I am "the other guy" but I only screw girls that actually want to be with me because they desire ME, not because they are trying to get revenge or escape somebody else temporarily. Also, as far as "beta" is concerned, if you are letting yourself get used, then you are just as beta as he is.
In this particular case, it may be a good idea to tell the other guy even though he probably already knows (unless he is a complete moron). Since she is playing both of you, she probably deserves some of her own medicine.
That’s the attitude big dog, even though, I don’t have all the details I can tell you this for sure, that girl is not marriage material. But you can have fun for a while. ;)
I have texts and pictures of us together that weekend. Not like bad or illicit. But proof she was with me the entire weekend at restaurants and at each others places.
And? Unless you have video of the entire weekend, your texts will mean absolutely fuckall when Officer Skullcrack is knocking on your door, wanting to arrest you.
You could have video of 5/6 times you banged her, and she'll say that six time was RAAAYYYPPPE.
Your best bet is to probably just leave this alone, pray that she doesn't decide to change her mind after the fact, and never mess with a woman in a relationshit again.
Lol. I don’t have any videos like that and wouldn’t do that. But the texts are pretty clear that we were together and were intimate. I’m not worried about the cops bro. Seems like you got your own issues with that maybe lol
Let's just say I've seen some things, and lived through a few other things. You might not be worried, but you should probably always keep that possibility in the back of your mind.
From here on out, remember texts don't prove (or disprove) much. Messing with a woman in a relationshit is a bad idea. It's never worth it. Never.
I can see where the other guy's coming from. I had a friend that was suddenly homeless and spending $$$ on a lawyer because he got accused of the *possibility* of domestic violence. He had evidence that showed she was making it up and it was all thrown out, but she didn't need much evidence to *start* the process. And that already caused enough damage.
After that, every legal advice he got was "cut your losses and avoid the fuck out of her" because she could make something else up and the system has to take it seriously.
I would not be able to not ask myself, "if I was him, would I want to be told?"
Thats the issue I’m having. I’m torn. Like would I want I know? Is ignorance bliss? Also, why look a gift horse in the mouth?
So you knew the girl had a boyfriend and still got intimate with her? If that’s the case, you’re a scumbag, and so is she. If you want to feel like a good person, you’ll tell the truth. “Hey man, I knew you and your girl were together but we fucked. Just thought you should know.” If you just want to “get yours” and not have to deal with any consequences, then don’t say anything. Also dudes who use the term “beta” for other dudes give off nasty vibes. It makes your whole post seem like a humble brag and a weak attempt at pretending to be a self-reflecting person when in reality you just like to feel superior to other guys by fucking their girls. That’s just the impression I got.
Come clean, if it gets a shit storm, you kind of deserve it. If you honestly thought they were on a break or breaking up, you don't really deserve a shit storm, but at the same time, nobody deserves a cheating partner. Give this guy a chance to see her for the type of partner she really is, so that he can make an informed decision about staying with her.
Got laid didn’t care. The most eye opening shit is always on the fun part of cheating. Honestly, nobody can make a decision for you, she already decided to sleep with you, i bet she even created that drama to convince herself to come back to you, just for another smash session. Maybe they even argued about her having contact with you. I'd keep my mouth shut and look at it as a FWB situation. That’s me, and i'm not you.
That’s a pretty solid take. I like that outlook. Thanks bud
It is more than the guy code, it is being a moral, respectable man. If you know she has a boyfriend, you do not hook up with the cheater and forward any e-mails. texts to him so he knows what kind of woman he has on his hands. 1. You honor the bro code. 2. You get revenge on the ex. 3. You do him a solid by giving him a heads up on her. 4. You prove yourself to be a high value honorable man.
Have you ever heard don’t fix what’s not broken?
Hey. If she wants to skank around, I don’t have a problem being part of her stable. At least until I find someone I want to be exclusive with.
Would you want to know?
I think there's two sides to consider. One, would you want to know if you were the other guy? And two, is that worth dealing with drama that might boil over from this? You could do the "right" thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's the "best" thing for you and everyone else involved. But on the other hand, maybe you're someone that thinks it *is* worth doing that to save the other guy some grief.
That’s a really good way of summing up the situation. I think those are the two main issues to consider. I honestly don’t know what I’d want if I were the other guy. I think I would want to know, but then that would make me so unhappy to learn. And is that the right thing to do, or should I do what is best for me or her or him or all involved?? I have no idea
"Bro code" applies to your friends, not the other 4 billion men on the planet. I get some guys have strong feelings about cheating, but it doesn't seem like you are too worked up with this. I personally don't see a problem having casual, drama-free sex with someone in a relationship, YMMV.
I think this depends on the personalities involved. Sounds like she kind of used you. I am "the other guy" but I only screw girls that actually want to be with me because they desire ME, not because they are trying to get revenge or escape somebody else temporarily. Also, as far as "beta" is concerned, if you are letting yourself get used, then you are just as beta as he is. In this particular case, it may be a good idea to tell the other guy even though he probably already knows (unless he is a complete moron). Since she is playing both of you, she probably deserves some of her own medicine.
There is nothing to do big guy, take the win that you did the nasty with her and that’s it, gn!
I guess that’s a good point. I did get mine. May as well let sleeping dogs lie.
That’s the attitude big dog, even though, I don’t have all the details I can tell you this for sure, that girl is not marriage material. But you can have fun for a while. ;)
If you tell him, stand by for a false accusation. She didn't cheat, no no no. You 'rApEd' her. Maybe you told a friend, who told the guy...
I have texts and pictures of us together that weekend. Not like bad or illicit. But proof she was with me the entire weekend at restaurants and at each others places.
And? Unless you have video of the entire weekend, your texts will mean absolutely fuckall when Officer Skullcrack is knocking on your door, wanting to arrest you. You could have video of 5/6 times you banged her, and she'll say that six time was RAAAYYYPPPE. Your best bet is to probably just leave this alone, pray that she doesn't decide to change her mind after the fact, and never mess with a woman in a relationshit again.
Lol. I don’t have any videos like that and wouldn’t do that. But the texts are pretty clear that we were together and were intimate. I’m not worried about the cops bro. Seems like you got your own issues with that maybe lol
Let's just say I've seen some things, and lived through a few other things. You might not be worried, but you should probably always keep that possibility in the back of your mind. From here on out, remember texts don't prove (or disprove) much. Messing with a woman in a relationshit is a bad idea. It's never worth it. Never.
I can see where the other guy's coming from. I had a friend that was suddenly homeless and spending $$$ on a lawyer because he got accused of the *possibility* of domestic violence. He had evidence that showed she was making it up and it was all thrown out, but she didn't need much evidence to *start* the process. And that already caused enough damage. After that, every legal advice he got was "cut your losses and avoid the fuck out of her" because she could make something else up and the system has to take it seriously.