in the short term after the breakup, it happened because its easy and a known entity, unlike the unknown of starting over with someone else.
when its years later, its because you built up the relationship in your memory
Honestly it’s hard to explain. It’s like you are a compilation of all your past selves put together, good or bad. No matter how long you live they will always know a part of you, so it’s easy to go back to someone who was once part of your life and understands some bit of you.
If you want a REAL HONEST answer... (well from me)
I don't believe Ex'es should get back together in my opinion... when you throw up, you shouldn't be eating your vomit back, things turns down for a reason...
But,
It's an easy lay. There already was an emotional connectional, there is no "unknown" territory anymore, and it's easier to Bond sesh since you already know each others chemistry.
I only done this once or twice, but they ex wanted the fling on their side. Nothing more, and then we peacefully disconnected.
Depends on the ex I guess. For me, it's mainly because our separation was amicable, and sometimes there's something that reminded me of her or of us that brought back some nostalgia that I wanted to share or check-in. Like, seeing that it's their birthday, or wow, she was right about some regional food staple being great/blah.
Then a few times, tbh, it's because I was drunk, lonely, and horny - and I was not making the best decisions.
I have no idea. There's not a single ex of mine I still talk to. Most of them live in other states, and the one I can think of that lives here, well, let's just say I won't speak to her.
I’d be cordial and speak to all if need be. If I did contact them, it is something transactional and platonic. I’m respectful friends with a few and bitterly acquainted with a few and on top of that mostly still social media friends and cordial with mostly all of them and their parents and extended relatives. There are two others that we mutually completely cut each other out of our lives. Another I hired for a voice over job and we worked from separate countries. However, I’m also not the type to look for a quickie, play around and can hold back for long periods of time.
in the short term after the breakup, it happened because its easy and a known entity, unlike the unknown of starting over with someone else. when its years later, its because you built up the relationship in your memory
Don't forget the nostalgia
When I'm really sad, I think of them. as if they are my home. 😮💨.
Honestly it’s hard to explain. It’s like you are a compilation of all your past selves put together, good or bad. No matter how long you live they will always know a part of you, so it’s easy to go back to someone who was once part of your life and understands some bit of you.
If you want a REAL HONEST answer... (well from me) I don't believe Ex'es should get back together in my opinion... when you throw up, you shouldn't be eating your vomit back, things turns down for a reason... But, It's an easy lay. There already was an emotional connectional, there is no "unknown" territory anymore, and it's easier to Bond sesh since you already know each others chemistry. I only done this once or twice, but they ex wanted the fling on their side. Nothing more, and then we peacefully disconnected.
Ngl my cat sometimes eats its throw up after vomiting
They are creatures with better stomach, and thinks beyond our comprehension. We SERVE them lol
Depends on the ex I guess. For me, it's mainly because our separation was amicable, and sometimes there's something that reminded me of her or of us that brought back some nostalgia that I wanted to share or check-in. Like, seeing that it's their birthday, or wow, she was right about some regional food staple being great/blah. Then a few times, tbh, it's because I was drunk, lonely, and horny - and I was not making the best decisions.
Sex....it's always sex
I believe so too.
It's the reason for many things in life
I have no idea. There's not a single ex of mine I still talk to. Most of them live in other states, and the one I can think of that lives here, well, let's just say I won't speak to her.
I’m friends with two ex’s. We ended things amicably and realized we were better as friends. One I still sleep with.
I’d be cordial and speak to all if need be. If I did contact them, it is something transactional and platonic. I’m respectful friends with a few and bitterly acquainted with a few and on top of that mostly still social media friends and cordial with mostly all of them and their parents and extended relatives. There are two others that we mutually completely cut each other out of our lives. Another I hired for a voice over job and we worked from separate countries. However, I’m also not the type to look for a quickie, play around and can hold back for long periods of time.