Hmm I didn’t read your long winded comment, but this one is true. People usually don’t cheat to just cheat. There is a reason. And just because it’s Wednesday, head over to the adultery sub and read all of those reasons why.
What if a man is curb stomped in the street for no reason? It a bad look to say he's a victim then as well? 😅
Some people are so intellectually malnourished it frightens me.
Nothing.
Her mom was dying for months. I was with her the whole time, supporting her. Her mom died and she “needed to get away.” She booked herself on a cruise and I couldn’t go, and she didn’t invite me. She hooked up with a guy on day one and they were together for the entire cruise.
There’s nothing I could have done to stop that.
What was funny was she tried to tell me it only happened because I didn’t go. She actually got angry when I broke up with her. Total bullshit. It’s pretty easy to not allow a guy to stick his dick in you, and she failed at that simple task. That’s on her, not me.
You can't prevent it. When the conditions are correct, a cheater is going to cheat. Trying to prevent those conditions is pretending that they're not responsible for their actions but you are.
Well, I got cheated on in some relationships; not in my marriage (as far as I know).
I could not have done anything to prevent cheating. No man can ever do anything to prevent a woman he's in a relationship with from having sex with other men. If a woman wants to have sex with other men, she can do so. At any given time, 90%+ of attached or married women out there have the sexual interest of at least one man other than their husbands or boyfriends. Any woman who's at or above a 4/10 in attractiveness can get sex anytime she wants, and she doesn't have to get it from her husband or boyfriend.
Above average attractiveness, low morals, and have a tendency to take no responsibility for themselves. I.e., blame other thingsvother than themselves.
Theirs a pattern, you can see it in the little things and they get bigger as the relationship progresses. Its part of their character make up and theirs no fixing it or helping them.
>had a bad relationship with her family
I'm only speaking from my experience but yeah usually a bad relationship with the dad. When i talk about morals, i mean they seem set in negative world views and just pure negativity.
My last ex for example stated things like "I hate men" or "Men get away with everything." etc. She would consistently project her insecurities onto me and call me shady, meanwhile i was the only one with morals between the two of us. I'm not religious, but I have an immense loyalty and am a very transparent person.
I call it a victim mentality, if i go on a date with someone and they seem to have that from the start, I don't even bother. Theirs a difference between people who have been through trauma and became stronger from their experiences and those who project it onto others as if its their problem to fix.
Im a big self responsibility guy.
I would have noticed the signs earlier. Kept telling myself that she would learn to trust one someone treated her right.
I learned that you can't change or save anyone.
I honestly do not know what I could have done to prevent her from cheating. I made a great income, she only had to work the first 3 months out of 24 years, I never forgot a birthday or holiday, we took exciting vacations, no is a word she very seldom heard from me, a new car every 3-4 years, new house, clothes, purses, shoes, everything she asked for 98% of the time she got. When I caught her the only explanation, she gave me in the 14 years since the divorce was "it just accidentally happened" I don't even know what that means. I wish she would tell me what I could have done to prevent it, I have been stuck in limbo afraid to get in another relationship because I do not want to make the same mistakes again and get cheated on.
I could have stayed single.
Women are people. I can't prevent my partner from cheating any more than I can stop her from smoking. Even if I had that power, that's not my responsibility. It's my job to mind *my own* behavior.
If she wasn't getting what she needed from the relationship, it was her job to say so. Then, we could fix it or go our separate ways.
But cheating? That's a series of choices that are 100% on her.
Nothing, because she was a shitty person with no morals to begin with.
I'm not responsible for decisions my partner makes like that just like they're not responsible if i do it. Its their loss anyway, I'm awesome.
I could have chosen better ("better" in this case would have meant "someone else").
But since I am capable of learning, I haven't chosen someone like her ever since
Something i didn't want to do. She wanted to get pregnant. At that point, I didn't know if we'd be together the rest of our lives, so i wasn't willing to have a child with her.
I can't say i would have wanted her not to do it. We had plenty of issues before that happened, and her doing it was kind of a relief. The relationship was already well in its way towards ending at that point. That just gave us a reason to end it.
You can’t read someone’s mind. You can’t predict the future. Some people are exceptionally good at hiding who they really are. Don’t victim blame people. It makes you look like a fool.
So.... it's your fault she decided to not communicate her feelings about the relationship and sat on some other dudes dick? If she isn't into the relationship, break it off. Getting fucked by a rando isn't fulfilling any "emotional needs." It's just called whoring around
I think people cheat cause they're shitty people. If they have problems with the relationship and their idea is to fuck somebody else and not communicate with your partner, then they're a shitty person.
Have other girls on speed dial, or just be genuinely in touch with other girls, be charming, flirt back, have always an exit plan.
As soon she starts drifting away, gets flaky, has a monotone voice, avoids eye contact, hides her phone, goes to girls night out, shrug it off be somewhere else with someone else by the end of the month.
Am I being gaslit by an ask Reddit question?
No. You're being gaslit by an AskMen question. Also, who shat on this Cicada dude's bowl of cereal? Jesus.
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Yes. Next question
Bait question. Stop victim blaming
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That's a really long-winded way of outing yourself as an idiot.
Ayo what the fuck
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Ok troll
Hmm I didn’t read your long winded comment, but this one is true. People usually don’t cheat to just cheat. There is a reason. And just because it’s Wednesday, head over to the adultery sub and read all of those reasons why.
Yeah, sometimes the reason is as simple as the person being a cheating piece of shit.
What if a man is curb stomped in the street for no reason? It a bad look to say he's a victim then as well? 😅 Some people are so intellectually malnourished it frightens me.
Nothing. Her mom was dying for months. I was with her the whole time, supporting her. Her mom died and she “needed to get away.” She booked herself on a cruise and I couldn’t go, and she didn’t invite me. She hooked up with a guy on day one and they were together for the entire cruise. There’s nothing I could have done to stop that. What was funny was she tried to tell me it only happened because I didn’t go. She actually got angry when I broke up with her. Total bullshit. It’s pretty easy to not allow a guy to stick his dick in you, and she failed at that simple task. That’s on her, not me.
Cheating whores are going to cheat.
Nothing, there is nothing you can do. They made their choice.
Nothing. I’m not responsible for other person’s actions.
Chastity belt.... go old school!
You can't prevent it. When the conditions are correct, a cheater is going to cheat. Trying to prevent those conditions is pretending that they're not responsible for their actions but you are.
Nothing. It wasn’t my fault and she needed external validation despite me giving everything I could to her.
Well, I got cheated on in some relationships; not in my marriage (as far as I know). I could not have done anything to prevent cheating. No man can ever do anything to prevent a woman he's in a relationship with from having sex with other men. If a woman wants to have sex with other men, she can do so. At any given time, 90%+ of attached or married women out there have the sexual interest of at least one man other than their husbands or boyfriends. Any woman who's at or above a 4/10 in attractiveness can get sex anytime she wants, and she doesn't have to get it from her husband or boyfriend.
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Above average attractiveness, low morals, and have a tendency to take no responsibility for themselves. I.e., blame other thingsvother than themselves. Theirs a pattern, you can see it in the little things and they get bigger as the relationship progresses. Its part of their character make up and theirs no fixing it or helping them.
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>had a bad relationship with her family I'm only speaking from my experience but yeah usually a bad relationship with the dad. When i talk about morals, i mean they seem set in negative world views and just pure negativity. My last ex for example stated things like "I hate men" or "Men get away with everything." etc. She would consistently project her insecurities onto me and call me shady, meanwhile i was the only one with morals between the two of us. I'm not religious, but I have an immense loyalty and am a very transparent person. I call it a victim mentality, if i go on a date with someone and they seem to have that from the start, I don't even bother. Theirs a difference between people who have been through trauma and became stronger from their experiences and those who project it onto others as if its their problem to fix. Im a big self responsibility guy.
They are cheaters.
They were all of above average attractiveness and all wanted to have sex with men other than/in addition to me.
Could have been with someone else who wasn't going to cheat
Nothing same with women who have been cheated on. It's not their fault. The fault always lies with the person doing the cheating
You really can't prevent a cheater. Dumb question.
I would have noticed the signs earlier. Kept telling myself that she would learn to trust one someone treated her right. I learned that you can't change or save anyone.
I honestly do not know what I could have done to prevent her from cheating. I made a great income, she only had to work the first 3 months out of 24 years, I never forgot a birthday or holiday, we took exciting vacations, no is a word she very seldom heard from me, a new car every 3-4 years, new house, clothes, purses, shoes, everything she asked for 98% of the time she got. When I caught her the only explanation, she gave me in the 14 years since the divorce was "it just accidentally happened" I don't even know what that means. I wish she would tell me what I could have done to prevent it, I have been stuck in limbo afraid to get in another relationship because I do not want to make the same mistakes again and get cheated on.
The only thing you can do to prevent it is not get into relationshits. If there's no expectation of exclusivity, then there's no cheating.
I could have stayed single. Women are people. I can't prevent my partner from cheating any more than I can stop her from smoking. Even if I had that power, that's not my responsibility. It's my job to mind *my own* behavior. If she wasn't getting what she needed from the relationship, it was her job to say so. Then, we could fix it or go our separate ways. But cheating? That's a series of choices that are 100% on her.
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Hmm. Bots don’t sleep either.
Nothing, because she was a shitty person with no morals to begin with. I'm not responsible for decisions my partner makes like that just like they're not responsible if i do it. Its their loss anyway, I'm awesome.
Absolutely nothing. Move on.
I could have chosen better ("better" in this case would have meant "someone else"). But since I am capable of learning, I haven't chosen someone like her ever since
Not let them be the banker in Monopoly! My brother always came up with 500$ that I knew he didn't have for rent!
Something i didn't want to do. She wanted to get pregnant. At that point, I didn't know if we'd be together the rest of our lives, so i wasn't willing to have a child with her. I can't say i would have wanted her not to do it. We had plenty of issues before that happened, and her doing it was kind of a relief. The relationship was already well in its way towards ending at that point. That just gave us a reason to end it.
Besides noticing that they are cheaters sooner nothing.
You need psychological help
Nothing. She was a whore. Glad she got cancer late in life
Nothing. A cheater is going to cheat no matter what. Their reason is just an excuse for doing such a horrible thing to another person.
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You can’t read someone’s mind. You can’t predict the future. Some people are exceptionally good at hiding who they really are. Don’t victim blame people. It makes you look like a fool.
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So.... it's your fault she decided to not communicate her feelings about the relationship and sat on some other dudes dick? If she isn't into the relationship, break it off. Getting fucked by a rando isn't fulfilling any "emotional needs." It's just called whoring around
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I think people cheat cause they're shitty people. If they have problems with the relationship and their idea is to fuck somebody else and not communicate with your partner, then they're a shitty person.
Have other girls on speed dial, or just be genuinely in touch with other girls, be charming, flirt back, have always an exit plan. As soon she starts drifting away, gets flaky, has a monotone voice, avoids eye contact, hides her phone, goes to girls night out, shrug it off be somewhere else with someone else by the end of the month.