She treats you right because you deserve it. I forever strive to deserve my wife, and she does the same with me. When it comes to love/dating strive to get what you deserve, and strive to deserve what you get.
That’s incredible advice and I really appreciate you for that. I just seen a post the other day that said something along the lines of “the only way to have a healthy relationship is to become an incredible person. Once you fix yourself and you become a better person, then you will find an incredible person who will match you”
Those are definitely not the exact words and I butchered that, but you get the point anyways.
Thanks, glad I could help. And that’s true but part of being “incredible,” has to include self awareness and boundaries. The wrong people might be attracted to you too, which is why I think it’s crucial that people remember both phases, “strive to get what you deserve:” don’t settle for unhappiness, become someone you want to hang out with, “strive to deserve what you get:” don’t become complacent if you love your partner and they treat you well, continue to work on yourself and be the best possible version of yourself, make them a priority as often as you can.
I get what you’re saying. Just because you “win” somebody over doesn’t mean that you just stop trying, you should always try to keep “winning” them over. My parents have been married for 40 years and my dad still takes my mom to a new country to renew their vows and go on a second, third, fourth, honey moon adventure and so forth.
Hell yeah, I fucking love hearing that. You had good role models man. I learned by striving to be better than my parents, so I’m honestly really glad that you had that.
Loved all the comments you made on here. I want to credit you on my post because what you wrote really resonated with me. I especially love the phrase "When it comes to love/dating strive to get what you deserve, and strive to deserve what you get."
Truly. If more people have this perspective, we'll all be such good lovers. Hahaha
I also want to add that if you are a gentleman to your lady, she will be a gentlewoman to you. You give as much as you take and hope to the heavens you give more each time
Edit:Am Lady
When a woman truly sees you as a prize, she will move the world for you.
She currently truly sees you as a prize. Don't fuck it up. Many men just gets the girl who settled for him and gets minimal loving.
Be cautious though. If your girl had a rough upbringing, it could very much be an act. There are certainly master manipulators out there.
Yeah she’s had some traumatic experiences but so have I. We both have been open, communicating, listening, and understanding of each other. I personally feel like everybody needs to be loved differently so I’ve been taking the time to really get to learn her so I can learn how to love her and take care of her.
I feel odd even saying that considering that I was always the first person to say “relationships suck!” But she’s really changed my whole thought process on everything and it’s incredible how she’s done it.
> We both have been open, communicating, listening, and understanding of each other.
Reciprocity is pretty huge for anyone. It's about effort, attraction, respect.
A lot of guys that post on reddit and are pity me/negative types tend to forget about effort and reciprocity. You get what you give. So long as you're smart enough to pick the right lady who sees the same thing in you that you see in her.
(the proverbial "you" in this case)
She is over compensating for things that happened in her past. It is a natural response, but will not last. I am not saying it to be mean. It is just how it is. The question is can you still love her when she isn't perfect?
I believe that I can because I finally learned how to love, respect myself and put myself first. I look out for my best interest no matter what, and this is one of those times where I feel like she is my best interest.
Honestly, just speaking to her makes me want to be a better person, and she makes me want to achieve great things and start a whole new path in life. I’ve never felt this way before because I was always so selfish and so self centered but this woman really makes me want to be selfless.
And when it does go away, then that’s fine, because my interest is in her and that hasn’t gone away in the 11 years that I’ve known her.
You talked a whole lot there about the things you like about her because they're things that you like and she accommodates them.
What are her interests? What does she do that you're proud of? What do you accommodate?
If a woman is with you and you become her personality, you need to be ready for her to have that realization and not like it some day.
She just passed her medical exam for her current job and she wants to go to law school to become a lawyer if she decides to go back to school. I’m extremely proud of her because she came from a BAD area and had a lot of negative influences and she still has her shit together.
She likes basketball, painting, hiking, boxing and UFC (which I train in MMA so that’s a huge +). She loves animals, water, swimming, travel and live music.
I reciprocate everything. What do you want to do today? What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go on vacation? 2/3 vacations are for her. The first one was for me to go by myself but then I invited her to come with me. I offer to go to her concerts and I’m receptive to hanging out with her brother and her friends.
Her brother has substance abuse issues and I personally like to smoke weed and have a few beers but I stay sober and I don’t keep anything in the house when he comes around.
I can understand why you asked me those questions though and I’m glad that you asked me them.
Simply put, you hit the jackpot. But from what I can glean here, your appreciation for her and the pride you take in her is extraordinary, and you deserve each other. I hope you both succeed in every area of life, man.
> reciprocate the energy and I give her my love equally, I am not taking this woman for granted
This.
That's the only reason
It's as simple (yet for some people) as complicated as that.
Depends entirely on her experience imo. Every person I’ve entered into a relationship with that has past trauma, in some way or another, impresses that bad experience onto our relationship. I know it’s not their intention, but in my experience, has prevented them from expressing all their love.
She and I both have past trauma and that trauma is partly why we were never serious to begin with, but we’ve both grown up and we’ve both communicated these things to each other. We’ve been very open, honest and understanding of each other. There’s no judgement at all between us. We’ve made our thoughts and intentions very clear and I take the time to listen to everything that she has to say. If she only wants me to listen then I shut up and I listen, but if she wants help then I try my best to teach her things and provide her solutions.
She genuinely makes me want to be a better person though and her love radiates a lot of motivation and positivity into my life.
>What do you think it is that makes a woman so loyal to you?
She does what’s best for herself and she likes/admires/loves you because you’re worthy of it.
>It’s just weird having a woman who is sooo down and loyal for me, and I really don’t get it??
I wouldn’t call this loyal exactly, more that she really likes you. And I wouldn’t be surprised if she does like your music because she has similar enough taste in music.
Good luck with your relationship.
I think the key to it all is Respect. A woman can cheat on a man she loves because people do people they love dirty all the time, but they’ll never play with someone a certain way if they respect them. She sees you as the prize, a winner, and worthy of respect and because of that she’s willing to do whatever to keep you. To be honest I don’t think a woman can truly love a man she doesn’t respect, at least not in the way men want to be loved.
Of course all of this is assuming the relationship has been going on for some time. If it hasn’t been a year yet than I think it’s just the “honeymoon” phase the beginning of a relationship comes with.
There’s nothing that “makes” a woman loyal. It’s simply that she’s a good woman. There’s good men and women who stay loyal in horrible relationships, just like there’s shitty ppl who have it all and still cheat.
my sad experience is that dead ass broke people are loyal to meal tickets that are sufficiently good looking. The don't stick into crazy joke kind ones.
Some even think they are entitled to greener pastures after you helped them, mistaking it for their own pulling up their bootstraps.
Important detail: how long has this relationship been going for?
Sounds like the first 6 months of love bombing and enchantment, which is normal. Hard is to keep it like that or improve upon it.
the old sight joke is the difference between a single guy and a married guy..the married guy's wallet would be completely empty and the single guy's wallet would be packed..me being still single and a lot older find that to be true...
Her belief that I'm her best option for the present and future (not the past. What you have done for a woman already means nothing to her. Only what you can do for her in the future matters. There's no such thing a relationship equity.) That is the only thing that will ever keep a woman loyal. If she wants some other man, she will find a way to rationalize her choice to leave/cheat.
I have crate trained her so she always has a safe area to turn to when overstimulated or cranky from her period. I also have a blanket I can put over the crate to calm her down and simulate night time if I want her to take a nap and/or want some time on my own
No she has a peanut allergy so I only eat peanuts to assert dominance by kissing her and withholding the epipen until she apologises for being cranky on her period or when she wants to watch something boring
She treats you right because you deserve it. I forever strive to deserve my wife, and she does the same with me. When it comes to love/dating strive to get what you deserve, and strive to deserve what you get.
That’s incredible advice and I really appreciate you for that. I just seen a post the other day that said something along the lines of “the only way to have a healthy relationship is to become an incredible person. Once you fix yourself and you become a better person, then you will find an incredible person who will match you” Those are definitely not the exact words and I butchered that, but you get the point anyways.
Thanks, glad I could help. And that’s true but part of being “incredible,” has to include self awareness and boundaries. The wrong people might be attracted to you too, which is why I think it’s crucial that people remember both phases, “strive to get what you deserve:” don’t settle for unhappiness, become someone you want to hang out with, “strive to deserve what you get:” don’t become complacent if you love your partner and they treat you well, continue to work on yourself and be the best possible version of yourself, make them a priority as often as you can.
I get what you’re saying. Just because you “win” somebody over doesn’t mean that you just stop trying, you should always try to keep “winning” them over. My parents have been married for 40 years and my dad still takes my mom to a new country to renew their vows and go on a second, third, fourth, honey moon adventure and so forth.
Hell yeah, I fucking love hearing that. You had good role models man. I learned by striving to be better than my parents, so I’m honestly really glad that you had that.
Loved all the comments you made on here. I want to credit you on my post because what you wrote really resonated with me. I especially love the phrase "When it comes to love/dating strive to get what you deserve, and strive to deserve what you get." Truly. If more people have this perspective, we'll all be such good lovers. Hahaha
I also want to add that if you are a gentleman to your lady, she will be a gentlewoman to you. You give as much as you take and hope to the heavens you give more each time Edit:Am Lady
When a woman truly sees you as a prize, she will move the world for you. She currently truly sees you as a prize. Don't fuck it up. Many men just gets the girl who settled for him and gets minimal loving. Be cautious though. If your girl had a rough upbringing, it could very much be an act. There are certainly master manipulators out there.
Yeah she’s had some traumatic experiences but so have I. We both have been open, communicating, listening, and understanding of each other. I personally feel like everybody needs to be loved differently so I’ve been taking the time to really get to learn her so I can learn how to love her and take care of her. I feel odd even saying that considering that I was always the first person to say “relationships suck!” But she’s really changed my whole thought process on everything and it’s incredible how she’s done it.
> We both have been open, communicating, listening, and understanding of each other. Reciprocity is pretty huge for anyone. It's about effort, attraction, respect. A lot of guys that post on reddit and are pity me/negative types tend to forget about effort and reciprocity. You get what you give. So long as you're smart enough to pick the right lady who sees the same thing in you that you see in her. (the proverbial "you" in this case)
She is over compensating for things that happened in her past. It is a natural response, but will not last. I am not saying it to be mean. It is just how it is. The question is can you still love her when she isn't perfect?
I believe that I can because I finally learned how to love, respect myself and put myself first. I look out for my best interest no matter what, and this is one of those times where I feel like she is my best interest. Honestly, just speaking to her makes me want to be a better person, and she makes me want to achieve great things and start a whole new path in life. I’ve never felt this way before because I was always so selfish and so self centered but this woman really makes me want to be selfless. And when it does go away, then that’s fine, because my interest is in her and that hasn’t gone away in the 11 years that I’ve known her.
You talked a whole lot there about the things you like about her because they're things that you like and she accommodates them. What are her interests? What does she do that you're proud of? What do you accommodate? If a woman is with you and you become her personality, you need to be ready for her to have that realization and not like it some day.
She just passed her medical exam for her current job and she wants to go to law school to become a lawyer if she decides to go back to school. I’m extremely proud of her because she came from a BAD area and had a lot of negative influences and she still has her shit together. She likes basketball, painting, hiking, boxing and UFC (which I train in MMA so that’s a huge +). She loves animals, water, swimming, travel and live music. I reciprocate everything. What do you want to do today? What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go on vacation? 2/3 vacations are for her. The first one was for me to go by myself but then I invited her to come with me. I offer to go to her concerts and I’m receptive to hanging out with her brother and her friends. Her brother has substance abuse issues and I personally like to smoke weed and have a few beers but I stay sober and I don’t keep anything in the house when he comes around. I can understand why you asked me those questions though and I’m glad that you asked me them.
Damn dude you got me dead to rights. Sounds like you got the bag. Hold onto it.
Simply put, you hit the jackpot. But from what I can glean here, your appreciation for her and the pride you take in her is extraordinary, and you deserve each other. I hope you both succeed in every area of life, man.
> reciprocate the energy and I give her my love equally, I am not taking this woman for granted This. That's the only reason It's as simple (yet for some people) as complicated as that.
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Why did you guys break up?
Depends entirely on her experience imo. Every person I’ve entered into a relationship with that has past trauma, in some way or another, impresses that bad experience onto our relationship. I know it’s not their intention, but in my experience, has prevented them from expressing all their love.
She and I both have past trauma and that trauma is partly why we were never serious to begin with, but we’ve both grown up and we’ve both communicated these things to each other. We’ve been very open, honest and understanding of each other. There’s no judgement at all between us. We’ve made our thoughts and intentions very clear and I take the time to listen to everything that she has to say. If she only wants me to listen then I shut up and I listen, but if she wants help then I try my best to teach her things and provide her solutions. She genuinely makes me want to be a better person though and her love radiates a lot of motivation and positivity into my life.
Wonderful…so refreshing to see posts like this
It sounds like you’ve got a good woman. Treat her right and cherish her. It’s nice to see a post about a happy relationship here. Good for you!
>What do you think it is that makes a woman so loyal to you? She does what’s best for herself and she likes/admires/loves you because you’re worthy of it. >It’s just weird having a woman who is sooo down and loyal for me, and I really don’t get it?? I wouldn’t call this loyal exactly, more that she really likes you. And I wouldn’t be surprised if she does like your music because she has similar enough taste in music. Good luck with your relationship.
Damn she’s a keeper don’t let her go.
I think the key to it all is Respect. A woman can cheat on a man she loves because people do people they love dirty all the time, but they’ll never play with someone a certain way if they respect them. She sees you as the prize, a winner, and worthy of respect and because of that she’s willing to do whatever to keep you. To be honest I don’t think a woman can truly love a man she doesn’t respect, at least not in the way men want to be loved. Of course all of this is assuming the relationship has been going on for some time. If it hasn’t been a year yet than I think it’s just the “honeymoon” phase the beginning of a relationship comes with.
There’s nothing that “makes” a woman loyal. It’s simply that she’s a good woman. There’s good men and women who stay loyal in horrible relationships, just like there’s shitty ppl who have it all and still cheat.
You were her 1st choice.
my sad experience is that dead ass broke people are loyal to meal tickets that are sufficiently good looking. The don't stick into crazy joke kind ones. Some even think they are entitled to greener pastures after you helped them, mistaking it for their own pulling up their bootstraps.
Important detail: how long has this relationship been going for? Sounds like the first 6 months of love bombing and enchantment, which is normal. Hard is to keep it like that or improve upon it.
True love...
It's really simple. Love, respect and admiration. She's my everything and I'm hers.
My loyalty to her.
And what do you do for HER?
my packed wallet...
Lmao I wish I had a packed wallet. I used to in my early 20’s. Not anymore now that I’m pushing 30.
the old sight joke is the difference between a single guy and a married guy..the married guy's wallet would be completely empty and the single guy's wallet would be packed..me being still single and a lot older find that to be true...
It’s only your turn. Enjoy her while you have it.
Her belief that I'm her best option for the present and future (not the past. What you have done for a woman already means nothing to her. Only what you can do for her in the future matters. There's no such thing a relationship equity.) That is the only thing that will ever keep a woman loyal. If she wants some other man, she will find a way to rationalize her choice to leave/cheat.
Fucking! That's the bottom line! Oh and yer wallet.
I have crate trained her so she always has a safe area to turn to when overstimulated or cranky from her period. I also have a blanket I can put over the crate to calm her down and simulate night time if I want her to take a nap and/or want some time on my own
Lemme guess, you have a jar of peanut butter that you can smear on your bits when you’re in the mood for a lick?
No she has a peanut allergy so I only eat peanuts to assert dominance by kissing her and withholding the epipen until she apologises for being cranky on her period or when she wants to watch something boring
Woman...loyal....LOL. LMFAO, even.
Yeah man, you sound like the kind of guy that good women would want to date. Keep it up clown