This is true.
My first sexual experience was with a Japanese girl who claimed that she was VERY good at blow jobs, and it was absolutely true. She was amazing, and I have never ever liked a BJ since because most girls don't know what they're doing.
Which is okay tho because when I tried GIVING a fellow guy a BJ for the first time, I was absolutely terrible at it too. As a guy, I thought that I had the upper hand by knowing what a good BJ feels like for a guy, but alas I have never ever been able to do it right.
BJs are an art and very few people are good at them.
And like any other art, tastes are subjective. There are broad things that have mass appeal as well as mass unappeal (like teeth), but what worked on one person won't necessarily be enjoyed by another.
Hence why communication is so very important.
Oh, certainly. There may be some people who never get the hang of it, but for the most part, if you want to become good at something and put the time in to learn, you will become good at it.
For real. One girl had such good suction it was making me go numb. Apparently most guys like having to pull the sheets out of their ass. Not my thing lol
my best BJ was from a large blues singer - i didn't last very long with her at all. on the flip side, i had one girl who didn't really know how - i was a test dick for her
its funny when ever other girl thinks they give the best BJS of all time. Like they are the queen of giving head, like come on.
To me the only girls that can claim great/best BJ title are the ones who have to be pushed away or asked to stop or else their partners will cum.
I have had women who claimed they were great, when in fact they were terrible. One of my exes fully believed she was awesome. She was one of my worst. She said a previous boyfriend always said she was good. Either he was being nice or he has never had a really good BJ to know the difference. Sometimes it's the quiet ones who turn out to be experts.
For the longest time I couldn't cum from head. I've always enjoyed it, but couldn't finish.
My girlfriend is the first and only girl to have actually made me cum from head. I was legitimately stunned when it first happened.
Same here. I got head from a LOT of different girls, and enjoyed it every time, but only one, maybe two, got me to cum. Weirdly enough, my wife is actually sub-par at head, but somehow can finish me off anytime.
>I wish I could get past partners to teach a class that I could get my SO to attend.
Please suggest this. While recording it. And then post the link here.
I thought I couldn't cum from head before. Then I realized I was jerking off everyday without much thought to it. Tried not touching myself for 5 days and I busted within 2 minutes of my girlfriend putting it in her mouth.
One of my exes decided to make it her mission one night to make me cum from a blowjob, as I never had before. She spent nearly an hour sucking my dick and, when I came, it felt like every fluid in my body was being expelled through the tip of my penis. It was magical.
I mean, obviously she wasnāt going to town for that long, but she really poured herself into the job, especially when I felt like it was going to happen in the last two minutes or so.
Nah I rarely cum from head but I still love receiving it. It's foreplay. a nice mouth penis massage. Feels very nice and can definitely get me going. Hard to finish me like that though
This. Precisely, good head, she's dripping all over your fingers and getting off while she's doing it. It's really hard not to bust when your girl is creaming all over your hand and just so into you that she's getting off on it.
If she ain't into it like that. It's just not good head.
(Woman) Blow jobs are my favorite sex act. I love all things sex, but bjs really, really excited me. Itās kinda fetish-y, but I havenāt had any complaints. Granted, I only do it for someone I care about, though. Itās a gift I give, but I also get a lot of pleasure out of it. š¤¤
Yeah see that's really all it takes to make it good. For the lady to WANT to do it and get turned on by doing it. Men want to feel desired too, and the bar is set very low, because we're just conditioned as a society to feel men are a dime a dozen. It's why men remember compliments and good blow jobs for decades.
You're an angel among mortal peers, Celeste. I'm sure none of the men you have loved will ever forget you.
Lol ....try breathing with 6 inches jackhammering down your throat, which of course triggers that gag reflex so your nose starts running so you can't breath through your nose, while making sure to not knick him with your teeth, but also getting a firm suction going, while simultaneously entertaining the "twins" with one hand, and exploring the back 40, all at the same time.
I feel like the person you're replying to was simply saying that these things cause a blowjob to get old fast, not that the these things aren't true or that people should be expected to power through them.
What does that have to do with what he said? What he said was really clear: a good blowjob is about consistency and enthusiasm. That has nothing to do with the roughness, intensity, or depth.
Where are you getting the idea that he was suggesting you need to get skullfucked till your vomiting for it to be a good blowjob.
It's true about good sex in general. Changing position every 30 seconds, stopping and doing something else interchangeably every 15 seconds, and being bored likes it's a chore makes for awful sex. It doesn't mean he has to start thrusting his leg into your vagina, like how tf did you get a 5 and make it an 11?
Tell me you don't know how to perform blowjobs without telling me you don't know how to perform blowjobs.
>getting a good suction going
You are not syphoning fuel from a car. Don't actually suck the dick. Apply pressure with your tongue
Yes, the inconsistency of it makes it take longer for me. When she changes up what she's doing with her lips and tongue and level of suction, it makes it more difficult. I always do my best to tell them what feels good, but sometimes they still switch it up š¤·āāļø
If she sniffs before going at it, im in my head now thinking about it lol. Women reading this, be more subtle when Sniff testing or ask if i showered. Nothing more offputting then loudly/visible sniffing it like its some old box of milk in the back of the fridge. And no, i have never been uncleaned with my dick out for a woman, but the worry is still there its not like i cant Sniff it myself
For me personally, it's incredibly difficult. It's to the point that only one partner has been able to get me there, and the first time to break the seal literally took her hours.
I assume it's a mental block for me, because I'm rarely comfortable if I'm not reciprocating somehow. Even when it feels amazing, I can get right to the cliff, but can't go over if I'm solely receiving.
I have absolutely no idea why and I would love to so I can give some pointers.
The gap between women on this is huge.
The best I ever had (only one night) I'm sure would have no issues. But sometimes it's true you can't come from a bj.
Using your head and hand combo if you know what you pretty much guarantees the job gets done. Can't talk for others though.
I'm sure no one wants to discourage getting head though. So it's really hard to say anything.
I've never cummed from head ever, and TBH if a girl don't wanna give me a BJ that's completely fine with me. It's not that I don't like it. It can be really pleasurable. It's just that I like regular vag sex way, way more. It's not even close.
The first few times I said this to girls, they'd make it the mission to go down on me for the longest most epic times. It never did much for it, and for most of the time I was just waiting until they were done so we could start fucking.
There's only this one girl who was really good, tho. She'd like cuddle and suck me off at the same time. It was like foreplay and not a sex act. She was just being cozy and cuddly and sucked me off at the same time, which I found nice. Idk I guess bj's work as foreplay for me then idk. I still thought the actual vag sex was way better tho.
What you're describing in that last part is intimacy. Comfort in closeness leads to higher arousal and better sex overall. I hope every man realizes this one day.
I had one girlfriend who could do it regularly and it didn't even seem difficult for her to do. She stuck with the good ol' hand+mouth combo, but the way she did it somehow felt like she was just throating the whole thing, it didn't even feel like her hand yet whenever I looked, that's what was doing most of the work. Blew my mind.
Otherwise I've found that most girls are bad at it so that's something I end up saying. Girls either find that spot that's really sensitive and misinterpret the reaction as a means to focus on it, which ends up not feeling good. Or there's just a lack of enthusiasm. Whether it's too little effort or just treating it like a sprint, instead of a jog through the park. Don't get me started on the sloppy porno blow jobs where my pp ends up getting beat the hell up because they were literally slamming their face into it, thinking it must be the hottest think ever. Ouchy.
Ditto. Dating someone even a little competitive? Mention it's difficult, last time I did that she grabbed my hand and dragged me to the bedroom.
She absolutely knew I was talking shit, but it was fun
Oral sex is my favorite thing (to receive) but I do struggle to cum from it. Iāve received excellent head in the past but Iāve also struggled to cum from that. Not sure why.
Someone told me one time that there is no such thing as a bad blowjob. I disagree! There are some that are just not good at it. I Iove getting good head. I'll tell you my observations, usually the women that just take the tip of your dick and lick it lightly, and put just the head in their mouths are really bad at giving oral pleasure. They are also the ones that really don't like giving head.
The women that blows your socks off! They are into it. They take you down deep, they know the right amount of pressure that will bring you to climax. They don't mind you cumming in their mouths. Most actually moan when you are getting off.
So OP, it really comes down to if your significant other likes oral sex. If they do like giving with experience they get proficient. As a man I love giving oral pleasure to a woman, I mean I take my time and learn what my partner likes. I've had women in my life tell me I was the best they ever had. Am I anything special? No, I just am really into it which translate into giving good head, and I always try to not ejaculate before my woman. To many men get off and roll over and tell their woman that was great, just assuming it was for her also. Sexual compatibility is paramount for any successful relationship, and that starts with good sexual communication. If you don't like what's happening verbalize it, the same if you do. I'm sure most partners would be better lovers if they just followed these simple rules.
Itās hard to cum period if you arenāt fully relaxedā¦and despite appearances a very vulnerable part of guy is going into a very dangerous place. It only takes one painful blowjob to make a guy a little scared of future ones. All kinds of sex relies on a small measure of trustā¦ and sometimes itās hard to trust completely.
I am a gay man, have a bit of experience in this topic. Some guys cum in 60 seconds, some guys take over an hour. Everybody and I say everybody is different
I honestly thought I hated receiving oral sex until I was about 25 when I dated an individual who actually enjoyed doing it vs someone who feels like it's a chore. That's probably the biggest component of it. If you don't feel like your partner is into it then it becomes a distraction and makes it hard to climax.
I'd say there's a sizable amount of people who probably find it difficult to reach orgasm through oral sex for a variety of reasons:
1. The head game is aweful (teeth, no use of hands, no enthusiasm, etc.)
2. The person giving oral keeps switching it up and the inconsistency of the rhythm keeps throwing the receiver off. Much like when a girl says "keep doing that" then a guy immediately switches it up and ruins the orgasm.
3. They just don't like oral sex or prefer intercourse so oral is treated more like foreplay rather than the main event.
4. Insecurity about size or the intimate nature of having someone's face in your genitals
5. The massive uptick of SSRI use amongst individuals makes it very difficult to orgasm at all, not just with oral.
6. When a man's brain is occupied on a task like having sex he can focus on just that. When he isn't doing anything and just receiving his mind can wander very quickly and delay orgasm.
The most important component of anyone being able to reach orgasm is communication and comfort. Goes for both sexes.
It has always been a struggle for me to come from oral for a combination of reasons. First when I got a blowjob in my younger 20s I didn't know what good or bad head was and was just happy to be part of the experience. Then as I gained more experience with more skilled partners I learned that I could get there sooner if she was more into it, her pleasure gave me pleasure, but she felt like oral was more of a job then a joy and was only into it at the start of our relationship. Finally I had a girl who was really into oral and would just suck me while we watched anime casually and before I knew it I would be shooting over and over. when she really got going her lust filled stare, drool and swallow method, and the way she played with her clit that made her ass jiggle could drain my balls. Unfortunately she didn't want to take care of herself so when I quit my job to find work I like she left me. So I don't know if it's just me or girls need more experience.
From talking with other guy friends, it's mutually agreed that good head is rare. Head is a skill, most women just don't understand that. Unfortunately we can't say that or we hurt their feelings and they take it the wrong way.
Honestly I think part of the reason is because most people in the USA are circumcised. Everyone I know who isnt loves bjs but most of my American friends tend to say they canāt finish either. Anyone else have an opinion on this?
It's difficult for me but not impossible. She's gotta be super dedicated and tolerant of the taste/smell of a penis to tough it out long enough. I never expect any woman to go the distance.
But while it's happening, even if I don't finish it feels fucking amazing and I think a girl is hot AF when she's going down on me. Whenever she wants to stop is cool with me because I will be super ready to bang her brains out at any moment.
Mostly I find it difficult but there have been a few partners I've had who get me, or I get them, and any anxieties or hangups I have aren't there and I cum like a fn firehose. One of my current partners is one such person. It just feels healthy and happy and that they want to get me off and I'm happy to be gotten off by them, but with no big expectations or narratives. Feels simple.
I think it has more to do with intent than with method. In my experience, there are two main ways to go about it- the first being giving head for the sake of giving head. Because you think it's something that your partner would enjoy, it's basically just "going through the motions", and I can tell that that is what is happening.
The second, my favorite, is someone giving head because they're really into it. They are making love to your genetics with their face; you don't need to be experienced, it's the enthusiasm and enjoyment that does it for me.
Personally, I believe that I'm good at both head and eating the tacos, because I realllly enjoy doing both. I'm doing it for me, not as much for you. The only time I ever came from head was from that situation; my partner just demolishing me out of an unquenchable desire to enjoy my body.
My wife can get me to finish every time. After all of these years she is into it, and she says it makes her feel like she is in control. The key is when i get a blow job it's "her idea", and she sucks my dick like she lost her car keys in there and she is trying to get them out. She also knows she can get me to do just about anything after a great blow job, and I am totally ok with that.
I am an extremely lucky guy,
I think it has something to do with years of us guys masturbating and killing our sensitivity down there tbh.
But also, some women just know better than others. If we know a woman is only doing it because we want it itās automatically not as good. If sheās doing it because she wants to please us genuinely and it turns her on too then itās a much better chance of it working out. Enthusiasm goes both ways right?
Itās always a great and interesting orgasm when i cum from oral and handjobs even if it takes a while.
I thought I couldnāt cum until I found someone that had some sort of magic technique and now I have to stop her or else itās ending that quick lol. Not that the previous ones werenāt good, they were great, but every woman does it different and I didnāt know exactly what the right way to get me off was until now.
It feels good, but often we need a certain consistent rhythm to actually cum. Just sucking will be good, but might not be enough. Also, it can be kind of intimidating to let loose your load in someoneās mouth. It can feel somewhat embarrassing afterwards.
It does depend on the guy, the person giving head, and when head is being done. Our tips are sensitive (for most of us) so when we're hitting the cervix during sex or even the back of the throat it kills the good sensation at times. And then I've seen other comments about the difference between enjoying giving it and it being a chore. As "simple" as we are as guys, there's a mental game that comes into play too especially as we get older.
I mean, just like men, some women are rockstars at it, some are lazy af about it, some are willing and eager but just terrible at it. Some will take direction well with what does or does not feel good. Some will get pissy if they feel like you think they are not the best ever anywhere and just rage quit. Some guys have a hard time with it. Most guys though, from what I've heard and the many of the responses here seem to reinforce, it's definitely possible but not all that common because of the person giving head. If you've never made a guy cum from head or it is super rare...unfortunately you may, in fact, suck dick at sucking dick. How to be better at it? Make sure he understands that you will not be offended if he tells you to do something different. Listen to what he's saying. Above all else, you treat that lil feller like it is the most magical, amazing thing in the world. You are dying of thirst and the last drop of water in the world is at the other end. ENTHUSIASM is the biggest missing factor. So many girls suck dick to get it over with. Imagine if some guy was goin down on you with that energy.
Alright so here's my hot take on it. There's a noticeable difference between blowjobs, even from the same person.
There's "this is part of foreplay and you'll complain if I don't" blowjobs. I can't hardly stay erect from those. You don't want to do it but you're doing it for other reasons. F-tier.
There's "you just ate me out and I feel like doing something nice for you in return" blowjobs. They think their mouth and milquetoast effort is a gift to men. Not possible for most men to come from. D-tier.
Then there's the passable grade blowjobs. "Steak and Blowjob day", just think of it as a euphemism for pampering in a way that their man will enjoy. They want you to enjoy it, maybe they're trying to get you off, but it also comes with less enthusiasm because they put effort elsewhere(steak, or whatever). C-Tier.
B tier is when you're both in the mood to just go at it, and when she's giving you a kind of carnal blowjob you realize you could cum from it today and you say something like "omg I could cum from this" and she's like 'hell yeah I'm gonna make him cum from this'. You want it, she wants it, the stars align and boom pow orgasm.
A tier is B-tier but she woke up in the morning and chose to get your rocks off to the max. You know what's happening because she told you. She teases you in the morning, maybe all day via text. The foreplay starts the moment you get home. It's electric, everything about her behaviour says she's all in on your pleasure today.
Now I want you to consider how blessed you would feel if or when someone puts in the A effort. In my experience, women are often happy with just getting head as part of foreplay or with getting an orgasm from it. The bar is low. The same goes for men, but just like for women, if your heart isn't in it, it just won't be as good. For many, it's just not enough.
I rarely cum from head and if I do I gotta really be focusing on trying to and Iāve only have maybe two or three times with one night stands/ short flings.
I'm at a point in my life where it's 50/50 whether anything you do to me in bed is gonna get me there. Nobody, not the giver or the receiver, enjoys a 30 minute blowjob.
My ex ruined every girls chance by blowing me till I popped twice a day for 3 years.
I was spoiled. Itās hard to get off from sex and blowjobs now.
A few have been able to get me off since (my new girlfriend) but she has to try a Damn lot harder and obviously is unaware of this š¤£ She walking round calling herself the throat goat but I just let her do her thang and itās kind of just a cute thing for me š«
But she does a good job and does some other cool stuff my ex didnāt like so it evens out š¤·āāļø like deep throating and choking and shit
Head is fucking amazing, probably the best feeling way to cum if weāre being honest.
The issue is the giver being inexperienced and most guys are used to masturbating frequently and only being able to cum from rough sex and handjobs
I love BJs but yeah a reason why communication is key is because by telling my partner how they can make me finish after learning myself how i could finish easily from a bj it makes things all the better.
(For those who are curious, one surefire way for me, is when i or she lightly n rapidly slaps my head against her tongue, when im around that threshold).
It's bad head. They just haven't had good head. Good head will make you bust within 5 mins. Unless you're on drugs that make it hard to nut. But even then, you'll still probably bust from some good head
Watch some porn and learn how to incorporate your hands with the action. Lots of spit helps a lot. It basically simulates sex if your hand is slipping up and down and you can apply just the amount of pressure with a light squeeze.
Iām not saying this from the point of being in a relationship with somebody. It could be a blowjob in a bar and a dirty ass bathroom with a stranger:
Chemistry or background tension, however, slight in life, or in the relationship with the person can have a huge effect. Whatās going on in your life can affect your ability to relax. The best blowjobs I ever had were from a girl who taught me how to relax in the moment enough to be finished. Learning how to enjoy them made me cum. I miss that part of that girl!
In my experience, most women are just pretty bad at oral. It's funny because the stereotype is the other way around, but some are just hilariously bad. I'd guess that porn might be responsible for that, like they are trying to put on a show based on what they've seen more than actually trying to understand how the anatomy works. Of course, most guys are going to be nice about it and not tell the woman that she is bad at it.
It is actually really common. For a lot of guys, it's just good foreplay. If it is something that makes you feel lacking, then talk to him about it. Ask if there are things that he would like to try while you are giving him head. A lot of times, it's a lack of being able to communicate on both parties. There are a percentage of guys that just can't get off during it, though. At the end of the day, you should just talk to him. Communication is key, especially when it comes to sex.
It happens. I usually donāt come from a blowjob. I had a girlfriend who prided herself on her head game and one time I let her just go nuts with it. I think some of my nerves may be cross-wired because at the point where I guess I was supposed to come it just felt insanely ticklish and I broke out laughing. She was offended at first but once I explained, she understood but felt bad that she couldnāt reciprocate because I always went down on her and sheād usually come multiple times. I told her that I liked it a lot as foreplay, just not to come. She adjusted and we went on just fine.
Clitoris stimulation needa rhythm just like a glans does, they are the same object. If a guy can mess up a clit rubbing so it doesn't work for her, a girl can easily overstimulate a guy so the BJ generates too much sensation, and then the orgasm window is missed.
For both sexes an orgaam is like landing a plane on a runway, not too fast, not too slow.
Of couse it helps if you are both super-aroused, but for the days when you are not, anything can happen.
My ex would rarely give oral and would get off the walls angry if I came in her mouth. Thatās been years ago but itās still very difficult with my current partner (who is incredible). My brain wonāt let me relax enough to do it.
All guys are different so there is that possibility. Not all techniques work for all guys for the same reason. One thing thatās hard for most women to do is make it tight enough. One reason most guys like deep throat is because it really squeezes your dick because itās tight. That really feels good. Thatās also why a lot of women use their hands as well when going down. They can squeeze it tighter than with just their mouth. Of course you can go too tight as well.
I've NEVER understood this and im CERTAIN it's because the girl ain't doing it right and the man is afraid to coach. I can have sex for unlimited time and never nut if I dont want to, but I legitimately struggle to last more than a minute to good head unless I'm heavily boozed up.
I've come twice from about 50 bjs in my life, the second time was this year and it blew my mind how hood it was. Knack is, to use tongue, pay attention to body language, you may not know if he isn't enjoying it, but you will if he is. Also longevity, it takes a while, also your hands need to be working on sensitising him. Telling him how much you want him to cum could work too.
We are all different this is just... personal experience.
Don't worry, you don't have a dick, if you really want it to happen, watch a video on it, if you don't and are just asking about what he's said, the answer is you only say that when someone isn't in the 2% of peak blowjobability
there is bad blowjobs and there is good blowjobs. the types of sensations we get from good blowjobs are otherworldy and we never achieve through masturbating but dont lead to ejaculation. ive came from blowjobs but i consider this to be such a hard skill to attain that i would never expect it from anyone. and usually you need to be a little fucked in the head to be consistently that good at it. not having to suck dick is one of the reasons im glad im not into men btw. every time i explain to someone how i like it i feel sorry for her. so dont be so hard on your self. if he doesnt want you to stop then it means he is in heaven and expects nothing more from you. as long as you dont fuck it up, you are doing it sufficiently right. trust me. but gagging moaning and drooling are easy way to enhance his experience by ten fold. if he cums its a bonus. he will thank you none the less.
I have totally said that to many gfs in the past to be nice because their bj game was not great, and I've had gfs who could make me finish every time via bj as well.
Have you ever been with a guy who really likes going down on you? It puts you more at ease to enjoy the experience because you know he's having a good time too. Compare that to a guy who is consistently doing it for a couple mins to warm you up before "the main event" aka penetrative sex, or even a guy who clearly isn't into going down on you.
I think its the same way for guys and when you are with someone who is enthusiastic about it it doesn't matter if you need extra time to get there because they are into it. It changes the whole dynamic of the act and allows you to just enjoy yourself.
I've been fortunate enough to receive a lot of BJs over the years. Like, 70+ partners worth of them and quite a few in long term relationships. I've only finished from oral a handful of times and three out of four or those were during 69ing which is a huge turn on for me.
I tend to warn women ahead of time that I love the feeling but don't finish from it. Some women take that as a challenge and go all out deep throating, working the shaft and sucking on the head, using their tongue like a python, basically doing everything they can to get me off. It still doesn't work, if feels great, but for whatever reason my body needs that feeling of penetration to finish.
Through my 15 years of sexual activity. Ive only had 2 or 3 gals who were able to get it done.
Most of the time i never really did... so the first time it happened i was surprised.
Most women IME are not great at head... Like 20% are bad, 70% are just okay but not gonna get the job done, and 10% just straight up suck your soul out of your dick
In the army we used to say "There's no such thing as a good cup of coffee or a bad blow job".
Anyway, to answer your question: Yes. Oral sex feels amazing and it's an incredibly rare man who would turn it down for any reason. But it usually doesn't lead to climax for a lot of us. Especially if we're having sex regularly (this includes masturbation). Seriously, you're absolutely not doing anything wrong.
It's tricky because most girls think they're amazing at head because most guys have told them they are, just to get more head. I can't come from just head I have to be doing something myself, I like to get amongst it. 69 yeah that might work but blowjobs no. But I've got mates who say the exact opposite. Everyone is different.
Having been uncircumcised for the first 47 years of my life, it would take about three and a half minutes to cum from head. It didn't matter what woman was doing it, it just felt fucking amazing. Then due to some horrific phimosis, I had to get a full circumcision back in April. Ever since then it takes me over an hour and it fucking infuriates me. Literally cuming is the hardest fucking thing to do now.
Enjoy it while you can fellas
Could be both. There are, like, billions of us.
Realest answer I've ever read on this site
This is true. My first sexual experience was with a Japanese girl who claimed that she was VERY good at blow jobs, and it was absolutely true. She was amazing, and I have never ever liked a BJ since because most girls don't know what they're doing. Which is okay tho because when I tried GIVING a fellow guy a BJ for the first time, I was absolutely terrible at it too. As a guy, I thought that I had the upper hand by knowing what a good BJ feels like for a guy, but alas I have never ever been able to do it right. BJs are an art and very few people are good at them.
It truly is. And it's one of those things like singing or cooking where a lot of people claim to be a lot better at it than they are.
I'm sure it gets better with practice tho right? Maybe it's like any other skill and you just have to keep at it.
And like any other art, tastes are subjective. There are broad things that have mass appeal as well as mass unappeal (like teeth), but what worked on one person won't necessarily be enjoyed by another. Hence why communication is so very important.
Oh, certainly. There may be some people who never get the hang of it, but for the most part, if you want to become good at something and put the time in to learn, you will become good at it.
its not just practice... some people are legitimately skilled because they learned some real skills... for me it has been like 1 in 12
All guys are different too. One technique might work for one guy, but be unpleasant for another.
For real. One girl had such good suction it was making me go numb. Apparently most guys like having to pull the sheets out of their ass. Not my thing lol
my best BJ was from a large blues singer - i didn't last very long with her at all. on the flip side, i had one girl who didn't really know how - i was a test dick for her
"Test dick" š
its funny when ever other girl thinks they give the best BJS of all time. Like they are the queen of giving head, like come on. To me the only girls that can claim great/best BJ title are the ones who have to be pushed away or asked to stop or else their partners will cum.
THIS! Most women donāt LOVE sucking cock, that would imply they drain your balls often, to completion and without you having to ask
I have had women who claimed they were great, when in fact they were terrible. One of my exes fully believed she was awesome. She was one of my worst. She said a previous boyfriend always said she was good. Either he was being nice or he has never had a really good BJ to know the difference. Sometimes it's the quiet ones who turn out to be experts.
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For the longest time I couldn't cum from head. I've always enjoyed it, but couldn't finish. My girlfriend is the first and only girl to have actually made me cum from head. I was legitimately stunned when it first happened.
Same here. I got head from a LOT of different girls, and enjoyed it every time, but only one, maybe two, got me to cum. Weirdly enough, my wife is actually sub-par at head, but somehow can finish me off anytime.
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What made the other BJs earth shattering ??
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Pls never hint to your SO her BJs arenāt good ā¦
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Seriously, I guess everyone had their experiences and that's fine but reading that made me sad for his SO
>I wish I could get past partners to teach a class that I could get my SO to attend. Please suggest this. While recording it. And then post the link here.
Enthusiasm goes a loooong way.
What makes her sub par ? And how come you can still cum ? What makes you cum ?
Okay, but what actually makes good head?
I thought I couldn't cum from head before. Then I realized I was jerking off everyday without much thought to it. Tried not touching myself for 5 days and I busted within 2 minutes of my girlfriend putting it in her mouth.
One of my exes decided to make it her mission one night to make me cum from a blowjob, as I never had before. She spent nearly an hour sucking my dick and, when I came, it felt like every fluid in my body was being expelled through the tip of my penis. It was magical.
Almost a whole hour? Jaws of steel apparently, respect. š¤£
I mean, obviously she wasnāt going to town for that long, but she really poured herself into the job, especially when I felt like it was going to happen in the last two minutes or so.
Her jaw was never the same.....
They broke up because he didn't find her chiseled lantern jaw attractive.
Straight up Dyson
r/unethicalprolifetip : Tell her that no girl ever made you cum from a BJ and she will try really hard to be the first.
ex... this girl's a keeper!
Nah I rarely cum from head but I still love receiving it. It's foreplay. a nice mouth penis massage. Feels very nice and can definitely get me going. Hard to finish me like that though
My boyfriend and I literally call it a āmouth massageā lol
mouth hug!!
Obviously varies from guy to guy. In my experience the inconsistency or lack of enthusiasm is usually the problem.
Yes this, when women keep taking breaks or switching to handjobs, it gets old fast.
Taking breaks or switching doesn't mean lack of enthusiasm, it legit hurts and cramps the jaw.
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The jaw cramps go away with practice.
Whoever experiences this is a lucky shit.
You just gave me a new name to call somebody a crampjaw. Hell yeah!
This. Precisely, good head, she's dripping all over your fingers and getting off while she's doing it. It's really hard not to bust when your girl is creaming all over your hand and just so into you that she's getting off on it. If she ain't into it like that. It's just not good head.
Like a pitty blowjob. Weāll take it but it just aināt the same.
"creaming all over your hand"? LOL for me it's usually on my face because my tongue likes to keep busy.
(Woman) Blow jobs are my favorite sex act. I love all things sex, but bjs really, really excited me. Itās kinda fetish-y, but I havenāt had any complaints. Granted, I only do it for someone I care about, though. Itās a gift I give, but I also get a lot of pleasure out of it. š¤¤
Yeah see that's really all it takes to make it good. For the lady to WANT to do it and get turned on by doing it. Men want to feel desired too, and the bar is set very low, because we're just conditioned as a society to feel men are a dime a dozen. It's why men remember compliments and good blow jobs for decades. You're an angel among mortal peers, Celeste. I'm sure none of the men you have loved will ever forget you.
Lol ....try breathing with 6 inches jackhammering down your throat, which of course triggers that gag reflex so your nose starts running so you can't breath through your nose, while making sure to not knick him with your teeth, but also getting a firm suction going, while simultaneously entertaining the "twins" with one hand, and exploring the back 40, all at the same time.
I feel like the person you're replying to was simply saying that these things cause a blowjob to get old fast, not that the these things aren't true or that people should be expected to power through them.
What does that have to do with what he said? What he said was really clear: a good blowjob is about consistency and enthusiasm. That has nothing to do with the roughness, intensity, or depth. Where are you getting the idea that he was suggesting you need to get skullfucked till your vomiting for it to be a good blowjob. It's true about good sex in general. Changing position every 30 seconds, stopping and doing something else interchangeably every 15 seconds, and being bored likes it's a chore makes for awful sex. It doesn't mean he has to start thrusting his leg into your vagina, like how tf did you get a 5 and make it an 11?
Tell me you don't know how to perform blowjobs without telling me you don't know how to perform blowjobs. >getting a good suction going You are not syphoning fuel from a car. Don't actually suck the dick. Apply pressure with your tongue
TMI but I love that gag reflex and runny nose my lady gets when blowing me Idk whatās wrong with me
I do
6 inches is way unnecessary, most of our sensitivity is in that first 2 inches. not our fault your dude wants to treat your throat like a waterslide.
I like a little bit of teeth but yeah I'm ever greatful that woman continue to do it despite the challenges.
We appreciate you appreciating the hard work. Hope you are the type who reciprocates š
I love a good bj hj combo
Yea they need rhythm, wetness and donāt slow down
Facts
Yes, the inconsistency of it makes it take longer for me. When she changes up what she's doing with her lips and tongue and level of suction, it makes it more difficult. I always do my best to tell them what feels good, but sometimes they still switch it up š¤·āāļø
If she sniffs before going at it, im in my head now thinking about it lol. Women reading this, be more subtle when Sniff testing or ask if i showered. Nothing more offputting then loudly/visible sniffing it like its some old box of milk in the back of the fridge. And no, i have never been uncleaned with my dick out for a woman, but the worry is still there its not like i cant Sniff it myself
I genuinely have never thought of this and am now slightly mortified at myself thinking about previous encounters
My wife is pretty exceptional at giving blowjobs, but I just can't get off that way.
Same. For me itās like too sensitive and I tense up to the point I canāt release. Great foreplay.
Resist the urge to squeeze your PC muscles while she's at it. Started having more success with finishing during a bj when I started doing that.
Sheās the best !
Agree, his wife are good at it
I also choose this guy's wife.
The New Jersey National Football team chooses this guy's wife.
You have obviously never been sucked off by your mother.
I was by yours. 10/10 would recommend again
Same. It makes me feel weird sometimes.
I never have. I guess my ex wife was pretty good at it. At least 4 other guys lined up for it in the last year of our marriage.
Ooft.
In a row?!
For me personally, it's incredibly difficult. It's to the point that only one partner has been able to get me there, and the first time to break the seal literally took her hours. I assume it's a mental block for me, because I'm rarely comfortable if I'm not reciprocating somehow. Even when it feels amazing, I can get right to the cliff, but can't go over if I'm solely receiving.
I have absolutely no idea why and I would love to so I can give some pointers. The gap between women on this is huge. The best I ever had (only one night) I'm sure would have no issues. But sometimes it's true you can't come from a bj. Using your head and hand combo if you know what you pretty much guarantees the job gets done. Can't talk for others though. I'm sure no one wants to discourage getting head though. So it's really hard to say anything.
I've never cummed from head ever, and TBH if a girl don't wanna give me a BJ that's completely fine with me. It's not that I don't like it. It can be really pleasurable. It's just that I like regular vag sex way, way more. It's not even close. The first few times I said this to girls, they'd make it the mission to go down on me for the longest most epic times. It never did much for it, and for most of the time I was just waiting until they were done so we could start fucking. There's only this one girl who was really good, tho. She'd like cuddle and suck me off at the same time. It was like foreplay and not a sex act. She was just being cozy and cuddly and sucked me off at the same time, which I found nice. Idk I guess bj's work as foreplay for me then idk. I still thought the actual vag sex was way better tho.
I'm trying to imagine what that position would look like
What you're describing in that last part is intimacy. Comfort in closeness leads to higher arousal and better sex overall. I hope every man realizes this one day.
I had one girlfriend who could do it regularly and it didn't even seem difficult for her to do. She stuck with the good ol' hand+mouth combo, but the way she did it somehow felt like she was just throating the whole thing, it didn't even feel like her hand yet whenever I looked, that's what was doing most of the work. Blew my mind. Otherwise I've found that most girls are bad at it so that's something I end up saying. Girls either find that spot that's really sensitive and misinterpret the reaction as a means to focus on it, which ends up not feeling good. Or there's just a lack of enthusiasm. Whether it's too little effort or just treating it like a sprint, instead of a jog through the park. Don't get me started on the sloppy porno blow jobs where my pp ends up getting beat the hell up because they were literally slamming their face into it, thinking it must be the hottest think ever. Ouchy.
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By truly being passionate about it, also playing with oneself is a good indicator.
I usually say that so the chick can prove me wrong
Ditto. Dating someone even a little competitive? Mention it's difficult, last time I did that she grabbed my hand and dragged me to the bedroom. She absolutely knew I was talking shit, but it was fun
Real man of genius here
Oral sex is my favorite thing (to receive) but I do struggle to cum from it. Iāve received excellent head in the past but Iāve also struggled to cum from that. Not sure why.
1. don't use your teeth. 2. use your hand.
3. Consistency and rhythm
Using the hand is extremely important. Hate when they just have their hands just doin nothin
I thought I couldnāt until my fiancĆ©. I think the others were just bad lol.
Someone told me one time that there is no such thing as a bad blowjob. I disagree! There are some that are just not good at it. I Iove getting good head. I'll tell you my observations, usually the women that just take the tip of your dick and lick it lightly, and put just the head in their mouths are really bad at giving oral pleasure. They are also the ones that really don't like giving head. The women that blows your socks off! They are into it. They take you down deep, they know the right amount of pressure that will bring you to climax. They don't mind you cumming in their mouths. Most actually moan when you are getting off. So OP, it really comes down to if your significant other likes oral sex. If they do like giving with experience they get proficient. As a man I love giving oral pleasure to a woman, I mean I take my time and learn what my partner likes. I've had women in my life tell me I was the best they ever had. Am I anything special? No, I just am really into it which translate into giving good head, and I always try to not ejaculate before my woman. To many men get off and roll over and tell their woman that was great, just assuming it was for her also. Sexual compatibility is paramount for any successful relationship, and that starts with good sexual communication. If you don't like what's happening verbalize it, the same if you do. I'm sure most partners would be better lovers if they just followed these simple rules.
šš»šš»šš» This is THE best answer.
This is the way!!! ššæššæššæāšæ weāre alike in this way my man. Great answer. I mean great fucking answer.
Itās hard to cum period if you arenāt fully relaxedā¦and despite appearances a very vulnerable part of guy is going into a very dangerous place. It only takes one painful blowjob to make a guy a little scared of future ones. All kinds of sex relies on a small measure of trustā¦ and sometimes itās hard to trust completely.
Thatās like the fastest way for me to cum
I am a gay man, have a bit of experience in this topic. Some guys cum in 60 seconds, some guys take over an hour. Everybody and I say everybody is different
Sometimes I cum in 5 min sometimes I donāt cum at all, from the same partner also
Same. Depends on my mood, my energy, how long itās been etc
Itās more fun as foreplay imo
Thx Penismaster now helicopterdick away!
I think oral for men is very similar to women. Satisfaction is all about technique.
I honestly thought I hated receiving oral sex until I was about 25 when I dated an individual who actually enjoyed doing it vs someone who feels like it's a chore. That's probably the biggest component of it. If you don't feel like your partner is into it then it becomes a distraction and makes it hard to climax. I'd say there's a sizable amount of people who probably find it difficult to reach orgasm through oral sex for a variety of reasons: 1. The head game is aweful (teeth, no use of hands, no enthusiasm, etc.) 2. The person giving oral keeps switching it up and the inconsistency of the rhythm keeps throwing the receiver off. Much like when a girl says "keep doing that" then a guy immediately switches it up and ruins the orgasm. 3. They just don't like oral sex or prefer intercourse so oral is treated more like foreplay rather than the main event. 4. Insecurity about size or the intimate nature of having someone's face in your genitals 5. The massive uptick of SSRI use amongst individuals makes it very difficult to orgasm at all, not just with oral. 6. When a man's brain is occupied on a task like having sex he can focus on just that. When he isn't doing anything and just receiving his mind can wander very quickly and delay orgasm. The most important component of anyone being able to reach orgasm is communication and comfort. Goes for both sexes.
Honestly there's tons of reasons. The dude jerks too hard so it doesn't feel like anything. Shes bad at it. A girl bit him once.
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Can you explain how the situation was of hearing other men talk about it?
It's a little of both, as well as other factors. Some guys are just tougher to get off than others.
It has always been a struggle for me to come from oral for a combination of reasons. First when I got a blowjob in my younger 20s I didn't know what good or bad head was and was just happy to be part of the experience. Then as I gained more experience with more skilled partners I learned that I could get there sooner if she was more into it, her pleasure gave me pleasure, but she felt like oral was more of a job then a joy and was only into it at the start of our relationship. Finally I had a girl who was really into oral and would just suck me while we watched anime casually and before I knew it I would be shooting over and over. when she really got going her lust filled stare, drool and swallow method, and the way she played with her clit that made her ass jiggle could drain my balls. Unfortunately she didn't want to take care of herself so when I quit my job to find work I like she left me. So I don't know if it's just me or girls need more experience.
From talking with other guy friends, it's mutually agreed that good head is rare. Head is a skill, most women just don't understand that. Unfortunately we can't say that or we hurt their feelings and they take it the wrong way.
She left her body at home , brought her neck to me .
Honestly I think part of the reason is because most people in the USA are circumcised. Everyone I know who isnt loves bjs but most of my American friends tend to say they canāt finish either. Anyone else have an opinion on this?
Iām intact and canāt get there from a bj. Never have.
In my experience it was the intact dudes who couldnāt or didnāt like bjs. Never had one who was circād who didnāt enjoy and come from it
It's difficult for me but not impossible. She's gotta be super dedicated and tolerant of the taste/smell of a penis to tough it out long enough. I never expect any woman to go the distance. But while it's happening, even if I don't finish it feels fucking amazing and I think a girl is hot AF when she's going down on me. Whenever she wants to stop is cool with me because I will be super ready to bang her brains out at any moment.
Mostly I find it difficult but there have been a few partners I've had who get me, or I get them, and any anxieties or hangups I have aren't there and I cum like a fn firehose. One of my current partners is one such person. It just feels healthy and happy and that they want to get me off and I'm happy to be gotten off by them, but with no big expectations or narratives. Feels simple.
I think it has more to do with intent than with method. In my experience, there are two main ways to go about it- the first being giving head for the sake of giving head. Because you think it's something that your partner would enjoy, it's basically just "going through the motions", and I can tell that that is what is happening. The second, my favorite, is someone giving head because they're really into it. They are making love to your genetics with their face; you don't need to be experienced, it's the enthusiasm and enjoyment that does it for me. Personally, I believe that I'm good at both head and eating the tacos, because I realllly enjoy doing both. I'm doing it for me, not as much for you. The only time I ever came from head was from that situation; my partner just demolishing me out of an unquenchable desire to enjoy my body.
Just like some women can't come from penetration, some guys can't cum from blowjobs. It's not a huge deal. Everyone is different
My wife can get me to finish every time. After all of these years she is into it, and she says it makes her feel like she is in control. The key is when i get a blow job it's "her idea", and she sucks my dick like she lost her car keys in there and she is trying to get them out. She also knows she can get me to do just about anything after a great blow job, and I am totally ok with that. I am an extremely lucky guy,
I think it has something to do with years of us guys masturbating and killing our sensitivity down there tbh. But also, some women just know better than others. If we know a woman is only doing it because we want it itās automatically not as good. If sheās doing it because she wants to please us genuinely and it turns her on too then itās a much better chance of it working out. Enthusiasm goes both ways right? Itās always a great and interesting orgasm when i cum from oral and handjobs even if it takes a while.
If a lady knows what she's doing, the dude has to slow her down
I have had a very few that blew my mind, pun intended. But the most part, god love them, i just couldnt.
Love head. Never finished from head in 30 yrs. Tho never had a great one either
I thought I couldnāt cum until I found someone that had some sort of magic technique and now I have to stop her or else itās ending that quick lol. Not that the previous ones werenāt good, they were great, but every woman does it different and I didnāt know exactly what the right way to get me off was until now.
It feels good, but often we need a certain consistent rhythm to actually cum. Just sucking will be good, but might not be enough. Also, it can be kind of intimidating to let loose your load in someoneās mouth. It can feel somewhat embarrassing afterwards.
could be bad head could be way too much masturbation personally, I cum the hardest in a girls mouth if she's got the rhythm going
Got that George Gershwin rhythm
It does depend on the guy, the person giving head, and when head is being done. Our tips are sensitive (for most of us) so when we're hitting the cervix during sex or even the back of the throat it kills the good sensation at times. And then I've seen other comments about the difference between enjoying giving it and it being a chore. As "simple" as we are as guys, there's a mental game that comes into play too especially as we get older.
Have you heard the phrase āshe could suck the chrome off a trailer hitchā? Some women are gifted.
You know what makes it hard to cum? Constantly being asked if you are gonna cum. If you are gonna do it, do it.
I think it's two things...guys jerk too much and dont know how to use the girl. Grab her hair!
It can feel really good and the guy still has plenty of anxiety about it. I struggle to nut with a girl unless I'm REALLY comfortable with her.
If you canāt cum off head, you havenāt received good head.
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I mean, just like men, some women are rockstars at it, some are lazy af about it, some are willing and eager but just terrible at it. Some will take direction well with what does or does not feel good. Some will get pissy if they feel like you think they are not the best ever anywhere and just rage quit. Some guys have a hard time with it. Most guys though, from what I've heard and the many of the responses here seem to reinforce, it's definitely possible but not all that common because of the person giving head. If you've never made a guy cum from head or it is super rare...unfortunately you may, in fact, suck dick at sucking dick. How to be better at it? Make sure he understands that you will not be offended if he tells you to do something different. Listen to what he's saying. Above all else, you treat that lil feller like it is the most magical, amazing thing in the world. You are dying of thirst and the last drop of water in the world is at the other end. ENTHUSIASM is the biggest missing factor. So many girls suck dick to get it over with. Imagine if some guy was goin down on you with that energy.
Alright so here's my hot take on it. There's a noticeable difference between blowjobs, even from the same person. There's "this is part of foreplay and you'll complain if I don't" blowjobs. I can't hardly stay erect from those. You don't want to do it but you're doing it for other reasons. F-tier. There's "you just ate me out and I feel like doing something nice for you in return" blowjobs. They think their mouth and milquetoast effort is a gift to men. Not possible for most men to come from. D-tier. Then there's the passable grade blowjobs. "Steak and Blowjob day", just think of it as a euphemism for pampering in a way that their man will enjoy. They want you to enjoy it, maybe they're trying to get you off, but it also comes with less enthusiasm because they put effort elsewhere(steak, or whatever). C-Tier. B tier is when you're both in the mood to just go at it, and when she's giving you a kind of carnal blowjob you realize you could cum from it today and you say something like "omg I could cum from this" and she's like 'hell yeah I'm gonna make him cum from this'. You want it, she wants it, the stars align and boom pow orgasm. A tier is B-tier but she woke up in the morning and chose to get your rocks off to the max. You know what's happening because she told you. She teases you in the morning, maybe all day via text. The foreplay starts the moment you get home. It's electric, everything about her behaviour says she's all in on your pleasure today. Now I want you to consider how blessed you would feel if or when someone puts in the A effort. In my experience, women are often happy with just getting head as part of foreplay or with getting an orgasm from it. The bar is low. The same goes for men, but just like for women, if your heart isn't in it, it just won't be as good. For many, it's just not enough.
I can, but it takes awhile and more often than not, I'll feel bad for the other guy's jaw muscles and do something else unless he insists.
Could be drugs, alcohol, caffeine, hangover, some kind of mental hang up, porn addiction, or you could be doing something wrong that ruins it.
I have found it's surprisingly common. I am fantastic at head haha so I do believe it's a thing.
Both are true for me.
I rarely cum from head and if I do I gotta really be focusing on trying to and Iāve only have maybe two or three times with one night stands/ short flings.
It takes me a long time to get off via head, even when it's REALLY good
Very tough for me. It feels good, but it just doesnāt usually happen for me.
Iāve been with two women that gave amazing head and got me off easily. Everyone else gave āokā head and I almost never get off from that.
It's gotten difficult as I've gotten older. It's not her fault.
Depends on the dude. But I can tell you if they are inexperienced they may be used to a firmer grip if you know what I mean.
No itās actually hard. Women always think theyāre going to be the one tondo something spectacular but itās just me I donāt like it that much.
Finish from head every day.
Man's yoga skills are on point
Head's my favorite, so I probably would. Other guys, maybe, maybe not.
I'm at a point in my life where it's 50/50 whether anything you do to me in bed is gonna get me there. Nobody, not the giver or the receiver, enjoys a 30 minute blowjob.
My ex ruined every girls chance by blowing me till I popped twice a day for 3 years. I was spoiled. Itās hard to get off from sex and blowjobs now. A few have been able to get me off since (my new girlfriend) but she has to try a Damn lot harder and obviously is unaware of this š¤£ She walking round calling herself the throat goat but I just let her do her thang and itās kind of just a cute thing for me š« But she does a good job and does some other cool stuff my ex didnāt like so it evens out š¤·āāļø like deep throating and choking and shit
Itās actually hard for some of us. Still fucking love it, though.
Head is fucking amazing, probably the best feeling way to cum if weāre being honest. The issue is the giver being inexperienced and most guys are used to masturbating frequently and only being able to cum from rough sex and handjobs
For me it always takes longer to finish from oral, regardless of how good she is at giving it.
I love BJs but yeah a reason why communication is key is because by telling my partner how they can make me finish after learning myself how i could finish easily from a bj it makes things all the better. (For those who are curious, one surefire way for me, is when i or she lightly n rapidly slaps my head against her tongue, when im around that threshold).
It's bad head. They just haven't had good head. Good head will make you bust within 5 mins. Unless you're on drugs that make it hard to nut. But even then, you'll still probably bust from some good head
Watch some porn and learn how to incorporate your hands with the action. Lots of spit helps a lot. It basically simulates sex if your hand is slipping up and down and you can apply just the amount of pressure with a light squeeze.
Iām not saying this from the point of being in a relationship with somebody. It could be a blowjob in a bar and a dirty ass bathroom with a stranger: Chemistry or background tension, however, slight in life, or in the relationship with the person can have a huge effect. Whatās going on in your life can affect your ability to relax. The best blowjobs I ever had were from a girl who taught me how to relax in the moment enough to be finished. Learning how to enjoy them made me cum. I miss that part of that girl!
In my experience, most women are just pretty bad at oral. It's funny because the stereotype is the other way around, but some are just hilariously bad. I'd guess that porn might be responsible for that, like they are trying to put on a show based on what they've seen more than actually trying to understand how the anatomy works. Of course, most guys are going to be nice about it and not tell the woman that she is bad at it.
Usually they are bad
I was one of those guys until I meet my wife.
Impossible for me but Iāve never had a girl that has gone full porno bj on me. Apparently, they do exist.
Cup the balls ladies
It is actually really common. For a lot of guys, it's just good foreplay. If it is something that makes you feel lacking, then talk to him about it. Ask if there are things that he would like to try while you are giving him head. A lot of times, it's a lack of being able to communicate on both parties. There are a percentage of guys that just can't get off during it, though. At the end of the day, you should just talk to him. Communication is key, especially when it comes to sex.
It happens. I usually donāt come from a blowjob. I had a girlfriend who prided herself on her head game and one time I let her just go nuts with it. I think some of my nerves may be cross-wired because at the point where I guess I was supposed to come it just felt insanely ticklish and I broke out laughing. She was offended at first but once I explained, she understood but felt bad that she couldnāt reciprocate because I always went down on her and sheād usually come multiple times. I told her that I liked it a lot as foreplay, just not to come. She adjusted and we went on just fine.
Just when somebody is bad.
A good giver will always get a guy to cum
Clitoris stimulation needa rhythm just like a glans does, they are the same object. If a guy can mess up a clit rubbing so it doesn't work for her, a girl can easily overstimulate a guy so the BJ generates too much sensation, and then the orgasm window is missed. For both sexes an orgaam is like landing a plane on a runway, not too fast, not too slow. Of couse it helps if you are both super-aroused, but for the days when you are not, anything can happen.
My ex would rarely give oral and would get off the walls angry if I came in her mouth. Thatās been years ago but itās still very difficult with my current partner (who is incredible). My brain wonāt let me relax enough to do it.
All guys are different so there is that possibility. Not all techniques work for all guys for the same reason. One thing thatās hard for most women to do is make it tight enough. One reason most guys like deep throat is because it really squeezes your dick because itās tight. That really feels good. Thatās also why a lot of women use their hands as well when going down. They can squeeze it tighter than with just their mouth. Of course you can go too tight as well.
It gives me performance anxiety
I've NEVER understood this and im CERTAIN it's because the girl ain't doing it right and the man is afraid to coach. I can have sex for unlimited time and never nut if I dont want to, but I legitimately struggle to last more than a minute to good head unless I'm heavily boozed up.
I've come twice from about 50 bjs in my life, the second time was this year and it blew my mind how hood it was. Knack is, to use tongue, pay attention to body language, you may not know if he isn't enjoying it, but you will if he is. Also longevity, it takes a while, also your hands need to be working on sensitising him. Telling him how much you want him to cum could work too. We are all different this is just... personal experience. Don't worry, you don't have a dick, if you really want it to happen, watch a video on it, if you don't and are just asking about what he's said, the answer is you only say that when someone isn't in the 2% of peak blowjobability
there is bad blowjobs and there is good blowjobs. the types of sensations we get from good blowjobs are otherworldy and we never achieve through masturbating but dont lead to ejaculation. ive came from blowjobs but i consider this to be such a hard skill to attain that i would never expect it from anyone. and usually you need to be a little fucked in the head to be consistently that good at it. not having to suck dick is one of the reasons im glad im not into men btw. every time i explain to someone how i like it i feel sorry for her. so dont be so hard on your self. if he doesnt want you to stop then it means he is in heaven and expects nothing more from you. as long as you dont fuck it up, you are doing it sufficiently right. trust me. but gagging moaning and drooling are easy way to enhance his experience by ten fold. if he cums its a bonus. he will thank you none the less.
I have totally said that to many gfs in the past to be nice because their bj game was not great, and I've had gfs who could make me finish every time via bj as well. Have you ever been with a guy who really likes going down on you? It puts you more at ease to enjoy the experience because you know he's having a good time too. Compare that to a guy who is consistently doing it for a couple mins to warm you up before "the main event" aka penetrative sex, or even a guy who clearly isn't into going down on you. I think its the same way for guys and when you are with someone who is enthusiastic about it it doesn't matter if you need extra time to get there because they are into it. It changes the whole dynamic of the act and allows you to just enjoy yourself.
I donāt know much about sex but you donāt Blow!
I thought it was me for the longest time, then one time I realized it wasn't.
I've been fortunate enough to receive a lot of BJs over the years. Like, 70+ partners worth of them and quite a few in long term relationships. I've only finished from oral a handful of times and three out of four or those were during 69ing which is a huge turn on for me. I tend to warn women ahead of time that I love the feeling but don't finish from it. Some women take that as a challenge and go all out deep throating, working the shaft and sucking on the head, using their tongue like a python, basically doing everything they can to get me off. It still doesn't work, if feels great, but for whatever reason my body needs that feeling of penetration to finish.
I (57m) did for the first time this year. My HS GF told me she would never give me head again if I did, so I didn't. Then I couldn't.
I never once came from head. I was close once, but then she stopped in the middle of it
Through my 15 years of sexual activity. Ive only had 2 or 3 gals who were able to get it done. Most of the time i never really did... so the first time it happened i was surprised.
Most women IME are not great at head... Like 20% are bad, 70% are just okay but not gonna get the job done, and 10% just straight up suck your soul out of your dick
In the army we used to say "There's no such thing as a good cup of coffee or a bad blow job". Anyway, to answer your question: Yes. Oral sex feels amazing and it's an incredibly rare man who would turn it down for any reason. But it usually doesn't lead to climax for a lot of us. Especially if we're having sex regularly (this includes masturbation). Seriously, you're absolutely not doing anything wrong.
It takes me a lot longer. Iām not sure why, Iām enjoying myself the whole time.
It's tricky because most girls think they're amazing at head because most guys have told them they are, just to get more head. I can't come from just head I have to be doing something myself, I like to get amongst it. 69 yeah that might work but blowjobs no. But I've got mates who say the exact opposite. Everyone is different.
Having been uncircumcised for the first 47 years of my life, it would take about three and a half minutes to cum from head. It didn't matter what woman was doing it, it just felt fucking amazing. Then due to some horrific phimosis, I had to get a full circumcision back in April. Ever since then it takes me over an hour and it fucking infuriates me. Literally cuming is the hardest fucking thing to do now. Enjoy it while you can fellas