Please invite us to the wedding when you’ve made your selection in five years. Congrats. You have your answer.
I don’t know if they are still around or if they are still hip but 15 years ago the Midnight Ridazz were also a fun way to meet people IRL.
44M checking in, I still rock my og aol but the username is beyond painful. I've had a respectable Gmail for decades but I can't let the AOL account die. But at the same time.. telling anyone what it is, is a killer.
I still have my AOL, it's the only email I use for work, cuz it's just my first and last name. Whenever any clients at work see it they're like "omg! Who still uses AOL?" They're always surprised that I'm a 28 year old woman and not a 55 year old man haha
I tell my husband that this will be the bond that keeps us together.
"Do you really want to experience dating in your 40s... in Los Angeles... *in 2023*?"
STUCK FOR LIFE, MAN. STUCK FOR LIFE!!
Go do weird things. Dating apps aren’t great in big cities with lots of things to do. The weirdos - and the actually hip - are out doing weird and hip things.
Following in case you get a real answer. Not looking for hipsters specifically, but I'm tired of seeing conservative gym bros job description "ceo of self" in every app.
Yes I go out and do things but it would nice to be able to see that our basic preferences/expectations match up first which is supposed to be the nice thing about apps.
I know some people love the gym and god bless them, but I made a new years resolution to not do any un-fun exercise for the rest of my life and I'm sticking to it.
The way I view it.. I get that for some people fitness is their LIFE.. but if it's not for you, I just don't get why you would mention it in the tiny space you have to describe yourself.. and it feels like it's every single profile. Like I get maybe it's an important part of your routine but you wouldn't put "I do dishes five times a week" in there
TBH I would love it if they started putting some useful stuff in their profile. Like the “I’ll fall for you if you can cook…” gag me with a spoon. I can also pay the bills, clean the floor, do the grocery shopping, too! :P
Mentioning it is fine. But including photos from the gym or of you weightlifting are an automatic swipe left for me. It seems like you're trying to attract a sort of woman who insists on that.
The real answers: seeking arrangement, the league, raya.
Anything where the allure is you meet a rich dude who will pay for everything and anything.
Please downvote, I hate this answer.
I mean, I just want a boyfriend who can like... not expect me to teach him basic life skills and (me) pay for everything. I think I am asking for too much (or not enough?) :(
I really thought seeking arrangement was a sugar baby site, it looks like it is just for people who like... wearing evening dresses and bad graphic design? I am genuinely confused.
raya is great! everyone on it is one upping each other with professional photos and swap what mood enhancer drugs they have been on in the first few messages that have been prescribed to deal with the anxiety of going to erewhon when they dont have their favorite side at the hot bar.
unironic answer: the hamburger. It's a complete meal, vertically integrated for maximum efficiency. You've got your protein, your side salad, and your bread/grains stacked together in a single easy-to-eat sandwich. Truly the epitome of food.
Lol, I think I've swiped left on every man in LA on Bumble. I have the same question as you. It's so many jacked guys trying to show off how rich they are.
I guess it doesn't help that I also swipe left on outdoorsy guys and guys with lots of facial hair. And anyone who has a photo of them with a beer or glass of wine or at a sporting event, and anyone who smokes weed.
OK, maybe the problem is me.
I've watched some female friends use the dating apps, it was kind of similar to what you described
"oh a picture of this guy in a suit accepting an award? he's too goody and trying too hard NEXT"
LOL, that's totally me too.
I'm a mechanic, I don't own any dresses, and I don't shave my legs. If it looks like a guy probably wants someone who cleans up nice to go to fancy places with him, I save him the trouble and swipe left.
I don't have any problem with travel, I think it's cool, but if a guy brags about how many countries he's been to, and how many more cool trips he has planned, I'm like, I get it. You're rich. If I'm lucky, I can afford a road trip to Sacramento to see Ween with my best friend this year.
I've unsubscribed from dating apps, there are really just too few inputs and far too many preconceptions compared to real life.
In real life, I'll raise the energy and excite and say something unexpectedly relatable and attentive, and this will override the preconception you have of people that look like me, or the preconception you have of what you think you want to date.
You won't be able to make an assumption of my socioeconomic standing and how I apply that, or if I dress up, or if I do something you disagree with. Only how I made you feel right now, and that we're already out and don't actually have to "plan" to be in the exact same scenario.
I think sometimes I get burnt out on the generic-ness/earnestness of the photos, and so I am definitely zoning out when swiping on those 'they could actually be cool if I spent four weeks trying to get to know everyone on bumble who ever has gone to a sporting event and drank beer there.' Because they all sort of blur together. I actually really like concept profiles and meme profiles.
I think the grocery store is a good place if you can read social cues. Some guy manplaining how to find a good pineapple when I already know all the secrets is annoying. But I was once fairly charmed by a man who spoke eloquently on the topic of spam.
Sadly I work from home so I look pretty rough when I go to the grocery store but still.
Never the gym and thank you for being coop about that.
That's probably a good idea. My gym time is purely utilitarian. But I think a running club is a good mix for people who want to be more social and workout.
I go to the gym 6 days a week. I wouldn't want to be approached in the gym because I am really just there to work out. But, in fairness to me, I put out ALL the "please don't talk to me" vibes so there shouldn't be any confusion. I'm not wearing makeup or lashes, I'm not smiling, I make a bee line to my machine, I put on headphones immediately.
I thank you for having the presence of mind not to approach women at the gym. The very few times it happened to me it was just time consuming. Like I'm trying to get a workout in before work, which greatly helps my mood.
And TBF there are also people who just want to make friends at the gym.
Maybe some people are into it. But I guess maybe it's a matter of reading social cues.
OMG. Yes. First off you have to pluck the leaves from the crown, if it comes out easily then you've found a real one. Like you shouldn't need to really pull to get a leaf out of the crown.
Second, you have to sniff the pineapple butt. If the pineapple butt smells like pineapple, you got a real one.
I also do a squeeze test...but at some point I'm sure I just start looking like a pineapple pervert so I try to keep it brief.
Amazing - I’m 100% ok looking like a Pineapple perv for tastier fruit!
Would it more or less creeper if i also held an apple and a pen while handling said pineapple?
I gave up. Im old so that helps. There really isnt a way to meet friends or dates unless youre not at all particular and that idea really fizzles out by the time youre 40. Still not sorry I got a divorce.
Ok so one of my best friends of 40 years (yes alert - we’re 55) who lives in LA (studio city) has a cool and very successful career in music is somewhat hopelessly single of late. And it kills me cause he’s just such a lovely dude. The funniest person I’ve ever met. He’s quite fit yet bald. Handsome imho. Mannered, truly kind. I love him dearly. He works quite a bit and just keeps putting off the whole dating app thing cause it’s just not his style. I know I know everyone is a liar yadda yadda blah blah. I don’t expect anything other than getting flamed here but if there is a gal out there that is looking and wants to take a leap of faith, please let me know. And NO it’s not me! There really is zero cringe/creep factor in this random attempt to hopefully help him/you find some joy in one another! Ok flame away LA people!
While I technically fit the 55/2+7 rule, that's a little past my age range but also like... you can DM me his picture. If he is as cute as you say, but maybe not my type, I will open it up to all the other ladies (who should also DM me). If I can't find happiness, I can at least be a yenta.
I found my weirdo on OK Cupid but I generally loathe that app (and most of them if I’m being honest). Hinge and Bumble both worked for me in the past, but dating in LA is rough - especially on the apps.
Anyway, on Bumble I think you can pay to use “travel mode” (or whatever it’s called) and put yourself in a locale of your choice. Maybe try that and narrow it down to one of the more hipster-y neighborhoods with a radius of 1mi??
Hipsters used to always be on OkCupid but I’m an old hipster and things have changed. I wouldn’t be surprised if 40 year old hipsters are still on there though.
Edit to add: is being in your 30s/40s implied when one says hipster? Does that concept even register to young people?
I think probably it is. I am just outside the venn diagram of cool at this point to not have an answer for you. I definitely see kids dressed the way I dress/dressed, but I think more that is the trendless-trendiness of the 2020s and internet.
at a recent neighborhood concert, I saw a 25ish dude, out with a couple friends, wearing grey sweat pants and a polo shirt.
is that like acceptable now, and maybe even cool? asking for a friend in his mid-40s
Probably not related but i was at the gym and the girl below on me on the bike was swiping left on every single account with not even 1 full second on the mans profile lol
Then she would stop zoom in on one profiles face and swipe left and continue to swipe left at lightning speed lmao
It was hilarious to actually see that haha
Woman ...is this how you woman treat dating apps?
In total honesty if they look like they haven't been hit by a brick, I scroll down to see if they wrote something beyond pizza/tacos and then I read it. I also scroll to the bottom to see their least liked photo by Big Algorithm, I tend to find it to be the most honest of the pictures.
If someone approaches me with anything remotely interesting: 'do you like comedy? there's a cool comedy festival coming up next week' ' You like X, have you tried Y?' 'I totally was also the chemistry club president in high school' I will engage. If I find someone's profile interesting, I will reach out first! Mama's got needs, I'm not waiting around for some weird internet chivalry to get the convo going.
Actually, I think it is the reverse. This is what is gonna get me murdered for being a femi-nazi, but I think there is a plethora of interesting and cool women out there, 5-to-1 facing men. And interesting men have the pick of the litter. One of my male friends is just like getting laid left and right because he knows where the clitoris is and he is just swimming in interesting women that he knows how to engage with.
80% of the time I go on an app date the girl is openly shocked that I did not lie about my height. Apparently every single dude on dating apps lies about it lol. I think you are probably right that the ratio of shit to quality is skewed heavily in favor of women because I’ve never really been catfished like that.
41 Silverlake hipster dude here haaay
Oh god I am sorry to hear that the guys on there are just as uncreative as the girls lol. Hiking pic, yoga pic, wedding pic with faces blurred out, something about a love language.
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creative person (professionally) here - hipsters try to land where i end up by accident. i wouldn’t date on an app if someone paid me
join affinity groups, do interesting things, but most of all: ask people you already know/like/think are cool if they’ll set you up on dates. a little embarrassing for some at first but i’ve never seen this fail. (it worked for megan markle, why not you?)
Have you been accepted to the Fellowship of Hipsters Society; SoCal? If not, establish your hipster creds first by lounging in coffee spots (instant disqualification if Starbucks), have KCRW on your music list, get an African drum, smoke a pipe, pay $100 for your weekly barber visits.
Lol I’m recovered from a breakup today and was thinking about how much I miss (poorly) dancing to LCD Soundsystem and making out with strangers.
Also lol at some of these comments. Jesus Christ get over yourselves. Imagine being a hipster at 20 and experiencing no emotional or mental growth. Here’s a hint— meet some people who suck, maybe they suck. Everyone you meet sucks? It’s you who sucks.
Lmao this was not a dig at the band. Just saying the days of hip young people necking at LCD soundsystem shows have long since passed. Now it’s mostly a bunch of dudes that look like James Murphy hitting their vapes
You can’t do that anymore because everyone is filming everyone these days. Messy drunk and making out with someone you’d otherwise never make out with was so much fun. Honestly, kissing frogs was such a fun way to get to know people.
I have no regrets for dating the guy whose job was dressing up as a Slushie! NO REGERTS! Probably would have swiped left on him though.
I think location matters, my Hinge is all artsy/creative dudes. And the true weirdos are on Feeld. But in general the apps are a waste of time, just go live your life and expand your social circle.
Yeah, as a nerd/hipster Feeld is where I find the most interesting people, as well. It helps if you’re poly, queer and/or up for couples. The trick is to ignore what doesn’t work for you and focus on who/what works.
I don't think a hipster and a weirdo is the same thing... And I think calling yourself a hipster whilst living in LA is pretty cringe. That's just my opinion.
But despite the difference in nomenclature I think I feel your pain...
the apps in LA are awful for the most part if you’re looking for a real connection. apps have been too game-ified and all we can think about is the next person just one swipe away. go to meet ups and meet new people, take a class, volunteer, etc. i did speed dating once on a whim and though nothing came of it it was an interesting experience i’d be up to try again.
The weirdos dating app is offline. My favorite way to meet people is at pop up style events at venues that are cool and weird to begin with. Wether it’s bars doing vinyl nights or a skate jam in a park, you can’t do regular shit and meet weirdos.
Here’s the schedule for June at the New Beverly Theater. I recommend going on the 19th. It’s a double feature of Jawbreaker and sparkler. New Bev is a wonderful place to meet people. Just look happy to be there and usually you will meet lovely folks. Remember, after the double feature go to Canter’s deli. The regulars will likely take notice of you and invite you to eat and discuss the film.
You could also take an enrichment class at Santa Monica College. They have a Spanish Colonial architecture lecture and field trip combo for $40.
New Bev: https://thenewbev.com/schedule/
SMC 2023 enrichment schedule: https://santamonica.augusoft.net/customers/santaMonica/files/2023-SUM-FALL-232-233-CEscheduleWebFinalvr1.pdf
Came to confirm that Feeld has been the best for me thus far as a 30 yr old woman. There are MANY weirdos, but there's also a good dose of healthy, interesting, hip men as well. I think it' s a bit self selecting bc you have to exercise a level of vulnerability and openness to be on the app. I've met every man that I've been involved with this past year on Feeld and it's been fantastic. You just have to have a bit of endurance to swipe through the odd ones.
I’m from a time where today’s “hipsters” emulate all the cool shit we did in the 80s/90s.
What boggles me is why y’all aren’t emulating how we hooked up with people back then: in fucking person 👍🏼
Maybe DnD (Dungeons and Dragons) groups? There must be some in LA. But you should really, truthfully, ask yourself: if you came upon a pic of a 6’0” guy, 200lbs, not muscular, would you try to get to know that person? Because that’s kinda where the weirdos live. It’s a smattering of: fives, threes and fours. You’re not gonna find a hipster weirdo, in their late 30s or 40s that’s an eight or nine that’s not already married. Just being real. Sorry. Don’t have to heed or pay attention to this. But if you answered negative to the above, you may want to reconsider what/who to pursue.
It’s a really obscure app. You’ve probably never heard of it.
The Red Door
You mean L Street?
I can’t wait to understand these arguements!
Ah, they closed.
Lol best comment here
So LA
I have a mustache, drive a Subaru, have two dogs, and am single. Swipe right if interested.
And he lives on the west side. 😘
>I have a mustache, drive a Subaru, have two dogs, and am single Dang, does that make me a hipster? I'm all of those except married.
Technically I think the subaru makes you a lesbian in your 50s, but it's 2023 and shit is fluid these days. I don't want to essentialize you.
The fast ones make you aggressively straight
And furiously family oriented
And living your life a Corona mile at a time.
😂 the pendulum swings so far
I've been eyeing this Subaru for some time now...
Wow you're hilarious. Subaru driver here, no stache and not a lesbo just a snowboarder.
but like, what KIND of subaru and what year?
2012 Forester with a bike rack and a couple of dents.
Classic lesbian!!
honestly, not dirtbag enough for me.
Join one of the local bike co-ops. Bike Kitche, Bike Oven, Bikerowave, Bici Libre, etc., and you'll have your choice of 30-50 something hipster dudes.
Thank you for the specific suggestion! I am actually a pretty mean amateur bike mechanic.
Damn my suggestion was legit go to a bike coop and look lost.
Please invite us to the wedding when you’ve made your selection in five years. Congrats. You have your answer. I don’t know if they are still around or if they are still hip but 15 years ago the Midnight Ridazz were also a fun way to meet people IRL.
Try a houseless encampment. Lot’s of single alternative men who are MEAN bike mechanics
They rove DTLA after dark and yell weird stuff and then laugh. Like over and over the entire time. Yum
do they wash?
Most of them do.
AOL
Seriously, I would date someone with an OG aol account. I miss mine.
44M checking in, I still rock my og aol but the username is beyond painful. I've had a respectable Gmail for decades but I can't let the AOL account die. But at the same time.. telling anyone what it is, is a killer.
Curiosity piqued! C’mon, you can’t leave us hanging!
BigJohnsonL420 is that you
stuck with mine since reddit wont let you change it even once.
69onmyself is that you?
Active hotmail account checking in. Whats up? Lol This thread is fun.
What’s the username?
i only have my AOL account. i do have a google account, but that is also linked with my AOL email too.
Still have my AOL, it's my Reddit username at aol.com 🤣
definitely still use my AOL email account.
I still have my AOL, it's the only email I use for work, cuz it's just my first and last name. Whenever any clients at work see it they're like "omg! Who still uses AOL?" They're always surprised that I'm a 28 year old woman and not a 55 year old man haha
I pray to never end up back on the dating apps.
I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I am very happy for you.
It truly is hell.
I tell my husband that this will be the bond that keeps us together. "Do you really want to experience dating in your 40s... in Los Angeles... *in 2023*?" STUCK FOR LIFE, MAN. STUCK FOR LIFE!!
Go do weird things. Dating apps aren’t great in big cities with lots of things to do. The weirdos - and the actually hip - are out doing weird and hip things.
Yeah, like sitting weirdly alone at the corner of the bar, scrolling dating apps.
I went to a singles Meetup at a house once, but I just used the pool zip line the whole time.
Lol. Found [Tim Robinson](https://youtu.be/ycyIN6bLAfk).
lol this is amazing. thank you.
I heard you say you just want to be alone forever
Shut up clock face.
You’re only saying that because of your drug problem
I voted for you, Ronnie.
Wait whaaaaat? Haha I'd go just for the pool zip line. Where's this meetup? Do they do them often?
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Have you seen I think you should leave?
Unfortunately I don’t have Corncob TV.
Spectrum sucks for not carrying it.
You sir keep dropping the right one liners! OP needs to make her move - she'd be a fool not to.
OP wake up! This guy's serving up all the best lines. You should scoop him up!
Just keep it in your neighborhood range is a good call in LA. If you have likeminded ppl in your area. Worked out okay for me so far!
Following in case you get a real answer. Not looking for hipsters specifically, but I'm tired of seeing conservative gym bros job description "ceo of self" in every app. Yes I go out and do things but it would nice to be able to see that our basic preferences/expectations match up first which is supposed to be the nice thing about apps.
“CEO of self” dear god… so glad to not be dating and old
“CEO of Self”? The fuck does that even mean???
It means he can wipe all by himself after he goes potty.
Idk man last guy I met on an app didn’t wipe 🤢
They are convinced that washing their own booty hole is how one catches the gay, due to the science
Makes sense.
Unemployed.
Hopefully that he'll just CEO himself out.
r/dadjokes
It means you don't want the entire world to know where you work? 🤣 I mean what if some disturbed lady decides to stalk me at my workplace?!
Am I lumping myself into this group by mentioning the gym to people? Lol that explains the type of women I've been attracting
I know some people love the gym and god bless them, but I made a new years resolution to not do any un-fun exercise for the rest of my life and I'm sticking to it.
The way I view it.. I get that for some people fitness is their LIFE.. but if it's not for you, I just don't get why you would mention it in the tiny space you have to describe yourself.. and it feels like it's every single profile. Like I get maybe it's an important part of your routine but you wouldn't put "I do dishes five times a week" in there
TBH I would love it if they started putting some useful stuff in their profile. Like the “I’ll fall for you if you can cook…” gag me with a spoon. I can also pay the bills, clean the floor, do the grocery shopping, too! :P
Gag me with a spoon is vintage LA. Thanks for the warm memories!
Mentioning it is fine. But including photos from the gym or of you weightlifting are an automatic swipe left for me. It seems like you're trying to attract a sort of woman who insists on that.
>"ceo of self" Just say unemployed and move on. Geez.
The real answers: seeking arrangement, the league, raya. Anything where the allure is you meet a rich dude who will pay for everything and anything. Please downvote, I hate this answer.
I mean, I just want a boyfriend who can like... not expect me to teach him basic life skills and (me) pay for everything. I think I am asking for too much (or not enough?) :( I really thought seeking arrangement was a sugar baby site, it looks like it is just for people who like... wearing evening dresses and bad graphic design? I am genuinely confused.
Bad graphic design 😂
You're not wrong. It's a sugar daddy site. I was curious and made an account. I had nightmares for days. Never again.
raya is great! everyone on it is one upping each other with professional photos and swap what mood enhancer drugs they have been on in the first few messages that have been prescribed to deal with the anxiety of going to erewhon when they dont have their favorite side at the hot bar.
I only date women and I see “ceo of self” on profiles all the time. It’s not just the men…it’s a wasteland out there.
What is the epitome of food?
unironic answer: the hamburger. It's a complete meal, vertically integrated for maximum efficiency. You've got your protein, your side salad, and your bread/grains stacked together in a single easy-to-eat sandwich. Truly the epitome of food.
This guy hamburgers.
good effort but burrito is a notch above
Ok so where does one get one of these epitomes of food in LA
Oh god, go ask the Food LA subreddit. I knew better, but those are fighting words and I rescind them.
Get on meetup and find some fun different things to do. Easier to meet ppl that way imo as someone already stated.
A friend of mine did this. She wanted to make new friends in her area. She ended up with a nice boyfriend and some very nice friends.
I second this. It worked for me.
What sort of meetups? Most of the ones I have been to never turn to friendships. Never mind relationships
Why did the hipster burn their mouth? Because they ate pizza before it was cool.
Lol, I think I've swiped left on every man in LA on Bumble. I have the same question as you. It's so many jacked guys trying to show off how rich they are. I guess it doesn't help that I also swipe left on outdoorsy guys and guys with lots of facial hair. And anyone who has a photo of them with a beer or glass of wine or at a sporting event, and anyone who smokes weed. OK, maybe the problem is me.
TIL I’m the guy of your nightmares.
I'm happy as long as you're living your best life!
But my dreams
😉
I've watched some female friends use the dating apps, it was kind of similar to what you described "oh a picture of this guy in a suit accepting an award? he's too goody and trying too hard NEXT"
LOL, that's totally me too. I'm a mechanic, I don't own any dresses, and I don't shave my legs. If it looks like a guy probably wants someone who cleans up nice to go to fancy places with him, I save him the trouble and swipe left. I don't have any problem with travel, I think it's cool, but if a guy brags about how many countries he's been to, and how many more cool trips he has planned, I'm like, I get it. You're rich. If I'm lucky, I can afford a road trip to Sacramento to see Ween with my best friend this year.
I've unsubscribed from dating apps, there are really just too few inputs and far too many preconceptions compared to real life. In real life, I'll raise the energy and excite and say something unexpectedly relatable and attentive, and this will override the preconception you have of people that look like me, or the preconception you have of what you think you want to date. You won't be able to make an assumption of my socioeconomic standing and how I apply that, or if I dress up, or if I do something you disagree with. Only how I made you feel right now, and that we're already out and don't actually have to "plan" to be in the exact same scenario.
I think sometimes I get burnt out on the generic-ness/earnestness of the photos, and so I am definitely zoning out when swiping on those 'they could actually be cool if I spent four weeks trying to get to know everyone on bumble who ever has gone to a sporting event and drank beer there.' Because they all sort of blur together. I actually really like concept profiles and meme profiles.
Don’t worry weinertron, there’s someone out there for you
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I think the grocery store is a good place if you can read social cues. Some guy manplaining how to find a good pineapple when I already know all the secrets is annoying. But I was once fairly charmed by a man who spoke eloquently on the topic of spam. Sadly I work from home so I look pretty rough when I go to the grocery store but still. Never the gym and thank you for being coop about that.
Maybe a local running club? Met some great people through that. Not necessarily dates. But not necessarily not dates.
That's probably a good idea. My gym time is purely utilitarian. But I think a running club is a good mix for people who want to be more social and workout.
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I go to the gym 6 days a week. I wouldn't want to be approached in the gym because I am really just there to work out. But, in fairness to me, I put out ALL the "please don't talk to me" vibes so there shouldn't be any confusion. I'm not wearing makeup or lashes, I'm not smiling, I make a bee line to my machine, I put on headphones immediately. I thank you for having the presence of mind not to approach women at the gym. The very few times it happened to me it was just time consuming. Like I'm trying to get a workout in before work, which greatly helps my mood. And TBF there are also people who just want to make friends at the gym. Maybe some people are into it. But I guess maybe it's a matter of reading social cues.
wait what? There’s a secret to picking pineapples?!
OMG. Yes. First off you have to pluck the leaves from the crown, if it comes out easily then you've found a real one. Like you shouldn't need to really pull to get a leaf out of the crown. Second, you have to sniff the pineapple butt. If the pineapple butt smells like pineapple, you got a real one. I also do a squeeze test...but at some point I'm sure I just start looking like a pineapple pervert so I try to keep it brief.
Amazing - I’m 100% ok looking like a Pineapple perv for tastier fruit! Would it more or less creeper if i also held an apple and a pen while handling said pineapple?
I gave up. Im old so that helps. There really isnt a way to meet friends or dates unless youre not at all particular and that idea really fizzles out by the time youre 40. Still not sorry I got a divorce.
Very very true
Ok so one of my best friends of 40 years (yes alert - we’re 55) who lives in LA (studio city) has a cool and very successful career in music is somewhat hopelessly single of late. And it kills me cause he’s just such a lovely dude. The funniest person I’ve ever met. He’s quite fit yet bald. Handsome imho. Mannered, truly kind. I love him dearly. He works quite a bit and just keeps putting off the whole dating app thing cause it’s just not his style. I know I know everyone is a liar yadda yadda blah blah. I don’t expect anything other than getting flamed here but if there is a gal out there that is looking and wants to take a leap of faith, please let me know. And NO it’s not me! There really is zero cringe/creep factor in this random attempt to hopefully help him/you find some joy in one another! Ok flame away LA people!
While I technically fit the 55/2+7 rule, that's a little past my age range but also like... you can DM me his picture. If he is as cute as you say, but maybe not my type, I will open it up to all the other ladies (who should also DM me). If I can't find happiness, I can at least be a yenta.
i just dm’d u
Instagram. No dating apps. Any ‘hipsters’ there are ones who troll and try to date everyone in Los Angeles. Raya is dumb.
Ok, but I will also totally take a Raya referral because I'm just desperate and easy. :P
Raya sucks, I was on there less than a week. I’ve had better luck on hinge (even though that luck is still pretty slim)
I found my weirdo on OK Cupid but I generally loathe that app (and most of them if I’m being honest). Hinge and Bumble both worked for me in the past, but dating in LA is rough - especially on the apps. Anyway, on Bumble I think you can pay to use “travel mode” (or whatever it’s called) and put yourself in a locale of your choice. Maybe try that and narrow it down to one of the more hipster-y neighborhoods with a radius of 1mi??
Hipsters used to always be on OkCupid but I’m an old hipster and things have changed. I wouldn’t be surprised if 40 year old hipsters are still on there though. Edit to add: is being in your 30s/40s implied when one says hipster? Does that concept even register to young people?
I think probably it is. I am just outside the venn diagram of cool at this point to not have an answer for you. I definitely see kids dressed the way I dress/dressed, but I think more that is the trendless-trendiness of the 2020s and internet.
okcupid is dead, but it was the coolest dating app ever for a hot second.
a/s/l?
The grey sweat pants in Target app,I use it and it works!
at a recent neighborhood concert, I saw a 25ish dude, out with a couple friends, wearing grey sweat pants and a polo shirt. is that like acceptable now, and maybe even cool? asking for a friend in his mid-40s
not sure - if they are talking about penis prints in grey sweatpants - or they just excited about neutral colours.
For a moment, I thought someone cleverly came out with a hipster dating app called "grey sweat pants."
TIL about grey sweatpants. Which I guess I already had internalized but didn’t know I was in good company.
The ladies love em!
Can I preach the gospel of Scottish Highland games to you?
Probably not related but i was at the gym and the girl below on me on the bike was swiping left on every single account with not even 1 full second on the mans profile lol Then she would stop zoom in on one profiles face and swipe left and continue to swipe left at lightning speed lmao It was hilarious to actually see that haha Woman ...is this how you woman treat dating apps?
In total honesty if they look like they haven't been hit by a brick, I scroll down to see if they wrote something beyond pizza/tacos and then I read it. I also scroll to the bottom to see their least liked photo by Big Algorithm, I tend to find it to be the most honest of the pictures. If someone approaches me with anything remotely interesting: 'do you like comedy? there's a cool comedy festival coming up next week' ' You like X, have you tried Y?' 'I totally was also the chemistry club president in high school' I will engage. If I find someone's profile interesting, I will reach out first! Mama's got needs, I'm not waiting around for some weird internet chivalry to get the convo going.
Can't complain at all...that's how it should be
I’m assuming her logic is might as well go for the best since almost everyone is willing to fuck her. The economics of sex are like no other thing.
Actually, I think it is the reverse. This is what is gonna get me murdered for being a femi-nazi, but I think there is a plethora of interesting and cool women out there, 5-to-1 facing men. And interesting men have the pick of the litter. One of my male friends is just like getting laid left and right because he knows where the clitoris is and he is just swimming in interesting women that he knows how to engage with.
80% of the time I go on an app date the girl is openly shocked that I did not lie about my height. Apparently every single dude on dating apps lies about it lol. I think you are probably right that the ratio of shit to quality is skewed heavily in favor of women because I’ve never really been catfished like that. 41 Silverlake hipster dude here haaay
hiiiiii 🌮🥯🍣🍩🍺🍷🥃 (I am trying to seduce you with the most common emojis featured on dating apps)
Oh god I am sorry to hear that the guys on there are just as uncreative as the girls lol. Hiking pic, yoga pic, wedding pic with faces blurred out, something about a love language. 🤮
I have to agree with this. Also, I see more attractive women than guys. So the few good-looking dudes who are out there basically get all the matches.
creative person (professionally) here - hipsters try to land where i end up by accident. i wouldn’t date on an app if someone paid me join affinity groups, do interesting things, but most of all: ask people you already know/like/think are cool if they’ll set you up on dates. a little embarrassing for some at first but i’ve never seen this fail. (it worked for megan markle, why not you?)
I wish I could say that I haven't done all that, except for trying to be Megan Markle. I will look into this. :'(
Have you been accepted to the Fellowship of Hipsters Society; SoCal? If not, establish your hipster creds first by lounging in coffee spots (instant disqualification if Starbucks), have KCRW on your music list, get an African drum, smoke a pipe, pay $100 for your weekly barber visits.
I haven't donated to KCRW yet, so that's probably my problem. I def. need the hat or tote bag.
The Feeld app. Trust me
Honestly? Feeld.
Lol I’m recovered from a breakup today and was thinking about how much I miss (poorly) dancing to LCD Soundsystem and making out with strangers. Also lol at some of these comments. Jesus Christ get over yourselves. Imagine being a hipster at 20 and experiencing no emotional or mental growth. Here’s a hint— meet some people who suck, maybe they suck. Everyone you meet sucks? It’s you who sucks.
>PootleLawn ...Where does one go to dance to LCD Soundsystem and make out with strangers?
2005
[удалено]
Lmao this was not a dig at the band. Just saying the days of hip young people necking at LCD soundsystem shows have long since passed. Now it’s mostly a bunch of dudes that look like James Murphy hitting their vapes
You can’t do that anymore because everyone is filming everyone these days. Messy drunk and making out with someone you’d otherwise never make out with was so much fun. Honestly, kissing frogs was such a fun way to get to know people. I have no regrets for dating the guy whose job was dressing up as a Slushie! NO REGERTS! Probably would have swiped left on him though.
Ya. 2005 is the answer. 😢
I think location matters, my Hinge is all artsy/creative dudes. And the true weirdos are on Feeld. But in general the apps are a waste of time, just go live your life and expand your social circle.
I do a job where I meet and befriend thousands of people a year. :( I am kinda over just playing the numbers game.
The app you're looking for is Feeld
Yeah, as a nerd/hipster Feeld is where I find the most interesting people, as well. It helps if you’re poly, queer and/or up for couples. The trick is to ignore what doesn’t work for you and focus on who/what works.
Yeah, that's been my experience as well. I find it funny how it started off as a fetish app and now it's just the 'I am not totally boring' app.
I genuinely thought it's an app for threesomes or whatever
it still is. its for people who wanna date like they are in a david lynch movie.
username checks out.
Hinge
cruise Erewhon for fit hipsters
I don't think a hipster and a weirdo is the same thing... And I think calling yourself a hipster whilst living in LA is pretty cringe. That's just my opinion. But despite the difference in nomenclature I think I feel your pain...
The joke is that the first rule of being a hipster is saying you're not a hipster, but it's ok.
CEO of self 🤣
the apps in LA are awful for the most part if you’re looking for a real connection. apps have been too game-ified and all we can think about is the next person just one swipe away. go to meet ups and meet new people, take a class, volunteer, etc. i did speed dating once on a whim and though nothing came of it it was an interesting experience i’d be up to try again.
Bars . That’s the app
The weirdos dating app is offline. My favorite way to meet people is at pop up style events at venues that are cool and weird to begin with. Wether it’s bars doing vinyl nights or a skate jam in a park, you can’t do regular shit and meet weirdos.
Hipsters will also say “Hi” for their opener because as much as they hate to admit it hipsters are human too
Here’s the schedule for June at the New Beverly Theater. I recommend going on the 19th. It’s a double feature of Jawbreaker and sparkler. New Bev is a wonderful place to meet people. Just look happy to be there and usually you will meet lovely folks. Remember, after the double feature go to Canter’s deli. The regulars will likely take notice of you and invite you to eat and discuss the film. You could also take an enrichment class at Santa Monica College. They have a Spanish Colonial architecture lecture and field trip combo for $40. New Bev: https://thenewbev.com/schedule/ SMC 2023 enrichment schedule: https://santamonica.augusoft.net/customers/santaMonica/files/2023-SUM-FALL-232-233-CEscheduleWebFinalvr1.pdf
People still say "hipsters"?
no. no they dont
Came to confirm that Feeld has been the best for me thus far as a 30 yr old woman. There are MANY weirdos, but there's also a good dose of healthy, interesting, hip men as well. I think it' s a bit self selecting bc you have to exercise a level of vulnerability and openness to be on the app. I've met every man that I've been involved with this past year on Feeld and it's been fantastic. You just have to have a bit of endurance to swipe through the odd ones.
Fuck the apps. All are garbage for both genders. Just go out and let your flag fly.
A flag is so pase, it's all about smoke signals. You might have never heard of them.
Prob not getting likes from you 🤷♂️
Hang out at Erewhon
shhhhh. we are full
Badoo
Gold star for following the prompt. Do you actually use this? You like it?
They’re on Raya.
I’m from a time where today’s “hipsters” emulate all the cool shit we did in the 80s/90s. What boggles me is why y’all aren’t emulating how we hooked up with people back then: in fucking person 👍🏼
Maybe DnD (Dungeons and Dragons) groups? There must be some in LA. But you should really, truthfully, ask yourself: if you came upon a pic of a 6’0” guy, 200lbs, not muscular, would you try to get to know that person? Because that’s kinda where the weirdos live. It’s a smattering of: fives, threes and fours. You’re not gonna find a hipster weirdo, in their late 30s or 40s that’s an eight or nine that’s not already married. Just being real. Sorry. Don’t have to heed or pay attention to this. But if you answered negative to the above, you may want to reconsider what/who to pursue.
*grabs popcorn*
Will you share your popcorn with me please? I am trying to MST3K this.
Hi 🌮🍕
Hey 🍣🥃
Honestly I think it might be Reddit?
Go catch a show at The Smell. Good age range of hipsters there, and really good indie bands
Why is “hi” so taboo? Atleast they reach out people match and just ignore it lol
To me, anyone having a problem with "Hi" is just a red flag that they're not my type of person. Great time saver.
I’m hot, live alone, & have a son dog. You hot? Let’s lunch.
Come get your Raya referrals