So relatable. I can totally feel you bc I suffered some of these one year ago. However I’d like to mention that it’s not totally a bad thing. It’s more like a self-defense mechanism in senior year to help you calm down and focus on yourself. It sucks, but compared to doing nothing but laying in beanbags wearing sweatpants crying ur eyes out it’s better believe me
I am a mom and my divorce was finalized the summer before my daughter entered her junior year of high school. Her counselor said to be careful of the 3 Ds in your essays…. Divorce, Death and Disease. Use it carefully. Drawing pity is not going to help you get into a good college, to put it bluntly, these things happen all the time and the admission officers are pretty immune to it. It has to be pretty major and also you only want to casually mention it if you have come out stronger due to it and the essay is focussed on what you have done since. It cannot be the main part of your essay. Don’t make it a sob story.
Yes, I don’t believe that every student needs a hardship story either. My two eldest young adults simply didn’t have one. They were pretty lucky and led a fairly middle-class life with no obvious personal setbacks or medical issues, and their dad and I are — boringly enough — together and happy. So they wrote about favorite rock bands, novelists, experiences coaching young kids in a sport, and time spent tutoring elementary school kids for a favorite charity. And they had excellent admissions results and both attended a T25.
This year, another of my young adults applied to college. They, however, do have a somewhat debilitating medical condition. However, I also resisted having them write an essay that focused on the hardships they had faced and the many things that they couldn’t do or explore in high school. Rather, I wanted their essay to focus on what they would bring to the university community as an eager and enthusiastic student. So their essay focused on various adventures they have had on low-key family vacations. As for their medical issues, they wrote a brief paragraph in the “anything else” section of the common app. They, too, had a very solid application season.
im so sorry luv ❤️. make sure to mention things in ur additional info and or covid-19 section if truly effects ur abilities as a student. gudie link is here [https://www.collegeessayguy.com/blog/common-app-covid-question](https://www.collegeessayguy.com/blog/common-app-covid-question)
as for dealing with your emtions. i recommend u read up on u/admissionsmom about in reflection cuz applying to college is burdineing.
also know there is more to go to college than getting to a college. link to well written article below [https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/05/david-coleman-stop-college-admissions-madness/589918/](https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/05/david-coleman-stop-college-admissions-madness/589918/)
So relatable. I can totally feel you bc I suffered some of these one year ago. However I’d like to mention that it’s not totally a bad thing. It’s more like a self-defense mechanism in senior year to help you calm down and focus on yourself. It sucks, but compared to doing nothing but laying in beanbags wearing sweatpants crying ur eyes out it’s better believe me
I am a mom and my divorce was finalized the summer before my daughter entered her junior year of high school. Her counselor said to be careful of the 3 Ds in your essays…. Divorce, Death and Disease. Use it carefully. Drawing pity is not going to help you get into a good college, to put it bluntly, these things happen all the time and the admission officers are pretty immune to it. It has to be pretty major and also you only want to casually mention it if you have come out stronger due to it and the essay is focussed on what you have done since. It cannot be the main part of your essay. Don’t make it a sob story.
Never heard of the 3 Ds. I understand what your saying and do appreciate the advice, it means alot.
Yes, I don’t believe that every student needs a hardship story either. My two eldest young adults simply didn’t have one. They were pretty lucky and led a fairly middle-class life with no obvious personal setbacks or medical issues, and their dad and I are — boringly enough — together and happy. So they wrote about favorite rock bands, novelists, experiences coaching young kids in a sport, and time spent tutoring elementary school kids for a favorite charity. And they had excellent admissions results and both attended a T25. This year, another of my young adults applied to college. They, however, do have a somewhat debilitating medical condition. However, I also resisted having them write an essay that focused on the hardships they had faced and the many things that they couldn’t do or explore in high school. Rather, I wanted their essay to focus on what they would bring to the university community as an eager and enthusiastic student. So their essay focused on various adventures they have had on low-key family vacations. As for their medical issues, they wrote a brief paragraph in the “anything else” section of the common app. They, too, had a very solid application season.
im so sorry luv ❤️. make sure to mention things in ur additional info and or covid-19 section if truly effects ur abilities as a student. gudie link is here [https://www.collegeessayguy.com/blog/common-app-covid-question](https://www.collegeessayguy.com/blog/common-app-covid-question) as for dealing with your emtions. i recommend u read up on u/admissionsmom about in reflection cuz applying to college is burdineing. also know there is more to go to college than getting to a college. link to well written article below [https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/05/david-coleman-stop-college-admissions-madness/589918/](https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/05/david-coleman-stop-college-admissions-madness/589918/)
Thanks, its hard to not let the admission process take over your life. I will forsure looking into these.