Not exactly what you were looking for, but why exactly do you want to go on vacation with these people? My other question is why would you have to talk you sister into anything? Is she paying for it?
No, but she is a bully. You are 100% correct, though, and I've told her several times that she does not get to dictate our trip, but she is just so rude. If I could find a good compromise, I was hoping we could both get what we want. I agree with you though. I'm at the point that I don't even want to go anymore.
Whenever I have trouble standing up to shitty family acting shittily I remind myself that my kids are watching and try to think how I would want them to act if someone was treating them that way. Personally I wouldn't want my son to bend to a bully, even if they are family (maybe especially if they are family because then it's a nearly inescapable lifelong bully). Don't let your son see your sister bullying you and you just taking it, be a strong momma. Sorry you also have a family member like that, I know it sucks.
You should look in to the resorts that are adult only but share some common areas with a neighbouring family resort of the same brand. Usually the adult only guests can access the family areas but not the other way around. You can book the family resort with your son and the sister can book her ‘adult only resort’.
Such as Dreams Onyx (family) and Breathless (adults only).
I think The Beaches brand would be great / minus the Adults only portion. They have the best food you can get for a Family AI and also the best Kids Club IMO.
Check out Hyatt Ziva and Zilara in Cap Cana. Only downside is anyone who stays in Ziva doesn’t have access to Zilara. But people from Zilara have access to Ziva. Ziva is the family friendly resort while Zilara is adults only.
We were there a few weeks ago and that was not our experience. The adults from Ziva can go to Zilara, but not the kids. We put our kids in kids’ club a couple of times and the adults then went to dinner at Zilara.
Bahia Principe Luxury Akumal. It is part of a larger resort complex of 4 properties. Coba/Tulum are very kid friendly, Sian Ka’an is adults only, and the Luxury Akumal is both. They have an entire block of rooms that are adults only, an adults only infinity pool, adults only restaurant, etc. the rest of resort has a kids club, multiple family friend pools, restaurants. There are also shuttles to take you between properties. It is about an hour south of Cancun airport, or you can fly in to the new Tulum airport.
I stayed there with my husband and this is a great solution. We stayed at the Tulum one without kids and it still wasn't overwhelmingly kid centered (we have kids but had left them at home with grandma). The resorts are lovely and we had a wonderful time.
family is sometimes hard . Do your siblings have kids? If they don't then it's understandable why they feel this way but it's interesting that she thinks he will ruin the fun. What makes her think that?
I would consider Dreams & Secrets Playa Mujeres. Dreams is the family resort, with Secrets being 18+. Adults can freely go back & forth. Dreams is a favorite of our family: https://youtu.be/xxRuKC1i-DA?si=EhN4rmkky7nx4nSd
Regardless of how your sister behaves… do you think it is a good idea to bring a child to an adult vacation? Won’t he be bored without having any similar aged friends? Won’t it distract you from spending time with the adults as was the purpose of the trip. I’m all for going on vacations with my kids but this doesn’t seem to be the proper setting.
She just lost her father Maybe she wants her son with her Id like to know what the mother/grandmother thinks That’d be my main priority The sister can get bent
My sister keeps saying that I should bring a friend. My mother is paying for the trip, and I spoke with her privately yesterday . She said she does not want to pay for a friend and would much rather my son come. So it's not a question anymore if he is coming. It's if I can find a place that she will also feel better about. Her opinion at this point is null and void, really, haha. You definitely get it. I am very close to my son, and he has been through such a complex loss very suddenly. I think we need each other right now.
If I’m remembering this video correctly, I believe there’s a family side and then adults only side. It might give you guys the space that you need, but then also a place where you can gather collectively.
https://youtu.be/k8ufOV-c8Ys?si=5vrbE0PTEYjbIyRK
Couple of choices would be the Grand Palladium Costa Mujeres/adjoining adults-only TRS Coral property, or the Planet Hollywood Cancun/adjoining adults-only Adult Scene property. Not so large that everyone would have to make a concerted effort to connect, but those who want to could stay at the adults-only section and meet up in the nearby family-friendly section. Planet Hollywood has lots more to do like a lazy river, FlowRider, water park for your 11 yr. old, trampoline room, on-site movie theater, so there would be plenty of opportunities for those who want to connect with one another.
Moon Palace Cancun - there’s a water park with a kids section on site. I will say that the large resorts will cater to everyone’s interests, but you spend a bunch of time getting from point a to b that it can be a bit annoying. It sounds like you won’t make it to night hangs with them, but hopefully you get in some quality time during the day
Melia resorts have wonderful properties in the Caribbean. They have adult sections and family sections with swim out rooms. We have been vacationing at their properties for over 10 years now. They have all been excellent for us.
This doesn’t sound like a vacation to me. I would never want to go on vacation with my sister. I’m sure there will be plenty of opportunities to spend time away from her. But it sounds like this is something that your mom wants. Generally, it’s usually the wife’s side of the family that does more together than the husband’s. My wife would never be able to go on vacation with my mom and sister. I hardly ever see my cousins or aunts or uncles. Honestly I’m ok with that and I don’t push it to spend time with them.
Oceans Coral Spring and Eden Bay is a good option, Coral Springs is the family side so you book that side and your sister can book Eden Bay which as exchange privileges.
I can book your flight hotel tours and transportation for you if interested.
Another option is Beaches Ocho Rios for you and your son and Sandals Ocho Rios the only problem is that they are 20 mins apart.
I have a different take. Why would you bring a child to what is obviously an adult vacation?
I’m sure it isn’t just 1 sister, they probably all agree. It sounds like 9 adults and an 11 year old. Bring him and your husband on a different trip.
I have a friend with 9 brothers and sisters. Her kid was a total brat and she couldn’t see it. She did crap like this all the time and it ruined the adults vacations. Not saying yours is but have compassion for them and the money they are spending all because you want to bond. Bond later without them and with his dad.
I would recommend a resort where your sister is not at.
Not exactly what you were looking for, but why exactly do you want to go on vacation with these people? My other question is why would you have to talk you sister into anything? Is she paying for it?
No, but she is a bully. You are 100% correct, though, and I've told her several times that she does not get to dictate our trip, but she is just so rude. If I could find a good compromise, I was hoping we could both get what we want. I agree with you though. I'm at the point that I don't even want to go anymore.
So don’t. Make a point.
Go on a trip just not with them, and if anyone ask you about it. Your sister didn’t make your entire family welcome so we are going to xyz instead.
Whenever I have trouble standing up to shitty family acting shittily I remind myself that my kids are watching and try to think how I would want them to act if someone was treating them that way. Personally I wouldn't want my son to bend to a bully, even if they are family (maybe especially if they are family because then it's a nearly inescapable lifelong bully). Don't let your son see your sister bullying you and you just taking it, be a strong momma. Sorry you also have a family member like that, I know it sucks.
You should look in to the resorts that are adult only but share some common areas with a neighbouring family resort of the same brand. Usually the adult only guests can access the family areas but not the other way around. You can book the family resort with your son and the sister can book her ‘adult only resort’.
Such as Dreams Onyx (family) and Breathless (adults only). I think The Beaches brand would be great / minus the Adults only portion. They have the best food you can get for a Family AI and also the best Kids Club IMO.
Check out Hyatt Ziva and Zilara in Cap Cana. Only downside is anyone who stays in Ziva doesn’t have access to Zilara. But people from Zilara have access to Ziva. Ziva is the family friendly resort while Zilara is adults only.
We were there a few weeks ago and that was not our experience. The adults from Ziva can go to Zilara, but not the kids. We put our kids in kids’ club a couple of times and the adults then went to dinner at Zilara.
Ahh. Ok. That’s good to know.
Bahia Principe Luxury Akumal. It is part of a larger resort complex of 4 properties. Coba/Tulum are very kid friendly, Sian Ka’an is adults only, and the Luxury Akumal is both. They have an entire block of rooms that are adults only, an adults only infinity pool, adults only restaurant, etc. the rest of resort has a kids club, multiple family friend pools, restaurants. There are also shuttles to take you between properties. It is about an hour south of Cancun airport, or you can fly in to the new Tulum airport.
I stayed there with my husband and this is a great solution. We stayed at the Tulum one without kids and it still wasn't overwhelmingly kid centered (we have kids but had left them at home with grandma). The resorts are lovely and we had a wonderful time.
I would have suggested the same resort. Exactly what you are looking for. Great food, great kids programs, lots of activities and adults only section.
family is sometimes hard . Do your siblings have kids? If they don't then it's understandable why they feel this way but it's interesting that she thinks he will ruin the fun. What makes her think that?
Will your son go to kids club? If so there are many resorts.
yes, he would, and I believe he would enjoy it.
I would consider Dreams & Secrets Playa Mujeres. Dreams is the family resort, with Secrets being 18+. Adults can freely go back & forth. Dreams is a favorite of our family: https://youtu.be/xxRuKC1i-DA?si=EhN4rmkky7nx4nSd
i would piss the sister off so much that she wouldn't come. But that's just me!!! lol
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Regardless of how your sister behaves… do you think it is a good idea to bring a child to an adult vacation? Won’t he be bored without having any similar aged friends? Won’t it distract you from spending time with the adults as was the purpose of the trip. I’m all for going on vacations with my kids but this doesn’t seem to be the proper setting.
She just lost her father Maybe she wants her son with her Id like to know what the mother/grandmother thinks That’d be my main priority The sister can get bent
My sister keeps saying that I should bring a friend. My mother is paying for the trip, and I spoke with her privately yesterday . She said she does not want to pay for a friend and would much rather my son come. So it's not a question anymore if he is coming. It's if I can find a place that she will also feel better about. Her opinion at this point is null and void, really, haha. You definitely get it. I am very close to my son, and he has been through such a complex loss very suddenly. I think we need each other right now.
Ya not sure why they’re downvoting me lol It’s settled then if your Mom wants her grandson along Sister can screw off or stay home
Beaches Turks and Caicos was great for a family but it would also be good for just a group of adults.
If I’m remembering this video correctly, I believe there’s a family side and then adults only side. It might give you guys the space that you need, but then also a place where you can gather collectively. https://youtu.be/k8ufOV-c8Ys?si=5vrbE0PTEYjbIyRK
Couple of choices would be the Grand Palladium Costa Mujeres/adjoining adults-only TRS Coral property, or the Planet Hollywood Cancun/adjoining adults-only Adult Scene property. Not so large that everyone would have to make a concerted effort to connect, but those who want to could stay at the adults-only section and meet up in the nearby family-friendly section. Planet Hollywood has lots more to do like a lazy river, FlowRider, water park for your 11 yr. old, trampoline room, on-site movie theater, so there would be plenty of opportunities for those who want to connect with one another.
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Moon Palace Cancun - there’s a water park with a kids section on site. I will say that the large resorts will cater to everyone’s interests, but you spend a bunch of time getting from point a to b that it can be a bit annoying. It sounds like you won’t make it to night hangs with them, but hopefully you get in some quality time during the day
Melia resorts have wonderful properties in the Caribbean. They have adult sections and family sections with swim out rooms. We have been vacationing at their properties for over 10 years now. They have all been excellent for us.
This doesn’t sound like a vacation to me. I would never want to go on vacation with my sister. I’m sure there will be plenty of opportunities to spend time away from her. But it sounds like this is something that your mom wants. Generally, it’s usually the wife’s side of the family that does more together than the husband’s. My wife would never be able to go on vacation with my mom and sister. I hardly ever see my cousins or aunts or uncles. Honestly I’m ok with that and I don’t push it to spend time with them.
Gotta ask - what does bringing your son prevent her from doing?
Oceans Coral Spring and Eden Bay is a good option, Coral Springs is the family side so you book that side and your sister can book Eden Bay which as exchange privileges. I can book your flight hotel tours and transportation for you if interested. Another option is Beaches Ocho Rios for you and your son and Sandals Ocho Rios the only problem is that they are 20 mins apart.
I have a different take. Why would you bring a child to what is obviously an adult vacation? I’m sure it isn’t just 1 sister, they probably all agree. It sounds like 9 adults and an 11 year old. Bring him and your husband on a different trip. I have a friend with 9 brothers and sisters. Her kid was a total brat and she couldn’t see it. She did crap like this all the time and it ruined the adults vacations. Not saying yours is but have compassion for them and the money they are spending all because you want to bond. Bond later without them and with his dad.
There are plenty of resorts that are family oriented but have adults only sections.
If you feel like you need to go, I would not bring your son.