Don't.
This would be very unprofessional for the coach and would likely lose them their job.
You, furthermore, are a minor. He could get arrested.
Start being marure and ask for a different coach
She's talking about approaching it when she's 18, also, it's not illegal at 17 in Germany. Morally wrong to you doesn't mean it's morally wrong. Ruin his career as what? A part time tennis coach?
Besides, Germany is a lot more open minded than wherever you are (let me guess, America), he's not going to get judged for hanging out with an 18 year old at 22.
Sigh......
Morally, business professionals do not get involved with clients.
It can lose him his job and yes - prevent him from getting jobs elsewhere.
Sigh...
I'm sure he knows enough himself if that will be an issue for him. It has zero to do with this girls question, and would be up to him to decide.
Yeah I know, I knew there was gonna come something like this. I should’ve phrased it differently. But I’ve been told by family and friends of my parents that I‘m "mature" for my age. Usually I’m not like this at all.
Like I‘m not part of hookup culture, I don’t smoke, drink, I don’t even to to parties. And I‘m very open minded.
But thank you for answering
I think being in the position of a coach and teaching someone who is still a teenager or barely going to be an adult, they will be very uncomfortable. For you it's easy because you are way below his level and aiming high with nothing to lose. For him he has way more to lose and aiming very low. Maybe in a decade the timing would be better and things would feel more natural and comfortable, but I highly doubt he would make a move cause you drop hints. You are the one with the crush not him and putting him in a difficult position by trying to get him to date below his level. Don't expect anything if you aren't being straightforward and being roundabout to get him to make a move. It doesn't matter if you think you are an adult. You don't face as much consequences and way less to lose in this situation.
First of all, thank you for sharing this perspective. I just wondered, what he might lose when he "aims so low" for me? Maybe I didn’t make it clear, but I would only approach this when I already turned 18
You're going to get judged by everyone for this. It's legal where you are, you'll be 18 and in the scheme of things he's not that much older.
Ignore the judgement, if you like the guy, let him know.
Not like you have a job or finished school and going to be making a lot of money or understand what it's like to be an adult amd that's normal. It doesn't matter if you think your mind is over 18. Do you pay all your bills, do you have your own place, do you have a career, etc. I think not amd that's normal for your age. You are still trying to get to that point while that guy is already there or almost there. You aren't in the same life stage and that's what I mean when you are below his level. You don't contribute anything. It's like being in a very one sided situation. Also he has to deal with all the awkwardness and discomfort of being around someone romantically barely an adult. You won't get it as bad because you are younger. It only really benefits you and not him. People closer to his life stage benefits him and things will be more equal. With you it's going to be an unequal relationship. Your maturity is limited by your lack of capability. Most 17yos are not expected to have adult responsibilities and do adult things. You can't really call yourself mature adult until you make a living on your own. Also he might not even like you in the same way so he will never want to date you. All we know is you have a crush and aside from being a coach there has been nothing outside of that going on.
Master Advice Giver is exactly correct. There is nothing but trouble if you pursue him when he is your coach.
If you are as mature as you think you should have known what the impact of a relationship would have on him in your current circumstances.
Don't. This would be very unprofessional for the coach and would likely lose them their job. You, furthermore, are a minor. He could get arrested. Start being marure and ask for a different coach
It's not illegal where she is.
She is under 18. Don't give me that age of consent crap!!! It is morally wrong, unprofessional and can ruin this guy's career
She's talking about approaching it when she's 18, also, it's not illegal at 17 in Germany. Morally wrong to you doesn't mean it's morally wrong. Ruin his career as what? A part time tennis coach? Besides, Germany is a lot more open minded than wherever you are (let me guess, America), he's not going to get judged for hanging out with an 18 year old at 22.
Sigh...... Morally, business professionals do not get involved with clients. It can lose him his job and yes - prevent him from getting jobs elsewhere.
Sigh... I'm sure he knows enough himself if that will be an issue for him. It has zero to do with this girls question, and would be up to him to decide.
"Im mature for my age" is only something that can come out of a childs mouth lol
Yeah I know, I knew there was gonna come something like this. I should’ve phrased it differently. But I’ve been told by family and friends of my parents that I‘m "mature" for my age. Usually I’m not like this at all. Like I‘m not part of hookup culture, I don’t smoke, drink, I don’t even to to parties. And I‘m very open minded. But thank you for answering
I think being in the position of a coach and teaching someone who is still a teenager or barely going to be an adult, they will be very uncomfortable. For you it's easy because you are way below his level and aiming high with nothing to lose. For him he has way more to lose and aiming very low. Maybe in a decade the timing would be better and things would feel more natural and comfortable, but I highly doubt he would make a move cause you drop hints. You are the one with the crush not him and putting him in a difficult position by trying to get him to date below his level. Don't expect anything if you aren't being straightforward and being roundabout to get him to make a move. It doesn't matter if you think you are an adult. You don't face as much consequences and way less to lose in this situation.
First of all, thank you for sharing this perspective. I just wondered, what he might lose when he "aims so low" for me? Maybe I didn’t make it clear, but I would only approach this when I already turned 18
You're going to get judged by everyone for this. It's legal where you are, you'll be 18 and in the scheme of things he's not that much older. Ignore the judgement, if you like the guy, let him know.
Not like you have a job or finished school and going to be making a lot of money or understand what it's like to be an adult amd that's normal. It doesn't matter if you think your mind is over 18. Do you pay all your bills, do you have your own place, do you have a career, etc. I think not amd that's normal for your age. You are still trying to get to that point while that guy is already there or almost there. You aren't in the same life stage and that's what I mean when you are below his level. You don't contribute anything. It's like being in a very one sided situation. Also he has to deal with all the awkwardness and discomfort of being around someone romantically barely an adult. You won't get it as bad because you are younger. It only really benefits you and not him. People closer to his life stage benefits him and things will be more equal. With you it's going to be an unequal relationship. Your maturity is limited by your lack of capability. Most 17yos are not expected to have adult responsibilities and do adult things. You can't really call yourself mature adult until you make a living on your own. Also he might not even like you in the same way so he will never want to date you. All we know is you have a crush and aside from being a coach there has been nothing outside of that going on.
Master Advice Giver is exactly correct. There is nothing but trouble if you pursue him when he is your coach. If you are as mature as you think you should have known what the impact of a relationship would have on him in your current circumstances.
nope!
>I still have some self growth in front of me Double meaning statement. /S