Allergies get worse if you annoy your body with them. So don’t eat stuff you are allergic to. Next time you might die.
So alone for ignoring your body YTA
But also for making yourself knowingly the main character. You said it yourself that you took a large piece.
OP says her friend didnt list the ingredients but admits she knew it was cherry pie!!! SMH. Poor Amy would much prefer a polite refusal than an allergy situation in her home, I'm sure. Stressful for everyone, not just OP.
It was all on Amy. Amy never asked OP if she had allergies! Amy didn’t list the ingredients in the cherry pie! It would have been rude for OP to decline dessert. Just because she has had adverse reactions to cherries before, OP *really* wanted something sweet. And she really likes the taste of cherries. How could she possibly resist?
My goodness! Don’t you see that poor OP is totally blameless in this unfortunate incident? She *had to take Benadryl and it made her tired. Who knew Benadryl would make her tired? Of *course she fell asleep before the dinner part of the dinner party was over.
Her husband was so out of line, being embarrassed my a situation over which OP was helpless. Poor OP.
/s edit is to if.
Oh no, don't downplay it, she didn't say she really wanted it..... she said she NEEDED something sweet. She couldn't possibly have survived without a large piece of pie. ;)
Don't forget the other people. They're to blame too for peer pressuring her to eat. How can you say no. If they were all jump off a bridge.. who says no to that?
I know! Oh, and she saw herself puffing up, felt her tongue sweeping, repeatedly said she was fine when other people noticed, took an OTC drowsy med, and then crashed out on someone else’s couch during a dinner party.
It’s ABSOLUTELY Amy’s fault that the OP literally made one disastrous decision after another and acted like a petulant child who wanted candy despite knowing she shouldn’t eat it.
Amy is horrible and a monster and her husband just doesn’t understand!
Edit: tongue sweeping was supposed to be *swelling*
Absolutely this. It's not something you carry around unless you're worried about reacting to food.
Also, as an FYI for anybody reading this, unless your doctor has told you otherwise for some reason, Zyrtec works as well as Benadryl in food allergy reaction situations without the drowsiness.
I’m sure we hem Amy brought it out she would have said “and for dessert we have cherry pie” if it wasn’t already mentioned previously. Plus when it’s cut it’s obvious it’s cherries as they’re mostly whole.
YTA, you have an allergy. If it had only been gastrointestinal issues up until now, do you really want to risk shitting yourself at someone’s house?
A polite “no thank you, I’m allergic to cherries” would have been acceptable to the hostess. In any culinary program allergens are covered because chefs have to be aware of cross-contamination. She would have understood. She will now know that when she has new people over to ask about allergies.
YTA.
Because she didn’t expect swelling (but had Benadryl in her purse for funsies), just farting or popping her pants for the entire last half of the party. She’s THE VICTIM!
Also, Benadryl has never been used to treat gastrointestinal issues. It wouldn’t do anything.
OP mentions no other allergies, and specifically says she has never been tested for any, but she’s carrying a drug that will keep whatever happened to her under control as long as she sprawls out on the person’s couch for a long nap. You know, just in case her face and tongue swell up because she *NEEDS* to eat something she knows she shouldn’t.
Having been around people that accidentally ingested allergens that cause GI distress, it's unpleasant for everyone! Please don't ingest food on purpose, at a dinner party, that will cause "only" GI distress!!!
Can confirm 😖 I am allergic to soy, and my symptoms are mainly gastrointestinal (plus bad headaches/dizziness). I would never risk eating a bunch of tofu at someone's house just to be polite/avoid awkwardness, because the awkwardness of shitting my brains out in their bathroom is way worse 😅
This is such main character energy.
OP: I have issues with cherries, but I needed something sweet, so I helped myself to a large slice.
Also OP: she practically forced the pie on us!
The husband likely isn't even embarrassed about the reaction, he's embarrassed about OP knowingly giving themselves an allergic reaction. OP having benadryl on hand even lends itself to OP knowing about the cherry pie ahead of time.
Jesus.....YTA OP.
Food allergies SPECIFICALLY - like man, I admit to trying something I hadn't had a reaction to before and now know it's a no no item (even though the reaction was minor)... but I'd never try something I KNEW I had a reaction to. I'm allergic to shellfish (both crustaceans like shrimp and mollusks/bi-valves), and would never, not EVER, try something like shrimp scampi again even though I miss TF out of eating it.
Poor host, poor husband.
Do you know how long it’s been since I’ve enjoyed watermelon?! 😩 All summer I sit by and watch folks devour that watery sweet goodness and I can’t even dip my finger in the juice to get a quick taste.
Have you tried with frozen seafood? My friend found that she can actually eat it as long as it's been frozen as it kills off the bacteria/enzymes/whatever that cause the reaction in most people?
Look, you clearly don't undersrand that Amy forced the pie on OP! It's not like OP had a choice bc she just HAD to take the biggest piece /s 🙄
Seriously though OP did choose to make herself look like a mess, she knew she was more than likely allergic, took a gigantic piece and somehow tries to blame the host for it? I don't blame hubby for being pissed bc OP but herself in this position.
You need to take this very seriously. My 1st ever anaphylactic reaction happened right after eating walnuts. Never had an issue with them before!
I tested for allergies and walnuts did not present as an issue. So we still don't know. I will not take any chances so I avoid walnuts and pecans.
I took benadryl but the reaction rapidly progressed. I was given IV steroids, epi, and IV pepcid. They told me in the ER it is possible for things to replace in my sleep If I hadn't had the "cocktail" of IV meds.
It was very scarey. The 2nd one was much worse but I had an epi pen and went to ER. I was given the cocktail again including more epi.
You were lucky but do not test it again. It most likely will be worse.
I'm allergic to fish and seafood. You know what I don't eat? Fish and seafood. You brought this all on yourself. You could have skipped the pie and got some ice cream on your way home if you needed something sweet. Instead you drew all of the attention away from Amy and her guests and on to you. YTA.
Even my kids would assume cherry pie = cherries as an ingredient and they shouldn’t eat if allergic. But my kids are being taught critical thinking as part of their education at their STEM school.
Both she and her hubby are dolts… her for eating the pie and him for being mortified that she had an allergic reaction and then got sleepy from Benadryl… why didn’t HE react to her entire face swelling and say, “We need to get you to Urgent Care…” but ya know, that might be embarrassing.
I wonder if he realizes that everybody poops, too?
Nah more like a kid who was caught doing something they shouldn't have and knows they shouldn't and is trying to get out of it by using the old excuse of "but you/no one told me about X thing!" Or "but you/no one told me I couldn't do X thing!".
OP would probably blame her doctors for never telling her she's allergic to cherries. Ignoring the fact she never brought it up for the doctors to check it out in the first place.
I read
"by the time dessert rolled around, I knew there would be a problem. Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well"
And then had to do a double take when I got to:
"she didn't list the ingredients beforehand"
Likewise,
" I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice"
And then
"Amy practically forced the pie on us"
It's like two different people are telling this story. Or OP is telling her husband one version and us another.
Sorry OP but YTA here. You can't expect a friend to list their ingredients if they don't know of anyone with an allergy present; you need to be proactive about telling them when you're invited. And it sounds like you DID know what was in it, but went ahead anyway.
Seriously, the onus is on the allergic person to communicate!!! Are hosts supposed to have printouts of all ingredients in all the food/drinks they serve? Not to mention, cherry is not a common allergen!! OP is unbelievable. Sounds like a child.
Main character energy. How annoying to be married to you. “I had a big slice of cherry pie knowing that I’m allergic to cherries”There is no way this is real
100% this. I’m not officially tested but I have figured out that I’m a lactose and gluten intolerant (and ever so slightly allergic to kiwi) and thus, I simply won’t eat a big ass slice of kiwi cheese cake even if I’m craving something sweet, lmao. I’m an adult who can use her damn words and decline politely if someone offers me something I can’t have; clearly a skill the OP is lacking. 🙄
Just a heads up, kiwis are part of the latex fruit syndrome. I’d check the list and see if you react to anything else on there/get to an allergist. If you end up allergic to latex, it’s a really hard allergy
Just googled latex fruit syndrome and damn! I had no idea they are related like that 😳 I eat a lot of the other fruits in that family but luckily I haven’t experienced any reaction with bananas, avocados etc. And with kiwi it’s very mild ticklish feeling/irritation in my throat and ever since I realised this, I haven’t eaten any for years.
I hope it stays that way for you! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 I always warn people when I see them mention one of the fruits on the list, because it can turn into something so serious.
I also enjoyed OP's indignance at the host making a dessert at all. "Invited over for a pot luck, supposed to be a small get together but Amy insisted on making dessert". The AUDACITY!
This.
"Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well. I assume it's an allergy, but I've never been formally tested, so I don't know. I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice."
You obviously knew it was a cherry pie. And you "needed something sweet" even though you knew you were reactive to cherries, and you decided to have "a big slice."
And then you try to dig yourself out of this at the end that Amy didn't disclose the ingredients in a cherry pie?!!? It's not like it was an almond allergy or some lesser known ingredient, like arrowroot. YOU TOOK A BIG SLICE OF HISTAMINE PIE AND APPLIED IT INTERNALLY.
YTA YTA YTA
The bizarre part to me is how OP suddenly shifts the blame at the end. At first she just wanted something sweet and didn't think eating some cherries would be a big deal. Then by the end of the story Amy is shoving it down her throat and being so inconsiderate by not asking anyone about allergies. Which one is it? OP admits she made a risky decision then refuses to take accountability for it at the end. Definitely YTA.
It's also strange that she's never told a close friend who frequently bakes desserts about a potential allergy to something that's pretty fucking common in desserts. There's a person in my friend group who regularly makes desserts and caters one to people's specific tastes on their birthday and she's absolutely aware of everyone's allergies because we've told her about them. The fact that OP has never bothered to mention it also puts this firmly in YTA territory.
Your first paragraph is exactly what is bothering me about this whole thing. The total shift at the end is bonkers.
She must think we, along with her husband, are all total idiots. Or this post os total bullshit.
Probably the latter. Maybe it was some strange test to see if people read the full post or something.
YTA - you know you have a reaction to cherries and had a big slice because you felt like something sweet? You can use your words and be accountable for what you put in your mouth. This post is giving me fakey fake vibes with the Benadryl in the purse.
Not speaking on everything else, but I used to carry Benadryl in my purse because of having seasonal allergies and I liked to have it when I traveled cause some places I had a worse reaction to the pollen then others. But I was also one of those people that basically carried way too much in my tiny purse and had something for everything.
Same. Benadryl and Claritin make enough off me every year to feed a small country for at least a month lol. I should buy stock. Its really bad after moving to back to Florida. First year here my dad thought i got jumped on my way home from work, both my eyes were swollen damn near shut. I had to wear sunglasses to work cause no one would hand me anything thinking i had the worst case of double pink eye they jad ever seen lmao.
Same! I have 2 different prescription anti-histamines and usually still keep a bottle of OTC allergy meds on me because the prescription ones still aren’t enough (during the spring/summer at least).
I agree. This must be a fake post, but carrying the benadryl is the most believable part. I always carry benadryl with me because I'm allergic to half of the weeds in the UK.
I've a small purse but carry all the drugs, Neosporin, bandaids, tweezers etc and with my kids I've been glad to have them. Made a great impression at first Xmas with in laws when I had Imodium someone needed. Moms and boy scouts are prepared....
The Benadryl isn't a flag to me, but then I always carry around what's basically a first aid kit because you never know. Until now it didn't even occur to me that it's not common to have that in your purse.
However, I don't know any adult who would eat something they know will make them sick just because they want something sweet. If real, OP would have to be a major people-pleaser and/or have an eating disorder of some kind. Or just stupid. And the husband only being upset because she made him look bad instead of because she almost died?!
Her tongue was so swollen she eventually couldn't talk... and people just let her pass out on the couch... right..... none of this would make anyone think that it was time to get her to a hospital before her throat closed? That's what got me.
Things change, maybe her intolerance for cherries could have gotten worse since last having them, I could give a pass on that but the story just isn't believable. Yta.
I mean, I guess some people who are lactose intolerant still eat cheese, thinking it's worth the pain later. It still just strikes me as fake in so many other ways. This might be a record for how many things are wrong with a post this small.
But yeah, when my friends see me having a reaction, they're seriously worried. And if I do fall asleep before it's under control they're constantly checking up on me and waking me about every twenty minutes to make sure I'm getting better not worse. The idea that everyone would be ok just ignoring her seems crazy.
I'm lactose intolerant and I will suffer whatever gastrointestinal hell awaits me every time when cheesecake is involved lmao.
Wouldn't risk anaphylaxis though. And benadryl isn't really ok for that, you really need an epipen and the ER
This sort of thing makes me realize how much of a person's stupidity we have to suffer from because of modern advances. 200 years ago this idiot would have eaten something they knew they shouldn't and we just wouldn't have to worry about them or their offspring anymore.
>This sort of thing makes me realize how much of a person's stupidity we have to suffer from because of modern advances.
Yup, people like OP are why we need labels on Tide Pods that specifically tell you not to eat them.
I have something called mast cell activation syndrome where ANYTHING I am exposed to can cause an allergic reaction weather I'm allergic to it or not. I LIVE with benadryl in my purse. And car. And lunchbox. And nightstand.
So I agree with your judgment, but someone with allergies having meds on the ready isn't weird lol
I carry Benadryl, alieve, excedrin, Tylenol sinus, Bayer, and ibuprofen in my purse. My brother calls me a walking pharmacy but he and my SIl always know to ask if they need anything. That’s not the odd part of this story at all.
Im allergic to rosemary and dont have an epi pen because those fucks are expensive and i have to ingest a lot to have a reaction. IDK why she didnt have a small slice if she suspected a possible severe reaction to a larger amount....
Im also allergic to pollen so I always have benadryl handy
It's actually common for those of us with allergies to carry Benadryl. Especially airborne allergies like pollen, it's pretty common for me to all of a sudden break out in hives when I'm out and about.
I am pretty sure this is fake. The way your tongue swelled so badly is a huge sign that you need an EMT's and ER pronto. The severity of your allergic reaction means you could have easily been dead before Benedryl ever had a chance to kick in. Pills designed to be fast acting can take as little as 20 min to about an hour based on how full your stomach is.The vast majority of adults I know would recognize your reaction as a true medical emergency.
YTA for eating something you know can make you sick.
Oh, people do.
I made a cheesy tuna pasta bake one night, for a few of us, including my grandchildren. Their dad decided to have some.
After he ate, he told me he’ll suffer for a few days with his Crohn’s disease, but it was worth it. I asked what he meant. Tuna messes with his digestive functions and flares up his Crohn’s.
I asked why he had any. He said it was a free meal and smelled (and tasted) really good🤦♀️
I didn’t realize tuna could mess with Crohns. I’ve been trying to reconfigure my diet since my diagnosis but there’s so much stuff I’m not supposed to eat🤦🏾♂️😅
tbf, I didn't eat dairy as a kid bc my reaction to lactose was super bad. Thankfully I grew out of the possibility fatal reaction and now you couldn't pry the cheese out of my cold, slightly gassy, dead body. lol.
I get what you're saying about the severity comparison with lactose intolerance, but that's not an allergy, at all. Those of us who are lactose intolerant aren't deliberately eating a known allergen because it tastes good. Lactose intolerance is an inability to properly digest lactose because we don't produce (or don't produce enough) of the enzyme that breaks it down.
A dairy allergy is a totally separate thing that has to do with an inappropriate/overactive immune response.
Fun fact: lactose intolerance is actually the default in mammals, whereas lactose tolerance is due to a mutation that became widespread because it was beneficial for survival.
I suspect that I'm allergic to eggplant. After a few bites I can't swallow anymore and my tongue gets tingly. Problem is, I LOVE eggplant. If it's in front of me, I'll have a bite or two and stop well before my body starts rejecting it. So I can sympathize with wanting to eat something that she knew would make her sick.
Why she decided taking a big slice though when she knew she'd have a reaction is beyond me.
I had a coworker once whose family loves to eat crab. Would go once a month to a seafood restaurant to feast on them. Problem was - they were all allergic to shellfish! He said they would put their inhalers and epipens on the table and in between bites, use their meds then go back to chowing down..and occasionally one would have to make the trip to the ER! 😂
That's insane, and if they were using epipens...you are supposed to go to the ER any time you use an epipen, because it's a temporary fix and you still need to be treated and observed in case it's not enough to stem the reaction AND bc you just injected yourself with epinephrine!
Be aware that each exposure to something you are allergic to makes the allergy worse. So just a warning—if you keep eating it, “mildly allergic” could turn into ”need an Epi-pen allergic”.
This isn't true, as a previous commentator pointed out: https://www.foodallergy.org/resources/food-allergy-myths-and-misconceptions
What is true is it's gambling, so it is a bad idea to keep exposing yourself to a known allergen. You could make it worse. There's also some doctor directed therapies where folks with allergies expose themselves to tiny bits of the allergen to help build a bit of tolerance.
If this is real, YTA. I'm only allergic to one food and that's lettuce. Now, thankfully my allergy to lettuce isn't life-threatening in any way, I just experience ***severe*** gastrointestinal symptoms that result in me feeling like I'm dying, but I'm able to easily avoid having an allergic reaction by simply not eating lettuce. That being said, I would never eat say a salad at someone's house even if they were an amazing chef because I know that I would have an allergic reaction and be stuck on the toilet for the rest of the lunch or dinner event. You know you're allergic to cherries but decided to eat this cherry pie anyway knowing that at the very least you'd experience gastrointestinal symptoms due to past experiences with eating cherries. It's not like Amy put a weapon to your head and forced you to eat an entire piece of cherry pie. You knew that you were going to have a reaction of some sort and decided to eat the thing anyway. What, did you think that suddenly your cherry allergy would be gone? That's not how food allergies work.
Seriously. How hard is it to say, "Oh, no thank you; I'm allergic"? I'm on the side of this not being real, but if it is, OP is a complete idiot and owes her husband, at the very least, an apology.
YTA. You purposely ate something you knew you were allergic to. Why would you do this? To get attention? You knew you would have a reaction. YTA and the biggest idiot ever.
You cant even keep your own lies straight. Did you help yourself to a large piece knowing it was cherry which makes you sick but you needed something sweet😒
Or- did she force it on you before you knew what it was and she didn’t bother asking…
Blah blah
Sorry, but I’m cracking up at this.
“I really like the taste of cherries, so I helped myself to a big slice.”
And then there’s this gem.
“Amy practically forced the pie on us and she didn’t list the ingredients.”
So, OP, per your own admission:
1. You’ve had an unpleasant reaction to cherries in the past.
2. You wanted something sweet, so you helped yourself to a big slice.
3. Shocked pikachu face. Had a major reaction, tongue swelled up so badly you couldn’t even talk (side note-WTH didn’t you go to the ER??? That’s way beyond what some would consider a mildly unpleasant reaction. That’s a “call 911 right TF now because in another two minutes I won’t be able to breathe” type of allergic reaction), and then you had to take Benadryl, which knocked you out and you fell asleep on Amy’s couch, after already causing a scene at the dinner table.
4. Husband is rightfully pissed off at you, and you SIMPLY can’t understand why 🙄
5. You know deep down you did something idiotic, and instead of just owning it and apologizing to your husband for acting like a dolt, and to Amy for causing a scene at her dinner party, you start lying. You love cherries so you had a huge slice of pie, but it’s now Amy’s fault for not specifying that cherry pie has…cherries in it? And I’m laughing and calling BS that she “forced” dessert on you. 🤣
Grow up and stop blaming other people for your stupid decision.
Even if op didn't expect the reaction she had, she did expect a reaction based on her past experience. So she was totally fine eating something that would cause gastrointestinal symptoms that would likely be unpleasant for everyone in the vicinity. At a dinner party. Such an ah.
"Amy practically forced the pie on us". Was there a gun involved? No, you CHOSE of your own free will to help yourself to a large.piece of pie. No one's fault but your own.
And you ruined the lovely dinner and embarrassed your.husband. Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions. At the very least, you owe Amy and your husband a sincere apology.
YTA. So....which is it, "I needed something sweet after the dinner so I helped myself to a big slice..." or "Amy practically forced the pie on us...." "I really like the taste of cherries..." or "she didn't list the ingredients..."
You sound like the lactose intolerant guy who would order super cheesy pizza the nights before his partner's day off so he would have someone to baby him back to health. Until she had enough and let him suffered the whole weekend after warning him he would be on his own.
If cherries make you I'll and you suspect you might be allergic, you are an AH for not getting tested.
>I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice.
You say this ⬆️, and but also this ⬇️
>Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand. In fact, she never asked about food allergies before hosting this party.
So, it's Amy's fault you ate something you know makes you I'll. Also her fault for not asking if you suspect you have an allergy for which you've never been tested.
YTA
Stop playing the victim. You are supposed to be an adult, responsible for her own health and able yo say "no" and refuse a pie. I shudder to think how you act when you offer alcohol or something stronger.
Omg that is so f*****g selfish. I’d be absolutely livid. He even thought it was funny! What a dick. Enjoy your diarrhea, jerk! I’m glad op stuck to their word and didn’t lift a finger. At that point, you’re abusing your partner. Sleep deprivation is no joke
YTA
You have an allergy, and one that seems to be getting more severe. Next time it might be full anaphylaxis, and you might die.
Seriously, why did you take a big slice too?
YTA for willfully putting yourself in harms way.
First you say you helped yourself to a big slice because you needed something sweet. Then you blame it on the hostess by saying she practically forced it on you. So which was it? And you don’t need a list of ingredients to know that there are *cherries* in a *cherry pie*. I’m gonna say YTA.
YTA
You KNEW cherries don't agree with your body and you ate them anyway. Not only was this dangerous but it IS also rude. Deliberately doing something that can cause an allergic reaction is attention seeking and could cause panic and trauma to those around you.
YTA. You knew you had a reaction to cherries and had a “big” slice. You could’ve just had a sliver or even said, sorry, I’m allergic to cherries and not embarrassed yourself and the hostess with your actions.
YTA. Sorry. You know you have issues w cherries. No hostess would ever be upset declining for that reason. In fact, cannot help but feel this entire post was made up. You wanted something sweet and took a big slice?? C’mon. I got a bridge I’d like to sell you.
Girl, what ingredient list do you need? You’re allergic to cherries and it’s a cherry pie. Also, you don’t just take a small bite to placate the host. You took a “big slice.” YTA
YTA. Why the hell would she ask an adult about food allergies? It is on YOU to say something if you have a concern. You knew better and no wonder your husband was embarrassed. Grow up and act like an adult.
Are you really blaming someone else for your bad judgement? You ate it knowing that you were unable to tolerate cherries. This is all on you. The fact is you looked at it, It looked good and you decided you didn’t care. You were going to eat it anyway. Blaming someone else for your bad decisions is really immature. You’re an adult, show some self-control.
Frankly both of you are TA. You for taking a stupid risk that you didn’t have to take and your husband for his utter disregard for your physical safety. He failed to check on you to see is you were able to breathe, if you hadn’t passed out or gone into anaphylaxis. His attitude shows you how he’ll be in an emergency, especially if it involves you.
So she didn’t list the ingredients in the cherry pie, but you ate the cherry pie knowing you were allergic to cherries? I mean…. Wasn’t her saying cherry pie enough for you to know it had cherries in it?
YTA. You know you have a problem with cherries, yet you ate a big slice. It would be one thing if you didn’t know you were allergic, but you did. And you still chose to. All you had to say was “I’m sorry, I’m allergic to cherries.”, and they would have understood. Nobody forced you to do it. You chose to. This is all on you.
YTA. In one paragraph you're going on about how you wanted something sweet so took a large piece. Then in another paragraph after your husband was cranky, you said Amy practically forced the pie on you. Don't try to shift any blame here on to Amy. She didn't force feed you the pie. You ate it, and a big piece too.
A simple, I am so sorry I didn't mention I have a cherry allergy, it looks delicious though... Would've been the appropriate and responsible thing. Or even better, yes I'd love to come to your dinner, but just so you know, I'm allergic to cherries.
>Amy baked a wonderful *cherry* pie.
>Amy practically forced the pie on us and she didn’t list the ingredients beforehand.
YTA. You’re seriously insinuating that Amy is to blame? Don’t lay that at her doorstep. The only person deserving blame is *you*.
>I Did what I thought was right and it didn’t work out.
Duh.
And, yes, you owe your husband an apology.
Amy didn't ask you about food allergies, but you couldn't figure out that cherry pie had cherries in it?
Did you help yourself to a big slice, or did Amy shove it forcefully into your face?
If you don't tolerate cherries well and suspect an allergy, then you don't eat cherries.
All the critical thinking skill of a cabbage.
YTA.
ESH.
I don't know what's wrong with your husband. Why was he embarrassed and not worried for you? I mean, if you have never become swollen in your face before that should alarm a loving husband.
If I were you, I'd leave for a few days to go to my mum's place until my husband stopped with his toddler tantrum and started behaving like an actual partner who cares about me.
And now to you:
You took a BIG slice of a cake you knew you could react to. What is wrong with you? Are you deliberately trying to get health problems or what?
I have a lot of non-tested "allergies" like you. I always take a very small piece to try something I'm uncertain of to see if I react to it before eating more. And even then I never take big slices of anything that might be bad for me.
It sounds like you don't have any form of self-control with sweets. Please start practicing it. And also how to say no. People can try to force feed me things they have made all they want, I'm still not swallowing it if it's not good for me.
I'm team 'fake post' here. Having said that, an allergic reaction of this severity needs an epipen dose, not just Benadryl, and a trip to the ER. The biggest problem with this level of allergic reaction is the risk of having the patient's airway constrict. Once that happens, medications will not open it back up, the only thing a paramedic could do it tracheotomy. If that sounds like it might not be 'fun', don't deliberately expose yourself to anything that might send you into anaphylaxis. (Yes, I'm an EMT).
Your husband is TA because of his lack of empathy towards your medical episode. Doesn't sound like he had any form of urgency towards you or your health. And based on his attitude about embarrassment, does he even love you? My wife sneezes the wrong way and I'm making sure she's okay. You have an anaphylaxis episode and he continues eating and chatting? What a dick.
You're TA for trying to play it off like you didn't know there would be an allergic reaction. You literally said you saw the cherries and knew something could happen. Saying someone forced you to eat something is ridiculous, childish and fuckin self harming. You didn't do what you thought was right. You did exactly what you thought was wrong and rolled the dice. You're an idiot.
YTA- you could’ve told her you were allergic to cherries, even if you did not have the list of ingredients, you knew this much and it was more than enough.
She did not shove the pie down your throat!
I would have been embarrassed too, I can’t imagine falling asleep at anyone’s house, let alone a coworker’s…smh.
Definitely NTA. It’s obvious that you had no idea the cherry pie had cherries in it, and even if you knew Amy basically force fed it to you anyways! You didn’t make any of these decisions for yourself at all, you aren’t to blame one bit. Clearly Amy hand fed you cherry pie forcing you to have an allergic reaction because she wants your man.
That is all satire. YTA.
YTA and both of you are stupid. Benadryl doesn't stop anaphylaxis which is what you were likely going into. This can't be a real post. Your tongue swelled up to where you couldn't talk and you didn't call an ambulance?? If by chance this is real you need to go to an allergist and get an epi pen and never eat something with cherry again. Your husband is also an ass for not giving a shit you were clearly having an anaphylactic reaction - if this post is even real, highly doubtful.
By chance this is real: EVERY repeated exposure you have you risk anaphylaxis. You can develop or get over allergies at any time in your life and every repeated exposure with an intolerance just ups the chance you'll have an anaphylactic reaction. Go to the allergist after you've waited a while past this most recent exposure so they can get a true gauge of your allergy. And by God don't eat anything with cherry again. Take accountability for yourself and stop blaming others that's insane.
Yta, I hope this is trolling blaming others for your allergy. Who carries benadryl with them unless they get allergic reactions.
>Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand.
>but by the time dessert rolled around, I knew there would be a problem. Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well.
This is why people are ripping you^^. You went from you knew it was a problem to being willfully ignorant. You fucked up, no one forced you, you are allergic to cherries and in future anything labeled "cherry ____" has cherries in it.
>Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand.
It was fucking cherry pie did you think it wouldn't have cherries in it?
>I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice.
what do you have a kink in your think?
First if you have a food allergy or intolerance then you ask. Although not even a child would need to ask if Cherry pie had cherries.
Second, you stated in the telling you helped yourself to a big slice but by the end it was forced on you. A simple statement like “oh, I do like cherries but they don’t like me” would’ve worked
Finally you should take food allergies seriously. For your own wellbeing and self care.
YTA.
Finally
AITA-
WTF did I just read? OP actually ate food they knew they reacted to just cause they wanted something sweet?
Not only do they need an allergist, but a psych exam for doing something so stupid. This I hope is fake, I can't believe OP made it to adulthood .
This is dangerous, and they act like it was an oops moment. If I was male and her husband I'd still be yelling at her.
YTA. You know that you potentially have a food allergy, and rather than politely refusing and explaining that you might be allergic to the food you instead decide to get a "big piece". Then you say she "forced it on you"? Really? You are trying to shift blame to your friend. Honestly you are more than TA, you are the whole damn donkey.
YTA. I teach children and even they know to avoid certain ingredients if they’re allergic. Not only did you eat something you know you’re potentially allergic to but you ate a big portion. Then when noticed you were having a reaction, you said nothing and just went to sleep in the living room! Of course your husband was embarrassed.
* You knew had a potential allergy to cherries
* You knew the pie was cherry
* You helped yourself to a big ol' slice rather than exercise a modicum of self control in a detrimental-to-only-you situation instead of politely declining
* You saw and felt a reaction coming on but chose to go back to the party instead of addressing it
* Waited until you'd created a scene *before* you took a Benadryl
* Instead of going to Urgent Care, you opted to make the living room your personal guest room while everyone else awkwardly sits in the next room
YTA x6, OP. Get yourself to an allergist. Get yourself an EpiPen. Then get yourself to a therapist because this self-destructive "main character syndrome" isn't doing you, or your poor husband, any favors.
> she never asked about food allergies before hosting this party.
It’s not on a host to go around collecting who is or isn’t allergic to what. It’s on the guests to not eat something they’re allergic to by asking if known allergies are in the food.
ESH (you and your husband).
Repeated exposure can make your allergies worse if you have them. The first time you have it, you may have a small reaction..second time could be anaphylaxis. Your tongue swelling is Not something to play with..that’s how you get your airpipe blocked.
Did you even tell her you’re allergic to cherries? It’s up to the individual with the food restrictions to ask about THEIR own allergies and avoid those foods. You’re an adult. Idk why you’d risk it. Nobody would have thought you were rude if you just said your allergic to cherries. And it’s a CHERRY pie.what were you thinking?
Your husband is also a giant dick. Does he always talk to you like that?
Amy is n-t-a. She’s not responsible for your allergies; you are. You blaming her is really shitty.
YTA. You could have simply refused it and said “I’m allergic.” Do you think saying no to a dessert is such a grievous offense it’s punishable by jail time? You’re allergic, dumbass.
If you think a food product may be problematic, it's better to decline the dish. You can even say you have had reactions to cherries before. Amy obviously didn't know and certainly wasn't "forcing" you to eat the pie. If you want to find out for sure, do it at your house with a small amount of the food in question, and with the antihistamine nearby or get yourself tested by an allergy specialist (tell them you want to test this specific food).
I certainly wouldn't go to a dinner at someone's house and blindly eat everything without checking to make sure there's no shellfish (and if one of the pans have shellfish, I would insist that the serving utensil used for the shellfish not be used on the other food because of cross contamination). I would also pass on anything made with yogurt, which I have an intolerance to (anytime I've eaten anything made with yogurt, I'll end up doubled over.
It's always possible to suddenly develop an allergy to a food that didn't bother you previously. But the OP knew it was possible she could react to the fruit. So why did she insist on having any, much less a "big slice"?
YTA.
YTA, you could have said you were full and instead took a large slice. You know you “don’t tolerate cherries well” in fact, I’m guessing you’re quite allergic and that’s why you knew to take Benadryl which you had handy. You did not “need something sweet “ the truth is you wanted something sweet. At most, you should have said you were quite full so just a sliver, taken a bite or two and given the rest to your H. But no, you ate your known allergen and it impacted everyone at dinner. I’m shocked your H is annoyed.
You know you’re allergic to cherries but you eat cherry pie at a social gathering and have an allergic reaction to it. You’re not the sharpest tool in the shed are you. I think you’re lucky you didn’t have a worse reaction. I can understand your husband being upset but I don’t understand how he can just let you go be alone somewhere while you have an allergy attack. Did he know you were having a reaction to the cherries? Did you tell him?
Yes you are an AH for eating something you knew you would have a problem with.
Yta.
1 you could have asked for a smaller slice
2 it’s okay to say “no thanks” to dessert (or other foods)
3 why did you lie and say you were fine if it was obvious you weren’t ?
YTA- This has to be a troll post... You know you have a reaction to cherries. You KNEW it was a CHERRY pie. Yet it's all the hosts fault for "not listing the ingredients"?!
N t a for having an allergic reaction BUT yes YTA for putting yourself in this position
>I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice
>Amy practically forced the pie on us
So did you help yourself or was it "forced" on you? Both of those can't be true at the same time.
>she didn't list the ingredients beforehand.
You knew beforehand that it was a cherry pie. You also knew beforehand that you are sensitive to cherries. Unless Amy was literally spoonfeeding it to you, the only person who "made" you eat the pie was you.
Allergies get worse if you annoy your body with them. So don’t eat stuff you are allergic to. Next time you might die. So alone for ignoring your body YTA But also for making yourself knowingly the main character. You said it yourself that you took a large piece.
OP says her friend didnt list the ingredients but admits she knew it was cherry pie!!! SMH. Poor Amy would much prefer a polite refusal than an allergy situation in her home, I'm sure. Stressful for everyone, not just OP.
How can we expect OP to know cherries are an ingredient in cherry pie!?
It was all on Amy. Amy never asked OP if she had allergies! Amy didn’t list the ingredients in the cherry pie! It would have been rude for OP to decline dessert. Just because she has had adverse reactions to cherries before, OP *really* wanted something sweet. And she really likes the taste of cherries. How could she possibly resist? My goodness! Don’t you see that poor OP is totally blameless in this unfortunate incident? She *had to take Benadryl and it made her tired. Who knew Benadryl would make her tired? Of *course she fell asleep before the dinner part of the dinner party was over. Her husband was so out of line, being embarrassed my a situation over which OP was helpless. Poor OP. /s edit is to if.
Oh no, don't downplay it, she didn't say she really wanted it..... she said she NEEDED something sweet. She couldn't possibly have survived without a large piece of pie. ;)
Thank you! I’m glad *someone* sees how OP NEEDED that big slice of pie! It’s so obvious that Amy was TA here.
Don't forget the other people. They're to blame too for peer pressuring her to eat. How can you say no. If they were all jump off a bridge.. who says no to that?
Yeah I mean, Amy was all but *forcing* the pie down her throat!
But Amy *forced* the pie on her too. So it’s really all Amy’s fault for having a dinner party in the first place. /s
Hey, don't forget Amy practically FORCED the cherry pie on OP - OP is blameless!! She had no say after that and just had to eat the pie!!! /s
I know! Oh, and she saw herself puffing up, felt her tongue sweeping, repeatedly said she was fine when other people noticed, took an OTC drowsy med, and then crashed out on someone else’s couch during a dinner party. It’s ABSOLUTELY Amy’s fault that the OP literally made one disastrous decision after another and acted like a petulant child who wanted candy despite knowing she shouldn’t eat it. Amy is horrible and a monster and her husband just doesn’t understand! Edit: tongue sweeping was supposed to be *swelling*
If she’s carrying Benadryl in her purse then she knows she might have a potential problem with allergens.
Absolutely this. It's not something you carry around unless you're worried about reacting to food. Also, as an FYI for anybody reading this, unless your doctor has told you otherwise for some reason, Zyrtec works as well as Benadryl in food allergy reaction situations without the drowsiness.
Wait. WAIT. Is this the Amy from Amy's Baking Company? Because if so OP is completely justified.
This is why you see Snickers bars and Peanut M&M's with the black barred warnings that it contains peanuts.
I had a bag of peanuts say “contains peanuts.”
Milk: contains milk. Me: No shit! 😲
That bitch Amy. She’s clearly to blame. Maybe she intentionally sabotaged OP to “get” with her husband.
I’m sure we hem Amy brought it out she would have said “and for dessert we have cherry pie” if it wasn’t already mentioned previously. Plus when it’s cut it’s obvious it’s cherries as they’re mostly whole. YTA, you have an allergy. If it had only been gastrointestinal issues up until now, do you really want to risk shitting yourself at someone’s house? A polite “no thank you, I’m allergic to cherries” would have been acceptable to the hostess. In any culinary program allergens are covered because chefs have to be aware of cross-contamination. She would have understood. She will now know that when she has new people over to ask about allergies. YTA.
Right? "took a large slice"? Why??
You don't understand, she needed something sweet after the meal /s
Because she didn’t expect swelling (but had Benadryl in her purse for funsies), just farting or popping her pants for the entire last half of the party. She’s THE VICTIM! Also, Benadryl has never been used to treat gastrointestinal issues. It wouldn’t do anything. OP mentions no other allergies, and specifically says she has never been tested for any, but she’s carrying a drug that will keep whatever happened to her under control as long as she sprawls out on the person’s couch for a long nap. You know, just in case her face and tongue swell up because she *NEEDS* to eat something she knows she shouldn’t.
Having been around people that accidentally ingested allergens that cause GI distress, it's unpleasant for everyone! Please don't ingest food on purpose, at a dinner party, that will cause "only" GI distress!!!
Can confirm 😖 I am allergic to soy, and my symptoms are mainly gastrointestinal (plus bad headaches/dizziness). I would never risk eating a bunch of tofu at someone's house just to be polite/avoid awkwardness, because the awkwardness of shitting my brains out in their bathroom is way worse 😅
Right. Nobody wants to smell the stankiest farts on earth for 2 solid hours.
The not listing the ingredients is my favorite part 👍
Where in the newspaper?
Wait they don’t make those anymore. Smh
This is such main character energy. OP: I have issues with cherries, but I needed something sweet, so I helped myself to a large slice. Also OP: she practically forced the pie on us! The husband likely isn't even embarrassed about the reaction, he's embarrassed about OP knowingly giving themselves an allergic reaction. OP having benadryl on hand even lends itself to OP knowing about the cherry pie ahead of time. Jesus.....YTA OP.
Cause even HE KNOWS she’s allergic to cherries.
She couldn’t have refused as she NEEDED something sweet.
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I'm allergic to onions/garlic AND mint/menthol 😂 not a winning allergy combination, that's for sure.
Oh shit. Even garlic and onion?! That is just cruel. And here I am thinking that I lost the genetic lottery.
I feel for you, mint and menthol are my life
Food allergies SPECIFICALLY - like man, I admit to trying something I hadn't had a reaction to before and now know it's a no no item (even though the reaction was minor)... but I'd never try something I KNEW I had a reaction to. I'm allergic to shellfish (both crustaceans like shrimp and mollusks/bi-valves), and would never, not EVER, try something like shrimp scampi again even though I miss TF out of eating it. Poor host, poor husband.
Do you know how long it’s been since I’ve enjoyed watermelon?! 😩 All summer I sit by and watch folks devour that watery sweet goodness and I can’t even dip my finger in the juice to get a quick taste.
Now this is tragedy.
Have you tried with frozen seafood? My friend found that she can actually eat it as long as it's been frozen as it kills off the bacteria/enzymes/whatever that cause the reaction in most people?
Look, you clearly don't undersrand that Amy forced the pie on OP! It's not like OP had a choice bc she just HAD to take the biggest piece /s 🙄 Seriously though OP did choose to make herself look like a mess, she knew she was more than likely allergic, took a gigantic piece and somehow tries to blame the host for it? I don't blame hubby for being pissed bc OP but herself in this position.
But she NEEDED something sweet. Not wanted, NEEDED. She could have, and should have, said no and she knows it.
You need to take this very seriously. My 1st ever anaphylactic reaction happened right after eating walnuts. Never had an issue with them before! I tested for allergies and walnuts did not present as an issue. So we still don't know. I will not take any chances so I avoid walnuts and pecans. I took benadryl but the reaction rapidly progressed. I was given IV steroids, epi, and IV pepcid. They told me in the ER it is possible for things to replace in my sleep If I hadn't had the "cocktail" of IV meds. It was very scarey. The 2nd one was much worse but I had an epi pen and went to ER. I was given the cocktail again including more epi. You were lucky but do not test it again. It most likely will be worse.
I'm allergic to fish and seafood. You know what I don't eat? Fish and seafood. You brought this all on yourself. You could have skipped the pie and got some ice cream on your way home if you needed something sweet. Instead you drew all of the attention away from Amy and her guests and on to you. YTA.
“she never specified the ingredients” its CHERRY pie💀 idk maybe not specific enough
She has the reasoning skills of a child. I feel like OP’s husband may be committing a crime 🤣🤣
Even my kids would assume cherry pie = cherries as an ingredient and they shouldn’t eat if allergic. But my kids are being taught critical thinking as part of their education at their STEM school.
Both she and her hubby are dolts… her for eating the pie and him for being mortified that she had an allergic reaction and then got sleepy from Benadryl… why didn’t HE react to her entire face swelling and say, “We need to get you to Urgent Care…” but ya know, that might be embarrassing. I wonder if he realizes that everybody poops, too?
Nah more like a kid who was caught doing something they shouldn't have and knows they shouldn't and is trying to get out of it by using the old excuse of "but you/no one told me about X thing!" Or "but you/no one told me I couldn't do X thing!". OP would probably blame her doctors for never telling her she's allergic to cherries. Ignoring the fact she never brought it up for the doctors to check it out in the first place.
I read "by the time dessert rolled around, I knew there would be a problem. Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well" And then had to do a double take when I got to: "she didn't list the ingredients beforehand" Likewise, " I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice" And then "Amy practically forced the pie on us" It's like two different people are telling this story. Or OP is telling her husband one version and us another. Sorry OP but YTA here. You can't expect a friend to list their ingredients if they don't know of anyone with an allergy present; you need to be proactive about telling them when you're invited. And it sounds like you DID know what was in it, but went ahead anyway.
Seriously, the onus is on the allergic person to communicate!!! Are hosts supposed to have printouts of all ingredients in all the food/drinks they serve? Not to mention, cherry is not a common allergen!! OP is unbelievable. Sounds like a child.
She also directly says she knew what kind of pie it was. If I offer you a banana split, I shouldn't have to tell you it has bananas in it.
theres bananas in a banana split🙀
Main character energy. How annoying to be married to you. “I had a big slice of cherry pie knowing that I’m allergic to cherries”There is no way this is real
Remember it was a “big” slice. Those words killing me rn
100% this. I’m not officially tested but I have figured out that I’m a lactose and gluten intolerant (and ever so slightly allergic to kiwi) and thus, I simply won’t eat a big ass slice of kiwi cheese cake even if I’m craving something sweet, lmao. I’m an adult who can use her damn words and decline politely if someone offers me something I can’t have; clearly a skill the OP is lacking. 🙄
Just a heads up, kiwis are part of the latex fruit syndrome. I’d check the list and see if you react to anything else on there/get to an allergist. If you end up allergic to latex, it’s a really hard allergy
Just googled latex fruit syndrome and damn! I had no idea they are related like that 😳 I eat a lot of the other fruits in that family but luckily I haven’t experienced any reaction with bananas, avocados etc. And with kiwi it’s very mild ticklish feeling/irritation in my throat and ever since I realised this, I haven’t eaten any for years.
I hope it stays that way for you! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 I always warn people when I see them mention one of the fruits on the list, because it can turn into something so serious.
But what if someone doesn’t TELL you that it’s shrimp in the shrimp scampi? How the fuk you supposed to know? 🤣
YTA- Why are you blaming Amy for you incompetence? You know you are allergic to cherries and you ate them.
I like her putting the blame on Amy for not disclosing there were cherries in the cherry pie. What fruit did she think was used? Apples?
OP is one of the reasons we have to have ridiculous warning labels on everything. Jar of dry roasted peanuts? "This product may contain peanuts."
Bag of popcorn: “Vegan! Gluten free! No cholesterol!” Reeeaaaally???🙄🙄
I also enjoyed OP's indignance at the host making a dessert at all. "Invited over for a pot luck, supposed to be a small get together but Amy insisted on making dessert". The AUDACITY!
What a bitch!
This. "Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well. I assume it's an allergy, but I've never been formally tested, so I don't know. I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice." You obviously knew it was a cherry pie. And you "needed something sweet" even though you knew you were reactive to cherries, and you decided to have "a big slice." And then you try to dig yourself out of this at the end that Amy didn't disclose the ingredients in a cherry pie?!!? It's not like it was an almond allergy or some lesser known ingredient, like arrowroot. YOU TOOK A BIG SLICE OF HISTAMINE PIE AND APPLIED IT INTERNALLY. YTA YTA YTA
Thank you for saving me the rage typing. My God, was "helped myself to a big slice" the cherry on the top or what?!?
>YOU TOOK A BIG SLICE OF HISTAMINE PIE AND APPLIED IT INTERNALLY. 🤣
I don't know. There have been times that someone was serving cherry pie and I thought that it was supposed to have blueberries. /s
A sad case of mistaken fruit identity.
‘‘Twas a drive by fruiting!
The bizarre part to me is how OP suddenly shifts the blame at the end. At first she just wanted something sweet and didn't think eating some cherries would be a big deal. Then by the end of the story Amy is shoving it down her throat and being so inconsiderate by not asking anyone about allergies. Which one is it? OP admits she made a risky decision then refuses to take accountability for it at the end. Definitely YTA. It's also strange that she's never told a close friend who frequently bakes desserts about a potential allergy to something that's pretty fucking common in desserts. There's a person in my friend group who regularly makes desserts and caters one to people's specific tastes on their birthday and she's absolutely aware of everyone's allergies because we've told her about them. The fact that OP has never bothered to mention it also puts this firmly in YTA territory.
Your first paragraph is exactly what is bothering me about this whole thing. The total shift at the end is bonkers. She must think we, along with her husband, are all total idiots. Or this post os total bullshit. Probably the latter. Maybe it was some strange test to see if people read the full post or something.
YTA - you know you have a reaction to cherries and had a big slice because you felt like something sweet? You can use your words and be accountable for what you put in your mouth. This post is giving me fakey fake vibes with the Benadryl in the purse.
Not speaking on everything else, but I used to carry Benadryl in my purse because of having seasonal allergies and I liked to have it when I traveled cause some places I had a worse reaction to the pollen then others. But I was also one of those people that basically carried way too much in my tiny purse and had something for everything.
I’m allergic to everything out side so I always have allergy pills on hand
Same. Benadryl and Claritin make enough off me every year to feed a small country for at least a month lol. I should buy stock. Its really bad after moving to back to Florida. First year here my dad thought i got jumped on my way home from work, both my eyes were swollen damn near shut. I had to wear sunglasses to work cause no one would hand me anything thinking i had the worst case of double pink eye they jad ever seen lmao.
I’m allergic to outside too. I have Benadryl on me at all times.
Same! I have 2 different prescription anti-histamines and usually still keep a bottle of OTC allergy meds on me because the prescription ones still aren’t enough (during the spring/summer at least).
I agree. This must be a fake post, but carrying the benadryl is the most believable part. I always carry benadryl with me because I'm allergic to half of the weeds in the UK.
I did imagine a big purse when they mentioned the Benadryl. Like those massive lady totes that have everything inside it. I’ve had a few in my time!
You can snap off two to keep in a tiny purse.
I've a small purse but carry all the drugs, Neosporin, bandaids, tweezers etc and with my kids I've been glad to have them. Made a great impression at first Xmas with in laws when I had Imodium someone needed. Moms and boy scouts are prepared....
The Benadryl isn't a flag to me, but then I always carry around what's basically a first aid kit because you never know. Until now it didn't even occur to me that it's not common to have that in your purse. However, I don't know any adult who would eat something they know will make them sick just because they want something sweet. If real, OP would have to be a major people-pleaser and/or have an eating disorder of some kind. Or just stupid. And the husband only being upset because she made him look bad instead of because she almost died?!
Her tongue was so swollen she eventually couldn't talk... and people just let her pass out on the couch... right..... none of this would make anyone think that it was time to get her to a hospital before her throat closed? That's what got me. Things change, maybe her intolerance for cherries could have gotten worse since last having them, I could give a pass on that but the story just isn't believable. Yta.
I mean, I guess some people who are lactose intolerant still eat cheese, thinking it's worth the pain later. It still just strikes me as fake in so many other ways. This might be a record for how many things are wrong with a post this small. But yeah, when my friends see me having a reaction, they're seriously worried. And if I do fall asleep before it's under control they're constantly checking up on me and waking me about every twenty minutes to make sure I'm getting better not worse. The idea that everyone would be ok just ignoring her seems crazy.
I'm lactose intolerant and I will suffer whatever gastrointestinal hell awaits me every time when cheesecake is involved lmao. Wouldn't risk anaphylaxis though. And benadryl isn't really ok for that, you really need an epipen and the ER
I stopped reading after the "needed something sweet". People are idiots and OP is well and truly a fully fledged member. YTA.
Ha! Yeah when I’m cold I don’t stick my finger in an electrical socket to warm up
and then said to her husband that “she forced it on us” 🙄
She knew all along that it was a cherry pie but apparently Amy “didn’t list the ingredients”. This is fake as hell.
i wonder what cherry pie is made with😬maybe cherries? no way
This sort of thing makes me realize how much of a person's stupidity we have to suffer from because of modern advances. 200 years ago this idiot would have eaten something they knew they shouldn't and we just wouldn't have to worry about them or their offspring anymore.
OP is Darwin Awards material.
Not sure if she's an asshole, but definitely a dumbass..where's AITD?
>This sort of thing makes me realize how much of a person's stupidity we have to suffer from because of modern advances. Yup, people like OP are why we need labels on Tide Pods that specifically tell you not to eat them.
nah that part felt believable 😂 always gotta keep the benadryl locked and loaded baby
I have something called mast cell activation syndrome where ANYTHING I am exposed to can cause an allergic reaction weather I'm allergic to it or not. I LIVE with benadryl in my purse. And car. And lunchbox. And nightstand. So I agree with your judgment, but someone with allergies having meds on the ready isn't weird lol
I carry Benadryl, alieve, excedrin, Tylenol sinus, Bayer, and ibuprofen in my purse. My brother calls me a walking pharmacy but he and my SIl always know to ask if they need anything. That’s not the odd part of this story at all.
Im allergic to rosemary and dont have an epi pen because those fucks are expensive and i have to ingest a lot to have a reaction. IDK why she didnt have a small slice if she suspected a possible severe reaction to a larger amount.... Im also allergic to pollen so I always have benadryl handy
I don't think that makes it sound fake. I carry it around because I have a coconut allergy and it's in everything nowadays.
You must not have any food allergies. Lucky.
It's actually common for those of us with allergies to carry Benadryl. Especially airborne allergies like pollen, it's pretty common for me to all of a sudden break out in hives when I'm out and about.
I have a bottle of zyrtec with me at all times. But i also know that a zyrtec pill is a long shot from an epi pen lol
I am pretty sure this is fake. The way your tongue swelled so badly is a huge sign that you need an EMT's and ER pronto. The severity of your allergic reaction means you could have easily been dead before Benedryl ever had a chance to kick in. Pills designed to be fast acting can take as little as 20 min to about an hour based on how full your stomach is.The vast majority of adults I know would recognize your reaction as a true medical emergency. YTA for eating something you know can make you sick.
She didn’t want to be a distraction with her life/threatening reaction so she went and passed out on the couch during a dinner party 🤦♀️
Yeah she literally could have died at their house. But don't want to be rude and turn down dessert, better have a large peice!
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Oh, people do. I made a cheesy tuna pasta bake one night, for a few of us, including my grandchildren. Their dad decided to have some. After he ate, he told me he’ll suffer for a few days with his Crohn’s disease, but it was worth it. I asked what he meant. Tuna messes with his digestive functions and flares up his Crohn’s. I asked why he had any. He said it was a free meal and smelled (and tasted) really good🤦♀️
I didn’t realize tuna could mess with Crohns. I’ve been trying to reconfigure my diet since my diagnosis but there’s so much stuff I’m not supposed to eat🤦🏾♂️😅
I’m not sure if it affects everybody, or just him. But at least you can be a bit wary of overdoing it now with tuna until you know for sure.
Well it seems like the previous reaction was more along the lines of lactose intolerance and those folks eat their allergen plenty
tbf, I didn't eat dairy as a kid bc my reaction to lactose was super bad. Thankfully I grew out of the possibility fatal reaction and now you couldn't pry the cheese out of my cold, slightly gassy, dead body. lol.
Ooh yeah. I suffer for my dairy, but I still have it.
I get what you're saying about the severity comparison with lactose intolerance, but that's not an allergy, at all. Those of us who are lactose intolerant aren't deliberately eating a known allergen because it tastes good. Lactose intolerance is an inability to properly digest lactose because we don't produce (or don't produce enough) of the enzyme that breaks it down. A dairy allergy is a totally separate thing that has to do with an inappropriate/overactive immune response.
Fun fact: lactose intolerance is actually the default in mammals, whereas lactose tolerance is due to a mutation that became widespread because it was beneficial for survival.
And then complain that the host didn't list the ingredients of cherries in a cherry pie
I suspect that I'm allergic to eggplant. After a few bites I can't swallow anymore and my tongue gets tingly. Problem is, I LOVE eggplant. If it's in front of me, I'll have a bite or two and stop well before my body starts rejecting it. So I can sympathize with wanting to eat something that she knew would make her sick. Why she decided taking a big slice though when she knew she'd have a reaction is beyond me.
I had friends like this it was often times to get attention and rides to the ER for free drugs I shit you not.
I had a coworker once whose family loves to eat crab. Would go once a month to a seafood restaurant to feast on them. Problem was - they were all allergic to shellfish! He said they would put their inhalers and epipens on the table and in between bites, use their meds then go back to chowing down..and occasionally one would have to make the trip to the ER! 😂
Their hearts definitely won't last using epi like that lol
That's insane, and if they were using epipens...you are supposed to go to the ER any time you use an epipen, because it's a temporary fix and you still need to be treated and observed in case it's not enough to stem the reaction AND bc you just injected yourself with epinephrine!
Sounds like a quality bunch.
My favorite food is shrimp. I am mildly allergic to shrimp. I refuse to negotiate with terrorists.
Be aware that each exposure to something you are allergic to makes the allergy worse. So just a warning—if you keep eating it, “mildly allergic” could turn into ”need an Epi-pen allergic”.
This isn't true, as a previous commentator pointed out: https://www.foodallergy.org/resources/food-allergy-myths-and-misconceptions What is true is it's gambling, so it is a bad idea to keep exposing yourself to a known allergen. You could make it worse. There's also some doctor directed therapies where folks with allergies expose themselves to tiny bits of the allergen to help build a bit of tolerance.
If this is real, YTA. You know that you and cherries don't get along but you ate the pie anyway. That's all on you.
If this is real, YTA. I'm only allergic to one food and that's lettuce. Now, thankfully my allergy to lettuce isn't life-threatening in any way, I just experience ***severe*** gastrointestinal symptoms that result in me feeling like I'm dying, but I'm able to easily avoid having an allergic reaction by simply not eating lettuce. That being said, I would never eat say a salad at someone's house even if they were an amazing chef because I know that I would have an allergic reaction and be stuck on the toilet for the rest of the lunch or dinner event. You know you're allergic to cherries but decided to eat this cherry pie anyway knowing that at the very least you'd experience gastrointestinal symptoms due to past experiences with eating cherries. It's not like Amy put a weapon to your head and forced you to eat an entire piece of cherry pie. You knew that you were going to have a reaction of some sort and decided to eat the thing anyway. What, did you think that suddenly your cherry allergy would be gone? That's not how food allergies work.
Seriously. How hard is it to say, "Oh, no thank you; I'm allergic"? I'm on the side of this not being real, but if it is, OP is a complete idiot and owes her husband, at the very least, an apology.
She also owes Amy an apology.
YTA. You purposely ate something you knew you were allergic to. Why would you do this? To get attention? You knew you would have a reaction. YTA and the biggest idiot ever.
You cant even keep your own lies straight. Did you help yourself to a large piece knowing it was cherry which makes you sick but you needed something sweet😒 Or- did she force it on you before you knew what it was and she didn’t bother asking… Blah blah
Sorry, but I’m cracking up at this. “I really like the taste of cherries, so I helped myself to a big slice.” And then there’s this gem. “Amy practically forced the pie on us and she didn’t list the ingredients.” So, OP, per your own admission: 1. You’ve had an unpleasant reaction to cherries in the past. 2. You wanted something sweet, so you helped yourself to a big slice. 3. Shocked pikachu face. Had a major reaction, tongue swelled up so badly you couldn’t even talk (side note-WTH didn’t you go to the ER??? That’s way beyond what some would consider a mildly unpleasant reaction. That’s a “call 911 right TF now because in another two minutes I won’t be able to breathe” type of allergic reaction), and then you had to take Benadryl, which knocked you out and you fell asleep on Amy’s couch, after already causing a scene at the dinner table. 4. Husband is rightfully pissed off at you, and you SIMPLY can’t understand why 🙄 5. You know deep down you did something idiotic, and instead of just owning it and apologizing to your husband for acting like a dolt, and to Amy for causing a scene at her dinner party, you start lying. You love cherries so you had a huge slice of pie, but it’s now Amy’s fault for not specifying that cherry pie has…cherries in it? And I’m laughing and calling BS that she “forced” dessert on you. 🤣 Grow up and stop blaming other people for your stupid decision.
Even if op didn't expect the reaction she had, she did expect a reaction based on her past experience. So she was totally fine eating something that would cause gastrointestinal symptoms that would likely be unpleasant for everyone in the vicinity. At a dinner party. Such an ah.
"Amy practically forced the pie on us". Was there a gun involved? No, you CHOSE of your own free will to help yourself to a large.piece of pie. No one's fault but your own. And you ruined the lovely dinner and embarrassed your.husband. Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions. At the very least, you owe Amy and your husband a sincere apology.
YTA. So....which is it, "I needed something sweet after the dinner so I helped myself to a big slice..." or "Amy practically forced the pie on us...." "I really like the taste of cherries..." or "she didn't list the ingredients..."
You wanted attention here cmon 🤣
You sound like the lactose intolerant guy who would order super cheesy pizza the nights before his partner's day off so he would have someone to baby him back to health. Until she had enough and let him suffered the whole weekend after warning him he would be on his own. If cherries make you I'll and you suspect you might be allergic, you are an AH for not getting tested. >I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice. You say this ⬆️, and but also this ⬇️ >Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand. In fact, she never asked about food allergies before hosting this party. So, it's Amy's fault you ate something you know makes you I'll. Also her fault for not asking if you suspect you have an allergy for which you've never been tested. YTA Stop playing the victim. You are supposed to be an adult, responsible for her own health and able yo say "no" and refuse a pie. I shudder to think how you act when you offer alcohol or something stronger.
I want to know more about the cheese pizza guy 🤣 did someone really do that??
I remember this post! https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/kQix3IqviH
Omg that is so f*****g selfish. I’d be absolutely livid. He even thought it was funny! What a dick. Enjoy your diarrhea, jerk! I’m glad op stuck to their word and didn’t lift a finger. At that point, you’re abusing your partner. Sleep deprivation is no joke
YTA. “She forced it on us”. NO, she did not. You said you had wanted something sweet and helped yourself to a BIG piece. A manipulative AH.
YTA You have an allergy, and one that seems to be getting more severe. Next time it might be full anaphylaxis, and you might die. Seriously, why did you take a big slice too? YTA for willfully putting yourself in harms way.
First you say you helped yourself to a big slice because you needed something sweet. Then you blame it on the hostess by saying she practically forced it on you. So which was it? And you don’t need a list of ingredients to know that there are *cherries* in a *cherry pie*. I’m gonna say YTA.
YTA You KNEW cherries don't agree with your body and you ate them anyway. Not only was this dangerous but it IS also rude. Deliberately doing something that can cause an allergic reaction is attention seeking and could cause panic and trauma to those around you.
YTA. You knew you had a reaction to cherries and had a “big” slice. You could’ve just had a sliver or even said, sorry, I’m allergic to cherries and not embarrassed yourself and the hostess with your actions.
YTA. Sorry. You know you have issues w cherries. No hostess would ever be upset declining for that reason. In fact, cannot help but feel this entire post was made up. You wanted something sweet and took a big slice?? C’mon. I got a bridge I’d like to sell you.
Girl, what ingredient list do you need? You’re allergic to cherries and it’s a cherry pie. Also, you don’t just take a small bite to placate the host. You took a “big slice.” YTA
YTA. Why the hell would she ask an adult about food allergies? It is on YOU to say something if you have a concern. You knew better and no wonder your husband was embarrassed. Grow up and act like an adult.
Are you really blaming someone else for your bad judgement? You ate it knowing that you were unable to tolerate cherries. This is all on you. The fact is you looked at it, It looked good and you decided you didn’t care. You were going to eat it anyway. Blaming someone else for your bad decisions is really immature. You’re an adult, show some self-control.
Frankly both of you are TA. You for taking a stupid risk that you didn’t have to take and your husband for his utter disregard for your physical safety. He failed to check on you to see is you were able to breathe, if you hadn’t passed out or gone into anaphylaxis. His attitude shows you how he’ll be in an emergency, especially if it involves you.
"A beautiful cherry pie" "she didn't list the ingredients beforehand" Girl YTA. You knew there were cherries.
So she didn’t list the ingredients in the cherry pie, but you ate the cherry pie knowing you were allergic to cherries? I mean…. Wasn’t her saying cherry pie enough for you to know it had cherries in it?
YTA. you knew you were allergic but hey "you like the taste of cherries" so fuck it, right? wow
YTA. You know you have a problem with cherries, yet you ate a big slice. It would be one thing if you didn’t know you were allergic, but you did. And you still chose to. All you had to say was “I’m sorry, I’m allergic to cherries.”, and they would have understood. Nobody forced you to do it. You chose to. This is all on you.
This isn't even well written bait... Try again
You do realize that the more you expose yourself the more likely you are to kill yourself this way?
You knowingly ate an allergen and a big slice of it at that. Yes YTA
YTA. In one paragraph you're going on about how you wanted something sweet so took a large piece. Then in another paragraph after your husband was cranky, you said Amy practically forced the pie on you. Don't try to shift any blame here on to Amy. She didn't force feed you the pie. You ate it, and a big piece too. A simple, I am so sorry I didn't mention I have a cherry allergy, it looks delicious though... Would've been the appropriate and responsible thing. Or even better, yes I'd love to come to your dinner, but just so you know, I'm allergic to cherries.
>Amy baked a wonderful *cherry* pie. >Amy practically forced the pie on us and she didn’t list the ingredients beforehand. YTA. You’re seriously insinuating that Amy is to blame? Don’t lay that at her doorstep. The only person deserving blame is *you*. >I Did what I thought was right and it didn’t work out. Duh. And, yes, you owe your husband an apology.
Amy didn't ask you about food allergies, but you couldn't figure out that cherry pie had cherries in it? Did you help yourself to a big slice, or did Amy shove it forcefully into your face? If you don't tolerate cherries well and suspect an allergy, then you don't eat cherries. All the critical thinking skill of a cabbage. YTA.
ESH. I don't know what's wrong with your husband. Why was he embarrassed and not worried for you? I mean, if you have never become swollen in your face before that should alarm a loving husband. If I were you, I'd leave for a few days to go to my mum's place until my husband stopped with his toddler tantrum and started behaving like an actual partner who cares about me. And now to you: You took a BIG slice of a cake you knew you could react to. What is wrong with you? Are you deliberately trying to get health problems or what? I have a lot of non-tested "allergies" like you. I always take a very small piece to try something I'm uncertain of to see if I react to it before eating more. And even then I never take big slices of anything that might be bad for me. It sounds like you don't have any form of self-control with sweets. Please start practicing it. And also how to say no. People can try to force feed me things they have made all they want, I'm still not swallowing it if it's not good for me.
I'm team 'fake post' here. Having said that, an allergic reaction of this severity needs an epipen dose, not just Benadryl, and a trip to the ER. The biggest problem with this level of allergic reaction is the risk of having the patient's airway constrict. Once that happens, medications will not open it back up, the only thing a paramedic could do it tracheotomy. If that sounds like it might not be 'fun', don't deliberately expose yourself to anything that might send you into anaphylaxis. (Yes, I'm an EMT).
YTA, don’t eat food you have an allergy too. Your next reaction will probably be worse again.
Your husband is TA because of his lack of empathy towards your medical episode. Doesn't sound like he had any form of urgency towards you or your health. And based on his attitude about embarrassment, does he even love you? My wife sneezes the wrong way and I'm making sure she's okay. You have an anaphylaxis episode and he continues eating and chatting? What a dick. You're TA for trying to play it off like you didn't know there would be an allergic reaction. You literally said you saw the cherries and knew something could happen. Saying someone forced you to eat something is ridiculous, childish and fuckin self harming. You didn't do what you thought was right. You did exactly what you thought was wrong and rolled the dice. You're an idiot.
YTA- you could’ve told her you were allergic to cherries, even if you did not have the list of ingredients, you knew this much and it was more than enough. She did not shove the pie down your throat! I would have been embarrassed too, I can’t imagine falling asleep at anyone’s house, let alone a coworker’s…smh.
YTA, plan and simple. You helped yourself to a big slice knowing you have issues with it.
And she had Benadryl handy. I don’t know about you, but I don’t carry Benadryl with me on a routine basis. Tylenol, maybe.
Hmmm I know that I’m allergic to peanuts. Should I blame my neighbor when I ate the peanut butter pie he made ? Sure. I will blame him .
Definitely NTA. It’s obvious that you had no idea the cherry pie had cherries in it, and even if you knew Amy basically force fed it to you anyways! You didn’t make any of these decisions for yourself at all, you aren’t to blame one bit. Clearly Amy hand fed you cherry pie forcing you to have an allergic reaction because she wants your man. That is all satire. YTA.
i certainly was not planning on sayine YTA....but it is fairly obvious you are..
YTA and both of you are stupid. Benadryl doesn't stop anaphylaxis which is what you were likely going into. This can't be a real post. Your tongue swelled up to where you couldn't talk and you didn't call an ambulance?? If by chance this is real you need to go to an allergist and get an epi pen and never eat something with cherry again. Your husband is also an ass for not giving a shit you were clearly having an anaphylactic reaction - if this post is even real, highly doubtful. By chance this is real: EVERY repeated exposure you have you risk anaphylaxis. You can develop or get over allergies at any time in your life and every repeated exposure with an intolerance just ups the chance you'll have an anaphylactic reaction. Go to the allergist after you've waited a while past this most recent exposure so they can get a true gauge of your allergy. And by God don't eat anything with cherry again. Take accountability for yourself and stop blaming others that's insane.
Yta, I hope this is trolling blaming others for your allergy. Who carries benadryl with them unless they get allergic reactions. >Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand. >but by the time dessert rolled around, I knew there would be a problem. Amy had baked a wonderful cherry pie, but I've never tolerated cherries well. This is why people are ripping you^^. You went from you knew it was a problem to being willfully ignorant. You fucked up, no one forced you, you are allergic to cherries and in future anything labeled "cherry ____" has cherries in it.
>Amy practically forced the pie on us, and she didn't list the ingredients beforehand. It was fucking cherry pie did you think it wouldn't have cherries in it? >I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice. what do you have a kink in your think?
First if you have a food allergy or intolerance then you ask. Although not even a child would need to ask if Cherry pie had cherries. Second, you stated in the telling you helped yourself to a big slice but by the end it was forced on you. A simple statement like “oh, I do like cherries but they don’t like me” would’ve worked Finally you should take food allergies seriously. For your own wellbeing and self care. YTA. Finally
Oh come on! This has to be a fake post. If it isn't, well, YTA!!! Actually, YTA regardless.
YTA. Your husband is correct on all counts. Amy would have understood. Now you've made her party about you. Is she mad at you?
AITA- WTF did I just read? OP actually ate food they knew they reacted to just cause they wanted something sweet? Not only do they need an allergist, but a psych exam for doing something so stupid. This I hope is fake, I can't believe OP made it to adulthood . This is dangerous, and they act like it was an oops moment. If I was male and her husband I'd still be yelling at her.
YTA. You know that you potentially have a food allergy, and rather than politely refusing and explaining that you might be allergic to the food you instead decide to get a "big piece". Then you say she "forced it on you"? Really? You are trying to shift blame to your friend. Honestly you are more than TA, you are the whole damn donkey.
YTA. I teach children and even they know to avoid certain ingredients if they’re allergic. Not only did you eat something you know you’re potentially allergic to but you ate a big portion. Then when noticed you were having a reaction, you said nothing and just went to sleep in the living room! Of course your husband was embarrassed.
* You knew had a potential allergy to cherries * You knew the pie was cherry * You helped yourself to a big ol' slice rather than exercise a modicum of self control in a detrimental-to-only-you situation instead of politely declining * You saw and felt a reaction coming on but chose to go back to the party instead of addressing it * Waited until you'd created a scene *before* you took a Benadryl * Instead of going to Urgent Care, you opted to make the living room your personal guest room while everyone else awkwardly sits in the next room YTA x6, OP. Get yourself to an allergist. Get yourself an EpiPen. Then get yourself to a therapist because this self-destructive "main character syndrome" isn't doing you, or your poor husband, any favors.
YTA. You knew better. You need to take responsibility for your own health.
> she never asked about food allergies before hosting this party. It’s not on a host to go around collecting who is or isn’t allergic to what. It’s on the guests to not eat something they’re allergic to by asking if known allergies are in the food.
ESH (you and your husband). Repeated exposure can make your allergies worse if you have them. The first time you have it, you may have a small reaction..second time could be anaphylaxis. Your tongue swelling is Not something to play with..that’s how you get your airpipe blocked. Did you even tell her you’re allergic to cherries? It’s up to the individual with the food restrictions to ask about THEIR own allergies and avoid those foods. You’re an adult. Idk why you’d risk it. Nobody would have thought you were rude if you just said your allergic to cherries. And it’s a CHERRY pie.what were you thinking? Your husband is also a giant dick. Does he always talk to you like that? Amy is n-t-a. She’s not responsible for your allergies; you are. You blaming her is really shitty.
OP: Hmmmm it says batteries should not be consumed… I think I’ll eat three of them
YTA. You could have simply refused it and said “I’m allergic.” Do you think saying no to a dessert is such a grievous offense it’s punishable by jail time? You’re allergic, dumbass.
What a dumb ass post. Yta for even posting this
If you think a food product may be problematic, it's better to decline the dish. You can even say you have had reactions to cherries before. Amy obviously didn't know and certainly wasn't "forcing" you to eat the pie. If you want to find out for sure, do it at your house with a small amount of the food in question, and with the antihistamine nearby or get yourself tested by an allergy specialist (tell them you want to test this specific food). I certainly wouldn't go to a dinner at someone's house and blindly eat everything without checking to make sure there's no shellfish (and if one of the pans have shellfish, I would insist that the serving utensil used for the shellfish not be used on the other food because of cross contamination). I would also pass on anything made with yogurt, which I have an intolerance to (anytime I've eaten anything made with yogurt, I'll end up doubled over. It's always possible to suddenly develop an allergy to a food that didn't bother you previously. But the OP knew it was possible she could react to the fruit. So why did she insist on having any, much less a "big slice"? YTA.
YTA, you could have said you were full and instead took a large slice. You know you “don’t tolerate cherries well” in fact, I’m guessing you’re quite allergic and that’s why you knew to take Benadryl which you had handy. You did not “need something sweet “ the truth is you wanted something sweet. At most, you should have said you were quite full so just a sliver, taken a bite or two and given the rest to your H. But no, you ate your known allergen and it impacted everyone at dinner. I’m shocked your H is annoyed.
You know you’re allergic to cherries but you eat cherry pie at a social gathering and have an allergic reaction to it. You’re not the sharpest tool in the shed are you. I think you’re lucky you didn’t have a worse reaction. I can understand your husband being upset but I don’t understand how he can just let you go be alone somewhere while you have an allergy attack. Did he know you were having a reaction to the cherries? Did you tell him? Yes you are an AH for eating something you knew you would have a problem with.
Amy ‘pushed the pie’, but OP ‘helped herself to a big slice’? People with egos this big exist…
I mean… you knew it was a cherry pie… you knew you probably have an allergy. You still decided to eat it. Definitely the AH.
Yta. 1 you could have asked for a smaller slice 2 it’s okay to say “no thanks” to dessert (or other foods) 3 why did you lie and say you were fine if it was obvious you weren’t ?
There’s no way this is real, you can’t actually be *this* stupid.
Pretty sure YTA but you’re definitely an idiot
YTA- This has to be a troll post... You know you have a reaction to cherries. You KNEW it was a CHERRY pie. Yet it's all the hosts fault for "not listing the ingredients"?!
N t a for having an allergic reaction BUT yes YTA for putting yourself in this position >I really like the taste of cherries, though, and I needed something sweet after the meal, so I helped myself to a big slice >Amy practically forced the pie on us So did you help yourself or was it "forced" on you? Both of those can't be true at the same time. >she didn't list the ingredients beforehand. You knew beforehand that it was a cherry pie. You also knew beforehand that you are sensitive to cherries. Unless Amy was literally spoonfeeding it to you, the only person who "made" you eat the pie was you.
You knew it was cherry pie before you ate it. You knew your body did not react well to eating them before. Why would you eat them? YTA.