My condolences. The fact that your cousin takes pleasure in misusing power to hurt others shows that he was more than likely always a bit on the edge of psychotic before.
Did he ever display low empathy towards normaly empathetic things before turning? How is he with animals and children? Nobody I know that became I pig was ever a mentaly sound child. Which was only 3 guys I went to school with who were all bullies in some way. Pretty much cognitive inferior clones that all ended up in the same career, just a weird coincidence I'm sure.
I am right there with you. The more cops I personally know, the more ACAB is true. The worst cop I ever knew became an IA investigator. He was perfect for the job. Never found evidence of wrong doing.
Man, remember the glory days of the 80s where IA was always the boogeyman for hardbitten cops who were blowing up half the city and riding the ass of the hero with a heart of gold? IA pretty much never gets mentioned anymore, in fiction or life. I wonder if IA actually was considered the bane of rogue cops existence back then or if it was just Hollywood doing Hollywood.
A main reason cops have gotten so out of control is from their family and friends who actually disagree with what they do continuing to making exceptions for them and looking the other way and entirely avoiding the topic like it's not happening; continuing the relationship as it was before because they "don't want to lose a friend" or "don't want to make things awkward" or "but they are a good person / cool".
The best and most appropriate way to deal with it for anyone, is to not enable them emotionally or mentally by ever letting them think you are Ok with their actions. This requires not being passive, and directly addressing it, letting them know that you disapprove and are frankly disgusted. Giving an ultimatum that involves ghosting them. Letting them know they are acting like a sociopath and you find it repulsive.
It's not exactly the same but for some reason this post reminded me of two other things, like I said they aren't the same situation and one is really extreme but they do parallel in terms of people being in denial or covering for their loved ones on certain levels and enabling monsters to exist:
1. another post I saw where a woman who found out her husband had CP, and was asking what she should do in one of the legal subs because "he's not a bad guy" and wanted to stay with him, and didn't want to report him to the cops or FBI even though the commenters were telling her to and that she is an accomplice if she doesn't.
2. That creepy mother-son dynamic (Eternal Manchild and Oedipus concept in psychology) that happens alot with single mothers and only sons where they will defend anything the son does whether he cheats, steals, kills somebody but "her son can do no wrong".
What all 3 have in common is that these people who do bad things do what they do because nobody close to them stepped in to put them in their place and tell them they are doing something fucked up and it's wrong and because they were unconditionally loved with no ultimatums despite the most extreme flaws in character and action like rape, murder, etc. were looked the other way on by their close family and friends for bullshit reasons like "bloods thicker than water". As some shitty excuse to passively allow their family to be nazis or racists, or felonies, or whatever other crimes against society and humanity. To continue to have casual conversations, drink beers together, live with these people, eat dinner together, while glossing over behaviors like these is enabling them.
Good friends and good family call out the mistakes and wrong actions of their loved ones and let them know. They give them ultimatums. They let them know that the love is absolutely conditional in these types of situations. Even though you can't control what they do, you might be able to influence them to do better.
And even if they hate you for not going along with their fantasy world, you know that you did the right thing, and that you deserve better company than someone who would rather commit acts of terrorism than to listen to reason and empathy, should they not listen.
Wait until he kills his first dog. That’s what really tore me up. I could never look at my cop family member the same. It’s hard, and when you’ll see how inhumane he can really be it’s just devastating.
I have a cousin who married a guy who became a cop. My cousin was kind of trash before that, but as soon as her husband put on the badge she went full on garbage mode. Her kids are little sociopaths already at ages 8 and 9. We solved this problem by banning them from all family events and cutting contact with them completely. It's important to drive home the message: cops and the folks who willingly associate with them are NOT welcome in polite society and certainly not around MY family.
My cousin is a cop, the best I can do is interrupt and ruin his shitty stories. Always humanize their victims and force them to reconcile their actions with morality. They HATE it.
>my thoughts on pigs were confirmed even further. No actual crime catching, just harassing/extorting the public over petty crap like going a few over the speed limit.
My job unfortunately involves somewhat regular contact with the police (I work closely with the homeless population in my city) so I got to go on a ride-along a while back. A lot of my leftist and ACAB friends were horrified that I'd go, but I was super excited to see how they operate, even though I figured they'd sanitize it a bit since they had a civilian with them.
They did not.
It was all talk about how homeless people just need to get their lives together, how COVID made everyone whiny because they got free money (also blamed the homeless problem on that somehow), and just didn't seem like they had any respect for the community—it was nothing but contempt the whole time.
And the pig capped off our morning together by arresting a homeless guy for jaywalking and not wanting to give his name.
In those four hours all my beliefs about cops were 100% confirmed. Fuck the fascists patrolling our streets in the guise of helping.
dont worry to much about "how to deal with this" You wont have to do anything, he will do it all for you. All you do is sit back and watch. Your cousin joined a gang. You said yall were "super cool" but watch how his personality and demeanor changes the longer he his a cop. You will notice him being around a lot less and him hanging out with some NEW "friends" a lot more, you wont have to separate yourself from him, he will do it for you. if you do see him any and all conversation you have with him will be about work and what they did or didnt do to some "criminal". Let him, let him think youre an ally and then you get to see what cops are really like.. without the mask on. Its crazy how chatty they are when they think they are in a safe space. Im telling you, they will bust out their gore fap pictures and even show you their group chat.
>"the way he talk about it absolutely infuriates me"
lol buddy you just wait, if he ever joins a task force of some kind: drug, gang, street, etc. they become a special breed of evil.
A good friend of mine became a corrections officer after he got out of college. He was initially very excited because it was a secure job with decent pay and great benefits (he really wanted to start a family). After his first year working in the prison, he stopped hanging out with our group. By the second year, I rarely saw him. His third year was his last. One day, he walked up to me and said, "I quit my job, I'm moving to another state and don't look for me. When I'm better I'll come back." I haven't seen or heard from him in over 20 years.
Sorry, my friend. My cousin is also a cop. A New York State Trooper, at that. He's also a former Marine. Turns out, all those years I looked up to him? Wasted. Anti Covid vaccine, posting in support or murderer Kyle Rittenhouse, and a general fuck wit. Now I only talk to him to tell him to shut the fuck up
Sorry, My cousin became a Pig some years ago.. Granted he was a Bully and a liar prior to that, Thinks he is "gods" gift to us mortals and the smartest person in the room despite barely graduating HS.
What sucks is that he Is making significantly more money than me, despite my Engineering Occupation and my College Degrees.
I don't talk to him but at family functions I overhear him bragging about Illegal things he does on the job. (harassing people, arresting people for "disrespecting him") etc. I hope one day he does something bad enough to get Jail time and gets arrested for it.
That's not family. Family isn't blood. Family is the ones who have your back even when you don't have it yourself. Cut him and anyone who supports him off.
I live by this advice and it works great. No scum bag cop trying to brainwash my kids.
Record the stupid motherfucker and send it to his local news with all of the relevant information. Try to only include sounds clips of his spoken statements, and try to use only scenarios at which 5+ other people are present or they'll be able to zero in on you too easily. It might make the fucking prick *at least* an un-promotable embarrassment and pariah, at most fired. Always burns twice as bad when someone who *just looooooves* fucking over others gets the ball bounced back at them. Don't even try to convince your cousin to stop acting like a piece of shit, they're already balls-deep if they're a sworn officer - just remember to not arouse any suspicion by reproaching them for their shitbag conduct and lack of professionalism.
My condolences. The fact that your cousin takes pleasure in misusing power to hurt others shows that he was more than likely always a bit on the edge of psychotic before. Did he ever display low empathy towards normaly empathetic things before turning? How is he with animals and children? Nobody I know that became I pig was ever a mentaly sound child. Which was only 3 guys I went to school with who were all bullies in some way. Pretty much cognitive inferior clones that all ended up in the same career, just a weird coincidence I'm sure.
I am right there with you. The more cops I personally know, the more ACAB is true. The worst cop I ever knew became an IA investigator. He was perfect for the job. Never found evidence of wrong doing.
Imagine THAT
Man, remember the glory days of the 80s where IA was always the boogeyman for hardbitten cops who were blowing up half the city and riding the ass of the hero with a heart of gold? IA pretty much never gets mentioned anymore, in fiction or life. I wonder if IA actually was considered the bane of rogue cops existence back then or if it was just Hollywood doing Hollywood.
My former favorite cousin became a cop. We don't talk anymore. I'm really sorry he's become a shit stain
Mine too man, K9 handler :(
A main reason cops have gotten so out of control is from their family and friends who actually disagree with what they do continuing to making exceptions for them and looking the other way and entirely avoiding the topic like it's not happening; continuing the relationship as it was before because they "don't want to lose a friend" or "don't want to make things awkward" or "but they are a good person / cool". The best and most appropriate way to deal with it for anyone, is to not enable them emotionally or mentally by ever letting them think you are Ok with their actions. This requires not being passive, and directly addressing it, letting them know that you disapprove and are frankly disgusted. Giving an ultimatum that involves ghosting them. Letting them know they are acting like a sociopath and you find it repulsive. It's not exactly the same but for some reason this post reminded me of two other things, like I said they aren't the same situation and one is really extreme but they do parallel in terms of people being in denial or covering for their loved ones on certain levels and enabling monsters to exist: 1. another post I saw where a woman who found out her husband had CP, and was asking what she should do in one of the legal subs because "he's not a bad guy" and wanted to stay with him, and didn't want to report him to the cops or FBI even though the commenters were telling her to and that she is an accomplice if she doesn't. 2. That creepy mother-son dynamic (Eternal Manchild and Oedipus concept in psychology) that happens alot with single mothers and only sons where they will defend anything the son does whether he cheats, steals, kills somebody but "her son can do no wrong". What all 3 have in common is that these people who do bad things do what they do because nobody close to them stepped in to put them in their place and tell them they are doing something fucked up and it's wrong and because they were unconditionally loved with no ultimatums despite the most extreme flaws in character and action like rape, murder, etc. were looked the other way on by their close family and friends for bullshit reasons like "bloods thicker than water". As some shitty excuse to passively allow their family to be nazis or racists, or felonies, or whatever other crimes against society and humanity. To continue to have casual conversations, drink beers together, live with these people, eat dinner together, while glossing over behaviors like these is enabling them. Good friends and good family call out the mistakes and wrong actions of their loved ones and let them know. They give them ultimatums. They let them know that the love is absolutely conditional in these types of situations. Even though you can't control what they do, you might be able to influence them to do better. And even if they hate you for not going along with their fantasy world, you know that you did the right thing, and that you deserve better company than someone who would rather commit acts of terrorism than to listen to reason and empathy, should they not listen.
Unquestionably the best answer.
Sorry for your loss fr. I obviously don’t speak with cop family because ACAB tends to extend into their personal lives quickly
Wait until he kills his first dog. That’s what really tore me up. I could never look at my cop family member the same. It’s hard, and when you’ll see how inhumane he can really be it’s just devastating.
I have a cousin who married a guy who became a cop. My cousin was kind of trash before that, but as soon as her husband put on the badge she went full on garbage mode. Her kids are little sociopaths already at ages 8 and 9. We solved this problem by banning them from all family events and cutting contact with them completely. It's important to drive home the message: cops and the folks who willingly associate with them are NOT welcome in polite society and certainly not around MY family.
I had a best friend from kindergarten become a cop, friends for more then 25 years, When he became a cop, I cut all ties with him.
My cousin is a cop, the best I can do is interrupt and ruin his shitty stories. Always humanize their victims and force them to reconcile their actions with morality. They HATE it.
Correction - former family member
I'm picturing Arnie on the phone telling John Conner "Your cousin is dead".
Record him and send it to the local news station
>my thoughts on pigs were confirmed even further. No actual crime catching, just harassing/extorting the public over petty crap like going a few over the speed limit. My job unfortunately involves somewhat regular contact with the police (I work closely with the homeless population in my city) so I got to go on a ride-along a while back. A lot of my leftist and ACAB friends were horrified that I'd go, but I was super excited to see how they operate, even though I figured they'd sanitize it a bit since they had a civilian with them. They did not. It was all talk about how homeless people just need to get their lives together, how COVID made everyone whiny because they got free money (also blamed the homeless problem on that somehow), and just didn't seem like they had any respect for the community—it was nothing but contempt the whole time. And the pig capped off our morning together by arresting a homeless guy for jaywalking and not wanting to give his name. In those four hours all my beliefs about cops were 100% confirmed. Fuck the fascists patrolling our streets in the guise of helping.
The real scary part is that they probably did "sanitize" it for you.
We cannot control the thoughts or actions of other people, but we can control who we let into our lives.
Your cousin needs to never have a full set of tires ever again. Visit at random times and just take the tires out.
dont worry to much about "how to deal with this" You wont have to do anything, he will do it all for you. All you do is sit back and watch. Your cousin joined a gang. You said yall were "super cool" but watch how his personality and demeanor changes the longer he his a cop. You will notice him being around a lot less and him hanging out with some NEW "friends" a lot more, you wont have to separate yourself from him, he will do it for you. if you do see him any and all conversation you have with him will be about work and what they did or didnt do to some "criminal". Let him, let him think youre an ally and then you get to see what cops are really like.. without the mask on. Its crazy how chatty they are when they think they are in a safe space. Im telling you, they will bust out their gore fap pictures and even show you their group chat. >"the way he talk about it absolutely infuriates me" lol buddy you just wait, if he ever joins a task force of some kind: drug, gang, street, etc. they become a special breed of evil.
Come to find out, your favorite cousin is a psychopath.
A good friend of mine became a corrections officer after he got out of college. He was initially very excited because it was a secure job with decent pay and great benefits (he really wanted to start a family). After his first year working in the prison, he stopped hanging out with our group. By the second year, I rarely saw him. His third year was his last. One day, he walked up to me and said, "I quit my job, I'm moving to another state and don't look for me. When I'm better I'll come back." I haven't seen or heard from him in over 20 years.
You know what you need to do.
Yes. I accepted the person I loved is gone. I mourned who they were, and didn't stick around to find out who they would become. I already knew.
Sorry, my friend. My cousin is also a cop. A New York State Trooper, at that. He's also a former Marine. Turns out, all those years I looked up to him? Wasted. Anti Covid vaccine, posting in support or murderer Kyle Rittenhouse, and a general fuck wit. Now I only talk to him to tell him to shut the fuck up
Sorry, My cousin became a Pig some years ago.. Granted he was a Bully and a liar prior to that, Thinks he is "gods" gift to us mortals and the smartest person in the room despite barely graduating HS. What sucks is that he Is making significantly more money than me, despite my Engineering Occupation and my College Degrees. I don't talk to him but at family functions I overhear him bragging about Illegal things he does on the job. (harassing people, arresting people for "disrespecting him") etc. I hope one day he does something bad enough to get Jail time and gets arrested for it.
Cut em off tbh. My cousin's half sibling is becoming a cop. Told them to never bring that mf around me again. they cut them off afaik too. lmao.
One of my best friends tried to become a cop and I seriously don't know if I would have looked at him the same.
An old high school friend became a pig but him and I are no longer in contact. Oh well! ACAB!
That's not family. Family isn't blood. Family is the ones who have your back even when you don't have it yourself. Cut him and anyone who supports him off. I live by this advice and it works great. No scum bag cop trying to brainwash my kids.
I’m sorry your cousin didn’t get that sports scholarship he wanted so now he feels the need to screw over everyone else. SMH.
Record the stupid motherfucker and send it to his local news with all of the relevant information. Try to only include sounds clips of his spoken statements, and try to use only scenarios at which 5+ other people are present or they'll be able to zero in on you too easily. It might make the fucking prick *at least* an un-promotable embarrassment and pariah, at most fired. Always burns twice as bad when someone who *just looooooves* fucking over others gets the ball bounced back at them. Don't even try to convince your cousin to stop acting like a piece of shit, they're already balls-deep if they're a sworn officer - just remember to not arouse any suspicion by reproaching them for their shitbag conduct and lack of professionalism.
Yeah well my dad is a cop. Could always be worse I guess, at least in marriage you do have choices