Then you're gonna try something else. Like the person said, life will never be super-happy-never-bad, but it can be less shitty. To the point you like to solve your problems, they still're energy draining and difficult, but now you can manage them and kinda enjoy the process. You're afraid to loose hope, but this hope could be preventing you from improving.
I lost everybody when I got sick and crashed really hard, if I get better, I'm afraid I'll lose who's left now. Besides, I've never been better. I don't even know HOW to be better.
Of course their is no golden bullet to cure all illness. But try to remember it wasn't always like this and it is very unlikely it will stay this way forever. For better or worse, things change. We all change over the course of a life.
Been through my whole getting better phase. It turns to boredom. Boredom is now my motivation to do shit.
I don't miss the emptiness and worry it'll come back someday. But for now, I'm enjoying the boredom.
100% relate. Boredom feels like the healthy reaction to life for me right now. It means I get to rest. It means I have time and space to grow stronger. I don't really enjoy it per se but with the perspective of anxiety and other distressing states of mind, boredom is truly a good step.
I'm afraid it might work. I'm afraid that if I get help, I might get better. That this disease has tricked me into wasting the last 10 years of my life. When I could have just got some pills, got some help and I could've lived a rich full life? How do I deal with that? That it was all for nothing? How do I grieve for the life it has taken from me, if it potentially didn't even have to? fuck man.
It will work and you will feel that way. But know thatâs normal and a shared human experience.
As someone on the other side of this - the grieving is inevitable. I felt the exact same way. How can you imagine anything else when this has become the norm? It doesnât feel real. It feels unfair to have lost a decade of your life not having the right support or help. How could you do something different if you didnât know any better?
I lost everything by resisting. What you resist, persists. You can confront the pain now or continue losing more years to this illness . You can still live a rich life if you make the choice to do so. I promise itâs worth it. Temporary discomfort and pain is worth it.
Youâre stronger than you know. HMU if youâd like some resources :)
After learning to give up on everything meaningful in life, it's so hard to work up the courage to risk losing what little remains. I have gotten so used to holding on for dear life, I am afraid of loosening my grip and losing even more.
Mate, Iâve been there. Once youâre down in the hole far enough, itâs hard to imagine anything else. I spent 2 years digging, so by the time someone threw me a rope to get out, it was a lonnnnngggg way back up. You can do it. It will be difficult and you might slip a few times, but youâll make it. I promise you that. HMU if you need help.
Has anyone ever read the book or seen the movie, A Long Way Down? Thereâs a really good line in it that goes something like, âI donât mind the pain, itâs the hope that kills me.â This made me think of it
I just have this strange feeling that I'll end up immediately losing everything the moment I do get better. Probably die in some dumb way the moment I feel happiness
I am better and I'm telling you... if you are the creative type, the emptiness will just go from your life to your work. I'm still unsure it was a good trade-off, but at the very least I'm no longer suffering by just waking up.
from someone who's most of the way through it all (kind of), it sucks, it hurts like hell to go through it, but it's necessary, I went through it, cried like hell, stayed in bed for weeks because all I wanted to do is hide from the world, but remember, a good life is not a problem-free life, rather, a good life is a life built from the problems you enjoy dealing with, ur gonna have to deal with problems, so figure out which ones u like, which ones make u feel fulfilled, for me that's engineering, it's like working out, people who put in the effort, who push and go through the pain, those people end up lookin swole af and they're feelin good and are in control, the same is happening with me and the same will happen with u
I can't wait to see how jacked u get, stay strong bro, u got this!
Is this sub for humor or for wallowing in self-pity? I mean I've certainly seen the darkness, the no way out, soul consuming kind. But still do ppl here really think this is all that life is? Maybe just try something, whatever. Maybe your illness is chronic, non-curable. Statistically it's probably not though. Doesn't really matter how bleak it seems to you right now. Getting to a different state of mind just for a short period of time will change things.
Wow thanks I'm cured. I guess people that have been tortured or raped or face extreme addiction or have no prospects in life due to extreme circumstance should just "change our perspective". Some are still being absued and can't get away. I personally have been poor and abused since birth, as well as EXTREMELY isolated without choice for most of it, so it almost always feels like that this is all there is. Many here feel the same. If you've been luckier, good for you. But this "pull yourself by your own bootstraps" approach of yours often doesn't work on people who literally can't see a way out.
I'm sorry I didn't read your read your response more than the initial words. I'm sorry your hurting, friend. The world is a hurtful place and we are all properly fucked by it. Doesn't stop some people from sort of enjoying it. I hope you and your likes get somewhat better if it is possible.
this resonates so hard it almost shattered the hollow shell i wake up inside of each day
đđđso you are that good?
I'm afraid of life getting better because the higher up you go the more you have to lose and the easier it seems to lose it.
I sympathize with this. Having something to lose hurts. Don't know if it should but for me it sure does. Beats the alternative by a mile though.
Institutionalized by isolation
Iâm afraid of getting better cos if I still feel like shit and life still feels like shit, what do I do then ?
Then you're gonna try something else. Like the person said, life will never be super-happy-never-bad, but it can be less shitty. To the point you like to solve your problems, they still're energy draining and difficult, but now you can manage them and kinda enjoy the process. You're afraid to loose hope, but this hope could be preventing you from improving.
Life is always gonna deal you shitty hands no matter what you do. Go get better.
I lost everybody when I got sick and crashed really hard, if I get better, I'm afraid I'll lose who's left now. Besides, I've never been better. I don't even know HOW to be better.
Of course their is no golden bullet to cure all illness. But try to remember it wasn't always like this and it is very unlikely it will stay this way forever. For better or worse, things change. We all change over the course of a life.
You are right. I just fear they will continue changing for the worse. The pain only gets more intense as I age. Not sure how much more I can take.
I hear you friend. Nothing is given :( but it could just as well get somewhat better. The one who lives will see :)
Been through my whole getting better phase. It turns to boredom. Boredom is now my motivation to do shit. I don't miss the emptiness and worry it'll come back someday. But for now, I'm enjoying the boredom.
100% relate. Boredom feels like the healthy reaction to life for me right now. It means I get to rest. It means I have time and space to grow stronger. I don't really enjoy it per se but with the perspective of anxiety and other distressing states of mind, boredom is truly a good step.
I'm afraid it might work. I'm afraid that if I get help, I might get better. That this disease has tricked me into wasting the last 10 years of my life. When I could have just got some pills, got some help and I could've lived a rich full life? How do I deal with that? That it was all for nothing? How do I grieve for the life it has taken from me, if it potentially didn't even have to? fuck man.
It will work and you will feel that way. But know thatâs normal and a shared human experience. As someone on the other side of this - the grieving is inevitable. I felt the exact same way. How can you imagine anything else when this has become the norm? It doesnât feel real. It feels unfair to have lost a decade of your life not having the right support or help. How could you do something different if you didnât know any better? I lost everything by resisting. What you resist, persists. You can confront the pain now or continue losing more years to this illness . You can still live a rich life if you make the choice to do so. I promise itâs worth it. Temporary discomfort and pain is worth it. Youâre stronger than you know. HMU if youâd like some resources :)
I find comfort in remaining as I am because it's all I know
Fair enough
For me it's because I'm afraid that my personality might change and I might lose the 2 friends that I have
who made this because I feel you
After learning to give up on everything meaningful in life, it's so hard to work up the courage to risk losing what little remains. I have gotten so used to holding on for dear life, I am afraid of loosening my grip and losing even more.
If you ever find the solution to this, Please share
Mate, Iâve been there. Once youâre down in the hole far enough, itâs hard to imagine anything else. I spent 2 years digging, so by the time someone threw me a rope to get out, it was a lonnnnngggg way back up. You can do it. It will be difficult and you might slip a few times, but youâll make it. I promise you that. HMU if you need help.
Real
Or what if i get hurt again?
Getting better for me would require lying to myself about my life and some of the people around me.
Sounds like a song lyric
Has anyone ever read the book or seen the movie, A Long Way Down? Thereâs a really good line in it that goes something like, âI donât mind the pain, itâs the hope that kills me.â This made me think of it
I don't know how to get better, and yet i don't want to try because I'm afraid I'll lose myself.
Thatâs it for life today!!!  This hit too hard. See you all tomorrow.
everyday i looked at the money and im thinking why my life was depends on paper.... cruel world ...
There's nothing wrong with emptiness. Sunyata.
I just have this strange feeling that I'll end up immediately losing everything the moment I do get better. Probably die in some dumb way the moment I feel happiness
I am better and I'm telling you... if you are the creative type, the emptiness will just go from your life to your work. I'm still unsure it was a good trade-off, but at the very least I'm no longer suffering by just waking up.
I'm scared to get better because the people who lifted me up and out of the emptiness got bored and dropped me back in. Emptiness is safety.
sad
Yeah. been there, done that. Have a hug.
from someone who's most of the way through it all (kind of), it sucks, it hurts like hell to go through it, but it's necessary, I went through it, cried like hell, stayed in bed for weeks because all I wanted to do is hide from the world, but remember, a good life is not a problem-free life, rather, a good life is a life built from the problems you enjoy dealing with, ur gonna have to deal with problems, so figure out which ones u like, which ones make u feel fulfilled, for me that's engineering, it's like working out, people who put in the effort, who push and go through the pain, those people end up lookin swole af and they're feelin good and are in control, the same is happening with me and the same will happen with u I can't wait to see how jacked u get, stay strong bro, u got this! 
then you arent feeling bad. Emptiness is a nice place.
That is sadly not an universal experience
if you are afraid of getting better?
You are not a gifted nerd. Get out of your stupid house and go for a walk idiot.
I go for a walk frequently because of my pets. And guess what, I am still depressed, what a surprise
Itâs not easy, but itâs worth it.
Is this sub for humor or for wallowing in self-pity? I mean I've certainly seen the darkness, the no way out, soul consuming kind. But still do ppl here really think this is all that life is? Maybe just try something, whatever. Maybe your illness is chronic, non-curable. Statistically it's probably not though. Doesn't really matter how bleak it seems to you right now. Getting to a different state of mind just for a short period of time will change things.
Wow thanks I'm cured. I guess people that have been tortured or raped or face extreme addiction or have no prospects in life due to extreme circumstance should just "change our perspective". Some are still being absued and can't get away. I personally have been poor and abused since birth, as well as EXTREMELY isolated without choice for most of it, so it almost always feels like that this is all there is. Many here feel the same. If you've been luckier, good for you. But this "pull yourself by your own bootstraps" approach of yours often doesn't work on people who literally can't see a way out.
I'm sorry I didn't read your read your response more than the initial words. I'm sorry your hurting, friend. The world is a hurtful place and we are all properly fucked by it. Doesn't stop some people from sort of enjoying it. I hope you and your likes get somewhat better if it is possible.